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Straight Talk, February 2011
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 We all feel good and special when we receive a gift. We show love with gifts but bad gifts can get us into trouble.
Theft
 
"Your boy orgirlfriend may demand formoney, clothesand birthday presents. If  you don't havemoney, youcan steal to get what they want. A certain boy usedto steal for his girlfriend money fromtheir shop. He was taken to schooland beaten before other students."
C Acio, 17, S1, Royal Academy, Lira 
 
"I told my girlfriend that forcingme to give you money will makeme steal. I will be imprisoned andstudents will laugh at you that youare a thief’s girlfriend." 
S Wandera,Kubo Straight Talk Club, Busia 
Hate eachother
 
“I fear fallingin love becauseof money. Ihave seen boysborrow money to give their girl friends and failto pay back.They quarreland become enemies
."C Opolot,Bukooli College, Bugiri
Hurts studies
 
“Guys give a lot of money to theirgirlfriends for fear of being dropped. A certain boy used his school fees. Helied to his parents that it was stolen
When girls de-tooth
 
“My girlfriend loves money morethan me yet I love her. I really don'tknow what to do.”
R Ssegawa,Bwanga SS, Rukungiri
Not all girls de-dooth
Some of them do not trick their guysto give them money or gifts.
Go girls
 
“I can't use excuses like it is late,I can’t walk home, I’m broke to getmoney from my guy. This is wrong.”
FUwera, S5, Kabale Trinity College  V Nalubidde V, 14, S1, Bright Way SS, Kampala, says:
“We treateach other with respect. We don't beg from each other.”
 
"I love for a reason and the reasonis love not sex or material things.”
 Z Nesia, Metu SS, Moyo.
 If someone gives you a gift or money, ask yourself the followingquestions before you take it.Why is the person giving me money or gifts? What does he/ she expect in return? Is the moneyor gifts more important than mylife? What are the outcomes of accepting them? Can I show thegifts to my parents? If you realise someone wants to use gifts or money to trap you into sex, takeoff for your dear life. Have self-control.
Set limits, make your stand clear
 At the beginning of your relationship,talk to your girlfriend or guy about what you expect from each other.Make your stand known. If it is for
Students of Iganga Parents say: "Sex is not getting finished now. Delay sex and work hard to excel."
 from the dormitory.”
M Ajok,17,S3,Y.Y Okot Memorial SS, Kitgum
Early sex
 
"A certain boy came homeand asked me to have sex withhim. I refused. One day, we metsomewhere. He gave me money.This made me think he loved me. Iaccepted to have sex with him. I felta lot of pain."
T Nakaseeta, S3,Gayaza Road SS, Wakiso
marriage, then you wait. If it is forsex, then you put an end to it. If youcan't abstain, let it be good sex. Goodsex does not hurt your studies, causediseases and is not forced. Settinglimits is not a hard task. Some straighttalkers are doing it
.
 
“We agreed to remain virgins tillmarriage.”
P Rata, 16, Yumbe SS
 
M Kule M,19, S6, Semuliki HS,Bundibugyo, says: 
"I allow thebrain to control my sexual desires notthe desires to control my brain. WhenI’m going to meet my girlfriend, Ialways tell a friend to accompany me so that I’m not tempted to touch.Sticking to my decision of saying NOto sex makes me acool boy.”
Self-control is theability to controlone’s emotions,behaviour anddesire to obtaina rewardlater. It  is alsocalled self regulation.You can control your sexual feelings like Kule.
Relationships are based on honesty,respect and love. Love is more thansex.
Relationships should be defined by  friendship.
C Ocan, 19, S6, Green Light College,Kitgum, says:
 “I have a girlfriend. Idon’t give her money or demand for sex.Sometimes, I give her natural flowers as asign of love. They are free. I get them fromschool. I don’t expect her to pay back.”
Make your babe or dude feel special without necessarily splashing cash or material things.
• Just call and say, "I love you.” This will
“kill” her softly.
• If you don’t have a phone, write a letter
and tell her how you feel about her. A poem might even be more exciting.
• Find time for each other. Meet in an open
place to avoid temptations.
• Go out together. You do not need to spend
money. You can just go jogging together.
• Call her home when your parents are
around and tell them it’s your day in thekitchen and make a good meal for the family.
MAKE YOUR PARTNER FEEL SPECIAL
I’m keeping sexout of my love
Don't let anyone give you excuseslike; love without sex is like tea without sugar. You can have arelationship without sex just like thesereaders.
M Juliet, S4, Dabani Girls,Busia, says:
“I avoid lonely places,alcohol and pornographic materials.If my partner introduces sex talk, Itell him how nice it is to keep ourpromise of abstaining.”
R Sabiri, S6, ST Aloysius College,Zombo, says: 
“We keep ourselvesbusy with sports. I enjoy watching my sweetheart running.”“I speak out. This helps me keep my virginity.”
D Nambozo, 15, S3, Bududa SS,Mbale 
• Read a book and watch a movie
together.
• Go to a weekly market
together.
• Make jokes.• Help her to carry home
a jerry can of water.
 Denis Pato, Peer Educator, STF 
 
Make sure you do notharm yourselves
• Respect each other.• Don’t pretend to be what
 you are not.
• Some of you said in the Lugbara,
Kupsabiny, and Runyoro/ Rutoro StraightTalk radio shows that you use sweet words like; You're charming and blazing, whenever I miss you, stars fall from thesky, my life is incomplete without you, youare the light of my life to melt the hearts of  your lovers
Golden rule:
 
 Be honest. Mean what you say. Don't usethese nice words for the sake of it.
DIC TION AR Y 
• 
 D ude -  G u y
• 
 C h ic / Ba be -  G i r l
 
Straight Talk, February 2011
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“My penis is huge,is there any herbalmedicine which canmake it small?”
BuuleIsaac,18, Kasubi SS, Kampala 
 Why do you think it is big?It seems you are comparing yourself to someone else.That is wrong. Duringadolescence, the size of  your penis starts to grow  like any other part of your body.Every persondiffers in penissize, shapeand length.Some are fatand short.Others are long and thin.That is normaland natural. Do not use herbs to treat your fears. Visit a doctor to check  you properly. If you havean infection, you will be treated. It is good to beconcerned about yourpenis. Always take care of it to keep it healthy.
By Dr Paul Semugoma,International Hospital ,Kampala 
Q uiz:
 
Have  you ever walk ed in to a hospi tal or shop and ask ed  for a condom?  Tell us  your s tor y. Wri te  to PO BO X, 22366 Kampala 
 What is the use of staying in a relationship that exposes you to HIV/STDs, unwanted pregancies or death? May beit is time to end that relationship if your guy or girlfriend... 
"Is interested in sex more thananything.”
M Ajapo, 19,Nakanyonyi Girls SS, Jinja  
“Orders andnever listensor respects your decisionsto delay sex.”
R Nalwoga,KasangombeSS, Nakaseke
"Asks for sex immediately at thebeginning of the relationship.When you accept, he or she tellseveryone how they had sex with you. A boy who rushes to ask forsex does not love you."
O Kabagenyi, 19, KamurasiPTC, Masindi
“Your chic says you are the only fishin the pond but the moment you goaway, she gets other lovers.”
D Byansi, Kololo SS, Kampala.
“Just wants totaste sex andgo.”
J Odongo, 20, S3, Acaba SSS, Oyam
"Threatens to leave you if you refuse tohave sex with them.”
 R Byaruhanga,Kabale Trinity College
 
"Is secretive. He orshe does not want you to know abouthis/her family.”
B Nantongo, 15,S3, St Mary’sSS, Luwero
Know 
 your body
 You have a right toinform yourself about condoms
  When usedcorrectly every time you havesex, condomscan preventinfectionstransmittedthroughsex like HIV/ STDs. They alsoprevent unwantedpregnacies. If you are living  with HIV, condoms will prevent you from infecting others andre-infecting yourself. Use onecondom for each round of sex. If  you use more than one condomthey will all go off and expose you to unwanted pregnancy andSTDsfree condoms from healthcentres near you. They are freein government hospitals. Youcan also get them from NaguruTeenage centre and Youth Centresin Gulu, Kitgum, Adjumani and Amuru
 
Jacky says:
Thankyou all who calledespecially my OGs andOBs who were wonderinghow I got the strength toshare my status. I wastired of living in darkness.I wanted to show youthat telling someone yourstatus is good. When youdo that, you are set free. People will always be therefor you, you freely interactwith them and they acceptyou.Self-stigma does not help. You live like a prisonerand you may fail to gettreatment because you fearpeople to see you at theclinic or know that you areon treatment.child. My CD4 count was 400. Mydoctor advised me to start takingARVs when I was six monthspregnant. They could check me tosee if my baby was growing wellor if I had any other problem likepressure. They also encouragedme to give birth from the hospitalwhich I did. This helped meproduce a baby who is free of HIV.After birth, I was advised to givemy baby nevirapine syrup for twoweeks. I did not breastfeed himto reduce chances of infection. Iadvise mothers living with HIV toattend antenatal and give birthfrom hospital.
DO YOU HAVEQUESTIONS FOR 
 
JACKY?
 Send them to PO BOX 22366, KAMPALA I'm a free person now. I cantake my medicine anywherewithout fear. So dear friends,if you have HIV, open up.Sharing my story with you issaving someone’s life. You toocan do the same. Test togetherwith your girl or boyfriend andknow your status. 
Question to Jacky:
 Dear Jacky, did you gofor antenatal when you gotpregnant? They say womenwho get help from the hospitalcan give birth to babies whodon't have HIV. M Amulen,18,S4, Bethany Girls SS, Soroti
ANS:
  Yes my dear. Iattended atenatal care atNsambya Hospital for my third
 This week,I talkedtoa g irlwhose lifehas beenchang ed b y an unexpec tedpreg nanc y. I alsotalked  toyour cousin Res te (no t real name)who is a mo thera t16. She wan tsto con tinue wi th school bu t her uncle los t in teres tinpa ying  her school fees.Res tewill need  to worktwice as 
hard  to suppor t herbab yand  to  fnd 
mone ytog o back  toschool. So m yswee t lit tle daug h ter,  the choicestha t andg o tmarried.  We are commit ted  to suppor ting   you  to be  the bes t  you can be.  We encourag e  you  to de velop sa fe  friendships with bo ys and g irls a t  your school, church and  throug hlife.God bring s di f feren tpeopleinyour li fe  for a purpose.Ma y God g uide  your  fu ture asi tun foldsda y b y da y.
B yPas tor Andre w M wenge,Kampala Bap tis tChurch
will form  your  fu turearewi thy
 
ou.  Wa tch whereyou are andwho  youare wi th.Keep  your rela tionships wi th g u ys in openplaces. No tall g u ysha ve  the rig h tin ten tions  foryou. I t is na tural  to be a t trac ted  to g u ys bu tremember  tha t sex is no t  for now. I compare  those  two g irls  toSandra who  took her paren ts' ad vice serious. 
Shes tudied  fnished school 
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