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Overcoming Internet Porn Addiction
By Te-Erika PattersonPosted on www.te-erika.comYou’ve been locked in your room for hours tonight as you feed your private fantasies by loggingon to your favorite porn site. There could be a significant other in your life or you may besingle and use these enticing sites as a way to relieve your sexual frustration or live out yourfantasy sex life.Either way, you’ve come to a crossroad in your life; you’re beginning to wonder if you areaddicted to internet porn. You know your Mom would never approve and you’re certain that if anyone found out your dirty little secret you’d be viewed as a pervert and uncivilized.You dare not talk to anyone about your leisure activity for fear of being ostracized andcriticized. This fear causes you to withdraw, making up lame excuses for not wanting to hangout with friends and family or attend company functions. At times you may even feel as theyeveryone you know can guess what you’ve been up to and that causes you to be shameful. Butstill…you point and click.What is an internet porn addiction anyway?In my belief system I define it as a magnetism to pornographic pictures which fuels yourarousal. The term “addict” is a derogatory word that was created to label people whoobsessively indulge in any activity.
But, are you really addicted?
First, I’ll ask you a few questions in order to gauge whether or not you are a porn addict.1) Do you find that your interest in porn takes precedence over your interest and ability toengage in “real” sex with another person?2) Has your interest in porn caused you to neglect the daily duties of life like “healthy” socialinteraction and routine duties on your job?3) Do you feel shame immediately after indulging in your primary past time of masturbationinduced by the clockwork arousal incited by these rated R websites?After you can honestly answer these questions, I have one more question that will help youwith your perceived problem.Who told you that something was wrong with watching porn on the internet?Why do you believe that you have to safeguard your interest so securely? There are millions of people around the world who enjoy looking at naked pictures and sexually themed videos asmuch as you do. If there weren’t there would not be so many porn sites on the internets.So what makes it so WRONG when you do it? Is it because someone told you that becomingaroused by watching someone engage in a natural expression of intimacy was unbecoming?Why did you believe them?What if I told you that there was nothing wrong with you? Would you believe me? No? Well, Ican certainly understand that. It is much easier to believe that we are dirty, sinful creatureswith unnatural urges than it is to believe that we are powerful beyond measure and we havethe ability to create greatness in our lives.
 
You know that because you smile politely when complimented yet mull over criticisms forweeks even when the giver of these criticisms is someone you do not respect. You seem toWANT to believe you are a bad person and your expressed desire blankets all of yourexperiences.
How can you “get over” your porn addiction?
You must first accept that you like what you like. You like seeing people have sex. Say it aloud.I like watching people have sex.Did you whisper it or did you say it strong and proud? Why did you whisper? Are you afraidsomeone is going to hear you and judge you?Who is your judge? Is it your mother? Is it your neighbor down the street? Is it your boss or yourchild or your mate?Why do you allow their opinion of you to matter more than your own? Why do you give themthat power? You like porn. It makes you feel great when you watch it and nothing beats theorgasm contributed by this euphoria.If you really want to get over your porn addiction, you must first understand that the“addiction” is not to the porn itself but the feeling that you get when you are doing somethingyou are not supposed to do. If you took the taboo off of porn, you would not be so easilyaroused by it. We are often magnetized by the forbidden.Do you feel shameful when you eat a banana?Why not?Because it’s “okay” to eat bananas. No one is going to say anything to you if they find youenjoying this succulent fruit.
Listen to me-
It’s okay to watch porn.It’s a great way to live out your sexual fantasies without actually having to go through thehassle of arranging the scenarios and dealing with the emotions involved with the forbiddentrysts.There is nothing wrong with you. Whoever told you that was WRONG.If your desire is
to curb the amount of time you spend viewing porn
then you can try thisexercise:
Take out a calendar and mark every odd numbered day with a big red circle. On these days youcan watch as much porn as you would like free from the guilt associated with it.
 
On days thatare not circled you should find something else to do. Work on a hobby or hang out with a friend instead.
 
This works because your mind will be so caught up on “Is it a RED day today?”that you will begin to laugh at the fact that you even HAVE to ration out your interest in porn.This releases the shamefulness and fear of it.
What about your mate? What if he or she finds out that you like to watchporn?
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