Lifestyle Correspondent - Every Wednesday
This isn't going to be aPlay ..boy instructional video on how to handle
women too beautiful to exist in real life and how to make them
respond in ways no one has ever heard of. The idea here is to turn
you into a massage master Jedi, a relaxation guru if you will.

That's really what a good rubdown is -- a way to relieve stress and
channel positive energy through to the other person. Not only is it a
great way to signal to your partner that you're ready to move to the
next level, but it's also a fantastic way to let her know how much you
care.

You're probably familiar with specific types of massages. Shiatsu is
an Oriental art that combines acupuncture with acupressure to allow
the regulation of the energy flow. Rolfing is another medically
oriented technique aimed at the straightening of the body, strongly
resembling chiropractic.

The best known, however, is the Swedish massage, which is pretty
much what will be covered here. It's a full body massage with
relaxation as its goal. Other styles such as sports massage,
reflexology, myotherapy, and myofascial release are also of a
therapeutic nature.

The environment in which you intend to proceed should be carefully
mulled over. It should be relaxing in the most powerful respect. There
shouldn't be any children or pets around to interrupt. The room must
be at a comfortable temperature and your woman shouldn't be
subjected to any drafts. Take the time to dim the lights and make sure
the drapes are pulled shut so that there are no distractions.

Plan on summoning the music connoisseur within you and select a
few CDs of soothing tunes. For relaxation's sake, I prefer
instrumental compositions. Perhaps the smooth jazz of Dave Brubeck
or the peaceful sounds of film composer James Horner (The

Your woman should be comfortable with you; if she doesn't feel
completely at ease, then she won't be able to fully let go. She should
entirely disrobe once you assure her that her more intimate parts will
be covered. It is possible to work around bra straps and panty lines
but it should be avoided if possible.

She should lie down on a hard surface so that all her muscles are
adequately supported: a firm mattress or a futon are ideal. Also, allow
enough space for you to be able to circulate and work contentedly.

where the sun isn't supposed to shine, but it is also important to cover the areas that you have already massaged so that the body heat you will have generated won't escape and leave her chilly. A folded towel or a small pillow should be provided for her head.

available on the market and they truly are the best option. They have
just the right level of viscosity, and leave your woman smelling rather
good if you buy the scented kinds. You can find a variety of them at
MyPleasure.com. Water-based lubes, KY for example, and
petroleum-based jelly like Vaseline, aren't idyllic as they are absorbed
too quickly by the skin.

If you don't want to invest in massage oils, you can always use
vegetable oil -- that's right, what you use in the kitchen. It works
great, but its perfume may turn your woman off. If she doesn't like the

When you do get into the massage, you should always target large
muscle groups. Neck, shoulders, back, and legs are what you should
mostly work on. By not focusing on specific muscles, you avoid doing
any damage and are relieving most of the stress.

Your pressure should be even and firm so that the "massagee" can
get used to your touch without being distracted. Use your entire hand:
fingers and palm, heel and fingertips. Your strokes must be graceful
and poised as if you were sculpting clay with Demi Moore sitting
between your legs.

For maximum effect, you'll want to begin with the shoulders. From
there you can work your way to her neck, and then down her arms all
the way to her hands. After that you can return to her upper and lower
back, and over to her buttocks if she has no problem with it. Then it's
down her thighs to her calves. You can end off with her feet. Once
there, backtrack all the way to the starting point with a lighter touch of

the hand. It will stretch the soft tissue and is very relaxing. It's a good
way to help her body get used to your touch. Always use this
technique before and after more energetic rubbing.