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You are a married woman who has asingle male friend and you wonder if He might be interested in more thanfriendship. What are some of the signsthat show, he might be interested inmore?

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How do you know if your friend is interested? If he listens to you, likes to spend timewith you, weather it be on the phone, for coffee or just on MSN then most likely he probably won't mind going the extra mile, watch out for Mr. Nice guy… lolThe average guy would wait for a signal before making a move, some sort of a hint, thelady would have to take the first step, flirting, dirty conversations, or any form of physical contact just to make the man feel that "hey this could happen".

He will make effort to discover likes and topics of interest to you through carefullistening/calculating, complementing you, even offering gifts and carefully pickingup moods, reading your body language, repeatedly making himself inviting andavailable, simply setting the trap, while pretending to show true friendly concernand compassion to make her feel appreciated and comfortable enough to ease hisway in, so the more you respond to his approach the faster he delivers. He willcontinue this as long as you let him…if you don’t stop him he will see a green lightallowing the way. Ultimately you will blame yourself for the possible bitter outcome.In other words a guy will test the woman to see how far he can get….onlyshe knows if she’s going to let sex happen.

Married women are intimating and a challenge, but any man would love the chance tohave some fun, being with a married woman is a single mans fantasy, one withoutcommitment, the affair is only temporary in most cases, as soon as there is any kind of trouble they run in the opposite direction

, it’s you who ends up with a broken marriage

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a true friend would care about your consequences and respect the limitations.)Always remember that unscrupulous men like to brag (during and after they aredone with you) about married women who allow this to happen, word gets around,and next thing you know every Tom, Dick and Harry who is down with OPP (otherpeople’s property) is gonna be trying to get you. You can end up with morecomplicated problems than you imagine.

My advice? If you are going to have an opposite-sex friend and you aremarried/partnered,

be open about the friendship and tell your spouse/partner whenyou are seeing the friend. Be aware that this friend may be a threat to your primaryrelationship and that you may be asked to see that friend less often.

Remember if this unfolds this way that men's male friends can be a threat to a marriage, too, if thosefriends take the guy away from the relationship (ditto for women friends of a wife and thethreat that can pose).I think is okay as long as your husband doesn’t mind. Your first priority should be to please your husband in this aspect. If he is uncomfortable with you having male friends,then it’s not worth the fight! If you had these male friends before you met and married,then he should keep his mouth shut!I really don't care what other people think anyways...as long as both my husband and Iare faithful to one another...that is all that matters...

besides a cheating wife looses morethan her dignity in the end.Unfortunately the first thing a guy thinks when a woman tells him they can befriends is translated as friends with benefits.Women try very hard to deceive themselves into thinking they can have guy friends,but men only hang around women they want to have sex with. Guys naturallyalways want to get something out of it.

It's really not appropriate for married women to "date" single men that’s off limits,even though they want to call it "friendship" and "hanging out". People aregenerally going to assume something is going on.

If you care about your reputation gowith Gay friends (you'll always have someone to shop with hahaha)

Or if your friend is straight and he thinks you are only friends everything isfine...maybe he and your husband can even become friends, and the three of you canspend time together.

You know unfortunately it’s hard very hard for men to keep their organ inside there pantsif he sees a moment of weakness most men will take the chance thinking you will keep ita secret. No matter how committed you are to your hubby.

What IF? This friend whichyou think is OK with you just talking to him, at one point of weakness could becomea rapist, blackmailer or worse. The sad truth it happens. Or your walls come downone day and zap you cheated.If you're married, other males shouldn’t be intimately of interest to you.

There aremuch more important things in life besides having male friends. + What would other menhave in common with a married woman and vise versa? No. People will talk no matter

what. If you really care about your marriage then just ignore it or only find gay malefriends.I think it is possible...but I choose not to have male friends of my own...they are only myfriends if they are my husband's friends first...My husband is the same way...his femalefriends are friends of mine first....

There can be no misunderstandings from the start, so….If you are the type of female who has trouble picking up men’s signals,if you cannot recognize when a guy is interested in more than just friendship byreading between the lines, if you can’t realize when you may be sending mixedsignals and mistakenly flirting, then don’t even bother taking the chance, you haveto be able to detect clues before you can make a male friend who is not a threat toyour present relationship.

Plus if you really examine yourself, you'll see you want another man for some reason or another - you are an attention whor-, er, junkie, tramp or tease, a type of flirting addict.The answer is two folds...."Only you really know" and "It depends".Let's face the reality here for a moment: 8.5 out of 10 guys befriend with a female(married or not) are attracted to her in certain level or certain way (Nothing wrong withthat). Most of the time, it's up to the female to prevent or even stop that friendship becoming sexual and sometimes the male will loose interest and come to his senses.So ask yourself is it worth it?If you're talking about a coworker, then be friends just at work...leave it at that. Anythingoutside of work could possibly send mixed messages.Also, it isn't uncommon for two people, who are somehow attracted to each other; to keeptheir friendship strictly platonic, if both or one is attracted to the other ulterior motiveswill eventually emerge. (By nature it’s the male and female basic instinct.)And, "It depends" on if both of you have enough self-discipline and respect to keepthings platonic even if one or both of you want more than just good conversations

So, "Only you know" if you are attracted to a male friend more than just goodconversations once in a while. If you are, it's a temptation in the making.