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    Before She Met Me

    By Julian Barnes

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    The bestselling, Booker Prize-winning author of The Sense of an Ending delivers “a remarkably original and subtle book” (The New York Review of Books) about the nature of love and jealousy.

    At the start of this fiendishly comic and suspenseful novel, a mild-mannered English academic chuckles as he watches his wife commit adultery. The action takes place before she met him. But lines between film and reality, past and present become terrifyingly blurred in this sad and funny tour de force from the author of Flaubert's Parrot.
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherRandom House Publishing Group
    Release dateJun 15, 2011
    ISBN9780307797780
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    Julian Barnes

    Julian Barnes (Leicester, 1946) se educó en Londres y Oxford. Está considerado como una de las mayores revelaciones de la narrativa inglesa de las últimas décadas. Entre muchos otros galardones, ha recibio el premio E.M. Forster de la American Academy of Arts and Letters, el William Shakespeare de la Fundación FvS de Hamburgo y es Chevalier de l'Ordre des Arts et des Lettres.

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    • 4/5
      well-written. uncomfortable story of a messed up mind. i didn't understand ann's choices really. someone compared it to the collector.
    • 3/5
      I liked the style of writing better than the content. Much of it was rather dull writing regarding a man who exhibited severe psychiatric problems.
    • 3/5
      The second marriage of Graham Hendrick, a historian, is ideal until his ex-wife send him to a b-film. There he discovers that Ann, his present wife was a second rate actress. In the film she is 'unfaithful' and that hurts him badly. His wife confirms she had a 'life' before she met him. She has effectively acted in some films and even had adventures. And that is normal; she did not know him!!! Graham develops a phobia; he skims all the dark cinemas and watches all the films of his wife. He reads her dairies and travel guides.His jealousy becomes unbearable.Ann, once had an affair with their common friend Jack, a writer. Graham decorticates all the works of Jack. He imagines he finds clues of the love life of Jack and his wife. In his madness he believes the affair is still going on.He murders Jack and waits for his wife.After one night in turmoil, Ann finds the clues that leads her to the house of Jack and finds her husband. He commits suicide.+Typical style of Julian Barnes; nice contrast between the way of writing (cold - keeping distance - typical British stiff upper lip) and the subject ( warm human feelings)Sophisticated humorwith philosophical cliffhangers; what is love, jealousy, the past …Surprising end-Not always enthrallingConclusion:A man destroys his happiness by focussing on the life his wife had before she met him.
    • 3/5
      Although perhaps not as carefully crafted as John Fowle's 'The Collector', Barnes has achieved in this short novel (or long short story) somewhat the same effect - insinuating the reader into the mind of a madman in such a way that renders the psychotic simply eccentric until the inevitable climax. One has a sense that Barnes is taking the opportunity to make a few wry observations about writers and academia along the way, but without perhaps sufficient acerbity to make them truly interesting. All in all there is a lack of passion in the writing here, a dulling down of the sensations - as if Barnes doesn't want the madness of his character to stand out too starkly until the end. One kind of wishes he'd taken the same story and talked up the madness of the people (and the world) around his character, and posed the question 'what is insanity in a insane world?'. But for all of these criticisms this is an interesting read, and might make a much better movie one day.
    • 1/5
      This is a book with a great title and intriguing concept from a well-regarded author that just does not live up to its promise. Instead of insightful observation, it drifts along in self-indulgent adolescent argumentum ad misericordiam.'Before She Met Me' is fashioned around a very interesting existential premise: Julian Barnes has developed a very bounded situation focused on the study of fidelity and, by extension, ownership, extending in time back to before the otherwise loving couple even knew each other. This claustrophobic little story is planted in the fertile soil of jealous obsessions that a certain type of man could fall into when he considers his very faithful partner's previous sexual relationships, real or imagined. The protagonist, Graham, finds himself increasingly obsessed with the previous sex lives and lovers of his loving and faithful wife, Ann; an obsession which quickly spirals into a deleterious disintegration in their marriage and in the emotional welfare of both characters. This story could have been an absorbing study into jealousy, 'ownership' and relationships, but despite the compelling premise, the plot arc and characters are unconvincing. The opening chapter was clever and drew me in, but in the end I felt flat and unengaged as a reader. The whole effort just feels lazy, like Julian Barnes had a good idea for a book but couldn't be bothered with doing the work or necessary background prep. Or that perhaps the whole exercise was just an opportunity for him to exorcise any demons he himself may have been harbouring.The cast of characters are caricatures devoid of complexity. The protagonist Graham is completely unlikeable and his best friend, Jack, is just plain unbelievable - a completely excessive and indulgent piece of characterisation. The only character I had some fellow feeling for was Ann, the protagonist Graham's wife. The other two women characters are clumsy plot devices with no substance: Graham's ex-wife Barbara is just a distant cliché and the wife of that exaggerated caricature Jack is no more than a cardboard cut-out place holder in the narrative. Although as a reader I felt a mild intellectual and emotive interest in Graham's predicament, it was difficult to work up any sympathy for this boring, uninspiring, obsessive cartoon of a man. If anything, I felt growing annoyance and intolerance for his increasingly stupid and selfish behaviour; which becomes increasingly less plausible and more disproportionate to its causes. Barnes, for a professional novelist, does not seem to have a good grasp of emotive and motivating factors in this particular novel, as Graham's 'deterioration' is presented in an unedifying and dubious succession of incidents. Worse, there is no rewarding culmination for those readers who persevere to the end. Instead, to my mind, we are faced with a resolution that is both unsatisfying and unforgivingly lazy on the author's part. Overall the story has trouble with maintaining plausibility. In parts it reads more like a writing exercise than a novel. The main characters are bores, and the attempts by Barnes at incorporating the terminologies and theories from the field of psychology are clumsy and amateurish. I did quite enjoy one later chapter, as a bounded situation sketch, where Graham and Ann host a party at their house. This section would almost work on its own as a short story. But unfortunately much of the novel was just too clinical and distant, which left me cold and empty - at odds with the potential richness of its underlying material. This was my first book by Barnes and I had been looking forward to it. But upon reading I found the prose and the story indulgent, unengaging and tiresome. It took a struggle to finish even though it is quite short. The generous part of me feels that the major problems faced by this book are that it just hasn't aged well and is quite dated. But another part feels that maybe this book has always faced this problem. For starters it's not that old, but the use of language and the way the characters relate seem much older than it's publication date of 1982. It must have felt even a little out of touch to contemporary readers back then. It's more like Graham is a forty year old in 1952 England rather than a 40 year old in 1982 England. I hope 'Before She Met Me' is exception and not a good representation of Barnes' otherwise good work, as I also have his more recent 'Staring at the Sun' waiting on my shelf to be read.
    • 3/5
      A entertaining little novella that describes what happens when Graham, a lecturer in history by trade, becomes unduly obsessed with his wife's sexual past. Readers shouldn't expect "Othello" or a dour meditation on the uses of history; "Before She Met Me" has all the hallmarks of an indulgent head-clearing exercise, and that's not a terrible thing. Barnes keeps his writing witty and light, for the most part, and he's not afraid to exaggerate where it suits him. He uses Jack, a garrulous, randy, bearded show-off of a writer, to take potshots at literary culture while Graham's ex-wife Barbara plays the one-dimensional vindictive harpy. Everyone, it seems, takes swipes at mass culture, lending the novel a sort of cranky Britishness that plays well against its smuttier elements. While nowhere near as affecting or observant as "Talking It Over," Barnes still seems to have real affection for some of the characters he's created here. Though I wouldn't call it his best work, I think "Before She Met Me" will still satisfy those in search of something short, light, and well-crafted.
    • 4/5
      Before She Met Me by Julian BarnesAlthough we know blurbs can be unreliable, some are more so. The McGraw-Hill paperback edition of “Before She Met Me,” quotes the New York Review of Books: “Excellent...funny, original.” (We could have a lovely fill-in-the-blanks contest to make that accurate.)Eleven chapters chart the downward spiral in the life of Graham Hendrick. He’s divorced, with visitation rights to a sweet daughter, married to a beautiful and charming woman. Their marriage is threatened when he becomes obsessed by her former life. Long before she met him, Ann had starred in pornographic movies. When Graham, convinced that movie scenes are actual, seeks out these films compulsively, he loses track of reality and what this leads to is definitely not funny.Because Barnes is a skillful writer the book is interesting, and, with some stretch of disbelief, even plausible. Original? Yes. Funny ? No.
    • 4/5
      This is the story of Graham Hendricks and his obsession with his wife's past. After seeing his wife, Ann, in a minor role in a film, Graham becomes obsessed with her past relationships. He questions her about past boyfriends, and attends every movie she ever had a small role in. As the story unfolds, we watch Graham move from obsession to insanity.This is a well written novel. The conclusion, while inevitable, nonetheless manages to be surprising.