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    The Five Steps of Assertiveness (+)
    The Five Steps of Assertiveness (+)
    The Five Steps of Assertiveness (+)
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    The Five Steps of Assertiveness (+)

    By Steven T. Griggs, Ph.D.

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    I've been a practicing psychologist in an outpatient setting for over twenty-seven years.
    It turns out assertiveness can be taught to almost everyone, which is what I do in the office. I've taught it to children as young as two. Older adults can learn new tricks, too, including this one. I've taught assertiveness to schizophrenics. I even got a Brazilian teenager to learn it without me being able to speak Portuguese (I taught him non-verbally). Anyone can learn to be assertive.
    I've read most of the pop-psychology literature on assertiveness over the last 20+ years. Many of the books are excellent. They, like this ebook deal with a variety of assertivness aspects; for example, they talk about this peak experience for handling other assertive people, not feeling vulnerable or subservient, taking an assertiveness exam, standing up for yourself, competently assessing yourself and others, developing verbal assertiveness skills and self confidence, feeling self assured and expressing yourself and your opinions, feeling comfortable being outspoken, even being opinionated, how to stop being a human doormat, how to stop feeling intimidated and to deal with domineering people, being straightforward, stopping people from walking all over you, how to stop feeling inhibited, insecure, hesitant, and so on.
    Most of these books are too long to cover this relatively simple subject. I've boiled down the concepts in these books into the basic five steps, plus. I've made this as easy to understand as is humanly possible, combining what I've read with what I've learned from clients.
    There are five basic steps of and three levels of assertiveness. I explain the difference between assertiveness, non-assertiveness, passivity, and passive aggression and aggression.
    To be assertive, you have to know the difference between content and process in your communication. You have to know how to "articulate the process" using just the right words, which I supply (almost eight hundred). This latter idea is the one thing that will increase your assertiveness fifty percent, even if you do nothing else. It's also something you can learn in under two minutes.
    I describe the two general categories of excuses and the seven most common reasons used to justify not being assertive. Then I describe thirteen points that make assertiveness effective. I sprinkle examples throughout the ebook, but include another section at the end with several more in-depth examples.
    Lastly, find out the "down and dirty" version of how to be assertive. It's only three steps, and is easy.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherSteven T. Griggs, Ph.D.
    Release dateJan 8, 2012
    ISBN9781465992703
    The Five Steps of Assertiveness (+)
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    Steven T. Griggs, Ph.D.

    I'm a psychologist. I write no-fat, how-to ebooks on subjects and conditions I fix everyday in the office. These include relationships, being assertive, struggling with guilt and/or procrastination, children and teenager's behavior, anxiety disorders, anger management, kids and divorce, self-esteem, child visitation, weight control, forgiveness, ADHD, addictions, and my latest, mood disorders. I've written 15 ebooks, and most of them are translated into Spanish. Now, I'm starting to write a book, "The Other Side of the Couch." It's about my daily experiences as an outpatient psychologist and how I see the world through the lense of a shrink...

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      The Five Steps of Assertiveness (+) - Steven T. Griggs, Ph.D.

      The Five Steps of Assertiveness (+)

      (Assertiveness Made Ridiculously Easy)

      By

      Steven T. Griggs, Ph.D.

      A PSYCHOLOGICAL CORPORATION

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      Copyright

      July 2009

      Published by Steven T. Griggs, Ph.D. at Smashwords

      This ebook is licensed for your personal enjoyment only. This ebook may not be re-sold or given away to other people. If you would like to share this book with another person, please purchase an additional copy for each recipient. If you’re reading this book and did not purchase it, or it was not purchased for your use only, then please return to Smashwords.com and purchase your own copy. Thank you for respecting the hard work of this author.

      Table of Contents

      Disclaimer

      Introduction

      Definitions

      ---Beginning Assertiveness

      ---Intermediate Assertiveness

      ---Advanced Assertiveness

      ---Aggression

      ---Not Responding

      ---Passive Aggressiveness

      The Five Steps

      Content vs.Process

      ---Articulation of Process

      I Like to Eat Cake

      Why Not?

      Finer Points

      The Three Zones of Control

      Examples

      Feeling Words and Phrases

      References

      DISCLAIMER

      You’ve likely purchased this ebook because probably you are not too assertive, not assertive at all or because you know someone who isn’t. I’m assuming this is not because of depression or anxiety, a personality disorder, a come down (rebound) from a drug binge, alcoholism or some medical or psychiatric condition. I’m assuming this is a (probably longer-term) psychological condition, so I’m going to talk about assertiveness in this context. If there are other conditions lurking in the background, these need to be identified and dealt with separately, possibly before reading this ebook, or maybe you can deal with them concurrently if you have approval from your therapist. If you have any doubt, ask your local provider (Ph.D., M.D., D.O., etc.), or at least talk this over with friends. Let’s make sure we’re dealing only with your psychological space.

      This ebook is not a substitute for psychotherapy or any treatment offered by a mental health professional. The information given is straightforward, written in ordinary English, and conforms to the general standards of the psychiatric and psychological professions in the United States. The attempt has been to present this information in a thorough, accurate manner, without being too technical (clinical) or overwhelming in detail. It is written for adults of reasonably sound mental states who wish to learn more about their own experience of assertiveness. It is assumed the reader has an average level of intelligence and competence in reading, thinking about and understanding materials of this nature. The author of this ebook does not claim the enclosed information will cure anyone's lack of assertiveness, only that it will help some people and give the reader a better understanding of the issue, plus some tools to change their

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