Codependency Recovery Daily Reflections
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Now you can read at your leisure the best of Facebook on your own computer or reader. "Codependency Recovery" is a daily reader for anyone healing from addiction, codependency, abuse, or low self-esteem. It combines inspirational quotes, probing, educational insights that heighten self-awareness, and self-help exercises to further your growth. Each entry contains words and an image that are hand-crafted by internationally known codependency and relationship expert Darlene Lancer, LMFT, author of "Codependency for Dummies" and "Conquering Codependency and Shame: 8 Steps to Free the True You." Codependency Recovery contains the best posts from Facebook's CodependencyRecovery page, followed and shared by thousands of Facebook fans. Fans from all over the world have written how reading these posts have opened their eyes and helped them understand and recover from codependency.
Darlene Lancer JD LMFT
Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT is a marriage and family therapist. She is a relationship expert and author of "Codependency for Dummies" and "Conquering Codependency and Shame: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You," as well as five ebooks. Ms. Lancer has counseled individuals and couples for 30 years and coaches internationally. She’s a sought after speaker at national conferences, in media, and to professional groups and institutions. Her articles have been published widely in professional and popular periodicals. More information about her seminars and coaching packages are available on her website, http://www.whatiscodependency.com, where you can subscribe to her blogs and get a free copy of “14 Tips for Letting Go.” Find her on http://www.youtube.com, Twitter @darlenelancer, and http://Facebook.com/codependencyrecoveryHer articles have been published widely in professional and popular periodicals. You can find her blogs at www.WhatisCodependency.com and www.Darlenelancer.com. More information about her seminars and coaching packages are available on her website, www.whatiscodependency.com.
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Codependency Recovery Daily Reflections - Darlene Lancer JD LMFT
About the Author
Darlene Lancer is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who has helped individuals and couples improve their lives, their self-esteem, and relationships for over 27 years.
She’s an expert in the area of codependency, relationships, and addiction. Look for her other two books Codependency for Dummies and Conquering Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You. Also see her other ebooks: 10 Steps to Self-Esteem: The Ultimate Guide to Stop Self-Criticism, How To Speak Your Mind - Become Assertive and Set Limits, and Spiritual Transformation in the Twelve Steps.
Ms. Lancer is a quoted authority and sought after speaker and lecturer at colleges, universities, and on radio. In addition to her books, her insightful articles have been published in professional journals and numerous periodicals. You can read them at http://whatiscodependency.com. For information and daily tips on codependency, follow www.Facebook.com/CodependencyRecovery.
She had a successful career as an entertainment lawyer and was awarded a Juris Doctor and Phi Beta Kappa while at University of California at Los Angeles. She holds a Master’s in Psychology from Antioch University.
To learn about events, seminars, and free offers, join her Mailing List here.
© Darlene Lancer, JD MFT 2014
January 1
Here are 6 clues you may be in denial:
Do you believe broken assurances?
Do you minimize or rationalize bad behavior?
Do you fantasize how things might be?
Do you make concessions hoping it will change someone?
Do you imagine things will be different in the future?
Do you wonder, If only?
From Codependency for Dummies
January 2
What is Codependency?
For codependents, being open and honest in close relationships may be difficult. Instead of being assertive, initiating action, and meeting their own needs, they hide their truth, react, and feel responsible for others. They become anxious and try to manage, control, and manipulate, often by pleasing or giving advice. Some codependents squelch and contort themselves trying to accommodate others, because they feel too guilty to say No.
~ CodependencyRecovery
January 3
When you start setting boundaries - especially resetting boundaries in an existing relationship, expect resistance. Don't let that deter you. After a while those you want in your life will learn to respect your new limits.
~ CodependencyRecovery
January 4
A prescription for unhappiness is if you expect either to make your partner happy or your partner to make you happy. Happiness is an inside job. Learn more about self-esteem, self-acceptance, and self-love.
~ CodependencyRecovery
January 5
How can you make the most of today? Three things in life you can't recover; the moment after it's missed, the word after it's said, and the time after it's wasted.
~ CodependencyRecovery
January 6
The hardest struggle is giving up the struggle. Surrender means you stop struggling and resisting reality. You no longer think of life as the enemy but as the friend.
Osho
~ CodependencyRecovery
January 7
Codependents are risk averse. They fear failure, making a mistake, or being hurt or rejected. In the coming year, stretch yourself and make take some risks in the New Year. Anyone who never made a mistake has never tried anything new.
Albert Einstein
~ CodependencyRecovery
January 8
Open a Smile Account. Each day deposit 5 things that made you smile. Add to the list:
The sun was out.
Received a compliment.
Completed a task.
Talked to a friend.
~ CodependencyRecovery
January 9
Four eye-opening questions about Expectations:
What are you expecting that you're not getting?
Are your expectations realistic? Expecting to win the lottery, a practicing alcoholic not to drink, or a liar not to lie are desirable and justifiable, but unrealistic.
What do others expect from you that you are not doing?
What are your choices given the reality?
Learn to let go of expectations in Codependency for Dummies
January 10
The only time a woman really succeeds in changing a man is when he is a baby.
Natalie Wood
~ CodependencyRecovery
January 11
Our attitude shapes our perception. Life an attitude illusion like this optical illusion. Put your effort into self-acceptance and doing what makes you happy. Your perspective and options will change. We don’t see things as they are. We see them as we are.
Anais Anin
~ CodependencyRecovery
January 12
Shared power is key to satisfying relationships. Codependents confuse control and power. When we feel empowered, we can manage our emotions and feel that we matter and can affect outcomes. Yet many of us feel powerless and victims of outside forces and that our destiny is out of our hands. Some of us voluntarily give up our power to others in relationships and feel uncomfortable exercising power. Learn why and how to feel empowered in a healthy relationships.
~ CodependencyRecovery
January 13
If you're angry or resentful, check to see whether you're:
In denial - expecting someone to act differently despite your requests.
Not setting appropriate boundaries.
Doing or agreeing to do things you