Sexually, I'm More of a Switzerland: More Personal Ads from the London Review of Books
By David Rose
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Arranged by theme ('The Usual Hyperbole and a Whiff of Playful Narcissism'), and including footnotes to obscure references, Sexually, I'm More of a Switzerland promises to be 'a naughty treat' (Entertainment Weekly).
David Rose
David Rose, MIT lecturer, author, and serial entrepreneur offers a unique perspective on the next platform of spatial computing, what he calls SuperSight. His last book, Enchanted Objects is one of the definite texts on designing the Internet of Things. David wrote the seminal patent on photo-sharing, founded an AI company focused on computer vision, and was VP of Vision Technology at Warby Parker. David is known for translating complex technologies into delightfully intuitive products and consulting to businesses on how to thrive in digital disruption. David’s work has been featured at the MoMA, covered in The New York Times, WIRED, The Economist, and parodied on The Colbert Report. David's apartment was featured in a New York Times video called “The Internet of Things,” where he shared some examples of how to incorporate magic into mundane objects: a Google Earth coffee table that responds to gesture, Skype cabinetry in the living room, and a doorbell reminiscent of Mrs. Weasley's clock which rings when a family member is on their way home. He even got John Stewart to belly-laugh when he was a guest on the Tonight Show!
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5We have all wished at some point that the person we are supposed to be would show up – myself included! For the supremely brave among us, there is the appeal of a personal add. Sexually, I’m more of a Switzerland is a collection of the craziest and most inspiring personal ads placed in the London Review of Books over the years. Actually, it’s the second collection but I haven’t been able to find a copy of They Call Me Naughty Lola yet. These are not the typical personal ads with a simple searching for message. WLTM man to 45 who enjoys a walk on the beach – this will not be found here. What you will find is the most normal (and crazy) readers of the London Review of Books placing all of their feelings on the table. Take it or leave it, at least these people are being honest. My favourite section of the book was entitled “You know who you are.” A product of failed past personal adverts, these people were a lot clearer about who they did not want to contact them. The utter insanity of it all will have you laughing out loud wherever you are when reading this book. In my case, I had made the unfortunate decision to start this while waiting on a bench for friends to arrive. They found me giggling manically and generally scaring off children, but utterly delighted with my latest find. This is certainly a short book, but it falls under the category of reality being stranger than fiction. Maybe it will inspire you to put yourself out there – who knows that the result may be!
- Rating: 3 out of 5 stars3/5Witty, often surreal, sometimes show-offy, occasionally scary lonely-hearts ads. The appendix, containing a potted history of interesting moments from the Miss World contests, while interesting, seems a bit "huh?" Indexes, which raise a smile but are almost completely pointless, bring to mind those in The Meaning of Liff.
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5HIllarious, quick read. The perfect size book for your purse, when you want to kill time while waiting in line.
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Sexually, I'm More of a Switzerland - David Rose
Also by David Rose
They Call Me Naughty Lola:
Personal Ads from the London Review of Books
Sexually, I’m More of a Switzerland
More Personal Ads from
the London Review of Books
Edited and with an
Introduction by David Rose
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This book is dedicated to the memory of Robert Craig ‘Evel’ Knievel and Bridget Anne Rose.
Also all the assistant managers at Copperas Hill post office.
And Elvis.
Luasc anuas a charbaid,
Stad agus tabhair geábh dom.
TCB.
Contents
Introduction
A shoddily-painted bust of Richard Dudgeon
Mentally, I’m a size eight
The usual hyperbole and a whiff of playful narcissism
Primal scream therapy among the pots of flat-leaf parsley
Scrimshawed from the tusk of a walrus
Sexually, I’m more of a Switzerland
One eye on the William Hill Saturday quick-pick cards
Only love is catching
Look sideways with schadenfreude
Further evidence of the Banach-Tarski paradox
The Skomorokh of Gender Confusion
Blast into a future of love
Forty years ago I was going to marry Elvis
A 1:128 working scale model of the Karakumsky Canal
A time capsule of despair
Hubris made me pen this ad
You know who you are
Appendix: A chronology of Miss World title holders, 1951–2008
Acknowledgments
Index of lead-ins
Index of terms
"Sexually, I’m More of a Switzerland"
Introduction
My mother always hoped I’d apply for a job at Copperas Hill post office. In November 1990 she was especially enthusiastic about it because things had been hotting up between Saddam Hussein and the Kuwaitis and a war at Christmas is always great news for postal delivery services. She was convinced that, if I played my cards right, I could make assistant manager one day.
Naturally, every other Thursday for the past eleven years—copy deadline day for London Review of Books personals advertisers—I’ve wondered where I might be now had I bothered filling in that application form. Not working at Copperas Hill post office, that’s for sure; they had wild-cat strikes and massive lay-offs towards the end of the nineties. But as my life meandered away from fighting the home-front against Saddam, only a wizard could have anticipated that I’d spend the most fruitful years of my life agonising over word-counts with soup-perverts:
I put the phrase ‘five-header bi-sexual orgy’ in this ad to increase my Google hits. Really I’m looking for someone who likes hearty soups and jigsaws of kittens. Woman, 62. Berwick. Box no. 7862.
Of course, I would never have become the angst-devouring love-conduit through which Britain’s most romantically awkward eggheads play out their weird and frequently disturbing sex rituals. Life would be much duller, although I’d have fewer bad dreams and wouldn’t have to shower quite so often.
An ancient Czech legend says that any usurper who places the Crown of Saint Wenceslas on his head is doomed to die within a year. During World War II, Reinhard Heydrich, the Nazi governor of the puppet Protectorate of Bohemia and Moravia, secretly wore the crown believing himself to be a great king. He was assassinated less than a year later by the Czech resistance. I have many more stories like this one. I will tell you them all and we will make love. Man, 47. Box no. 6889.
Since the LRB personals began in October 1998, I’ve dealt with the phone calls, emails, letters, faxes and—always less welcome—occasional personal visits from within a very incongruous set-up. While the offices of the magazine have remained very firmly in Bloomsbury, London, the nerve-centre of the personals section was, for the most part, a water-logged shed in Liverpool. Really it was the back of an illegally built garage, but we’ll call it a shed because no motor vehicle ever went in there and its main function was the storage of rusted Woolworth’s power tools, an assortment of lawn-patching compounds and my (now deceased) mother’s oxygen cylinders (she had dodgy lungs and we kept these in case we ever needed to re-inflate her).
When it rained, the un-insulated corrugated roof made it sound like a clown was firing a machine-gun at a sad robot. There was a power supply that was so precarious I once got an electric shock eating a trifle. And in the corner lived a nest of badgers. Before that the personals were managed from a flat above a bankrupt florist south of the Thames. Recently it’s been in a Brooklyn office shared with a very serious publishing outfit who never reciprocate a round of drinks, hardly ever say hello and rarely smile unless someone has made a very hilarious remark about Adorno. Which happened only once and it wasn’t very hilarious.
When someone asks my advice about what to include or exclude in their personal advert, these have been the common conditions under which I’ve responded—noise, damp, Adorno, badgers. Truthfully, had I worked in surroundings befitting a Zurich-based insurance company, I couldn’t have offered any better advice. I was once asked by the Jewish Community Centre for London to be part of a panel discussion about dating. I’m not Jewish, which surprised everyone, but also I know absolutely nothing about dating. Those early phone calls I received from potential advertisers, full of typical British insecurity and self-deprecation—people worried that all they could say about themselves was that they had exceptional liver function and knew from years of looking after their aging parents how to keep a glass eye sterile—seemed good enough to me. I mean, I liked these people. They were fun to talk to; painfully honest but also engaging, witty and clever. Why not just throw it all out there? At the time I’d been working at the magazine for less than a year, and working in advertising for just a little longer. Not at the rock ’n’ roll creative end of things, but in sales—selling space in car magazines before I moved to the London Review. People asked my advice as if I knew what I was talking about—as if, rather than working in ad sales, I was a relationship counsellor. It didn’t matter when I’d explain I was just a very junior sales guy, these people innocently trusted me and every inquiry would end with ‘What do you think?’ or ‘Do I sound like an idiot?’ or ‘I’m not sure I should make it read like I’m a serial killer’:
Everyone. My life is a mind-numbing cesspit of despair and self-loathing. Just fuck off. Or else write back and we’ll make love. Gentleman, 37. Box no. 5369.
All I could ever tell anyone was ‘it’s great, just do it’. Partly out of my own English awkwardness, partly out of a fear of not making the sale back when my targets were impossible and I had no clients, but mostly out of sincerely getting a kick from what they’d written. This wasn’t how other lonely hearts columns operated.
On a flight from Glasgow about a year after the column began, where I’d been on a BBC daytime show about lonely hearts with a rogue’s gallery of dating experts, advice columnists and women’s magazine psychologists, I gave a copy of the LRB ads to a woman who ran an agency that produced the personals sections of many broadsheet newspapers. Other publications tend to contract out their personals sections to specialist dating firms rather than ad sales companies. Usually people phone a premium-rate number and they’re asked pseudo-psychoanalytic questions such as ‘With which historical figure do you most identify?’ or, ‘If you were part of a celebrity coupling, who would be your ideal partner?’ The answers are then translated into a personal ad. In occasional attempts to be more professional I’ve tried this approach on LRB advertisers, but with less than encouraging results:
I am more like Grand Duke Nicholas Mikhailovich of Russia than anyone else who has ever advertised here. Man, 54. Box no. 5349.
You’re Helen Mirren. I’m Will Self. One half of this century’s über-couple-to-be seeks tousled fems to 50 for weekends full of recondite wines, obscure blandishments, and winning references to abstruse 11th century sexual practices. No loons. Box no. 7936.
The personals sections managed by this particular agency were full of gorgeous, healthy, intelligent people. Each presented a paradigm of human excellence, albeit infused with a somewhat eerie sense of eugenic urgency. Naturally, she was appalled by the LRB ads. ‘These are awful’, she said, ‘you can’t let people say these things about themselves’, and then she offered to take over running the section.
I’ve grown used to this kind of response, but it’s still exasperating. Even if the advertisers in other columns haven’t been coerced into a clumsy rhetorical liposuction of all the junk of their lives and were genuinely Nietzschean Übermenschen (not-withstanding their appearance in—sotto voce—a lonely hearts column), the existence of such characterless people can only be depressing for the vast majority of us jaded, cynical, out-of-sync-with-the-world types:
I hate you all. I hate London. I hate books. I hate critics. I hate this magazine, I hate this column and I hate all the goons who appear in it. But if you have large breasts, are younger than 30 and don’t want to talk about the novel you’re ‘writing’ I’ll put all that aside for approximately two hours one Saturday afternoon in January. Man, 33. Box no. 7810.
Of course, there’s no need to feel intimidated by the shining beauties occasionally sprinkled across small ads sections like glitter on a dog turd. Significantly, one of the most revealing and often unquoted statistics about personal ads is that the commonest complaints are to do with advertisers rarely being the way they describe themselves in their ads. Such instances of advertisers not being altogether candid—or, more accurately, lying—are probably the cumulative results of dating agency spin, being delusional about their sense of self or simply a fear of not being interesting enough. It’s not a complaint we get at the LRB. Although we have occasionally had concerned phone calls