How to Be a Hottie: Become Uniquely, Irresistibly You and Attract Men Like Crazy!
By Romy Miller
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In How to Be a Hottie: Become Uniquely, Irresistibly You and Attract Men Like Crazy!, Romy Miller explores what it takes to become the woman every man wants and every woman wants to be. It's not about changing yourself, but finding that inner hottie all women possess and bringing her to the forefront. It's about getting what you want and loving what you have. It's about being a hottie and that means loving yourself and loving your life.
How to Be a Hottie: Become Uniquely, Irresistibly You and Attract Men Like Crazy! is the book for the woman who wants to take control of her life and become the woman men want. If you're ready to be a hottie, this is the perfect place to start.
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How to Be a Hottie - Romy Miller
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Desirable You
It is one of the best feelings in the world to be desired. (I don’t think you will get any arguments from anyone on this.) To be desired and wanted makes you feel valuable. It makes you feel empowered. It can bring a smile to your face and butterflies to your stomach. It can make you blush and make you feel strong. It can make you feel like somebody. It can make you feel like you’re important. However, before you can really be desired by another, you have to want yourself. I know that sounds slightly odd, but the point is that wanting yourself—i.e. loving yourself—means that you are putting it out there that you are a desirable female who deserves to be attractive to men. In essence, you have to know that you deserve to be desired. Yes, you deserve it. Let me reiterate: Before you can want to be desired, you have to know that you deserve to be desired because if you don’t, you’ll never feel worthy enough for this to happen.
Let’s take a pause and discuss deserving to be desired. More or less, if you don’t feel that you deserve to be desired, you won’t be. It’s that simple. And there are many women who, for whatever reason, think that they don’t deserve this. Sure, they read magazines and books that tell them this but it never sinks in. They just never get that before you can feel desired, you have to know in your heart that you deserve it. And you do. Just by the fact that you are a woman, you deserve to be desired and to be treated well. You can’t wait for someone to give you permission to do this. You have to give it to yourself. Keep in mind that it’s not about what others allow
you do to. It’s about you allowing yourself to deserve it. If you wait around until someone allows you to deserve to be desired, you will be waiting a long time.
I think a lot of women get into funks where they think life has passed them by. I personally know a few. They’ve given up on it all and continue to hide and seclude and exclude themselves by gaining weight and wearing frumpy clothes. Of course, this guarantees that they will usually find themselves alone on any given Saturday night. How fun is that? (Please note sarcasm.)
In a way, it miffs me that some people just throw their lives away for whatever reason. Sure, life can sometimes suck in a major way, but the point is to get out of the funk and get into the fun. We’ve all gone through tough times at some point but that shouldn’t dictate the rest of our lives. When we let these bad times rule us, we become stuck and getting unstuck can be difficult. But you have to take that first step in order to do so and all that first step entails is you saying that, yes, it would be nice to feel desired. There is so much good stuff to do in life that it just mystifies me that everyone doesn’t want to take advantage of it. This may or may not apply to you. If it does, it’s time to sit down and get over whatever issue it was that put you in this funk in the first place. If this doesn’t apply to you, maybe take a moment and be glad you overcame whatever it was you needed to overcome in order to bring you to where you are.
The biggest hindrance to being a hottie that most women have is that they just stop caring. And when you stop caring, it’s hard to get back up on that horse. They just don’t think they deserve to be desired. But if you want a better life, if you want to be desired, you have to pull yourself up by your bootstraps, as they say, and go for it. Being a hottie is nothing more than a commitment to go for it. And how do you go for it? You have to take time to really feel what it would be like to be wanted by men. Also, take time to really feel what it would be liked to be wanted by yourself. Yes, by you. If you can just find one thing that you like about yourself, you are on your way because, once you find one thing, other things will pop up and multiply. And when that happens, you rediscover some lost confidence or tap into some new.
I put this chapter in here because I don’t think anyone should ever give up on life. I don’t care how old you are or what you’ve done—or not done. You deserve better. Giving up on life and just allowing it to happen around you while you observe quietly is not a prescription for happiness. It should be everyone’s goal to be happy. But why? Why be happy? What does that have to do with being a hottie? Everything! Without feeling and experiencing happiness, what’s the point? Happiness is a gift that’s been given to us so we will continue on with the species. So, if all of us are going around in a funk, feeling like loathsome creatures, our species would probably cease to exist. And we’d all be miserable in the meanwhile. Why would anyone in their right mind want to do that?
Happiness is a very important part of feeling desired. If you can do this, the rest will follow. Confidence will be easier to obtain and people will pick up on your happiness and automatically want to be around you more. Attracting men will be easier, too, mainly because most men want to be around a happy woman. Why? Because they’re fun! And everyone loves to be around a fun person. So, allow happiness to be your goal and once you feel happy, you will begin to feel desired because you will start becoming more desired due to your innate happiness.
So, feeling desired is the goal. Once you feel desired, you will be desired. But you might have to take that first step on your own. This book will concentrate on getting you to that first step and beyond. And once you’re there, you are going to love it. Who wouldn’t? Feeling wanted is the best feeling there is. Besides feeling loved, that is. But, maybe, it’s one in the same.
And don’t run away from it either. I’ve known women who, after being whistled at on the street, want to run and hide. Oh, he can’t be whistling at me!
Well, maybe he was and he was because you are attractive and desirable. These women think they couldn’t possibly be desired because they don’t think they deserve it. Learn to accept that men want women and that you are a woman. Learn to embrace your femininity. Learn to love yourself for who you are. And then learn to love others who think you’re hot stuff. Because you will be. You deserve it.
Uniquely You
In order to become the best version of yourself or rather the hottie you truly are, you have to become uniquely you. But that begs a big question, just what exactly does this mean?
You have to realize that it is not imperative that you change yourself in order to be a hottie. Being a hottie means being yourself. The best version of yourself you can be. So, if you have freckles or muscular legs or whatever, accept that this is part of you. Yes, you need to accept it, love it and revel in it. Whatever it is that makes you uniquely you should be used to your advantage. If your hair tends to be on the curly side, show those curls, and keep in mind many, many women would love to have your hair. Same thing if you have straight hair—embrace it for all its beauty. Becoming uniquely you doesn’t mean you have to do a lot of work. It just means you embrace what you already have and build on it, too. By building on what you have, all you do is take your existing natural characteristics—some might call them quirks—and milk them for all their worth. Maybe you’re really smart. So, work that. Wear those cool but funky glasses and look like a sexy librarian. Maybe you’re really artistic, so work that to your advantage by wearing those cool, bohemian-type clothes. Maybe you’re a gymnast, so show off your muscular legs.
The point is to take what you have and work it. But the even bigger point is to take what you have and love it. Use it to your advantage to become uniquely you. Instead of trying to work around something, you work with it. And that’s how you become uniquely you and that’s what will make men flock to you. No one likes a phony, so if you are genuinely you, you will automatically attract men who will want you for you and not some image you’ve presented to the world in hopes of being accepted more. If you can accomplish this, not only will you attract more men, but you will attract men who will be better for you because you are putting out an honest image of yourself. And this, in turn, will attract more honest men—better men instead of just superficial douchebags.
So, instead of fixing
what you’ve got, work with it and use it to your advantage. That’s the quickest, sure-fire way to not only attract more men but to be more accepting of yourself. And through self-acceptance comes much self-esteem and a woman with a lot of self-esteem is a woman many men would like to know better.
One last reason to become uniquely you. There are many men who are turned on by what you may perceive as flaws. Say you have lots of freckles on your chest. There are men who really dig this. This goes for all things we, as women, might think of as flaws. Whatever it is, I can guarantee you that there is a man who is turned on by it. Seriously. This is why you must revel in your flaws
and begin to see them as something that is advantageous. That they are assets rather than liabilities. They are what make you unique and it is much better to be unique than to be just like everybody else.
Perpetual Pollyanna?
One thing that sets confident and desirable people apart is the fact that they can override negativity with positivity. They don’t let the negative Nancy ’s rain on their parade and they don’t let anyone cover their silver lining with unnecessary clouds. And while that is a very flowery way to put it, it’s true. In essence, they’re positive people.
When I wrote one of my other books, How to Be Wanted, I wanted to really showcase how your attitude can make or break you. If you’re feeling positive, you’re more in tune with the world and, if you’re feeling negative, you’re more out of step. Hotties have fabulous lives because they have positive attitudes and they know that using the Law of Attraction can be very beneficial.
Now, while this book isn’t about the Law of Attraction, I do want to emphasize that what you give is what you get. If all you ever give is negativity, then that’s probably what you’re going to get back. However, if you can turn it around, you can start to see more positive things open up simply by adjusting your attitude. And, you should know, hotties always have good attitudes. If they get down