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Coaching and SuccessFrom the beginning of time, information and apprenticeship has been a mainstayfor many vocations. Guilds were formed in early times to train individuals on aparticular craft. We have formed schools dedicated to specific skills that arenecessary for entry into the fields of technology, fashion, business, theology,medical and for many other professional services.As in many profession a Life Coach has also developed skills to help peopleachieve whatever it is that they want. This profession is young yet very old in its“Idealism.” Even the most successful have mentors or coaches. The reasonsvary but the results are always the same and that is success.I know a millionaire who is being presently mentored by a billionaire. Why?Simply because he knows to improve his results he needs help. You may besaying well being a millionaire should be enough. Well to some it is and it alldepends on what you want and why you want it. In this case, the millionairewants to give millions away, so becoming a billionaire would empower him to givemore.I sometimes fault myself for doing what I call covert coaching. One day a friendcame to me and she wanted to get a car. Well she sort of went into what I called“figure figure.” That is when someone is trying to make a decision and isvacillating back and forth but does not decide exactly what they are going to do.In my own way I start with the suggestion that the person can obtain a car. OnceI see that agreement then I go into asking that person to make the decision. It sohappens that a few days later she has a car. Now maybe left to her own devices,she would have made the decision a few weeks later. I think that influencing thatdecision is what makes the difference. It wasn’t that one could not afford it, it wassimply starting with idea the one can get the car. What did I do? I simply guidedher to the decision to appropriate what she wanted. Cutting through all theparalysis of analysis and getting to the point.A good coach can clarify what you really want. You might say the coach’s job isto nail down exactly what outcomes you want and lead you to the path of achievement. It is peer to peer, simply a co-creative process of helping you to getthrough those blocks and accelerating your progress to your goal. You see youcan lean on your own excuses that keep you from major success. A good coachdoesn’t buy it, in a way a good coach is unreasonable. He will not fall into the apath of agreement that will get you nowhere.We have seen celebrities, politicians, even sports figures use more than just onecoach. Personal Trainers are coaches on a certain level. People’s paradigms aredifferent, the coach’s approach may vary but the skills are all the same. SomeCoach’s may specialize in Wellness, Career Transitions, Emotional Intelligenceand even Weight Loss.Regardless of the specialization, a good coach will bring the best out of you.
 
A Life Coach is your partner. The coach already knows that you can be, do or have anything you want provided you really want it. People want to succeed butthey want it now and don’t want to wait. What they usually do is go out on their own and hit a brick walls give up and wallow in mediocrity. A Life Coach whether specialized or not will help you take those obstacles and discard them, get themout of your way and get on with the work,Your are a client, which places the coach in a fiduciary responsibility, in other words the Life Coach is there to care for you, protect you and often times fromyourself. The coach is empathic, insightful and will give you the right feedback sothat you can make progress much faster than if you did things on your own. A lifecoach is part of your team for success. The Life Coach wants your success sincethat is the only way that you will keep them on.This is how simple things can be. I am member of Toastmaster’s; we have on theagenda what is called table topics. The Table Topics Master had a real problemand didn’t know how to solve it. Of course she calls on me and relates thefollowing story: My daughter is married to a military officer. He has been orderedto move to a certain base that is in a different state and city. My daughter doesn’thave an option to stay, since the move will be long term. Her daughter is upset,but love’s her husband very much. So they have no option but to make the move.Her daughter is upset about the move. What can she do?My response was simply this, change her perception. Instead of focusing on howthis was upsetting her, or how it was something she didn’t plan on, I told her whydoesn’t she look at it this way, get excited about the move. Start to plan thismarvelous change, accept it. Think about how wonderful it will be to meet newpeople and get your child into the right schools. If she knows exactly where sheis moving to (she will live off base) why doesn’t she start to screen new schoolsfor her child. What about a house? What kind of house does she want to live in?Have her start visualizing the floor plan. Have her and her husband visit a fewweeks before the move to find the right neighborhood, what stores are nearby,etc. I could only hear the sigh of relief and the acknowledgement of this idea, onelady commented, wow that was really good.Now I am not doing this to toot my own horn, I just want to demonstrate howquickly a solution can be gotten to a problem. Any Life Coach would be able tosee what the paradigm was. This upset was simply anxiety and fear leading theperson to grief and resentment. Simple isn’t it? It is simple only because I am notpart of the problem. The coach does not place themselves as part of the person’sproblems, paradigms or situations. Nope, that would never be necessary.The Life Coach’s view is for greater awareness not less. A good Life Coach willget you through the rough spots. They will educate you and find out what youneed to succeed. Fear of Success as well as failure stop people from hiring a Life
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