Youth are morelikely to grow uphealthy whenthey have highself-esteem.
What Are Assets?
Assets are40 values,experiences, and qualities that help kidssucceed.“Self-esteem”isone of four positive-identity assets.
* Based on Search Institutesurveys of 217,277 6th- to12th-grade youth throughout theUnited States during the1999–2000 school year.
e all know what pulls usdown when it comes to howwe feel about ourselves.
Guilt.Prejudice.Rejection.Neglect.Disrespect.Put-downs.Ridicule.Failure.Butwhatpulls us up?AuthorandpsychologistDr.Louise Hart,a leadingeducatoron self-esteem development,sayshigh self-esteem comes from• Love,respect,and acceptance.• Being taken seriously.• Being listened to.• Having yourneeds metand takenseriously.• Honoring uniqueness.• Being healthyand fit.• Having meaning and purpose in life.• Having a sense ofhumor,laughing,andplaying.• Taking pride in yourcultural heritage.• Having choices and a sense ofpersonalpower.• Having safetyand security.• Doing good.• Competence and achievement.Dr.Hartsuggests families talkabouttheirstrengths and focus on positive things abouteach other.“We make healthychildren byworking from the inside out,”she says,“bycherishing and accepting them as theyareand nurturing theirgrowth anddevelopment.”
High Self-Esteem:WhereDoes It Come From?
Easy Ways to Build Assets for and with Your Child
o f you t hsurveyed by SearchIns t i t u t e have t his asse t in t heir l ives. *
The Difference between Boys and Girls
Who is more apt to like them- selves, think they have a number of good qualities, and be glad for who they are? Boys are. Search Institute researchers discovered that 56% of boys have a positive self-esteem whereas only 47% of girls do. Why do you think that is?
Qu est i ons t o d i scu ss wi t h y ou r chi l d : • N a me t hr ee t hi n g s y ou l i k e a bou t y ou r sel f a nd ex pl a i n wh y .• T hi nk ba ck t o when y ou wer e y ou n g er .When d i d y ou f eel r ea l l y g ood a bou t y ou r sel f ? Wha t wa s ha p peni n g ? Whend i d y ou f eel ba d a bou t y ou r sel f ? Wh y ? • When y ou f eel t he best a bou t y ou r sel f ,wha t a ct i v i t i es a r e y ou d oi n g ?
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