Rando (1993) contends that loss can be physical, psychosocial or even competency based.Secondary loss is another factor that must be considered, these are losses that occur as aresult of the main loss, such as social network, money, faith or self
esteem, unmet needsand the loss of a future. These losses are highlighted when the dependencies within arelationship are discovered when one person is no longer there.Rando (1993) would state that all aspects of life have some degree of loss, even happy eventssuch as weddings, changing job, moving house, children growing up and the aging process.Rando goes on to state that the intensity of these losses will vary from person to person andthat the social support network they have in place acts as a buffer to the sense of loss.
Theories of Grief
Faberow (2009) contends that the purpose of theories of grief are to create an understanding
of the traits of grief, such as, the effect grief has on a person’s physical and mental health and
to prevent the onset of complicated grief. Complicated grief is a deviance of normal grief and it includes aspects such as prolonged or acute grieving or a delay in the onset of grief.There are two main schools of thought within grief theories. Models of grief from thepsychoanalytic and attachment paradigm and models of stress and trauma theories.Psychoanalytic and attachment models of grief focus on the emotional reactions to a loss andtry to explain the psychological elements which exist in the behaviours that are displayed bygrieving people.The stress and trauma paradigm explores grieving symptoms from a physical approach. It
considers the detrimental effect to a person’s physical health caused by stress and trauma
experiences during the mourning process. Faberow (2009) explains that this paradigm alsoconsiders other traumatic events such as illness, relationship breakdown and unemploymentfor example.
Psychoanalytic and Attachment Paradigm
From the psychoanalytic perspective Rando’s
(1993) theory can be expanded to explain thatshe considers that there are six stages people go through whilst they are grieving. They arerecognition of the loss, emotional reaction to the loss, recollection and re-experience of thememories of the deceased person, relinquishing their past world and the beginning of anacceptance that they can not change things. The last two stages are a readjustment to their