Out of all the aspects of the reading, the notion that reality is constructed throughfirst and second order realities rings the most true to me. I think that this is one of the most difficult parts of interpersonal communication. You can say anything to someone andassume that your meaning has been very clear, when in fact they have perceived the realityof the situation in a completely different way. This difference in the two realities can gounspoken for sometime, maybe forever, but it also can come up later or immediately andcause interpersonal communication. This aspect makes sense to me because I have been onboth sides of the situation, as everyone. Sometimes I honestly think what I have said wasvery clear and could only be taken one way, when in fact that was not the case. I have alsoexperience frustration when my second order reality of what was said to me seems unfairor mean and the other person seems to not notice. Learning that this is a normal part of communication that just requires us to be sensitive to both realities was very redeeming.Another aspect of the reading that stood out to me as important and completelyunderstandable is the tendency to assume others are like us. I will admit that I am a victimof this tendency. I am not really offended by much. I have grown up in a very liberalhousehold where all ideas were to be heard and given re
spect, so I really don’t get to up inarms when people’s personal or societal opinions differ from mine. I know that others get
offended more easily than me, but I often forget this during conversation because I assumethat they wont mind my opinions because I never mind theirs. This is not a goodassumption. I have offended good friends and people I barely know with my openness oncertain topics, which is never my intention, but I have the tendency to assume they are likeme. Knowing that this is a common tendency has made me more aware of my perceptionsand I feel that I have become better at not stepping on others toes.