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By Desmond Yeoh SC
The title appears to contradict what I have been writing about because itpresumes the existence of a ‘self’. However, I am using the term becauseit can be easily understood. The other side of the coin is not acceptingoneself and that attitude actually reinforces the self or ego.We are all on the spiritual path and we tend to compare ourselves to themasters we admire. The admiration can inspire us to develop virtue onone hand but on the other hand, it may make us feel inadequate anddiscouraged. I may tell myself that I am not generous enough or lovingenough and so on. I may extend myself in helping others and instead of feeling good about it, I may feel short-changed. Instead of developingvirtue, I end up building a reservoir of anger, resentment anddiscontentment.That is why self-acceptance is very important on the spiritual path. If I amangry all the time, hitting myself for being an ‘angry person’ will onlyreinforce that ‘angry’ attitude. Everything that we resist - persist. Insteadof scolding myself for being angry, I can just acknowledge that anger. If Ithink that I am not generous enough, I can acknowledge my resistance togive instead of scolding myself for being selfish.We are the way we are and it may not be conducive for our self-development to force ourselves to do those things which we are notinclined to do. Doing so will only cause us to feel resentful ormanipulated.Virtue needs to and will arise naturally. When we train our mind to lookat reality, our attitude towards the world will change along with thechange in our perception, for example, looking deeply into the truth of inter-dependence can inspire love for all beings.