Son of A / Emma Mildon

Dream. Think. Love. DO.

Make the Life Changing Connection

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For the abandoned children who have no family tree, no family history, no old family tales pasted down generation to generation, This book is our story

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Dedicated to the late Margaret Helen Mildon I am so lucky to have you for a mother Thank you for all the love and support you gave me.

You left me with this, and I read it whenever I need your motherly advice

I want you to always know that in good and bad times, I will love you, And that no matter what you do or how you think or what you say You can depend on my support, guidance, friendship and love Every minute of everyday I love being your mother Susan Polis Schutz

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Contents
Introduction Chapter 1 Son of a B@$!H Chapter 2 The Dandelion Theory Chapter 3 Picking a Pod Chapter 4 The Abandoned Tree Chapter 5 Book of Life Chapter 6 Advice from a Tree Chapter 6 Make your Mark Chapter 7 Seasons of Separation Chapter 8 Given Name & Number Chapter 9 Tall Poppy Theory Chapter 10 Fostering The People Chapter 11 Think Albert Einstein Chapter 12 Love Marilyn Monroe Chapter 13 Believe -Wayne Dyer Chapter 14 Do Steve Jobs Page 5 Page 6 Page 8 Page 14 Page 16 Page 23 Page 26 Page 31 Page 36 Page 43 Page Page Page Page Page Page

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Chapter 15 Create Walt Disney Chapter 16 Heal Mother Teresa Chapter 17 Change - Nelson Mandela Chapter 18 Promote Angelina Jolie Chapter 19 Dream Martin Luther King Junior Chapter 20 Peace John Lennon Chapter 21 Start Your Story Chapter 21 Welcome to the Family References

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INTRODUCTION

If you called me a 'son of a bitch' I would have smug delight in correcting you. I am not a son of a bitch, I am in fact an actual bitch - a child born out of wedlock and as for the son of a part, well that is just a huge looming question mark, because I have no idea who my father is. As far as I'm considered no one fathered me, I might have well have appeared out thin air just like the miracle conception of Jesus Christ himself. (Jesus, who was in fact adopted by Joseph the carpenter and can be considered an abandoned child also). My story is not like that of Jesus, my story will not live forever like the Bible, however like the bible helps many lost souls my book seeks to help lost souls too. And while the bible is kept in a draw of almost every hotel room across the Western world, this book should be kept in the draw of any abandoned child. I am not a professor, I am not god, I wouldnt even say I am religious - I am a simple bitch and a son of a The lost children the forgotten ones, the ones adopted, fostered, orphaned, left behind, borrowed, lent, passed around and left on their own in a sense we are the sons of question marks the daughters of faceless parents. In this book I will refer to us as the abandoned children. This is a book to help better explain that overwhelming feeling of abandonment that goes hand in hand in all relationships for any 'son of a...' This is a book that investigates the behaviour, trends and relationships of the abandoned children tracing back to tribal families, biblical families and stories from today. More importantly a book for abandoned children, to help normalize, make sense and provide coping tools for adoptees and those currently in their lives to better understand why they behave like we do. The explanations are simple and so is the theory take the family tree and strip it down to its raw bark, its inner knots, its roots, and start at the seed where its journey all begins. Now take that tree out of the forest. Watch it struggle as it fights the elements, environment, pests, harbourists.

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This book is not full of sweeping statements, or far fetched conclusions this book merely seeks to raise questions about the affects on abandoned children to better help them and the people around them understand their perspective on life, love and family and most importantly to give them a sense of self, and self worth. Written by an adopted child, who was adopted by a women who had adopted out a son, that women who raised her went onto pass away during her teens sparking a quest of self discovery, allowing her to meet her birth mother and get the answers that many other abandoned children spend a life time seeking. A book about self-discovery that will leave any abandoned seedling feeling proud to be a Son of a or as I like to call myself one proud bitch. You are about to make a life changing connection

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-1Son of a B@!$H

Abandonment verb
[with object] cease to support or look after (someone); desert:her natural mother had abandoned her at an early age leave (a place or vehicle) empty or uninhabited, without intending to return:derelict houses were abandoned (abandon someone/thing to) condemn someone or something to (a specified fate) by ceasing to take an interest in them:an attempt to persuade businesses not to abandon the area to innercity deprivation

The Oxford Dictionaries definition of abandonment presents abandonment as anyone who has been left, deserted, lacking support and who may not have anyone to look after or out for them. You can be abandoned in many forms throughout your life, but lets look particularly at your childhood. Did you experience an adoption, fostering, loss of a parent or divorce. While many people do not face life changing circumstances until their adult life, children who encounter any form of abandonment are immediately faced with decision making, reactions, emotions and in turn behaviours that all stem from this initial abandonment. You could even argue that children that face these experiences are given an opportunity to clearly define what they do and dont like about their world and where they fit into it something a lot of people, as adults have not contemplated. This enlightening perception of our world and where we fit into it gives abandoned children awareness on what they lack from their abandonment. And more often than not replacements are sought out to fill in the gaps in their life, this actually continues throughout their lifetime. In my opinion one of the reasons why abandoned children become so successful is because they set out to surround themselves with inspiring people throughout their life. They begin to foster their own family in a sense. Organically picking out people who have crossed their path to be advisors, guides, mentors and role models to them. Instead of just taking Mum and Dads advice, they

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have a team of people all qualified to support and guide them. When we think about adult life, and what could qualify as a successful person we can use the CEO of a business as an example. It is their job to ensure they have the right people for the job. They are surrounded by specialities who are all working towards the same end goal and are all selected to work within their organisation. Most people dedicate their lives to hard work, working up the ranks and proving themselves to be worthy of a CEO position. What people who have experienced abandonment dont realize is they were promoted to CEO of their life on the day of their abandonment. And just like any big job or promotion, people either thrive and blossom or crack and crumble. This is where the two different lifestyles of an abandoned child emerges. It isnt news that a lot of people particular who have experienced foster or adoption head down a slippery slope of alternative lifestyles involving crime or drugs. It was recorded in 2013 that 70% of prison population in America is former foster children. (As referenced in the foster film, Camp, 2013.) We also however have the success stories of abandoned children who went on to change the world. Steve Jobs, CEO of Apple & Pixar, John Lennon, Musician & Songwriter, Nelson Mandela, Global leader of change and unity, Martin Luther King Junior, Leader for Civil Rights, Mark Twain, Writer and Philosopher, Bill Clinton, Politician and Adoption Advocate, the list goes on. And then there are people in between who understood that they were special, who understand they journey through abandonment and reached success whoever still let their abandonment define them. The life of Marilyn Monroe is the perfect example of this struggle for balance. We will look in depth at some key case studies of people affected by abandonment within their lifetime and see the secrets to their succuss rooting from their abandonment. We will study the lives of Albert Einstein, Marilyn Monroe, Wayne Dyer, Steve Jobs, Mother Teresa and Nelson Mandela. People who have each experienced abandonment one some level or another and who give us an opportunity to look at abandonment from every angle, the abdondoner, the abandonee and the

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abandon advocate. By the end of this book you would have disregarded the label abandonment, detached from the experiences that define your behaviour in relationship, in love and will be armed with the tools to reinvent and redirect your life. This book is the first day of your rebirth into the life you always dreamed of the life you were destined for. Lets start at the very beginning, the conception, the seed that would grow into your family tree.