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Dealing With Breast Cancer—Anything is Possible

This is not another story, or information of what happens. Thisguiding information is for you!

Why ask why?

This is a dialogue designed for women, by women, who recentlyfound out they have breast cancer, their surgical procedure, treatment,reconstruction, and the creation of an extraordinary life to come.I am not going to tell you a story about my breast cancer there areplenty of books, articles, and research to read on that. There are alsoplenty of books on facts and what is going to happen before and afteretc. etc. etc.This dialogue is designed for you…. from the day you find outyour mammogram does not match your last years’ mammogram, to thebeginning of treatment, surgery, and reconstruction. The entire gauntletthat must be endured in order to get your life back on track to being asextraordinary as before the realization that you have been inflicted withbreast cancer.I have spoken with many women who are going through or havegone through this experience, and it seems many women do not knowwhat questions to ask or how to deal with this

powerfully

. It is sooverwhelming to find out that you have breast cancer; words can notdescribe it.We all deal with this news in our own way. I would like you totake on the way I went through this process. What I found was that Iwas confident, positive, and clear about all the choices I made.

All because I asked questions, after question, after question…...

God gave us

all

the gift of asking questions—at three years old westarted to ask why?, and but why? how come? but why?—keep askingquestion after question. We were not afraid to ask, until we were clear,at three or four years of age. That should be the case, no matter whatage you are, in the moment of realizing you have breast cancerWhat happened to most of us in life is that we stopped askingquestions, losing the ability and gaining of knowledge to figure out whatis good for us. Instead, we starting accepting the information that wasgiven to us, and more times then many, we as women do not want tobother anyone, or even more importantly, question the knowledge andability of the doctors. We suppress the truth and what we really want toknow until our minds and bodies can’t deal anymore, and that is whenwe experience severe depression, anxiety, and resentment.The reason I did not loose that ability to ask questions was purerefusal to do so. I also have mastered the ability to ask the samequestion from many different directions. I am not good at any form of denial, or suppressing my very inquisitive mind. What my doctors soonrealized was “You have to deal with me now”. It drives my family,doctors, and co-workers crazy, it really did. My attitude became “allabout me” and no one else. It must be driven this way to create someresemblance of sanity in an extremely insane situation. It is as simple asthat—ask questions, until you and only you, is crystal clear on thedirection you are about to embark to be a survivor and continue with anextraordinary and fulfilled life. I know this will help you.If this dialogue helps you to make a clear choice for yourtreatment of breast cancer, its purpose has been justified and served.What I mean is you can live out the rest of your life knowing that yourchoice was the right choice for you. Not based on anyone but you!

So let’s get this party started!

How many of you found out you have breast cancer and went intoa panic? Everyone I am going to say, at some level, panicked. If youhave just joined this blog, you are in that place of panic; read the posts,absorb the information, and ASK QUESTIONS! This is an area toresearch a vast wealth of information. For those of you who are in the

middle of this or post-op and initiating treatment, you need to read, postand learn.I am going to be very straight-forward with you about this. Wehave to get your thinking into a clear, positive, and informed place.Impossible you may say. I did it, you can too! Keep the information andsuggestions in this dialogue on your mind as you are going through thiswhole ordeal, what life has brought you. Your not always going to feellike it or be able to do what I am about to ask of you on the spot. Justtry it on….it just may fit!!First and foremost, the thing I want you do, and I mean

today

is tostart talking to people, anyone and everyone, even if you do not feel likeit. This is not going to be about how you feel, this is about your life,health and your family’s well being,

NOT

how you feel. You are notgoing to feel like doing anything that you have to do. Not One!Who feels like it? Who feels like having breast cancer, going to Doctors,getting biopsies, having surgery, going through the psychological andphysical pain?

NOBODY, NOBODY, NOBODY.

My motto through this whole thing when someone asked me howare you feeling?, or how are you doing?- I would give the most honestpositive answer I could muster and always add on the end-- Who feelslike it. My response was always “I am doing really good” or “I am doingamazingly great and I can not believe how well I am doing” and ”whofeels like doing any of this” was always added to the end of my response.I was not in a bad mood or a good mood when I would say this. I juststated it as a fact and It gave me power.The most important aspect of this is:Do not talk to people from the place of feeling sorry for yourself.Nobody really cares that you are feeling sorry for yourself; and I’ll tellyou why.The person or people you will be talking to throughout this process, nomatter who they are. I do not care if they are a nurse, doctor, x ray tech,realtor, parking attendant, waitress ,friend, best friend, mother, father,

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Dealing With Breast Cancer—Anything is Possible

This is not another story, or information of what happens. This guiding information is for you!

Why ask why?

This is a... (More) Dealing With Breast Cancer—Anything is Possible

This is not another story, or information of what happens. This guiding information is for you!

Why ask why?

This is a dialogue designed for women, by women, who recently found out they have breast cancer, their surgical procedure, treatment, reconstruction, and the creation of an extraordinary life to come.

I am not going to tell you a story about my breast cancer there are plenty of books, articles, and research to read on that. There are also plenty of books on facts and what is going to happen before and after etc. etc. etc.

This dialogue is designed for you…. from the day you find out your mammogram does not match your last years’ mammogram, to the beginning of treatment, surgery, and reconstruction. The entire gauntlet that must be endured in order to get your life back on track to being as extraordinary as before the realization that you have been inflicted with breast cancer.

I have spoken with many women who are going through or have gone through this experience, and it seems many women do not know what questions to ask or how to deal with this powerfully. It is so overwhelming to find out that you have breast cancer; words can not describe it.

We all deal with this news in our own way. I would like you to take on the way I went through this process. What I found was that I was confident, positive, and clear about all the choices I made.

All because I asked questions, after question, after question…...

God gave us all the gift of asking questions—at three years old we started to ask why?, and but why? how come? but why?—keep asking question after question. We were not afraid to ask, until we were clear, at three or four years of age. That should be the case, no matter what age you are, in the moment of realizing you have breast cancer

What happened to most of us in life is that we stopped asking questions, losing the ability and gaining of knowledge to figure out what is good for us. Instead, we starting accepting the information that was given to us, and more times then many, we as women do not want to bother anyone, or even more importantly, question the knowledge and ability of the doctors. We suppress the truth and what we really want to know until our minds and bodies can’t deal anymore, and that is when we experience severe depression, anxiety, and resentment.

The reason I did not loose that ability to ask questions was pure refusal to do so. I also have mastered the ability to ask the same question from many different directions. I am not good at any form of denial, or suppressing my very inquisitive mind. What my doctors soon realized was “You have to deal with me now”. It drives my family, doctors, and co-workers crazy, it really did. My attitude became “all about me” and no one else. It must be driven this way to create some resemblance of sanity in an extremely insane situation. It is as simple as that—ask questions, until you and only you, is crystal clear on the direction you are about to embark to be a survivor and continue with an extraordinary and fulfilled life. I know this will help you.

If this dialogue helps you to make a clear choice for your treatment of breast cancer, its purpose has been justified and served.
What I mean is you can live out the rest of your life knowing that your choice was the right choice for you…. not based on anyone but you!

So let’s get this party started!

How many of you went into a panic the moment you found out you have breast cancer? Everyone, I am going to venture to say. If you have just joined this blog and you are in that place of panic, please read the posts, absorb the information, and ASK QUESTIONS! This is an area to research a vast wealth of information, from finding a specialist, to talking to women (and men) whom have experienced this devastation. When I refer to men, I am referring to partners of the women with breast cancer. For those of you (Less)

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