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Dealing With Breast Cancer—Anything is Possible


This is not another story, or information of what happens. This guiding information is for you!

Why ask why?

This is a dialogue designed for women, by women, who recently found out they have breast cancer, their surgical procedure, treatment, reconstruction, and the creation of an extraordinary life to come.

I am not going to tell you a story about my breast cancer there are plenty of books, articles, and research to read on that. There are also plenty of books on facts and what is going to happen before and after etc. etc. etc.

This dialogue is designed for you…. from the day you find out your mammogram does not match your last years’ mammogram, to the beginning of treatment, surgery, and reconstruction. The entire gauntlet that must be endured in order to get your life back on track to being as extraordinary as before the realization that you have been inflicted with breast cancer.

I have spoken with many women who are going through or have gone through this experience, and it seems many women do not know what questions to ask or how to deal with this powerfully. It is so overwhelming to find out that you have breast cancer; words can not describe it.

We all deal with this news in our own way. I would like you to take on the way I went through this process. What I found was that I was confident, positive, and clear about all the choices I made.

All because I asked questions, after question, after question…...

God gave us all the gift of asking questions—at three years old we started to ask why?, and but why? how come? but why?—keep asking question after question. We were not afraid to ask, until we were clear, at three or four years of age. That should be the case, no matter what age you are, in the moment of realizing you have breast cancer

What happened to most of us in life is that we stopped asking questions, losing the ability and gaining of knowledge to figure out what is good for us. Instead, we starting accepting the information that was given to us, and more times then many, we as women do not want to bother anyone, or even more importantly, question the knowledge and ability of the doctors. We suppress the truth and what we really want to know until our minds and bodies can’t deal anymore, and that is when we experience severe depression, anxiety, and resentment.

The reason I did not loose that ability to ask questions was pure refusal to do so. I also have mastered the ability to ask the same question from many different directions. I am not good at any form of denial, or suppressing my very inquisitive mind. What my doctors soon realized was “You have to deal with me now”. It drives my family, doctors, and co-workers crazy, it really did. My attitude became “all about me” and no one else. It must be driven this way to create some resemblance of sanity in an extremely insane situation. It is as simple as that—ask questions, until you and only you, is crystal clear on the direction you are about to embark to be a survivor and continue with an extraordinary and fulfilled life. I know this will help you.

If this dialogue helps you to make a clear choice for your treatment of breast cancer, its purpose has been justified and served.
What I mean is you can live out the rest of your life knowing that your choice was the right choice for you…. not based on anyone but you!

So let’s get this party started!

How many of you went into a panic the moment you found out you have breast cancer? Everyone, I am going to venture to say. If you have just joined this blog and you are in that place of panic, please read the posts, absorb the information, and ASK QUESTIONS! This is an area to research a vast wealth of information, from finding a specialist, to talking to women (and men) whom have experienced this devastation. When I refer to men, I am referring to partners of the women with breast cancer. For those of you