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by Andrea HarrisFulcrum ContributorIN HIS 1987 autobiography 
Wheels in the Fast Lane … a blessing in disguise
, ormer Albertanlegislative assembly member Percy Wickmanexplores a question posited by many, i not all,disabled people: “Would anyone be interested inwhat I could do physically?”Tere is a common stigma associated withpeople with disabilities and sexual activity. Ac-cording to a 2001 Statistics Canada study, 13.5per cent o Ontarians believe that disabled peo-ple are asexual beings.Tis stigma may contribute to people withdisabilities fnding it di cult to orm relation-ships or sexual partnerships with others. Many experts on disability agree that one o the mostdi cult aspects o orming a relationship, oreven a sex lie, is fnding a person to developone with. Notably, a 2003 study entitled
Re-lationships, Sexuality and Adjustment Among People with Physical Disability
highlighted thathindrances or people with disabilities include“social attitudes towards physical disability,over-protective parents, a lack o privacy, a de-pendence on others or care, and inaccessiblehomes and meeting places”.While considering these important aspects,a close relationship—sexual or not—is still very much possible or a person with a dis-ability.“Most [disabled] people think it must bethem, that there is a problem with who they are as a person,” said Cory Silverberg, co-au-thor o 
he Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disabil-ity: For All o Us Who Live With Disabilities,Chronic Pain and Illness
and co-owner o o-ronto adult un store Come As You Are. “Butthe truth is that there is nothing wrong withyou as a person; it is how society views you[as an asexual being] that makes it diicult toind someone.”One myth that Silverberg addresses in hisbook is the way disabled people interact sexu-ally, tackling the misconception that disabledpeople don’t have ‘real sex’. He challenges thedefnition and predominant depiction o ‘realsex’, noting that the most prevalent representa-tion in society is sex between two slim, attrac-tive young people. However, with the diverse variety o people—slim and heavy, able-bodiedand disabled—around the globe, he contendsthat this isn’t always how sex goes down.“Te problem with sex these days is assump-tions,” said Silverberg. “People assume that sexshould be conducted in a certain spontaneousway between people who ulfll certain qualities,and that is just not how it is in real lie.”Although it may be di cult or sex to happenspontaneously, many disabled people still en-gage in sexual activities. Whether one is suer-ing rom cerebral palsy, muscular dystrophy, ormust use a catheter, sex is possible. As a result o chronic pain or mobility restrictions, the major-ity o sexual encounters may have to be plannedout in advance. Experimenting with and usingsex toys is one way o asserting one’s own sexualnature, as vibrators and dildos are also excellentways to overcome limited mobility issues. Mostsex toys (or men and women) can be adapted toinclude extendable remote controls or stretch-ing arms or rods, suction cups or straps andharnesses so mobility, stretching, and reachingis made easy.o some, living with a disability can proveexceedingly di cult and discouraging, but sexis just as important or a healthy relationship as
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Overcoming stigmas anddispelling myths
Sex with a disability
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it is or able-bodied individuals. For Wickman,who was le paralyzed as a result o a serious spi-nal cord injury rom a car accident, it has been amind-expanding experience. He contended thatbecoming disabled allowed him to get in touchwith certain aspects o both his body and mindwhich had been ignored beore. Prior to his pa-ralysis, Wickman said that he “used to equatesexuality with sexual intercourse; now I believesexuality is a blending o sexual behaviours,liestyle, sel-esteem, body image, knowledge,eelings, male/emale roles, heterosexuality, ho-mosexuality and all those unique characteristicsthat make each one o us who we are as a manor woman.”
Te Centre or Students with Disabili-ties, located in room 211F o the Unicen-tre, is a riendly, sae space that ofers inor-mation on disabilities, including sexuallyrelated materials. No appointments needed. Visit comeasyouare.com to nd sex toysthat can be adapted to a particular disability.
 
by Jaclyn LytleFulcrum Staf MARCUS MCCANN IS the associate publisher and man-aging editor o Ottawa’s
Capital Xtra! 
. Published every three weeks, the gay and lesbian newspaper is the largestand most widely read alternative publication in the na-tion’s capital. Te
Fulcrum
alumnus spoke about strictrepresentations o sex and sexuality issues in Canadianmedia.
Fulcrum
: What is the importance o having an alterna-tive news resource like your publication in the city?
Marcus McCann: Our primary mandate is gay and lesbi-an issues, but we do approach that rom a sexual reedomperspective. Tat incorporates all kinds o things. Tere’sa broad basket o sex and sexuality issues that we dealwith. I think it’s air to say that most media approach itrom the same angle and that their perspective tends to bea pretty conservative one. As ar as I know, we’re the only publication—or our chain is at any rate—the only news-paper chain that writes rom a sexual reedom perspective... Tere are other gay and lesbian publications, but they tend to approach reporting rom an equality-based rubricrather than a sexual reedom rubric.
How do you eel that issues o sex and sexuality are gen-erally treated by more conventional news media?
I think [these issues arehandled] in two ways: Ithink that, rom time totime, there are explicit con-demnations o certain typeso sex and sexual practices,and they’re overt. Tey’re re-ported on usually as thingsthat are criminal, [or] i notcriminal then as things thatare immoral or untoward insome way. [Or], there’s oensome implicit anxiety on thepart o the [writer] or edi-tor when dealing with issueso unconventional sex andsexuality. I think [the latteris] probably harder to rootout, and, because they’re invisible, they can have a hugeefect on the way readers think about the topics that arebeing discussed.
Do you eel that this apprehensive, traditional attitudeis refective o the way our society thinks about sex?
I really do wonder about this. I think in some ways thatnews organizations are behind the times, that they’remore prudish than people at large. I think that most Ca-nadians are with it. It may not be their cup o tea but they understand that, i it doesn’t afect them, there’s really noreason to get upset about it. I don’t know where this [atti-tude] comes rom but mainstream newspapers take painsto imply that a lot o diferent types o sexual arrange-ments are somehow unconventional. Almost everybody ts into this paradigm [o sexual practices] somewhere.We’re talking about anyone that masturbates, uses a sextoy, has premarital sex, or isn’t marriage-minded at all,people that have casual sex, or sex where it’s not just twopeople. Obviously it extends to same-sex activity. I youadd up the people that have somehow broken some sex-ual more or norm, we’re the great bulk o people, I think across most age brackets.
How do you eel readers should approach material thatdeals with the issue o sex and sexuality in the media?
I think once you come to terms with the act that sex isn’tsomething people should be ashamed o, then it changesthe way you read about sex and sexuality.
What do you think is the impact on readers when they absorb material that presents limiting views so re-quently and subtly?
I don’t think it seriously afects how people behave, [but]I think it sometimes afects how they eel about how they behave. I’m not trying to preach that people have morethreesomes, or casual sex, or whatever. It’s just that peopleought to eel less ashamed or embarrassed about the kindo sex that they’re already having. I think that’s one o thepossible outcomes o a more sex-positive attitude in me-dia, i we could get that to happen.
Writing rom a sex-positive perspective and keeping sexual reedom in mind throughout the paper mustlead, on occasion, to issues o criticism and censorship.How do you approach negative reactions to your pub-lication?
Attacking ideas, I think, isgreat. Criticize, yes. Writeletters to the editor, writeblog posts, try to get on theradio talking about it. Tere’sthe amous American quotethat “Sunshine is the bestdisinectant”. You [give] thepeople who you disagreewith a chance to respondand to some extent [keepthe discussion about] it inthe public eye. I you really do believe that your opinionis the right one, and you canorceully argue your point,then I don’t see what youhave to be worried about. People are pretty clever; they can gure it out, and i you really are on the right side o it I think that people will come around.I just get upset about people who want to end the dis-cussion and clamp down on speech when it’s somethingthey disagree with. Tere is some [negativity towards thepublication] and it doesn’t surprise me. You can’t legis-late social tolerance. People are entitled to their opin-ions, and I don’t eel compelled to make everybody likeme.I don’t even need them to respect me, especially. Teidea o monitoring somebody’s privately held belies is[insignicant] in my mind. Tings that are high on the pri-ority list are getting bad anti-sex laws of the books, [and]ending discrimination in the workplace and schools. Interms o strategies o resistance, I think the best deenceagainst oppression is living a ull and honest lie.
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