SIGNS THAT YOU ARE IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP –PERSONALITY TRAITS OF THE ABUSER1.Is loved by all and hated by none it seems. He ischarming, attractive, and seemingly normal. He mayeven seem like the one you’ve waited for your wholelife.2.It’s very likely that he will haveEmotional Problems due to his childhood.Rrecovering from a Self destructive family takestime. People usually do not overcome the pasteasily and if you look into his past you will finda string of abandonment’s.3.He’s morbidly terrified of trusting and letting goand losing the person that this is exactly whatwill destroy your relationship.4.He tries to control you5.Tell you what you wear and who you can talk to orwhere you can go6.He is very sweet sometimes7.He insults you and intimidates you8.There’s yelling, shouting, throwing tantrums9.He withholds affection10.He makes you think you’re going crazy anytime youvoice your concerns for how badly he treats you(i.e. you need to get help, you’ve got problems)11.Everything in his life is more important than yourand he makes sure you know in every single choicehe gets to choose anything over you12.He accuses people you know or family etc of beinglow life’s etc13.Accuses you of flirting or affairs14.Checks your email/sms’s/call register/ diary and pcetc 15.Must know where you are all the time16.Makes sure he looks totally innocent to friends andfamily (he may even enjoy talking badly about youto family or friends behind your back)17.He has double standards (says you can’t do this orthat but he does it)18.Makes empty promises (I’ll always be there for you,I’ll do this, we’ll get a place)19.Makes you think that everything is your fault (i.e.I would treat you good if you made me feel liketreating you good)20.No mind of his own (i.e. my friend told me to treatyou like shit)21.Uses you (for a place to stay / money / everything)22.Blames you constantly for everything23.Rather argues than let you talk24.Threatens not to communicate if you don’tcommunicate according to his rules25.Physically abuses those weaker than him/ you26.He’s never there for you even if you are sick27.Extreme insensitivity for you even under theharshest of circumstances28.Mind games and then says he doesn’t play mind games29.Lies and deceives you30.Never happy with you longer than a few days
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