But in the midst of sadness, anger and pain there is a glimpse of joy: other bishops andChristians from around the world are reaching out to him and his synod, offering prayer and caring for their brothers and sisters in Connecticut.It is precisely this sense of connection that brings healing and hope to human beings.Brene Brown, the social work researcher I mentioned earlier, says that humans areneuro-biologically wired for connection. She spent a decade researching shame andfear and why they occur. People handle shame and fear differently and she wanted tofind out
this might be so.Shame, she says, is the fear of
connection. We ask ourselves, “Is there somethingabout me that if other people knew, they would reject me? Disconnect from me?” Thereis an
vulnerability that underlies all shame and fear and the differencebetween people who are stuck in shame and struggle with love, belonging andworthiness, according to Brown, is that the people she calls “whole-hearted” believethey are
of love and belonging. They fully embrace vulnerability as the way toauthentic connection.Embracing vulnerability looks like this:
saying “I love you” first
investing in a relationship - with a romantic partner, friend or child - that might notwork out the way you want it to
breathing through the pain of grief with a friend
courageously walking with another as they wait for the Doctor to call with test results All these things can be avoided. You don’t have to do them. But avoiding them comeswith a COST - no relationship.Instead, as we “lean into the discomfort” and willlingly risk vulnerability, we experiencewhat it means to be human, whole-heartedly.This is the place God leads us in Jesus.I’ve often wondered
God chose a baby to reveal Godself to the world?
a vulnerable, powerless baby...Maybe it was so we could see a bit of ourselves and our experiences in Jesus’ birth.Because we live in a vulnerable world.