The SECRETS to Attracting Beautiful, Quality Women

The SECRETS to

Attracting Beautiful,

Quality Women

Online Dating Solutions For Men

SAVANNAH ELLIS

& JESSICA LONDON

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Print ISBN-13: 978-1502774019

Print ISBN-10: 1502774011

1. Self Help 2. Relationships

First Edition

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DEDICATION

Thank you to all the contributors to this book, with a special shout out to Matthew, and my clients Ted, James, and Chris.

CONTENTS

FORWARD

PART I: INTRODUCTION

QUICK USE MANUAL

PART II: PRE-GAME

PRE-GAME WORKBOOK

STEP 1: MASTERING YOUR ATTRACTORS

1.1 - Confidence is Where You Win The Game

1.2 Masculine Vulnerability

1.3 Identifying Your Unique Attractor Factors

1.4 Mastering Attraction

1.5 Visualize

1.6 The Expansive Self is Very Sexy

STEP 2: MASTERING YOUR PROCESS

2.1 Commit To Winning

2.2. Commit to Self-Improvement

STEP 3: BRAND MASTERY

3.1 Stop Advertising

3.2 Becoming More Than the Sum of Your Parts

PART III: KICK-OFF

FOUNDATIONS

A: Writing Your Profile

B: Choosing Your Photos

C: Your Screen Name

PART IV: WINNING

WINNING MOVES

1. I Am Trustworthy

2. I Am A Man With Purpose and Direction

3. I Am More Than The Sum of My Parts

4. I Have a Fantastic Life

5. I am a Man Of Strength & Depth

6. I Am Paying Attention to Your Uniqueness

PART V: SHOWTIME

RESPONSE TOOLKIT

Technique 1: Hold Your Horses

Technique 2: Create Trust

VI: MASTERY

PRACTICE

YOUR FUTURE

THE PRUFROCK ADDENDUM:

ABOUT THE AUTHORS

FORWARD

There was a time when men and woman met in social situations where the mind, body and spirit of both the man and the woman were present and connected at first sight. There was chemistry and connection. For most men and woman today, first sight is that first connection through an image, words and gestures typed into a computer through an internet dating site.

For most people preparation for internet dating means that we find a photograph, write a profile and hope that when we put it out there it presents the authentic self that allures a future mate…and when we receive a response we hope that cyber chemistry will do the job and connect us with a future mate.

In reality most men don’t prepare well for the context of internet dating. There is no school, nor toolbox for maximising our performance. When we exercise, we following protocols such as understanding our fitness level, stretch, warm up, consult a trainer, review our performance and modify our technique.

Internet dating provides an efficient way to review potential candidates for your future mate. It can be an exciting but also a daunting proposition. A key challenge for men is to transmit that first authentic glimpse of you to a future mate and to continue to draw the lady to the real you in an alluring way. Another challenge is to minimise the risk of not listening to what the woman is saying and being misread as you communicate through cyberspace. Most men say too much on line.

The Secrets to Attracting Beautiful Quality Women is the personal trainer for men dating women on the internet. Savannah and Jessica give you insights into the mind of a woman. They help you grow your personal awareness, help you become a subtle yet powerful communicator and guide you through developing your personal dating profile. Savannah and Jessica employ strategies that will enable you to be confident in communicating the authentic you and help with strategies to overcome many of the pitfalls of internet dating.

Savannah and Jessica will help you to become your own personal helicopter, to listen to your intuition, help you read what woman are saying to you and help you assess and improve your performance to achieve your ultimate goal in attracting a beautiful, quality woman on line that wants to find out more about the authentic you.

Matthew Wilson

Corporate Lawyer - Sydney, Australia

PART I: INTRODUCTION

QUICK USE MANUAL

Right now, as you read this book, you are beginning a path of learning that will help you instantly and powerfully draw women to you online. You will learn exactly what it is that mystifies, intoxicates, intrigues and magnetizes women. You will learn how to become the hunted rather than the hunter and you will come to understand principles and techniques that will utterly change how you present yourself online.

You will unlearn how to be a beggar, a walk over, the pursuer and at the other end of things, how to not swing into being a bully or a braggart.

As you work these principles, day-by-day, week-by-week, you will slowly find that you are changing how you present yourself both online and even more important offline, in person. That’s the bonus gift of this course.

THE SECRET - Bonus:

As you integrate and execute the lessons in this book, you will discover that your thought patterns and habits are changing; you will grow more confident, more expansive and potent, gaining unprecedented personal power in every area of your life.

But, you have to work at it every day.

You can’t expect to have ultimate success right away (even though this is the ultimate resource on online attraction). All the seeds of your success are right here in this book, but it takes practice and steady perfecting to make the system become habit – so it shows up for you automatically.

Lucky you, there’s no better arena for you to hone your skills than online dating. It’s relatively anonymous. It’s an unlimited pool. And it’s there 24/7. You might not have thought of it this way, but you couldn’t find a better place to practice dating. You couldn’t imagine a better arena to polish your skills. In marketing terms, internet dating is the perfect focus group to hone your attention skills.

THE SECRET - Axiom:

Practice leads to destiny. You must execute the system, day in, day out, week in, week out!

There are programs out there that give you cheesy pick-up techniques or lessons how to spam or manipulate women to catch their interest. If that is what you are looking for, you should look somewhere else, because THE SECRET does more, teaches you more and has lasting effects on your future relationships.

THE SECRET includes proven, effective techniques to help you:

1. Identify, maximize and project your deepest, most feral "Survival Attractors" – the attractors that subconsciously ignite women's attraction.

2. Assess and convey your magnetizing sense of possibility.

3. Shape and electrify yourself with the allure of the moving target.

4. Stand out from the bozos by becoming her penetrating mirror – what she’s been looking for all her life: A man who can feel her.

That’s just the beginning. THE SECRET - gets beneath the surface that other programs skim over because it gets beneath your surface. Once you understand and begin to apply the principles we are sharing with you in this book, you will grow to possess a natural ability to get beneath the surface with the women you meet and date.

THE SECRET - teaches you how to read beneath and between the lines and teaches you how to speak past a woman’s words and right to:

• her heart

• her emotions

• her dreams

• her pleasure centers

• her unspoken and unrecognized truths.

When you learn this system, and awaken these factors within her, you will be irresistible to her – even if she doesn’t know why!

THE SECRET - GUARANTEE

If you work this system every day, master the principles and personalize it according to your unique centers of power, women will be grateful, relieved and enthralled that somebody – namely you – is paying attention to what she is actually saying and finally sees what she is genuinely all about.

Once the right woman feels the gratitude, admiration and fascination with you, she won’t be online anymore; she will be in your life. Long after your initial dating period, you can still put into practice the principles of THE SECRET to keep that level of connection alive in your relationship.

Would you like that?

• Would you like women to be drawn toward you in ways they don’t even understand?

• Would you like to stop chasing women and have them come after you?

• Would you like women to take the first step and flirt with you online?

• Would you like women to want to meet you for a glass of wine?

• Would you like women to follow you home?

Of course, you are saying yes to these questions. That’s what all men want, and it’s good you are reading this book, because we know that the information in these pages genuinely works.

How do we know? Meet the books authors.

• Dr. Savannah Ellis, DBA. MS - Founder of the Infidelity Recovery Institute; COO The Relationship Society, Psychologist, Coach, Author, & Speaker. With clinics in Sydney Australia, Las Vegas & L.A. in the USA.

• Jessica London - Private Investigator, Writer, Coach, & Author.

• Ted - Guest author and private client of Dr. Savannah Ellis.

• And….. many other men who have used these online dating skills.

Dr. Savannah Ellis: I have always been confident and extroverted. In my school years I was what you would call a tom-boy. From catching tadpoles in the local creek to racing my BMX bike down steep hills, I could take on any boy and 9 out of 10 times, win. I knew I was pretty, and had a following of young boys who would follow me around, but I paid no attention to these boys.

What did catch my admiration at this young age was a guy call Scott. He was in the year above me in high school, and while he was not what you would call good looking, he had the confidence of a king. This confidence created a air of mystery around Scott and I liked what I saw. Why did I find confidence, positive attitude, exciting lifestyle, and adventurous spirit so important to me? Because these are the traits I liked from my Dad. More on the importance of this subject matter later.

My high school years were interrupted by my Dad having an affair with a neighbour. Each family member coped with the affair in their own highly destructive way. My Mum turning to the bottle and my brother drugs, triggering the onset of schizophrenia. I married young and started my psychology degree. I kept myself busy by having children and collecting diplomas in both psychology and management.

So how does this make me a dating expert? At the age of thirty I finally understood what I was running from and had the confidence to leave my wonderful but mismatched husband. It was tough. I found myself in the world of dating for the first time, as an adult.

My friends were either newly divorced or women who were single and successful. We were all what most would call Alpha Females and considered by most people to be good looking. All of us wanted to find a boyfriend and be exclusive, but not one of us would be willing to settle. I began to study and document this new world of dating and why so many men were failing in the world of online dating.

I feel it is important to share with men the reasons as to why they cannot get the women they so desire. Best of all, I will share the best strategies for online dating. These strategies are well tested and used by past and current male clients. You do not need to waste years of your life dating women you have little to no interest. It is time you learn how to date with a game plan.

Jessica London: I was attached to a man for about ten years and he was a lot older than me. When we met, I was a twenty-three year old private investigator and, in some ways, well beyond my years and, in other ways, as green and inexperienced as the country bumpkin that I really was. My man on the other hand, was a thirty-two year old, established and highly successful pharmaceutical executive. To say the least, it was fun for both of us for a while. But, in hindsight, we (and everyone we knew) were asking, What the hell were you two thinking?!

Let me back up and state the fact that he is a wonderful man but the we were probably the mismatch of the century! It wasn’t long after we were together that I started to feel controlled by him and soon enough, my ego was beaten down. I could do nothing right and anytime I did succeed at something, he berated me for it and felt threatened. I felt like I was living with a parental figure that I was having sex with – which may sound normal in West Virginia, but as my friends pointed out, was a very strange relationship.

I was thirty-three when we separated. What’s interesting is that when you are stuck in something for so long and you are criticized and told constantly that you are a screw up, you really do start to believe things about yourself that aren’t true. You actually start to accept what your beloved is telling you and you can’t see through to the reality of who you really are. All of this led to him unknowningly pushing me away which, in turn, led me to be a less desirable partner.

When I hit the online dating scene, I was not surprised at the sight of men who had no clue as to how they presented themselves. Of course as a P.I, I have seen the dating mistakes men make time and time again - especially when they are dating a women who is very good looking. What men know but need to remember, is that you only have one shot at making a lasting impression.

Even if you are a guy with a fat wallet, you need to understand that a women will not love and respect you for your money. You need to have the skills to bring in a woman who will love your heart - otherwise she will be out playing the field as soon as she has you locked down.

TED : I admit it, I’m a brainiac. I love learning, experimenting and tinkering. It has paid off in many areas of my life. By applying the online dating strategy as meticulously just as I would hone a million-dollar ad campaign, I noticed my success rate begin to skyrocket. I’m not saying this to brag, mind you, but within weeks, I had literally more women wanting to go out with me than what I could possibly handle.

I came in to see Savannah in the Las Vegas Clinic in 2012. I was a pretty typical post-divorce guy, in a pretty typical post-divorce phase, burying my wounded ego in a sexual whirlwind. There were weekends I was with five women. Me! A forty-ish guy with thinning hair, no money, a crappy car, two kids and in the middle of a divorce! I had women sending me more phone numbers than I could call back. Just because of the power of my words (and the powerlessness of all the other guys' words!) It truly was amazing.

One day, on a challenge from a friend who doubted my success, I decided to go after the most popular women online using what I had learned and what we are now passing on to you. One site allowed me to see the women who got the most hits per day. They were simply the most beautiful, desirable girls on the site as evidenced by the number of times they were viewed and presumably, contacted. These were the women whose inboxes were crammed with hundreds and hundreds of guys, clamoring to be noticed. Many of these gals don’t ever read the messages…there are simply too many.

I wrote to 5 of them and got dates with 4.

This wasn’t luck. This was skill. Then came the revelation:

THE SECRET - Founding Revelation

Mastering Online Dating communication is a teachable skill.

Which is why we’re here, writing this. Our egos had been totally beaten up in our failed relationships. We had to relearn the ropes from ground up and we did it scientifically. We had gained an incredibly valuable, provable, reliable expertise.

We started poking around profiles and saw guys sucking up to women in the dating world and floundering - our hearts died a little. Women complain to us all the time about how boring or how obnoxious guys online seem. So they never respond to their emails. With the knowledge we have and are sharing with you now, you’ll see the mistakes nearly all men make are glaringly obvious.

The good news is that the solutions to these mistakes are just as obvious. And, at our friend's urging, we wrote this book to show other guys how to avoid making them.

Great! You’re saying. So let’s get to it! Show me all your magic words, already!

We will. But