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Is your partner emotionally abusive?
Richa Pant
December 01, 2006
 
Part I
:Are you being physically abused? 
Part III
:Are you being financially abused? 
I
n any successful marriage, you will find that the partners love, care and respect each other.When you enter into a marital relationship, you expect your emotions to be respected and nurtured and vice versa.Most people assume that if they're not being physically abused by their partner, they're not being abused. That's not necessarilytrue. You might be in a relationship that is draining something from you; you may not even be aware that your partner haseroded your self-esteem and happiness."Although physical abuse is thought to be the most obvious form of abuse, emotional abuse has the potential to be even moredevastating than physical abuse. This is because it is hard to prove and, thus, difficult to stop," says psychologist Dr VandanaMathur. Many people find that emotional abuse is difficult to even talk about, as others seldom take it seriously.
What is emotional abuse?
 Abuse is any behaviour that controls and subjugates another person by means of fear, humiliation, intimidation, guilt, coercion,manipulation, etc. "Emotional abuse can include anything from verbal abuse and constant criticism to more subtle tactics likerepeated disapproval," says Dr Mathur.Like other forms of violence in relationships, emotional abuse rests on the premise of power and control. "It eventuallybrainwashes the victim. It systematically wears away at the victim's self-confidence, self-worth and trust in their ownperceptions," says Vijay Malhotra (name changed), 28, a software engineer at an IT firm in Delhi, Vijay says he experiencedemotional abuse in his marriage due to his wife's constant criticism and diatribes.
Types of emotional abuse
 
Rejection
: Refusing to acknowledge a person's presence or worth; telling him/ her that he/ she is useless or inferior; devaluingher/ his thoughts and feelings.
Verbal assaults
: Degrading, insulting, ridiculing, belittling, criticising, name calling, screaming, threatening, behaviour that, over time, erodes the identity, dignity and self-worth of the person.
Terrorism
: Inducing terror or extreme fear in a person; intimidating; placing or threatening to send a person to an unfit or dangerous environment.
Isolation
: Restricting normal contact with others; limiting freedom within the person's own environment.
Unreasonable expectations
: Placing unreasonable demands and wanting a person to put everything else aside to tend to their needs.
Constant chaos
: Deliberately starting arguments and being in constant conflict with others. The person may be 'addicted todrama' since it creates a sense of excitement.
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