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Melancholic Personality

Melancholic Personality

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Melancholic Personality Traits
Men and women with melancholic personality share many traits. They tend to be loyal to theirfamily and friends and extremely careful. Respectability and moral issues are particularlyimportant to them. They love to follow norms and traditions. They are respectful to authority,follow rules and feel comfortable in hierarchies, where structure, rules and order areimplemented. It is important for them to feel themselves a part of the larger community andthey see their loyalty to it as a duty.Melancholic personality traits are associated with
, which suppresses aggressivetendencies. This explains why melancholic people are calm and self-confident, deeply attachedto their family and community and loyal. As it was mentioned, they are very orderly and don'tlike unpredictability. They enjoy making plans and keeping schedules. They love routines, whichthey find relaxing. This should not come as a surprise - any repetitive motion increasesserotonin levels. It is relaxing in its nature, but nobody enjoys it more than a melancholic!These people pay attention to details: they remember special dates, anniversaries, detailsabout their neighbors and colleagues. Family and social ties are not seen by melancholics assomething that limits their freedom and flexibility, as this could be with a sanguine or a choleric.In fact, to them these are safety nets, kind of soft place to fall but in a grander scale. It is also something that adds meaning to their life. Since society and family ties are such animportant part of their life, they absolutely can't see themselves without it . Take it away fromthem and they will be devastated. They might literally die. This is why the melancholic is notlikely to be somebody who would marry a foreigner or leave to another country for permanentresidence.Melancholics need to be orderly even in their speech. They express themselves precisely,accurately, providing all of the relevant information. If you interrupt them or ask them aquestion they will think you are not interested in what they are talking about. Unlike sanguine,they hate distractions and get frustrated by them. If you want to impress them don't talk aboutyour big ideas, instead give them precise information, stick to details. Their need for order isexpressed even in their jokes. They don't like nonsense humor or unresolved humor, their jokesreflect order, predictability and closure.People with melancholic personality are not only orderly, they are also accurate. They areprocess-oriented. They like to pursue their goals in a precise straightforward way. Before theystart a specific task, they need to organize themselves and break down the task into themanageable steps. This is not the kind that works under the pressure. To be comfortable, theyneed to be in a clear-cut situation, where the details are known and proven.
Melancholics are persistent and patient. They don't get bored easily and excel at tasks thatrequire attention and repetition. Interestingly, repetitive actions raise levels of serotonin evenmore. This is why some people repeat one and the same action over and over when they areanxious, like checking to see if the door is closed well or if they turned off the stove, re-checkingtheir suitcase before going to the vacation. Sadly a misbalanced melancholic is most susceptibleto OCD (obsessive-compulsive disorder), where person engages meaningless rituals, likecounting, washing hands or excessive cleaning in order to prevent some disaster he imagines.Some of them may suffer in a less obvious way, but probably the hardest - ruminating over andover about the same thought and rethinking it hundreds, if not thousands of times each andevery day.Their orderliness is also reflected in their tastes. Melancholics love geometrical designs that aresimple, orderly, predictable, repetitive and symmetrical. If you give a melancholic man onestripped shirt and hundred shirts with asymmetrical design, he will be wearing that onestripped shirt every day. Asymmetry simply makes them too uncomfortable. Note however,that most people are actually a mix of several personality types that make them much moreflexible. In geometrical shapes the particular favorites of melancholics are pyramids.These people do excellent managers and administrators, because they follow the rules, stick tothe facts, they are reliable and maintain the social ties. They are superb at managing people, bethat at work or at home. One of their strongest needs is the need to belong. This is why theywant to be reliable, respectable and charitable. Their emotional well-being depends on theirsocial networks.Melancholics are proud of their accomplishments, displaying their trophies, medals, diplomas,certificates, their photos with influential people. Generally, they want to do the things in anaccepted way, they prefer to plan things in advance, and to know ahead of the time what theyare going to do.On the negative side, people with melancholic personality may become close-minded, dogmaticand stubborn. They also tend to pessimism, which may turn into fatalism, believing that nothingwill ever change for better. Sometimes they get overly critical, judgmental, expressing theirown moral superiority.Their frugality may turn into stinginess. Some melancholics can become fixated on the past,where they ruminate for hours how their life would be if they did or choose something else inthe past. Also they may have difficulty with stopping what they are doing, so hoarding is theircommon problem.
The Melancholic Temperament: Understanding the Negatives
The melancholic temperament* is a very intriguing and multi-faceted disposition. This individual hasmuch to offer others, but to be able to do so; he must be carefully guided and disciplined. His strengthsmust be cultivated and the weaknesses eliminated or neutralized.Parents who wisely learn more about the melancholic temperament are able to rear their child to be thebest he can be. It is time well-invested.The weaknesses of the typical melancholic personality are the following:
Tendency to sadness and melancholy
--He has a propensity to magnify difficultiesand lose confidence in himself. Exaggerated reserve and timidity are the result.In
The 4 Temperaments,
Father Conrad Hock explains, "He has a strong will coupledwith talent and power, but no courage."Although this person loves deeply and empathizes with all who suffer, he finds ithard to reveal himself and his feelings. He desires and yearns for closeness but it isvery hard for him. He has problems discussing ideas, feelings and so forth. This maylead to misunderstandings.
Inclined to be passive and inactive--
Because he tends to be pessimistic, themelancholic hesitates to begin projects; "there might be too many problems."Without guidance, he fears and dreads suffering and self-denial because of theexertion necessary to deal with them.
--The melancholic can easily become despondent and discouraged. Hecan be the "man with the missed opportunities." He hesitates to make decisionsbecause there are too many considerations. He postpones projects, then theybecome even more time-consuming and onerous.
Slow in thinking and speech
--He needs time to consider every angle and cannotbe pressured. If he is asked to answer quickly and without preparation, the personmay become flustered and frightened. Therefore, he may stutter, say the wrongthing, leave ideas unfinished. He may thoroughly bungle it.In his work, he is very careful and thorough...and slow. This may be mistaken forlaziness. It is not!
Great reserve
--Pride takes the form of tremendous fear of shame or humiliation.Although he really is naturally reserved, his modesty is compounded by exaggeratedanxiety about the possibility of disgrace.
He will even let others less talented be promoted ahead of him. Then he feelsresentment that, if not checked, can become entrenched. In the future, he may growsuspicious of others because of incidents like this cause.The parents of a child with the melancholic temperament have their work cut out. Theyoungster has so much potential, so much to offer and is so endearing.Making the time and effort to gently guide and discipline him is completely worthwhile andrewarding. This is clear as he grows into adulthood and his thoughtful and kind waysblossom with amazing results.

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