Surviving Dating DisastersYou're on a date. Maybe it's your dream date. Things may be going very well -- untildisaster strikes! You've made the big mistake, a dating disaster of your own creation.Something has gone wrong, and it's your fault. Now what do you do?
Is it an earthquake, a tornado? No, it's just you, spilling wine on your date.
Just as tornadoes are attracted to trailer parks, dating disasters are attracted to first dates.That little extra bit of nervousness that comes with a first date is often all that's needed totrip you up. You haven't built a history of good behavior, so that the bad behavior can't bewinked at. Date a woman for three years, then trip and land head first into the chicken pasta at the salad bar, she'll tell the story for years. Do the same thing on a first date, andshe'll still tell the story for years -- only she won't remember your name. Dating disastersalmost always occur on first dates, or at least early on in a dating process. Sometimes youcan get past your mistake and continue to date the object of your affections. Andsometimes you can't. Here are some examples:
The Late Date
You hate people who show up late. But now it's your turn. Ted, a 36-year-old accountexecutive, had left early for his first date with a woman he met online. "We weresupposed to meet at this sushi place I picked out and I left 45 minutes early." But a seriesof traffic problems meant he arrived 40 minutes late. "I walked in, breathless, feelinghorrified and ashamed. I didn't expect her to still be there." But she was. "I explained,apologized and tried to catch my breath." Ted's date didn't seem to mind at all. "I thoughtI was toast," Ted explained, "but then I realized that because I was obviously upset about being lat, I was automatically forgiven. I wasn't cavalier about her feelings. We moved onfrom there and the rest of the evening was great."
A little wine, perhaps...or maybe a lot?
Confession time: Yes, I've spilled wine on a date. OK, that's not true. I've spilled wine ontwo dates. In this case, the circumstances dictate whether or you will see her again. Whatyou say or do has little to do with it. If you spill the wine on the table, you can see her again. If you spill wine on her, your search for Ms. Right will have to move on.
Three ways to survive a dating disaster