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9 Things You Simply Must Do
 By Dr. John C. Maxwell
 
Oprah Winfrey and Anderson Cooper are two of the most popular media personalities in America. Yet,their backgrounds hardly could be more dissimilar. Oprah was born to unmarried teenage parents in ruralMississippi. Andersons mother was fashionable railroad heiress, Gloria Vanderbilt, and his father was asuccessful writer/editor in Manhattan. Oprah grew up in poverty, spending her childhood in the inner-cityghettoes of Milwaukee. Anderson was born into wealth. He appeared with his mom on
The Tonight Show 
 when he was three, and he modeled for Calvin Klein, Ralph Lauren, and Macys as a child.Yet, for all of their differences (background, race, and gender), Oprah Winfrey and Anderson Cooperhave unmistakable similarities. At some level, they resemble each other. They have an aura of successthat identifies one with the other.
 
For example, both Oprah and Anderson Cooper consistently deliver. Whether its a talk show, a bookclub, or a cause she has adopted, we can rely on Oprahs candor, inspiring energy, and excellence. Thesame consistency can be attributed to Anderson Cooper. One night hes reporting from New York, thenext night from Cairo, and hes in London the day after that. Yet, when we turn on CNN, we can count onhim to be poised, polished, and deliver the news with excellence.
 
What is it about successful people, like Oprah and Anderson Cooper, who, although completely differentin background and style, are almost identical in their approach to work and life? In his book,
9 Things You Simply Must Do to Succeed in Love and Life
, Dr. Henry Cloud passes along his observations of nineprinciples commonly practiced by the successful people he knows. The book drips with leadershipapplication, and I would like to take this lesson to summarize Dr. Clouds insights.
 
Principle #1: Dig It Up
 
Each person has a treasure trove of ability inside of them. Everyone has dreams and desires lodgedwithin their soul. Why do some people dig deep and take hold of their dreams while others let them driftaway?
 
According to Dr. Cloud, successful people give sustained attention to what stirs within them. They findoutlets for their passions. Exercising their strengths is non-negotiable.
Principle #2: Pull the Tooth
 
Many people I know have an irrational fear of the dentists office. The idea of someone poking andprodding in their mouth fills them with dread. Amazingly, some people are afraid to the point where theywould rather suffer discomfort day after day rather than undergo the temporary pain of a visit to thedentist.
 
As Dr. Cloud has observed, successful people go to the dentist. They face their fears and make theappointment. They pull the tooth that is causing the nagging ache and, by enduring the pain, they comeout better on the other side.
 
Successful people refuse to carry their baggage through life. They confront their hurt, disappointment,and anger early, and they seek emotional freedom from lifes injuries. Likewise, successful people quicklyrecover when they fail. Rather than succumbing to a downward spiral of disappointment (or evendepression) they come to terms with the failure, make course adjustments to their lives, and move on.
Principle #3: Play the Movie
 
 
Dr. Cloud recommends the exercise of playing a movie of your life in which you are the hero or heroine.What traits does your character have? What happens during the plot of the movie? Who do you starringalongside you? How does your movie inspire the people in the theater?
 
Most people live their life and then look at it. Do the opposite. Look at your life and then live it. Envisionand step toward the future you want to experience. Dont wake up one day to realize that your life is like aB-grade movieyou dont want to leave in the middle, but you would never want to watch it again!
Principle #4: Do Something
 
Dr. Clouds fourth principle is short and to the point: successful people do something. They initiate,create, and generate. Successful leaders are proactive as opposed to reactive. They do not seethemselves as victims of circumstances, Cloud writes, But as active participants who take steps toinfluence outcomes. Their days and their lives are controlled by internal motivations rather than externalcurrents.
 
In a similar vein, successful people take ownership for their destinations in life. They dont assign blame;they welcome responsibility. They refuse to cede their freedom to others and live dependently. Thesuccessful person has done leaderships toughest taskmastered the art of self-leadership. The benefitof leading yourself well is that you dont have to rely on others to provide direction for your life. You get toplan the course.
Principle #5: Act Like An Ant
 
Go to the ant, you sluggard;Consider its ways and be wise!It has no commander,No over seer or ruler,Yet it stores its provisions in summerAnd gathers its food at the harvest.-Proverbs 6:6-8
 
Dr. Cloud points to the ant to develop another principle of success. Three lessons stand out from themetaphor of the ant. First, they appreciate the ethic of hard work. Their lives are a flurry of constantactivity as they tirelessly search for food. Second, ants refuse to give up. They never abandon the hunt,crawling through cracks and crevices in their pursuit of a morsel. Third, ants understand the value ofcompounding. Grain by grain an ant builds the hill that becomes its home, and crumb by crumb theyaccumulate storehouses of food.
Principle #6: Hate Well
In his writing, Dr. Cloud talks about focusing feelings of anger constructively to solve problems or endinjustice. As he develops his idea of hating well, he distinguishes between subjective hate and objectivehate.Subjective hate is toxic. Dr. Cloud describes it as, a pool of feelings and attitudes that resides in our soul,waiting for expression. It is not directed at anything specific or caused on any given day by any specificobject. It is already there, sort of like an infection of the soul. Subjective hate poisons and corrupts theperson who houses it.On the contrary, objective hate can be described as anger with a purpose. Objective hate protects bystanding in opposition to dishonesty, exploitation, or deceit. Objective hate may spark entrepreneurship.In fact, many successful businesses have begun as a result of the founders hatred of poor service orshoddy quality.
 
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