Crafting a life book may seem like a
overwhelming task. If you aren't a particular
crafty person or don't have much
information about your child's life before he
or she became a part of your life, it can be
hard to figure out where to start.

Each adoptive family varies in the amount
of information they may have about their
child's birthmother. Some families have a relationship where the birth mom may actually
baby sit for the family occasionally, to seeing them for a visit once a year, to having no
contact whatsoever.

Many families have two or more adopted children and the relationships of the different
birthmoms with the family vary. One birthmom may be very involved, while others have
no contact at all. When this happens, oftentimes a birthmom of one child will go out of
her way send notes or small gifts to the sibling of the child to make sure each child feels
included and loved.

When you have a relationship with a birthmom you may have any information you want for your child's adoption book. She may be eager to help out to make sure the child has a wonderful book.

If you are an adoptive mom without a lot of information about your child's birth or birth family-if any at all-don't fret. You will still design an fantastic life book that helps your child understand his or her history.

Case in point, one of the most important
parts of the life book is about the biological
mother, but you may not even have a
photograph of her. One idea is to include a
quotation or poem about how birth moms
typically feel. Then journal something like,
"Birth moms and dads give their special
DNA to their children. I'll be your dark shiny
hair came from your dad!"