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I had somebody who just couldn't get their resume done.Everything else in their life
have a problem with generalprocrastination
just finishing their resume. They just kept trying to make itperfect and improving on it. What else could I put on here. And bottom line of that was: once they had their resume done, then they had to put it out there to
the world and that allowed them to be rejected. You know, people won’t callthem back. Or people would find fault. You’re not qualified enough, or you’re
overqualified. That sort of thing. So what their subconscious was saying,
I don’t get this done, then I can’t be rejected.
What I’d love to hear from you
, Lindsay, is: What are the payoffs for
procrastination? Because if we’re doing it, then it must serve us in some way.
That’s absolutely true and it’s a good question. Because while wethink it’s causing problems
, and it is, underlying there is a payoff. In some waysit garners a little bit of empathy or sympathy from people
where you put out thatvibe
I’m just so busy –
I just have so much to do.
And I know a lot of people
will resist this, but there’s actually an arrogance to it; especially people who showup late. It’s sort of like,
I’m giving you the appearance that I’m busier than you
and more important than you,
that I don’t
care enough to be on time, that my schedule is busier than yours.
And that’s usually not a conscious thing, so Idon’t mean it to offend anybody, but there’s definitely an underlying reason for
that. And it gives us an excuse also for making mistakes, showing up being reallybusy and having so much to do.
I didn’t have enough time to do it right
, sotherefore you do under quality work. But you have an excuse for it.
Well, I know
this isn’t perfect, but I had to work on it all night because I h
ad all this other stuff
to do, so it’s last minute and I just threw it together.
So that that if somebodycomplains about it, you have an excuse:
I didn’t have enough time
, as opposedto:
I’m not competent enough to do a great job.
Jessica Ortner: Mm-hmm.Lindsay Kenny: See the difference in that?Jessica Ortner: Yes.Lindsay Kenny: So it kind of is an underlying
it’s subconscious thing that keeps ussafe. It’s like,
If I didn’t finish this or I didn’t have enough time to finish this
people aren’t really criticizing me, they’re criticizing my management of time,
which isn’t as personal.
I can’t fail something…
a flying test or a course or a
if I don’t take it
So it’s keeping us safe by keeping us out
of the game.