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Lindsay Kenny Procrastination Transcript

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Lindsay Kenny
 –
Ending Procrastination Once and For All
 
© 2011 Tapping World Summit Page 1 of 16
Welcome to the Tapping World Summit 2011. This is your host, Jessica Ortner. Bylistening to this interview, you agree to the terms located atwww.thetappingworldsummit.com/disclaimer .We hope this interview helps you becomea healthier and a happier you.
Is there something you’ve been meaning to do, but you just haven’t been able to come
around to it? Procrastination shows up in many ways. Some people have troublegetting something started, while others struggle to complete a task.Regardless of how it shows up, it can leave us feeling anxious, guilty, and uneasy.
If you are ready to take that step you’ve been avoiding, then I am hap
py that you arewith us. We will be speaking with Lindsay Kenny from http://proeft.com . Lindsay is an EFT master, life coach and certified AAMET EFT Trainer of Trainers. She has beenhelping people transform their lives for over 35 years, and the last 10 years with EFT.Lindsay has worked with thousands of clients and students and is also the founder of the National Alliance for Emotional Health.I am so happy she is with us. Welcome, Lindsay.Lindsay Kenny: Thank you, Jessica. Thanks for inviting me.Jessica Ortner: Well this is a big topic
; so many of us can relate to this. So I’d liketo start by asking you: How does procrastination show up in people’s lives?
 Lindsay Kenny:
Well that’s a good question. And i
t is a big problem. I would sayprobably, my guess, based on how many people I work with on this issue, maybe60 or 70 percent of the population has a procrastination issue.
 And, I get them all. It’s one of the biggest
stuck issues and it shows up in manyways in our lives. And I actually have it in two categories. I call them Type A and Type B - Kind of 
like Type A and Type B personalities. Because they’re the kind of people who
are just
what I call “
indiscriminate procrastinators,
they just don
’t do anything ontime. They can’t get jobs started, or if they happen to be in the middle of one,they can’t seem to get it finished. They procrastinate at either end of the
spectrum. There is also
 –
 
it’s really about time. Procrastination. So often
procrastinators are people who are late for appointments, not just getting thingsdone. But they just are habitually late at stuff. Leaving late. Arriving late. Andthat becomes another issue in and of itself.
I don’t know that people usually think o
f that as procrastination. But it ends upshowing up with them not honoring commitments to themselves and others.
 
Lindsay Kenny
 –
Procrastination Continued
 
© 2011 Tapping World Summit Page 2 of 16
They feel paralyzed to get anything done. They get the commitments done. Andbecause they do everything at the last minute, their life is always in chaos. They
feel rushed and other people feel uncomfortable around them. There’s anenergy about them that is not good. It’s similar in many ways like that to clutter.They’re both
stuck issues.But it just resonates with a sense of 
 –
 
really a vacuum for joy in their life. There’s
a lack of joy and a lack of motivation or drive. A lot of people say,
 just don’t seem to have a passion. I just can’t get myself motivated or going 
,,, to get things done.
  And what happens is they end up feeling very
 –
they are and feel inconsistentand undependable and other people see them the same way. So those are
some of the Type A of procrastinators. It’s just they live in a swirl of 
I can’t get 
anything done.
And t
hey’re always saying,
I have to stop procrastinating,
whichkeeps them further stuck. And then the Type B is a little bit
easier to define, because they’re what I call
project-putter-
offers. Instead of just procrastinating everything, there’s one
thing
they just can’t seem to make themselves do…
finish their dissertation for their 
PHD, or take a particular test that they need to do. It’s often a finish thing or they just can’t get a particular task started… get their resume completed or marry
somebody. It can be all over the spectrum, but the rest of their things they get
okay. But there’s one thing they just can’t seem to do.
 I
’ve
got a couple of examples of that. Do you want to hear a story or two?Jessica Ortner: Sure. A story would be great.Lindsay Kenny: I had a guy, Derek, who graduated top of his class. He went toaviator school
 –
wanted to be a pilot. And he just whizzed through the groundpart of it; learning the tests and really was sharp in class, and finished everythingreally well. He really got it. And he flew okay with his co-pilot. But he could nottake the final test where you have to solo for so long.He called me and we worked and worked on that and it ended up being that ahorrific fear 
of flying… but it was a fear of flying on his own. And here he is
wanting to be a pilot and so he procrastinated for a million reasons. Oh the
weather isn’t good. And this went on for 6 or 8 months. And
with a little bit of working on him, we saw that it had other things associated with it. There was areason he was putting it off and he was terrified of dying. One of his dear relatives had died in a plane crash
 –
not alone
 –
but still was an underlying causefor that. Once we cleared up that tr 
auma, which he wasn’t really consciously
aware of, then he was able to fly himself and he was fine. But it was only thatparticular task.
 
Lindsay Kenny
 –
Procrastination Continued
 
© 2011 Tapping World Summit Page 3 of 16
 And others
 –
I had somebody who just couldn't get their resume done.Everything else in their life
 –
 
they didn’t
have a problem with generalprocrastination
 –
just finishing their resume. They just kept trying to make itperfect and improving on it. What else could I put on here. And bottom line of that was: once they had their resume done, then they had to put it out there to
the world and that allowed them to be rejected. You know, people won’t callthem back. Or people would find fault. You’re not qualified enough, or you’re
overqualified. That sort of thing. So what their subconscious was saying,
Well, if 
I don’t get this done, then I can’t be rejected.
 
Jessica Ortner:
What I’d love to hear from you
, Lindsay, is: What are the payoffs for 
procrastination? Because if we’re doing it, then it must serve us in some way.
 Lindsay Kenny:
That’s absolutely true and it’s a good question. Because while wethink it’s causing problems
, and it is, underlying there is a payoff. In some waysit garners a little bit of empathy or sympathy from people
 –
where you put out thatvibe
 –
 
I’m just so busy –
I just have so much to do.
And I know a lot of people
will resist this, but there’s actually an arrogance to it; especially people who showup late. It’s sort of like,
I’m giving you the appearance that I’m busier than you
and more important than you,
that I don’t 
care enough to be on time, that my schedule is busier than yours.
 
 And that’s usually not a conscious thing, so Idon’t mean it to offend anybody, but there’s definitely an underlying reason for 
that. And it gives us an excuse also for making mistakes, showing up being reallybusy and having so much to do.
I didn’t have enough time to do it right 
, sotherefore you do under quality work. But you have an excuse for it.
Well, I know 
this isn’t perfect, but I had to work on it all night because I h
ad all this other stuff 
to do, so it’s last minute and I just threw it together.
So that that if somebodycomplains about it, you have an excuse:
I didn’t have enough time
, as opposedto:
I’m not competent enough to do a great job.
 
Jessica Ortner: Mm-hmm.Lindsay Kenny: See the difference in that?Jessica Ortner: Yes.Lindsay Kenny: So it kind of is an underlying
 –
 
it’s subconscious thing that keeps ussafe. It’s like,
If I didn’t finish this or I didn’t have enough time to finish this
, then 
 people aren’t really criticizing me, they’re criticizing my management of time,
 
which isn’t as personal.
I can’t fail something…
a flying test or a course or a
resume, whatever…
if I don’t take it 
.
So it’s keeping us safe by keeping us out
of the game.

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