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A few words on Mental Abuse/CrueltyUnfortunately “Society” has a skewed definition of Mental Abuse when itconcerns the interaction of Men and Women. If a man simply raises his voice whenspeaking to a woman it is seen as being domineering and abusive. However, as faras I can tell there is no possible way for a woman to mentally abuse a man underthe present “Generally Accepted” definition of mental cruelty.If any person simply observes the daily interaction between men and women inpublic or at the workplace, they are easily able to see that women all use variousforms of mental trickery and manipulation to acheive their desired ends. This isvisible at all levels of society every day, and even turned into the topic of manysit-coms on television. It can range from a simple smile, with the implication ofintimacy, to outright constant, never-ending, nagging. In every case the womanends up getting what she wants at the cost of what the man would like.It is my contention that in any relationship where the woman uses thesetactics to gain the upper hand in terms of controlling the direction of therelationship, then there has been mental abuse. As a man, I understand thatsociety doesn't care about my mental well being, just as long as I am not beingabusive towards women. Any or all women may mentally abuse me in any way possible,but I am not able to complain or even mention it, since society does not recognisethis as a problem. Indeed society sees any man with these complaints as aspineless whiner.In my specific case these tactics and others were used to select which of myfriends were acceptable, which activities were allowed as hobbies, and what myfree time was allowed to be spent on. Well over 90% of my friends were deemedunacceptable. My motorcycle was sold because there just wasn't any money to wasteon such frivolous activities. I was not allowed to buy any other “toys” ashobbies. I got to learn many renovation skills because that was the only activitythat I was allowed to partake in. I was not allowed to simply waste valuable timewith any person who did not fit into her opinion of acceptability.The tactics used included nagging for weeks, silence, withholding actions,sleeping alone, directing the TV programs which were allowed, managing the moneyto the point where the mortgage payments used it all, being prevented from owningany of the regular toys (such as snowmobiles, or motorcycles), verbal attacks forany transgression, giving any visitors (my friends) the “cold shoulder”. The listcould get large.General day to day interaction included, the expectation that I cookedmeals, washed dishes and put them away, bought groceries, repaired vehicles,watched children whenever I was not at work, cut grass, shovelled snow, maintainedthe house, cleaned and vacuumed, did my own laundry, made all of my own lunchesfor work, performed any and all renovations deemed neccessary by her, and aboveall did not complain about any of it.In return, she managed to stay current on all of her soaps during the day,but also recorded them so she could watch them again in the evening while I wasbeing kept busy with my other duties. She managed to find several hours every dayto discuss things with her friends and relatives on the telephone. She did do herown laundry and in later years the children's laundry, because I was deemedincapable of doing it correctly. She always managed our money, again because I wasnot deemed capable. On one occassion I attempted to set it up on the computer, butthe available programs also did not do it “her way”.She would go out to visit her friends about once a week, while I managed to