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I welcome this thought provoking report, and I’d like to extend my thanks to David Wilkins and theMen’s Health Forum. This report orms part o Relate’s wider campaign, which has been runningsince early 2013, and which ocuses on men and their relationships.Relate’s exists to champion the importance o strong, healthy relationships as the basis o a thrivingsociety, and we know that stable, good quality relationships are central to our wellbeing. To do thiseectively, we want to broaden our reach, and this report will help us to do this, by highlighting someo the areas where more specic research and careul tailoring o services are required. One millionpeople already access inormation, education and counselling rom Relate, but we know that morepeople could benet rom our services. The costs o ignoring this speak or themselves. Relationship breakdown and its wider ramications cost the UK economy £44 billion last year, according tothe Relationships Foundation. This is a cost that we cannot aord to bear now and into the uture.Alongside this nancial cost, we know that there is a signicant social cost resulting rom relationship breakdown, which impacts the lives o individuals, amilies and communities.The evidence and analysis presentedin this report provides a unique insightinto the experiences o men in seekinghelp or their health and relationships.We know that men experience poorerhealth outcomes compared withwomen. We also know that men areunderrepresented in counsellingservices generally and more specicallyin relationship support services. Inact, men are less likely to seek help interms o health more generally, romphysical health to emotional wellbeingand mental health. We know rom ourown experience at Relate that 44% oour clients are men but anecdotally weknow that they are more likely to exitearlier rom the counselling process.This is not a matter or men to solve on their own. The relationship support sector and Governmentneeds to work collaboratively with clients, employers and health proessionals, such as GPs, toaddress these issues, to understand the drivers behind them, and to innovate and improve serviceprovision accordingly. This culture change is central to normalising relationship support andmaking it easier, more acceptable and more eective or men to access support services or theirrelationships when they need to.
Chie Executive, Relate
Executive Summary 51. Introduction 92. About this report 113. Male helpseeking, what are the problems? 134. Do men and women deal with emotional distress dierently? 195. What we know about men and their relationship support needs 226. The views o Relate counsellors about men’s relationship support needs 327. Conclusion 408. Recommendations 42Acknowledgments 43Appendix 43About the partner organisations 47About the author 48