say that I have also learned some, something so precious and awakening from a girl whom I fall in love
Eh, I tried to call her last night, but I could not mention her name; but she’s not available. So right now, all I could say she’
s a Dutch
very beautiful, free-spirited; eh, and her parents are kind of Bohemian hippie, you know. So this was when I was around early twenties; and with the permission of my main teacher, and I decided to go to London to study. And for the first time, I left the traditional surrounding where
re things like brocade as a table cloth, high thrones, eh, attendants; basically, mm, almost like godly life in one way. I went and; I went to London and I was alone. And I learnt a lot of things like making breakfast, for instance. And going to supermarket and almost buying a cat food thinking that it is for human beings. So it was a big lesson. Actually I dare say this, but many younger generation lamas, Rinpoches, really, you know, extreme, eh, esteemed high lamas - I think they should go through this. So this is what I suggest actually; it
should be in the part of Rinpoche’s training curriculum.
They should fall in love; and of course, they should make toast and go to supermarket, so on and so forth. But they should also fall in love and then this girl should reject him. Because then we know what is suffering. Because until then when we talk about the truth of suffering, we are always talking about things that are written in the books, like death, old age, sickness, all abstract stuff. Most of the
lamas don’t know what is meant by paying bills,
you know, the pleasure of living in a modern society. I have learnt a lot, but most importantly this girl taught me a lot. I have, because I was completely, madly in love, I think; and because she was very free-spirited
really, extremely free-spirited, I would say. Growing, I think she grow up in a hippie community, so for her; like she was, like amazingly free-spirited. Sometimes she; we would travel in the subway and then she would, you know,
nudge me and say “What do you think of that boy?”
You know, like somebody travelling, you know, just ordinary passenger. And before long she would be talking to him, and then after a few days they were already together
a night or two
not long. You know, she discarded him also. She, in her own way, she was very loyal to me and, but it was so PAINFUL!