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WHAT GOD SAYS ABOUT UNCONDITIONAL LOVE
DAVID MERCK
Unless otherwise indicated, Scripture quotations in this publication are from the New King James Version.
TABLE OF CONTENTS
PREFACEPage:INTRODUCTION
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PART ONE - GOD'S ELECTING OR CHOOSING LOVE
3
PART TWO - GOD'S COMMON OR GENERAL LOVE
11
PART THREE - GOD'S LOVE OF DELIGHT OR COMPLACENCYCHAPTER ONE - WHAT DOES IT LOOK LIKE?
18
CHAPTER TWO - SHOULD WE IMITATE IT?
27
CHAPTER THREE - THE GREAT DIVIDE
32
CHAPTER FOUR -
HOW DO WE MANIFEST LOATHING HATRED?
33
CHAPTER FIVE - HOW DO WE SHOW DELIGHTING LOVE?
39
CHAPTER SIX - WHAT SHOULD MOTIVATE US?
41
CHAPTER SEVEN - A MATTER OF DEGREES
47
CHAPTER EIGHT - WICKED FORMS OF LOATHING HATRED
50
CHAPTER NINE - OTHER GODLY FORMS OF DELIGHT IN MEN:
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UNIT ONE - IN ALL MEN ON EARTHUNIT TWO - IN OUR CHILDRENUNIT THREE - IN OUR SPOUSECHAPTER TEN - FURTHER QUALIFICATIONS
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CONCLUSION
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PREFACEThe materials contained in this study, with some editing, reflect the contents of ten sermons preached at theReformed Baptist Church of Grand Rapids, MI, during the spring and summer of 1995. It is my hope andprayer that this study of the biblical materials regarding a popular theme of our day will be of much help to thepeople of God and others in forming their thinking according to the righteous and true mind of God, rather thanaccording to the fancies of fallible and sinful men.January, 1996
 
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WHAT GOD SAYS ABOUT UNCONDITIONAL LOVEINTRODUCTIONThe subject of unconditional love is one which regularly confronts us from all directions
.The
ungodly world
around us frequently talks about unconditional love. When the Hollywood movie, "ForestGump" won an Oscar for best picture at the Academy Awards, one of its producers, Steve Tisch, was quoted assaying the following as he accepted the award:. . . Forrest Gump isn't about politics or conservative values. It's about humanity, it's about respect,tolerance, and
unconditional love
.
(1)
(bold added)The terminology of unconditional love can be traced to those involved in humanistic psychology andcounselling. Martin and Deidre Bobgan write the following analysis as Christians questioning this perspective:Self-Esteem is a high-lighted buzz word of need psychology, along with the words
unconditionallove
.
(2)
(bold added)Later on, the Bobgans continue:Among the stellar emotional needs of humanistic psychology are
unconditional acceptance
(by others),
unconditional self-regard, unconditional self-acceptance
, and
unconditional love
. The usual meaning of theword
unconditional
is `without conditions or reservations; absolute.' The practical extension of the theories of unconditional love is a permissive attitude and a morally nonrestrictive atmosphere. That means no conditionsor restrictions in child rearing, counseling, and other human relationships. . .Adler and Maslow (humanistic psychologists) considered these `unconditionals' to be basic human needs,essential to a person's sense of well-being. They taught that people need to be loved and acceptedunconditionally - without any conditions of performance. . .Adler, Maslow, Rogers and others believed that a human being will find answers to his own dilemmasand naturally blossom into his best self in an atmosphere of unconditional love and acceptance, by which theymeant a permissive, unstructured atmosphere. . .The idea of people improving their life in an atmosphere of unconditional love is founded on thepremise that people are born good and that their natural inclination to goodness is thwarted by their environment(mainly parents). In such a system, self is the victim of society but finds salvation, freedom, and fulfillmentthrough unconditional self-love and self-acceptance. Unconditional love cannot be based upon performance or itwouldn't be unconditional. Therefore, it must be based on the intrinsic worth of the person. . .
(3)
Now the well-instructed Christian immediately recognizes a number of serious errors in this teaching of thehumanistic psychologists and others. For the humanists are purposefully ignoring the God of burning holinesswho has declared that certain behavior is right and good, and certain behavior wrong and evil; and who in a judgmental and restrictive way demands that all men do what is right and good. Furthermore, because of man'sfall into sin in the Garden, all men are not born good, but are inherently evil with a bad record and a bad heartfrom day one. Therefore, man's great need is not to be saved from the negative effects of his environmentwhich inhibit his inherent goodness, or from an incorrectly bad self image. Man's greatest need is to be savedfrom the guilt and power and penalty of his sin which has alienated him from God and from others.If it was only secular humanists who spoke of unconditional love, this study might be ended fairly quickly.However, psychologists who are professing Christians, and many other well-respected Christian leaders whoreject many of the assumptions of the humanists have still continued to use their terminology of unconditionallove. Men like Dr. James Dobson speak of man's need for unconditional love. They speak of God as thesupreme example and source of such unconditional love. And they tell us that we should show thisunconditional love to others around us.Jerry Cook, an assistant pastor in a huge evangelical church in the state of Washington, has written the followingin the book 
 Love, Acceptance & Forgiveness
which has 140,000 copies in print:
 
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The minimal guarantee we must make to people is that they will be loved - always, under everycircumstance, with no exception. The second guarantee is that they will be totally accepted, withoutreservation. . . . . We need to extend this love to everyone who comes into our church . . .
(4)
How do we respond to such sweeping pronouncements by Christians? As with any issue, the final word does notlie with the opinions of men, whether they be humanists or those who confess Jesus Christ. The final word is tobe found in the Word of God. Thus in this study we will be seeking to carefully search God's Word in order toanswer the question,
"What does God say about unconditional love?"
Is there such a thing? Does God lovemen this way? Are we to love others this way?When we open our Bibles and study out all the uses of the major words for love, we discover that the answer tothis question is not as simple as Pastor Cook's pronouncements might seem to make it. For the Bible confrontsus with different degrees or dimensions of love - whether we speak of God's love for men, or of our love forothers. Furthermore, when we take up the subject of 
unconditional
love, it is crucial that we carefully definewhat is meant by the descriptive word, "unconditional", in light of the statements of the Word of God.Since the Scriptures clearly teach that God is love (1 John 4:8 & 16) and the God of love (2 Corinthians 13:11),our study will be structured overall according to the different dimensions of love which God shows to men. Aswe consider each of these dimensions of God's love, we will also seek to determine what our own duty is to ourfellow men.
Does God then love men with an unconditional love?
The Bible answers that question - not witha "yes", or a "no". As with so many other issues, it answers it with both a "yes"
and
a "no". For the answerdepends upon the dimension of God's love which is in view, and upon the way we define the word"unconditional". The Word of God confronts us with at least three different dimensions or degrees of God'slove for men, and we will be focusing upon each one as we proceed. Consider then the first dimension of God'slove for men:
PART ONE - GOD'S ELECTING OR CHOOSING LOVE
When most evangelical Christians talk about God's unconditional love, this aspect of His love could not befurther from their minds, for many, if not most deny this aspect altogether. However, it is clearly taught in theWord of God. Please consider with me several elements of God's electing love. The first is:
ITS STRIKING REALITY.
Here I would direct you to Romans 9:10-13:
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And not, only this, but when Rebecca also had conceived by one man,
even
by our father Isaac
11
(for
the children
not yet being born, nor having done any good or evil, that the purpose of God according toelection might stand, not of works but of Him who calls),
12
it was said to her, `
The older shall serve the younger.
'
13
As it is written, `
 Jacob I have loved, but Esau I have hated.
'The last verse of this passage speaks with particular forcefulness. The living God declares regarding twobrothers that He loved one, Jacob, and hated one, Esau. And this word "hate" is the regular word for "hate".Many Arminian brethren quickly try to dilute the forcefulness of these words by declaring that God here wastalking about His temporal blessings upon Jacob as unfolded in the nation of Israel - temporal blessings in whichEsau and his offspring did not share. However, although there is an element of truth in this explanation, it is notthe whole truth. For these twin brothers are not used here to illustrate the difference in the earthly fortunes of two nations. They instead are used to illustrate the different eternal, spiritual fortunes of two groups of mankind.Chapter nine begins with Paul expressing his great sorrow and unceasing grief for his unconverted fellowIsraelites - so much so that he would be willing to be cursed himself eternally if they might be saved (verses1-3). Next, after noting the great privileges of the physical descendants of Jacob, he grapples with the fact thatnot all these physical Jews have believed in their Messiah. Has God's Word failed to be fulfilled at this point?The Apostle Paul answers, "No", and then proceeds to show that it has always been true that not all of thephysical descendants of the Patriarchs Abraham and Isaac were true Israelites with true hearts of faith in God
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