4)Give space and balance to both minds
When there’s work to be done, find ways the instinctive mind can enjoy it, visualise your goals in the most beautiful ways, add music while you work if you can. Reward yourself for tasks well done. And when you’renot working, just unwind and have a good time!
5)Be aware that after relapse there’s a downward spiralto avoid
The Instinctive Mind tends to get carried away when left torun the show. This tendency to over indulge is what makesthe relapse work against you not the Instinctive Mind’s wishto have fun. Do allow the instinctive mind to have fun whenthe tasks for that day are done to your best ability. However,remind it, with a degree of conviction, that overdoing it willcost more hapiness in the end.
Take it as a rule – Know when enough is enough and that's finally enough!6) Keep the agreement properly
You've been disciplined? Well done- now get a reward for the Instinctive mind because it deserves a prize for givingdiscipline a space.Make this a routine and later on it will even start gettingrewards for sticking to the schedule - it will even start likingit!To this day I have people teasing me because I reward myself with chocolate. I am a big believer in rewarding my own discipline!7)
Learn to teach the instinctive mind to enjoy what the Disciplined Mind wants
This can be done by playing around with something called submodalities which students of NLP or readers of my book will be familiar with.For the rest, a simple method would be that of making the task really fun in ones imagination until theinstinctive mind starts to buy into the idea that the task and its outcome are desirable. Again; imagination is agreat, powerful tool, use it!This is how energy will come out of apparent nowhere.
8)Use only healthy rewards
I use sugar-free dark chocolate as a reward. Alternative I also use are good time with friends, good music,visualising my dreams achieved in detail, walks in nature and video game sessions!Don't use alcoholics, smoke or gambling as rewards even in small amounts. It's a really bad idea, since theseitems have built in factors that favor the very downward spiral you need to avoid at all cost. Chemical rewardslike alcohol, nicotine, caffeine or other less politically acceptable alternatives mess with the brain and will ruinthe balance between fun and effectiveness you are trying to create.Speaking of chemical intakes; sweets should be taken moderately and only if your health can afford it.Make sure the rewards are healthy for you. If you have no idea what rewards are possible ask around and letyour imagination fly wild. I've had some of my students suggest things I'd never have thought of. Long baths,aromatherapy massage, buying freash mp3s on iTunes and even forming a clique of friends that enjoy their timeout together simply to compensate for completing tasks!