Catching your cheating spouse is a matter of patience. If you act the second you "suspect" they are cheating you lose all opportunity to prove it. The fact is when you suspect your lover of cheating, you must act normal as you can. Just like you can read the changes in their body language and personality, they can read yours when you feel betrayed and hurt by it. They are going to be in a heightened state of paranoia so they will be very keen to your body language.

To catch your cheating spouse you must be very patient, gather evidence before you even get upset. You have to tell yourself until you have evidence your just being silly. The moment you get upset and hurt he will sense it and start hiding his emotions, not to mention he will be more careful not to get caught.

There are some great books on this subject that you should check out, because they will give you all the signs of a cheating spouse as well as how to give them enough rope to hang their guilt on display. One of the best ways to catch your cheating spouse is to hire a private detective to follow him (or her). Another way to catch your cheating spouse is to use conundrums. A conundrum is when you ask them a question about where they were, in a way that you describe something that they would only know about if they were actually where they said they were. For example if your spouse said he was at the game but you know he was out cheating on you and never went near the game, you could say something like how about that accident in the parking lot at the game, do you think he's ok?

If he pauses before answering you know he's lying. The reason he will pause is because he wasn't there and it takes a moment to process how he is going to answer this so you don't realize he wasn't there. It doesn't matter weather or not he gets it right, in fact you made the accident up. What matters is if he pauses or not. If he was there and there was no accident he will look puzzled and say something like, what accident? If he was there and there was an accident he will immediately say something like "I don't know, but it looked pretty bad"- without pausing.

In order to ascertain your doubt that your mate is cheating on you, it is important to know how exactly partners tend to lie while cheating. Or better yet, try to look up their cell phones, list all the numbers unfamiliar to you that your partner all of a sudden calls or receives