The key words that I want to emphasize today are:“ma’ruf, ihsaan, and wa eeta’ee dhil qurbaa.”Ma’ruf means known, generally that is good. Ihsaan means
the “doing of the good,and ee ta’ee dhil qurbaa means liberality to kith and kin;in other words – the family values.So Inshaa’Allah, God willing, the topic of today’s khutbah that is sermon is:“Family Values and Duties towards Parents inIslam.”
First: Duties towards Parents
As human beings, we have different duties.Some duties are towards our personal needs while some other duties are towards others.For example, wehave duties towards our family, our relatives, our neighbors, etc.We also haveduties towards our environment, our country and our world.Above all, there isduty towards Allaah, our Creator – it is part of our spiritual duty.Similarly we haveduties towards our parents.Doing good or being nice to our parents is a very important duty in Islam.It is soimportant that
this duty is placed next to worshipping God Himself.
Why didour Holy Book Qur’an emphasize so much about respecting our parents?Let ustry to understand.You will be surprised to know that there are more verses in the Qur’an talkingabout duties towards parents than verses about parents’ duties towards children.The reason is clear.It is natural for all parents to love their children.No matter how old or how young the children are, parents love their childrenunconditionally.The parental love never decreases. However, many a times,children’s love towards their parents decreases as they grow up with changinginterests and shifting allegiances.The love towards parents changes to lovetowards their wives and their own children.
The Qur’an wants us to remember that some priorities should never change.
One of those priorities is our duty towards our parents.Let us talk about the status of parents in Islam.
In Islam, the children areasked to show respect to parents.The Qur’an has beautifully explained thispoint. At number of places, Allah, the Most Exalted says what not to do and do.For example:
What not to do:
Do not associate anyone or anything with Allah.
What to Do:
Do good towards parents.Verse 36, Chapter 4, An-Nisaa, The Women
“And worship Allaah and do not associate with Him anything, andgoodness towards the parents, and to the near relatives, and the orphans,and the poor, and the neighbor who is related, and the neighbor who isalien, and the companion by the side, and the traveler, and what your righthands passes. Surely Allaah does not love him who is proud, boastful.”