So do something – anything – just so you can get some
.Having then tried something, what feedback (note: not failure!) did you notice? Ismore of this type of action going to work in your favour, or will it make thingsworse?Remember the classic definition of insanity:
Insanity is repeating the same behaviour, over and overand expecting different results!
So having noted the feedback, what can you now
? This is alsobuilding skill in using your 'flexibility muscles', a great by-product which will standyou in good stead for spiralling your success upwards.What next?Circle right back to the top with your new or redefined outcome!Keep doing this and you cannot help but be successful! It might take some effort,it may take some persistence ... and you are sure to learn a lot! The next twotools will help you along the way.
How To Ask For What You Want – The Correct Way To Be Assertive(Workbook Page 41)
It used to be all the rage for a while until it was wrongly misrepresented asdisguised aggressiveness. In fact, high-quality assertiveness is one of the bestskills you can practice for your ever-increasing self esteem.Unfortunately, in a world that ever-increasingly puts the 'blame' forevents/circumstance firmly on 'someone else or some organisation orinstitution' ... and then tries to sue the offending perpetrator, assertivenessdoesn't get much of a run.As an example:
"You made me lose money by failing to teach me about wealth creation at school"
is certainly not an assertive statement. It's an assignment of blame!For you perhaps, this is a good thing. For while the rest of the western world getembroiled in a war of 'who is responsible' and dig vast trenches of low self esteemfor themselves (and build careers for lawyers) you and I can get on with our livesby taking responsibility for what we want
and simply asking for it