Do not say that anyone is good or bad. Renounce your arrogant pride, and grasp theFeet of the Lord.
It is our weakness to criticize others, while we do not make any attempt toimprove ourselves. We should try to correct ourselves instead of criticizing others.We try to ignore our weaknesses. In this way we are not true to ourselves. Weshould set an example for others to follow. We should behave to others as we expect others to behave towards us.Sheikh Fareed Ji says: (Ang 1378)
Fareed, if you have a keen understanding, then do not write black marks against anyone else. Look underneath your own collar instead.
Before criticizing others we should look in the mirror, as although we may becriticizing them, we may actually be indirectly chastising ourselves due to us havingthe same shortcomings. Do not point out a splinter in someone else’s eye when youhave a plank of wood contained within yours. In other words, how much of theunappealing behavior is that which we reject in ourselves and instead, find it easierto see the problems in others?Sri Guru Amardaas Ji says: (Ang 115)
This mind is a mirror; how rare are those who, as Gurmukh, see themselves in it.
When we have flaws in ourselves, we would seriously dislike it if someoneignored all of our positive points and just continued pointing out our ownshortcomings to us. This principle not only transcends the spiritual world, but alsoto the ego-driven world as well. We oftentimes judge others on being late or not showing up to religious events but in reality, how many functions do we attendourselves, and when we do attend these functions, how often do we attend thesefunctions for the right reasons in the first place? What about the many functions that we skip, or are too lazy to get out of bed for? The age-old saying will forever holdtrue, “Do onto others as you want to be done to you.” No matter what religion, orlack thereof, this phrase encompasses all.When tossing rocks from the so-called glass houses that we live in, we forget our own vulnerability and throw stones at other people in the form of criticism. Weshould be careful how we treat other people. How correct is the statement that acamel cannot see the crookedness of its own neck, but can see very far ahead of itself? This analogy is important to understand as it is about pointing out otherpersons’ sins and not seeing our own. It is about not changing the way we go about