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He bit me up

He bit me up



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Published by angiemitchell
An explanation about family and domestic violence.
An explanation about family and domestic violence.

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Published by: angiemitchell on May 30, 2009
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Family, nature, and life are very broad subjects. All three of themextraordinarily important in our world and day to day life; who doesn’t come froma family, have being in contact with nature, or enjoy the privileges that lifegive us every day. It is the cause of my election for this name. Topics areendless about these subjects, and there are good and bad topics, when our childbecomes a doctor, pollution, a new addition to the family, and a lost of a loveone. From all of these I want it to start with Domestic Violence, is it common?What happens when a woman, a man, a child or an aged person is abused for theirsloves one, and there is no way to go?I can answer those questions very well because I learned from my own experience.Came to this wonderful country full of incredible things and opportunities, tofind out that my loving husband who married me in my country and brought me here,was an abusive person,was really hard. He started from small kinds of abusivethings, like not giving me money (he didn’t want me to work), yelling at me fornot reason, under appreciating all my efforts to be better for him and our child.So, after a horrible confrontation with the truth (why you brought me here if youdon’t care about our child or me) thanks to a friend advice I end up in a shelterfor domestic violence. They educated me about the violence wheel it shows therelationship of physical abuse to other forms of abuse. Each part shows a way tocontrol or gain power. It explains the way how your abuser becomes stronger andyou weaker.Some of these types of abuse even doesn’t look like abuse(is what I use tothink)but they are abusive behavior like intimidation, emotional abuse, isolation,minimizing, denying and blaming, using the children, economic abuse, coercion andthreats, physical abuse and power over the other person.My husband use to tell me that he will join the army and let him get kill, and Istart crying telling him that I love him and I don’t want him to die, that I wanthim with me and our child.Now I know it was part of his game. And he use many of this form of abuse, untilhe bit me up and told me that he will kill me. That was my last day by his sideafter four years accepting his word of change.So from my questions above, yes domestic violence is very common here are somefacts:In a 1995-1996 study conducted in the 50 States and the District of Columbia,nearly 25% of women and 7.6% of men were raped and/or physically assaulted by acurrent or former spouse, cohabiting partner, or dating partner/acquaintance atsome time in their lifetime (based on survey of 16,000 participants, equally maleand female).Patricia Tjaden & Nancy Thoennes, U.S. Dep't of Just., NCJ 181867, Extent, Nature,and Consequences of Intimate Partner Violence, at iii (2000), available athttp://www.ojp.usdoj.gov/nij/pubs-sum/181867.htmApproximately 1.3 million women and 835,000 men are physically assaulted by anintimate partner annually in the United States.Patricia Tjaden & Nancy Thoennes, U.S. Dep't of Just., NCJ 183781, Full Report ofthe Prevalence, Incidence, and Consequences of Intimate Partner Violence AgainstWomen: Findings from the National Violence Against Women Survey, at iv (2000),available at http://www.ojp.usdoj.gov/nij/pubs-sum/183781.htmIntimate partner violence made up 20% of all nonfatal violent crime experienced bywomen in 2001.
Callie Marie Rennison, U.S. Dep't of Just., NCJ 197838, Bureau of JusticeStatistics Crime Data Brief: Intimate Partner Violence, 1993-2001, at 1 (2003),available at http://www.ojp.usdoj.gov/bjs/pub/pdf/ipv01.pdfIntimate partners committed 3% of the nonfatal violence against men.Callie Marie Rennison, U.S. Dep't of Just., NCJ 197838, Bureau of JusticeStatistics Crime Data Brief: Intimate Partner Violence, 1993-2001, at 1 (2003),available at http://www.ojp.usdoj.gov/bjs/pub/pdf/ipv01.pdfIn 2000, 1,247 women and 440 men were killed by an intimate partner. In recentyears, an intimate partner killed approximately 33% of female murder victims and4% of male murder victims.Callie Marie Rennison, U.S. Dep't of Just., NCJ 197838, Bureau of JusticeStatistics Crime Data Brief: Intimate Partner Violence, 1993-2001, at 1 (2003),available at http://www.ojp.usdoj.gov/bjs/pub/pdf/ipv01.pdfAccess to firearms yields a more than five-fold increase in risk of intimatepartner homicide when considering other factors of abuse, according to a recentstudy, suggesting that abusers who possess guns tend to inflict the most severeabuse on their partners.Jacquelyn C. Campbell et al., Risk Factors For Femicide in Abusive Relationships:Results From A Multi-Site Case Control Study, 93 Am. J. of Public Health 1089,1092 (2003), abstract available athttp://www.ajph.org/cgi/content/abstract/93/7/1089Of females killed with a firearm, almost two-thirds were killed by their intimatepartners. The number of females shot and killed by their husband or intimatepartner was more than three times higher than the total number murdered by malestrangers using all weapons combined in single victim/single offender incidents in2002.The Violence Pol'y Ctr., When Men Murder Women: An Analysis of 2002 Homicide Data:Females Murdered by Males in Single Victim/Single Offender Incidents, at 7 (2004),available at http://www.vpc.org/studies/wmmw2004.pdfAccording to the U.S. Department of Justice, between 1998 and 2002:Of the almost 3.5 million violent crimes committed against family members, 49% ofthese were crimes against spouses.84% of spouse abuse victims were females, and 86% of victims of dating partnerabuse at were female.Males were 83% of spouse murderers and 75% of dating partner murderers50% of offenders in state prison for spousal abuse had killed their victims. Wiveswere more likely than husbands to be killed by their spouses: wives were abouthalf of all spouses in the population in 2002, but 81% of all persons killed bytheir spouse.Matthew R. Durose et al., U.S. Dep't of Just., NCJ 207846, Bureau of JusticeStatistics, Family Violence Statistics: Including Statistics on Strangers andAcquaintances, at 31-32 (2005), available athttp://www.ojp.usdoj.gov/bjs/pub/pdf/fvs.pdfStatistics obtained from American Bar association.And don’t worries there are always a place to go I have been there, and my bestadvice is going to a shelter for domestic violence. They will feed your childrenand you. Give you a legal advice and help you with IDs and papers, time to lookfor a job, a bed for you and your children and time to save some money and getyour own place. They also refers you to different organizations that will help youwith school for children, and college for you if you want, legal representation,

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