Family, nature, and life are very broad subjects. All three of themextraordinarily important in our world and day to day life; who doesn’t come froma family, have being in contact with nature, or enjoy the privileges that lifegive us every day. It is the cause of my election for this name. Topics areendless about these subjects, and there are good and bad topics, when our childbecomes a doctor, pollution, a new addition to the family, and a lost of a loveone. From all of these I want it to start with Domestic Violence, is it common?What happens when a woman, a man, a child or an aged person is abused for theirsloves one, and there is no way to go?I can answer those questions very well because I learned from my own experience.Came to this wonderful country full of incredible things and opportunities, tofind out that my loving husband who married me in my country and brought me here,was an abusive person,was really hard. He started from small kinds of abusivethings, like not giving me money (he didn’t want me to work), yelling at me fornot reason, under appreciating all my efforts to be better for him and our child.So, after a horrible confrontation with the truth (why you brought me here if youdon’t care about our child or me) thanks to a friend advice I end up in a shelterfor domestic violence. They educated me about the violence wheel it shows therelationship of physical abuse to other forms of abuse. Each part shows a way tocontrol or gain power. It explains the way how your abuser becomes stronger andyou weaker.Some of these types of abuse even doesn’t look like abuse(is what I use tothink)but they are abusive behavior like intimidation, emotional abuse, isolation,minimizing, denying and blaming, using the children, economic abuse, coercion andthreats, physical abuse and power over the other person.My husband use to tell me that he will join the army and let him get kill, and Istart crying telling him that I love him and I don’t want him to die, that I wanthim with me and our child.Now I know it was part of his game. And he use many of this form of abuse, untilhe bit me up and told me that he will kill me. That was my last day by his sideafter four years accepting his word of change.So from my questions above, yes domestic violence is very common here are somefacts:In a 1995-1996 study conducted in the 50 States and the District of Columbia,nearly 25% of women and 7.6% of men were raped and/or physically assaulted by acurrent or former spouse, cohabiting partner, or dating partner/acquaintance atsome time in their lifetime (based on survey of 16,000 participants, equally maleand female).Patricia Tjaden & Nancy Thoennes, U.S. Dep't of Just., NCJ 181867, Extent, Nature,and Consequences of Intimate Partner Violence, at iii (2000), available athttp://www.ojp.usdoj.gov/nij/pubs-sum/181867.htmApproximately 1.3 million women and 835,000 men are physically assaulted by anintimate partner annually in the United States.Patricia Tjaden & Nancy Thoennes, U.S. Dep't of Just., NCJ 183781, Full Report ofthe Prevalence, Incidence, and Consequences of Intimate Partner Violence AgainstWomen: Findings from the National Violence Against Women Survey, at iv (2000),available at http://www.ojp.usdoj.gov/nij/pubs-sum/183781.htmIntimate partner violence made up 20% of all nonfatal violent crime experienced bywomen in 2001.