It may be helpful to understand a little about how divorce can changevirtually every aspect of a person's life including where a person lives, withwhom they live with, their standard of living, their emotional happiness, their assets and liabilities, time spent with children and other family, and so muchmore. It is important to mention that the divorce rate in the United States is thehighest in the World; it is fifty percent of marriages end in divorce and aconsequence it brings effects in the people who are experiencing a divorce.Today, I am going to tell you the effects of divorce on children, women,education, society, health and the couple who is living a divorce.
Effects of divorce on children:
A study that I did in the University of Minnesota in 2005; I concluded thatdivorce affects children differently, depending on their gender, age and stage of development, in the same way their world, their security and their stabilityseems to fall apart when their parents’ divorce.Children can show negative feelings like:
Fears of abandonment:They worry that their parents don't love themanymore and they feel abandoned. They feel like the parent who left hasdivorced them too. .
Anger: They feel angry although they may not express their anger.
They often feel they are at fault. They may believe something they did or said caused a parent to leave.
Sadness and grief: Divorce is a loss in the lives of children and parents.They experience a grieving process very similar to mourning a death.
Blame and Guilt:Because so much marital conflict may be related to thestress of parenting, children often feel responsible for their parents'divorce--they feel that somehow their behavior contributed to it. This isespecially true when parents fight during exchanges of the children or innegotiating schedules: children see that parents are fighting over them.
Depression:Children exhibit more health, behavioral, and emotionalproblems, and they are involved more frequently in crime and drugabuse, and have higher rates of suicide.Also, in an investigation I did with my colleague the psychologist Dr.Robert Hughes in the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign thisyear, we found three feelings that children can experience in a divorce:
Parental loss:Divorce often results in the loss of contact with one parentand with this loss children also lose the knowledge, skills and resources(emotional, financial, etc.) of that parent.
Economic loss:Another result of divorce is that children living in singleparent families are less likely to have as many economic resources aschildren living in intact families.
More life stress:divorce often results in many changes in children's livingsituations such as changing schools, child care, homes, etc. Childrenoften also have to make adjustments to changes in relationships withfriends and extended family members. These changes create a morestressful environment for children.