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Tips for helping Children Deal with Divorce
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JP Shaw ©2008
"Why can't daddy live with us anymore?" "Why is mommy leaving?" "Do you hate each other?""Where am I going to live?" These are just a few of the questions parents face when dealing withdivorce.Children are emotional little people and helping them cope with their emotions during such apivotal change in their lives can be confusing and draining for any parent. Ending a marriage isnot easy for all people involved, but especially for children. There are things you can do to helpmake the transition easier for your children though.1.)
 
DO NOT SPEAK BADLY OF THE OTHER PARENT IN FRONT OF THE KIDS:Talking bad about the other parent leaves children feeling as though they need choose which sideto be on, which parent to love which is never good. Instead focus on allowing your children tolove each of you the way they do, and keep your emotional anger to yourself.2.)
 
SETTLE CUSTODY ARRANGEMENTS AND SUPPORT PAYMENTS IN COURTQUICKLY:Doing this protects both parents as well as the kids. With a court arrangement and supportpayments set up quickly by the court system. This allows children the freedom of knowing theywill still see the other parent without the need to fight about it all the time and will help to re-establish the emotional security blanket children need in order to love you.3.)
 
TALK TO YOUR KIDS OPENLY AND HONESTLY:Answering your child
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s questions about your divorce will not be easy. But understanding thatyour children blame themselves (just as you might) for the divorce happening is the first step tohelp cope with their feelings. Just because people don't live with us anymore doesn't mean wedon't love them, and explaining this to children will help them understand that divorce is nottheir fault.4.)
 
DEAL WITH YOUR ANGER ON YOUR OWN EFFECTIVELY:Getting help in dealing with anger the emotional pain that comes from divorce throughcounselling will help you in being a better support for your kids during the transition. Keepingyour anger bottled up inside is sure to cause turmoil not only to yourself but to your childrenfacing their own emotions.5.)
 
GET HELP FOR YOUR CHILDREN WHEN NECESSARY:Children often act out their emotions negatively. A cry for help is a cry for someone tounderstand what they are feeling. If you notice your child's behaviour or emotions changing.
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