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How to Save a Troubled Relationship
http://relevantlifesolutions.org/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=445&Itemid=26
If you feel that sinking feeling coming on that means your relationship is on the rocks,now may be a good time to re-examine your relationship with your loved one. There areseveral steps you can take to put you and your partner back on the road to recovery.
Steps
1.Decide if it is worth it.
It is a sad fact about life, but some relationships may happen to be too far gone to save. If you are in an abusive relationship, physically or emotionally, it may be best toleave and find a fresh start. If not, you must be willing to take on the following steps with apassion.1.
Pinpoint the problem.
It is hard to fix a relationship when you do not know what went wrong.Talk to your partner to see if they are willing to try a problem-solving method known as "PlusDelta". If he or she is willing, take some quiet time out of your day where you two can do thefollowing:Each person needs a piece of paper folded length-wise into thirds.Label the first column "plus", the second column "minus", and the third column "delta".In the plus column, each of you must write several things that you personally find to be goodin your relationship. Ex. "our walks in the park" or "the way we wake each other up whenwe have a bad dream"In the minus column, individually write what you each think are some negative aspects of your relationship. Ex. "how we resort to screaming when angry" or "our lack of communication during arguments".Delta is a term used in math and science that means "change in". You should use this columnto identify specific changes that you wish to make in your relationship. This can meandoing less of one thing or doing more of another thing. Ex. "more cuddle time whilewatching T.V. "or "planning special dinner dates" or "more daily communication".
Share your thoughts.
It is important that these thoughts are not shared in an angry or argumentativeway. You should hold each other's hand while sharing your thoughts or cuddle up together. It mayfeel awkward to do this if you have been fighting a lot lately, but it can make a difference.2.
Listen.
When your partner is talking, do not interrupt them to "counter" what they said or todefend yourself. Keep in mind that if they something down under the minus column, it is because
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