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have always had great respect for the commitment, focus and training required to excel at any type of personnel pursuit, be it athletic, artistic, musical, business or academic. But the Ironman is an entirely different league. These competitions are particularly grueling because you have to train for three disciplines. No pain, no gain times three just seems to take it to a much higher level. I have also wondered how or where these individuals get their drive or inspiration. This issue of Your Family tries to answer that question, even if there is no single answer that fits most competitors. And in our usual spreading around of topics that appeal to a variety of ages, looked into the motivations behind people who choose a much more casual athletic pursuit, Ultimate
Frisbee. For me, the motivation behind doing something well was simple. I grew up as the middle child in a family of five kids, two brothers and two sisters, all very competitive and all instilled with the notion that whatever you choose to do, youd better do it to the best of your ability. My father would always compliment our efforts, but in the same breath, hed challenge us. Hed ask, now that you have done it once, how can you do it better the next time? We never seemed to get to bask in the glow of a you did a good job for very long. Fast forward to my own son, now 20, who at a very young age decided he wanted to be a hockey player. And much to my chagrin (and pocketbook), a goalie. As a parent, you want to support your children in pretty much all of their chosen pursuits. So I watched him grow through Mites, Squirts, Bantams, Midgets, U18 and Junior U20 teams.
With travel teams starting at the Bantam level, living in Omaha, Neb., we spent most of our weekends driving to various hockey tournaments around the country. I grew to love books on CD! At each age level, the skill sets and competition grew as it became more difficult for him to earn a position on a new team. Not being naturally gifted, as some individuals are, his growth came through hard work, dedication, goal setting, success and failure. Feedback on his play was never offered, always requested. Not wanting to be exactly like my father, I used a one-for-two rule: With any criticism came two things he did well. This seemed to strike a healthy balance between targeted areas of improvement and confirmation of positive progress, but I was always careful to not get myself between him and his coaches. They ruled! I have always tried to make sure he had the tools, training and opportunity to be successful. That was something I appreciated my father doing for me. But the fourth leg of that stool had to come from him, the willingness to make the effort. And he delivered. After countless hours on the road, in the gym, on the ice and attending multiple tryout camps around the country this summer, he earned an opportunity to play for a team in Brookings, S.D. He was proud of his accomplishments and what dedication and effort has earned him in this latest opportunity. I was proud of the life lessons he has learned, which will help define him as an individual for the rest of his life. Before every game I advise him to give his best effort, play large (its a goalie thing) and have fun. Thats what I enjoy the most he still has fun! To me that is a key element in success, enjoy what you do. David Enstad is the general manager of Unified Newspaper Group, which publishes Your Family magazine.
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Ryan and Christine Dexter sit amid the many pairs of running shoes they need for their training and competition for triathlons and other Herculean feats of endurance that they do together. While some Ironman competitors are so focused on their goals that it can detract from family time, for the Dexters, training and competing is a tie that binds them together. Ironman competitors have a variety of motivations and methods to the madness that is a marathon, a 112-mile bike ride and a 2.5-mile swim all in one day. Jeremy Jones
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not where the school was when it was built. It was moved to the cemetery later on. The building itself consists of one room with a mock classroom set up inside. You can peek through the windows to get a feel of how the school looked back in the late 18th and early 19th centuries. The cemetery dates back to the beginning of Blue Mounds in 1855, and many families that remained in the area still use plots of land at the cemetery to join with their ancestors. There is also a ceremonial fire pit and bench to rest or to picnic.
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1 in 50 Madisonians play Ultimate Frisbee. After 20 years, Madisons Ultimate Frisbee Associations numbers surge how do they do it?
Kyle Dorscheid, of Waunakee, goes up for a disc at a 2013 Ultimate Frisbee Association league game at Orlando Bell Park in Madison.
alone. The flimsy piece of plastic is often flung through the air in ways that make it curve unpredictably and nearly impossible to catch. But the fun of Ultimate Frisbee has caught on in Madison disproportionally for a city its size. This year marks 20 years of the Madison Ultimate Frisbee Association the driving force behind Madisons addiction to the sport. Proportionally, our league makes no sense, said Pete Schramm, MUFA president. The not-for-profit organization is affectionately known as MUFA, pronounced Moo-fuh. Co-founder and longtime Madison resident Brad
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housands of Madisonians do it. It has more than $21,000 worth of sponsorship this summer
Wendt said the moo sound was an intentional allusion to Wisconsins role as a dairy industry world leader. But any way you want to say it, the organization that runs year-long leagues along with tournaments has doubled its summer league numbers since 2008 as the sport itself is gaining clout. When the league was formed in 1993, Madison hosted a world Frisbee tournament, drawing 83 teams from 17 countries. That year, the summer league had 15 teams. Now, with just over 3,800 people on 201 teams, summer league is MUFAs flagship league. Those numbers are staggering when compared to cities much larger. Seattle, for example, is considered a hotbed for Frisbee, yet with a metro area population of about 3.5 million, its DiscNorthWest summer league has one-
third of what MUFA has. Then again, those numbers are unofficial, like much of Ultimate Frisbees culture. The sport got its start at a New Jersey high school in 1968 and didnt have a governing body until 1979. And even in Madison, things didnt really get going until the last decade or so, when MUFA began forming more of a community. Schramm, who became Wendts successor about seven months ago, attributes much of MUFAs growth to having a city-wide gathering place where teams get to know one another off the field. Players gather after each game at The Great Dane Pub and Brewing Co., which provides two free pitchers of beer per team. (That) helps build the giant sense of the community, he said. MUFA is a community, as much as it is a league.
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Structured keep-away
Even while the sport continues to grow in Dane County, many people are unaware that it exists, much less know how its played. Wendt boils it down simply. Ultimate is keep-away with rules, he said. Every little kid while growing up loves keep-away, and when you add strategy, it gets that much interesting. Commonly confused with disc golf an individual sport Ultimate is team-based and draws from elements of soccer, basketball and football. But unlike traditional ball sports, the trajectory of a Frisbee is, at times, frustrating which can add an unlikely element of skill to the game. You can throw a Frisbee more creatively than you can throw anything else, said Wendt, whos been playing for 60 years. Though disc sports are sometimes thought of as unathletic, in high-level games, going horizontal to Bethany Korwin, of Sun Prairie, versus her opponent Laura Lewein at Glacier Hill Park catch a disc is anything but. in Madison. Tim Byrne is in the background. Thats actually how Michael Bartoli, 25, of Kenosha, who played for University of Wisconsin Whitewaters team, knocked out one of his teeth. I think people are starting to acknowledge Ultimate because its not what they thought it was, he said.
Getting hooked
For recreational play, the sports conventionally low profile has worked in its favor. Adults are often more open to try a new sport with few preconceived notions. Ryan OConnor, who played this summer for the Ians Pizza team, said he had no idea what Ultimate was before joining. Four years later, hes the captain of the Pizza Slingers. He explains it isnt difficult to recruit. After mentioning it to a classmate, he got his girlfriend, who got her twin, who got another friend to join and so on. Every year we have people whove never played Frisbee, he commented. Continued on page 10 Josh Stratton, of Waunakee, goes up to grab a disc against an opponent (behind him)
during a summer league game at Orlando Bell Park in Madison.
Ultimate Frisbee is played on a 70-by-40 yard rectangular field with two end zones. To start a game, one team of seven people (in co-ed a 3:4 gender ratio) pulls (like a kickoff in football) to the other team. The offensive team can move any way on the field to try to score a touchdown at the other end for one point each until the game hits 13 points to win by two. The sport is self-officiated, and is considered a non-contact sport thought thats not usually the case. Therefore, players can dictate how physical they want to play by choosing when to call fouls. Some teams will call more than others, thats just part of the game. The spirit of the game is part of the Ultimate Frisbee rulebook stating that competitive play never comes at the expense of mutual respect among competitors.
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since 2005 William Bartram and youth director Wynne Scherf. Both said they were impressed by MUFAs ability to run a multitude of leagues on a strictly volunteer capacity. DiscNorthWest has a more stable yearround and youth following than MUFA, but Scherf said he was particularly impressed by MUFAs ability to maintain an all-women spring league. Female participation is essential for co-ed leagues, and, by that measure, to keep the recreational sport going. This summer, MUFA had 2,200 men and 1,660 women. Year to year, there are many volunteers, but Schramm, league vice president Matt Merrill and secretary Sue De Cicco do the lions share of the work. Schramm said MUFA can take up to anywhere from five to 30 hours a week in addition to his full-time job. And his main perk besides the friendships hes mad through MUFA? I get to pick my jersey color, he said with a smile. And Im colorblind.
Kyle Dorscheid holds up a 2013 summer MUFA disc that each player receives.
A lasting legacy
Part of the organizations success, Schramm said, is being responsive to players suggestions and making tweaks. For example, last year a Swiss league was added to the summer games. The league, consisting of 72 teams, is based on a weighted performance to decide standings and what team are paired up each week. Perhaps its that same cooperative spirit that has helped keep the organization all-volunteer. But some in the MUFA community wonder if its getting too big to stay that way. Wendt, who still serves as an at-large board member, said it continues to be volunteer-run because people who listen and care just have that mentality, he said. Schramm and Wendt agree the lasting way for Madison Ultimate to thrive is through teaching and cultivating young teams. MUFA began a youth development initiative in 2006, giving grants to schools that want to start Ultimate teams or other Frisbee causes. What keeps the MUFA team going, besides love for the sport, is knowing they can provide others the opportunity to grow that same fondness for a sport that seems to transcend merely beating an opponent. Everyone seems to be having a good time, Schramm said. I think we provide one of the best Ultimate Frisbee leagues in the U.S.
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By Victoria Vlisides
y dad was a teacher, a coach and kind of an odd guy. Not in a way where, in high school, friends are freaked out to hang out at your house, but where they want to. Mostly because hed come into the room and offer tortilla chips, mixed nuts and maybe a can of pop whatever he could do to enhance the experience. He was also kind of odd because when people asked, What do you do? hed proudly reply, I teach recreation, referring to the recreation management curriculum he cultivated about 20 years ago at Madison College. Some would scoff. Never to his face, but Id see them do it. And I get it. It doesnt exactly sound as prestigious as a doctor or a lawyer, even though he was one dissertation away from a Ph.D. Titles, and the money that came with them, never mattered to my late father, who passed away about two years ago. He was the type of dad who would take whatever time, money and resources it took to ensure the people around him had recreation opportunities. For our family, that meant trips to Jamaica, Mexico and Europe by the time I was 16 instead of buying that new car. For him, it also meant coaching my brothers and my seasonal sports teams and, of course, providing the trophies and end-of-season parties that came with them. Its no wonder after one summer league with Madison Ultimate Frisbee Association, it had massive appeal for me. It wasnt just my love for sports (and yes, its a team sport, like soccer or basketball). I also identified with the partying or, recreation, as my dad would call it that came after. You see, MUFA staff was genius enough years ago to partner up with
Through MUFA, Ive learned a lot about myself and made connections I otherwise would have never met.
around for an hour or two to be rewarded with beer and a place to hang out with your friends. Yes, its still just an after-work activity, but its the highlight of the summer for many. And in those Dane booths, more so than the field, is where my summer team truly formed. After starting a team this year that plays twice a week over a course of two-and-a-half months, I managed to, like Emilio Estevezs coach Gordon in the Disney classic The Mighty Ducks, gather a group from different social circles who didnt know each other and most of whom didnt play the sport. By the seasons conclusion, the
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area drew the interest of settlers in the 1840s because of its lush pine forests ripe for harvesting lumber. Its location along the Wisconsin River made it an attractive lumber mill site, and eventually the town grew to support more industry and population. Today, the city boasts ample opportunities for residents and visitors alike shopping and dining, arts and culture and of course, the great outdoors.
by Mark Ignatowski Photos courtesy Wausau/Central Wisconsin Convention and Visitors Bureau ausau bills itself as being just north enough, and that certainly holds true if youre looking for genuine Northern Wisconsin beauty without having to schlep the whole family on a four-hour car ride. Wausau and the surrounding areas in Marathon County (Wisconsins largest at about 1,545 square miles) offer some larger city amenities (by northern Wisconsin standards), but you can still find the secluded spots and peaceful wilderness that the areas north of Hwy. 29 are known for. Like many Northwoods locales, the
potholes. Public swimming beaches can be found at many county parks and area lakes, and canoeing and kayaking routes can be found along many streams and rivers in Marathon County.
Outdoor recreation
Rib Mountain State Park offers 13 miles of hiking trails during the spring, summer and fall seasons. Heading to the top of Rib Mountain the states tallest hill at 741 feet about the surrounding terrain gives a breathtaking view of the surrounding area. The 65-foot observation tower rises 800 feet above the surrounding terrain to give hikers a look at the scenery particularly as the leaves change colors during the fall season. As the seasons change from fall to winter, the fun continues near the park at Granite Peak Ski Area. The ski resort boasts a variety of terrain on 74 runs, a six-person high-speed lift and a new high-speed quad lift this year. Nearly 500 pieces of snowmaking equipment augment the natural snowfall. During the past decade, lodge facilities have been remodeled to make the time off the slopes more relaxing, as well. When the weather is warm, the Dells at Eau Claire Park is a hot spot for visitors. Located a few miles east of Wausau near the Village of Aniwa, the 190-acre park is bisected by the Eau Claire River. The area features interesting geological features, including volcanic rock palisades and
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If youre a Madison Ultimate Frisbee Association player and many of you are see page 9, youre probably familiar with the Great Dane Brewing Company. Thats great news if youre in Wausau and feeling a bit homesick. The city boasts a Great Dane Brewing Company location on Sherman Street. Youll find a lot of the familiar brews and menu items with a few twists. Madisons Nakoma Nachos have become the Northwoods Nachos, for example. Other breweries in the area include
the Bull Falls Brewery known for its selection of German beers. Theres no food, but plenty of good microbrews. Red Eye Brewing Company also calls Wausau home. The establishment is known for its wood-fired pizzas, but also offers, sandwiches, salads, paninis and more. The area offers plenty of other dining options, as well. The Mint Caf on 3rd Street offers classic diner food like omelets, pancakes, liver and onions and broiled burgers. Their pies are well-known, too.
Down the street is the Back When Caf, which focuses on locally-sourced sustainable cooking. The menu boasts light dinners in the $10-$15 range, as well as more substantial meals. Back When Caf only serves dinner. Playing off another large industry in the area, the family-friendly Wausau Mine Company offers a large menu of lunch and dinner items from pizzas to steaks and sandwiches. The cheesy Italian fries are a favorite of regulars and should please the average lactosecraving Wisconsinite.
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t ranks somewhere between the improbable and the impossible, but that wont deter 2,800 entrants and on Sept. 8 who will participate in Ironman Wisconsin, a grueling endurance event guaranteed to generate massive helpings of pain, pathos and euphoria. The events popularity the number of participants exceeds the available slots seems anomalous in a nation thats perfected the ability to create millions of overweight coach potatoes. Of course there are certainly easier ways of getting fit or of muddling through a midlife crisis than trying to run 26.2 miles, bike 112 miles and swim 2.4 miles on the same day. Whats going on? Are these people crazed? Has contemporary civilization prompted a few to engage in a bizarre fitness obsession? Not at all. While there are probably
the usual proportion of fitness wingnuts among participants, most say theyve done nothing more than accept a challenge and have devoted the time and effort to succeed. Completing an Ironman definitely ranks as a big deal, even if veteran competitors tend to downplay their achievements. An Ironman may be a one-off event for many, but it can still be a life-altering challenge in which a lifestyle of running, swimming and biking becomes as normal as, say, chips and channel surfing. Many say its simply a matter of getting started and finding the oomph to continue; they place training in the same category as putting one foot after the other. Most say they werent particularly athletic before they started. Many dont think theyre all that athletic now because there are always competitors who do so much better.
As in the rest of life, its all relative. The Ironman is visible and influential in the Madison area, prompting epiphanies among many of the spectators (who are expected to number 45,000 this year). Among them is Brandon Duchrow, 31, of Verona, who changed his career goals after watching one. Duchrow will be participating in his third Ironman this year, running his first in 2009 to prove to myself I could do anything if I put my mind to it. He fell even more in love with fitness and clean eating and is now seeking a job as a certified fitness trainer.
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including recovery days, as well as factors Wisconsin. such as nutrition, pacing and endurance. He wrestled for most of his life and Training advice is readily available admits to harboring a twisted appetite in magazines and on the Internet, but for intensive activities. Scratching the Bannink said its often confusing, making Ironman itch didnt occur until he watched it problematic for someone to properly a cousin finish Ironman Wisconsin. train on their own. His training regimen is not unusual for Dave Brown, 51, Fitchburg, doesnt participants: He trains five or six days think so. He hasnt sought advice from a a week, usually for at least an hour but coach and plans to run his fifth Wisconsin sometimes as long as five, often heading Ironman this fall. out before dawn. He A coach cant be believes its essential to with you all the time work with a coach to and deal with every sift through conflicting contingency, Brown advice about nutrition, said. recovery, transitions As someone whos between events and always been athletic, I learning the rules of the know how to listen to road. my body, he said. Not But Helsher, who too much takes me by works for health care surprise. software giant Epic, And theres never said the most important been a point during factor has been the an Ironman when support of his wife, he doubted he could who cares for their two finish. young kids when hes Maybe Ive just training. He knew it would be easier to train Eric Helsher (left) of Fitchburg wrestled for most of his life. Helsher, 32, is often up before the sun, been very fortunate. Or while his kids were still pulling his photographer out of bed in the waning hours of the Perseid meteor shower to photo- maybe Ive prepared graph a swimming session at Lake Monona. enough, he said. young. Browns daunting training regimen Other competitors echo the importance for 9 months to a year. often entails a 1.5-mile swim at 2:30 a.m. of the support of family and friends, which One man trained for three years before and a short run before starting work as isnt surprising when an activity demands doing his first Ironman, losing 90 pounds a pharmaceutical representative at 6:30 a commitment of 15-20 hours a week, or in the process, she said. a.m., a job that often entails 300 miles even more. of travel daily. On weekends, hell start One erstwhile Ironman (who wanted to biking at 4:45 a.m. (he has already biked remain anonymous) said he found training 2,200 miles this year) after swimming at was too self-centered and incompatible the pool. with a healthy relationship. And no doubt Im used to having long days. Training plenty of relationships have disintegrated hasnt been an issue, he said. when a mate lavishes more attention to training than on a partner. Helshers goal for this years event is to A stress-relieving hobby finish before they close the course after 17 Chad McMahon, 42, Verona, has hours. For some of us, thats a long time competed in nine Ironmans and completed just to remain upright. eight. (He withdrew once, when trying to an addiction, although there are certainly worse addictions, she said. She hasnt yet encountered anyone with an unhealthy Ironman addiction, she but concedes that it is possible. She believes someone in good physical condition can prepare for an Ironman in several months, often over the summer, by training about 20 hours a week. Those who arent quite as fit may need to train
Someone in good physical condition can prepare for an Ironman in several months, often over the summer, by training about 20 hours a week.
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For almost a decade, Cindi Bannink, a certified triathlon coach with Madison Multisports, has helped train men and women ranging in age from their early 20s to 60-plus. She has completed three Ironmans herself. By definition, training for an Ironman is self-centered, and might be considered
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Most of her trainees have finished the race. Those who didnt were adequately prepared but were injured or unable to keep hydrated or to eat enough during the event. Banninks training regimen capitalizes on the benefits of cross-training by, for example, avoiding muscle overuse, and
complete two within two months). McMahon was in rough shape after finishing the first, needing IVs in the medical tent after losing 15 pounds during the race. He said its not true that every Ironman involves large dollops of pain and unrelenting ugliness. Continued on page 18
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Some are painful, marathon. He tries to push the envelope and some feel great, but has completed several every event is different, runs of 150-200 miles he said. Im always that require 60 or more trying for a great race. hours to finish. If you have a bad day, it He fits training into can be a really bad day. his schedule by running If you have a good day, seven miles to and it can be a really good from work. Christine, day. 40, will compete in her And even during the seventh Ironman this best event, there are September, having run her first when she was dark spots that test a in college. It can be a participants mettle, he long day. A lot of things said. In the yin and yang can go wrong, and I of an Ironman, there often have to dig deep, are easier parts when Ryan and Christine Dexter of Verona have cycled through hundreds of shoes as an ultramarathon especially at the end, things are going poorly, runner and Ironman triathlete. They also have to find time for three active boys. she said. along with ample time As fitness director/personal trainer to experience them. (His best finish was 10 at New Self Renewal Center in Verona, hours, 45 minutes; his slowest, 13 hours). she likes working with those who are Its a great hobby, a good way to relieve just getting in shape as well as serious stress, said McMahon, also a sales rep for competitors who want to hammer it. a pharmaceutical company who travels The nature of Ironman events has changed markedly since she first competed frequently. He said he carefully selects in 1991. It used to be a low-key event that training venues when hes on the road. attracted a few professionals and a bunch McMahon said competition can be of other people who rode street bikes and expensive, especially if you travel. The liked to hang out afterwards. The event entry fee for Ironman Wisconsin is $650. now attracts deep-pocketed sponsors, For some, a way of life The course in Wisconsin is regarded as one a polished organization and fewer Ryan and Christine Dexter, Verona, have of the most scenic. opportunities for the informal camaraderie, kept a marriage and family intact, despite His main goal is modest: a search for she said. (or because of) a shared dedication to longa perfect race in which he performs The popularity of the Wisconsin distance triathlons and similar events. consistently and finishes strong. Ironman has meant Madison-area residents Ryan, 36, is an extreme runner with He doesnt think hes up to anything no longer view it as an unusual event or a a penchant for ultramarathons, events special and reserves praise for those who bizarre pursuit, something that isnt true in most parts of the country, Christine said. longer than the standard 26.2 miles of a finish at the top of their age groups.
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risks associated with long-distance triathlons wont ever tax our medical system. Nor will the Ironman ever rival the popularity of mainstream sports such as soccer. Nonetheless, its definitely found a home and its adherents are no longer relegated to the lunatic fringe. Veterans may successfully calibrate The group of swimmers is at the start of the race at Law Park on Lake Monona. their endurance to A place in Photo by Eddie Silvers/FinisherPix.com avoid collapse and society excruciating pain but, Of course, there is always fodder for as is clearly evident on the course and at naysayers who view participation in an the finish line, many arent that prepared Ironman as aberrant. Research has shown or lucky. Whether someone crawls across that a hard, long workout characteristic the finish line or finishes with energy of participation in (or preparing for) the to spare, completing an Ironman is a event can suppress the immune system. Herculean endeavor, one that entails There is the murky area between doing enormous resolve, discipline and the and overdoing something. willingness to battle through fatigue and The latter is generally defined excruciating pain. as exercise that disrupts normal It represents an epic odyssey in a relationships or work, but its clear culture that has jettisoned rites of passage that those who prepare for an Ironman and mythic tales of danger and victory. invariably rewrite the definition of Even so, the balance still favors Anyone who completes an Ironman normal. these tenacious seekers, considering has been annealed by adversity, clawed Of course, no one keeps tabs on those the enormous cost of inactivity. Since through self-doubt and plumbed the gritty who abandon training for more modest 80 percent of Americans dont get the limits of tenacity. endeavors or equate the event with recommended amount of exercise each Its not a pursuit of fame, fortune insanity. Theres no reliable accounting of or glory, but of inner fortitude. Not all sprained ankles and cracked skulls, nor of week (defined as 2.5 hours of moderate intensity aerobic activity or 1.5 hours of heat stroke, dehydration or heart failure care to repeat the experience. None will among participants.. forget it. vigorous aerobic exercise), the health
The familiarity here has also prompted more people to view participation as a logical goal, even though they havent participated in shorter events. Thats fine, Christine said, but she thinks people lose a huge part of the experience if they dont participate in a variety of shorter triathlons before focusing on an Ironman.
The Ironman has definitely found a home, and its adherents are no longer relegated to the lunatic fringe.
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f you want to tick someone off, question his or her parenting techniques. Joyce Gilmour of Brooklyn has been delicately handling that task in southern Dane County for more than 20 years as an instructor of the well-known Love and Logic parenting courses. She also spent 36 years teaching third-graders in Oregon schools before retiring in 2011, and she raised five kids of her own, too. We recently asked Gilmour to share her thoughts on todays parents, warts and all.
YF: Quick, name three of your top parenting tips! On your mark, get set, go! Gilmour: My first tip is that we need to allow our kids to make mistakes when the pricetags are small. Mistakes are actually learning opportunities. When kids are younger, the mistakes they make arent life and death. When kids are in middle or high school, the pricetags are much bigger because the decisions they are making could be. A second tip is, learn how to be a consultant parent as opposed to being a helicopter parent that tends to rescue kids or a drill sergeant who tends to give orders. We need to help our kids learn how to solve their own problems as much as possible. The third is learn how to set limits without anger, lectures, threats or repeated warnings. These are things Ive been preaching for 20-plus years. YF: What are common parenting mistakes you see today? Gilmour: I think the biggest one is that we now have a group of entitled parents raising entitled children that think the world owes them. I know thats a common word out there, but its a reality. YF: How does that play out? Gilmour: You have people that dont do so well on jobs because they think the employer kind of owes them. You have kids
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who dont want to put the effort into things. That worries me. I believe that real self-esteem comes from effort. So if parents are helping kids to the point of doing the science project for them, they are cheating their kids out of the ability to put the effort into something. I think its more about encouraging than praising. Praise is me liking your product or what you did. Encouragement is learning how to move away from youre making mom happy thats not our goal. Our goal is to for (children) to see that the effort they put in is what got them that feeling of satisfaction. Another thing I see out and about at grocery stores or other places, are parents that say a lot of things but dont follow through. Lots of idle threats. I think in my day Im 60, OK? you knew that if a parent said something, it was going to happen. Nowadays I see parents whose word is garbage because what theyre saying means nothing and the kids know it. YF: A couple years ago, the term Tiger Mom caused a stir in parenting circles. It basically refers to a parent who puts really high demands and expectations on their kids, who thrive because of that. Are todays parents too permissive? Do we need
more Tiger Moms? Gilmour: I think we need a balance. Theres a good way to set limits with our kids. I think you need to set limits, know what your limits are, but you need to be on the same side of the fence as your kid and be a guide for them. I dont think you need to scream down their throat to get them to do the things we would like them to choose. Confidence-building and encouragement can be done in a more positive (way). We need to offer kids choices. In the end, the kid is getting to decide. And thats what we really want to grow, are good decision-makers. The more opportunities to make decisions, the better off (children) are going to be in life. Because theyre thinking how is this next decision going to affect me, rather than is this decision going to make someone happy. YF: I recently read an article saying that a childs success depends less on innate intelligence and being able to master basic academic skills than developing key character traits such as grit, conscientiousness and curiosity. Gilmour: Ive said to more than one parent that your kid might be the brightest person in the world, but if they cant learn to get along with the world, what good is it going to do them? So Im an advocate of teaching kids character. I think parents, again, need to set that model and let kids know it takes hard work to accomplish their goals. I believe we have a lot of parents who dont do enough to be the model for lifelong learning. I encourage parents to have family learning time, so when kids are working on stuff, parents are available but also are showing that they are learning something, too. Kids need to know that learning is important not just when they are in school, that theres a much bigger picture than just getting through 12th grade.
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Kiki Schueler began hosting concerts in 2005.
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The pioneering alt-country band The Bottle Rockets performed at Kikis in July.
By Bill Livick Hes done a number of house concerts on the East Coast before. He said, I was hoping youd say that. Schueler seems to have gotten in on the ground floor of what has become a growing trend across the country, as more independent performers play shows at fans homes. It makes perfect sense to Kiki. Its easier and a better environment than a lot of clubs, she says. Often, performers end up making more money even though there are probably fewer people here just because at least in my case and I think probably with a lot of people who do this all the money goes to the performers. So youre not taking out money for the sound guy or an agent. I mean, my sound guys work for dinner and beer thats it. Schueler says anybody can have a house concert. She doesnt charge admission and isnt selling anything. Its a suggested donation, she says of the cost to attend. Its always BYOB. Its not like Im providing or selling beer or anything. Its just a party where people give the band money. Of course, hosting small concerts in your home does require some forethought and preparation. In addition to knowing how to contact the musicians, you also need an appropriate space. At Kikis House of Righteous Music, that space is her basement, a clean, open room that can seat 50 to 60, depending on the size of the band. The room is below ground, which helps to soundproof the music from neighbors. Kiki has strung little holiday lights throughout the space, and the walls are covered with band posters. She simply takes down the ping pong table and sets up rows of folding chairs. Shes become so committed to hosting the shows that four years ago she had an egress window built into the room, and she also invested in a sound system that performers can plug into. Ive invested all this money in it, and I cant imagine stopping, she said. Your Family spoke with Kiki Schueler in July about her house concerts. YF: How many people can attend before you say, were full, and have to turn people away? Schueler: I have a pretty good sense of how many people can fit comfortably. Even though I want the bands to make as much money as possible, theres a point where I have to say thats enough people. I try to keep it comfortable. If its a full band, then well usually have about only 50 people. If its a more of a solo show, I can push the chairs up a little closer and then can fit about 60. When its a show that I know is going to be full, a lot of people email me and make a reservation. And then they send
ts a music lovers dream: Invite your favorite musicians to come to your home to perform. Also invite a bunch of friends, and then let the good times roll. Although its not quite so simple, thats basically how it works at Kikis House of Righteous Music in Madison. By day, Kiki Schueler works in a research lab of the bio chemistry department at the University of Wisconsin-Madison. By night at least a couple of times a month, sometimes more she organizes and hosts intimate concerts at her home on the citys east side, with all the proceeds going to the performers. Schueler hosted her first two house concerts in 2005 and began holding them on a regular basis in 2007. Shes had 96 shows to date in the roomy basement of her home on MacArthur Road. Its been going pretty steady since 2007, she says. At first, I wasnt really in the loop with booking agents or bands or anything, and I started pestering people I knew to come to play. It just took a while to get things going. Kiki began hosting concerts when a musician friend was looking for a place in Madison to play. Singer-songwriter Tim Easton has performed throughout Europe and North American, often in peoples homes. He was looking for a show between Minneapolis and Chicago, and I said, Well, you could play here, she recalls.
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me checks to hold their spot. That way I know theyre going to show up. Usually I have a pretty good feel for whether its going to be a full house. YF: What are some of the challenges involved in hosting concerts in your home? Schueler: Probably the biggest challenge is getting people to come when its someone that they havent heard of. I feel like all my shows are equal. I wish I could convince people to come see anybody I book. YF: How do you decide which musicians to ask to play? Schueler: I only book bands I love, because obviously Im not making any money. So its people that I want to see play. I will do a show anytime somebody that I want to see play can play. Its not like I only do them on weekends or once a month or whatever. YF: Considering the time and energy it takes, you must really like doing this. Schueler: I always joke that if I ever won the lottery, I would buy a club. But this is so much better because when you have club, you have to worry about booking bands and making money. In this case, I dont have to worry about that. I can just book whoever I want. Ive loved all of my shows, and its just been so much fun. Mostly I just do it for me, but its less awkward when other people show up. (laughs) YF: Apart from the fact that you love seeing the people perform, are there other rewards? Schueler: Absolutely, even when only 10 people show up for a show, (performers have) made at least enough money for gas. Most of the bands stay with me and I cook for them, so they have a place to sleep and they get fed and they get beer. So even my least successful shows are a success for the band, whereas if they play a club and nobody shows up, they still have to find a place to stay and something to eat and all that. And theres no guarantee theyll even make gas money. So it definitely helps out them a lot. And it has been great to become friends with all these people. A lot of times they will refer someone else to come play at my house. A lot of the first shows were bands that I already knew. I would just say, hey, you should come play at my house the next time. But now Ill get
Singer-songwriter John Dee Graham has performed at Kikis nine times - more than any other artist.
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Kiki Schueler on some of her favorite shows:
J ohn Dee Graham is always a favorite. He just played here for the ninth time more than anyone. Hes getting better every time I see him. The last show was just amazing and it was the first time Ive had a soldout show for him. I an Moore is still one of my favorites. He is one of the more famous people whove played here, but people dont seem to ever know him. Hes played with the Rolling Stones, Bob Dylan, and ZZ Top, and appeared in Billy Bob Thorntons movie Sling Blade. I think hes amazing a fantastic guitar player. J on Langford is great and Robbie Fulks has been amazing. T he Kelly Hogan shows Ive really enjoyed. She played in November and came back in May and sold out. She just seems to relax and have a really good time in the basement. I just had Chuck Prophet. He ended up playing solo, which he doesnt do very often. He had a great time and said hell be back.
random emails somebody heard from somebody else. When Butch Hancock played, I still have no idea how he found out about me. I was like, seriously, Butch Hancock wants to come play at my house? Same thing happened with Peter Case. I dont know how he found out I was doing it, but hes played a couple times and Im sure hell be back sometime. Hes a great storyteller and puts on really fantastic shows. Continued on page 27
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he mid 1960s were a turbulent time. The war in Vietnam was in full gear, with over 500,000 troops deployed, and president Kennedy had been assassinated in 1963. Anti-war and anti-government fever was just beginning to pull apart the country, especially on college campuses. It would reach a crescendo in 1968, with the assassinations of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. and Robert F. Kennedy, riots on college campuses and riots in Chicago during the Democratic National Convention. Meanwhile, Kennedys successor, Lyndon Baines Johnson, was president and was being assailed for the war in Vietnam, for picking up his basset hounds by the ears, for his domineering personality and for his coercion of powerful politicians in order to advance legislation. One of those pieces of legislation was the creation of what he called the Great Society. It included laws that upheld civil rights, public broadcasting, Medicare, Medicaid, environmental protection, aid to education, NASA and his War on Poverty. Medicare was established in 1965, under Title 18 of the Social Security Act, against this backdrop of pervasive traumatic politics in America. Congress enacted it to provide health insurance to people age 65 and older, regardless of income or medical history. Before Medicares creation, only half of older adults had health insurance, with coverage often unavailable or unaffordable to the other
Since the creation of Medicare, science and medicine have advanced, and life expectancy has increased, as well.
other provisions designed to slow the growth in Medicare spending and strengthen the solvency of the Medicare Hospital Insurance Trust Fund. This includes the creation of a new Independent Payment Advisory Board. Medicare provided health insurance coverage to 47 million people in 2010, the last year for which statistics are available. Medicare enrollees are disproportionately white and female (at least partly due to womens greater longevity). The total number includes 8 million people with permanent disabilities. Comprising an estimated 12 percent of the federal budget and more than one-fifth of total national health expenditures in 2010, Medicare is often a significant part of discussions about how to moderate the growth of both federal spending and health care spending. With the dual challenges of providing increasingly expensive medical care to an aging population and keeping the program financially secure for the future, discussions about Medicare are likely to remain prominent on the nations agenda in the years ahead. Stephen P. Rudolph is the owner of Comfort Keeper of South Central Wisconsin. Rudolph has a Masters Degree in Health Care Administration, is Board Certified in Health Care Management, a Fellow in the American College of Health Care Executives(FACHE, is a Certified Senior Advisor (CSA) and a member of the Society of Certified Senior Advisors (SCSA).
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I was taken through the mansion which is decorated exactly like when the family lived there.
buildings on the land, including t.he old icehouse. After the hourlong tour, I was able to explore the rest of the grounds, which included fountains, an artesian well, a pond and a carriage house. The grounds also feature remnants of Fort Crawford, which occupied the land during the Civil War but moved to the mainland after it was learned that flooding plagued the area. After exploring, people may picnic on the Mississippi River or check out the old train depot that runs parallel to the river. The site also has several events including a Victorian Breakfast, where you can learn recipes of the era and cook on a wood-burning stove.
The old pioneer mining town Pendarvis is located inside Mineral Point and run by the Wisconsin Historical Society. It costs $10 to visit, but there is also a free trail through a prairie next to the village that features the Merry Christmas Mine, which mined zinc and iron ore in the late 18th and early 19th centuries. The trail is located off Shakerag Street in Mineral Point and has different points to stop at and read about in a self-guided tour book. There are also
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Finally, I took a two-and-a-half drive to Prairie du Chien on the banks of the Mississippi River and just before the border to Iowa. My destination was Villa Louis, an old Victorian mansion of Hercules Louis Dousman on the island of St. Feriole in Prairie du Chien. After paying the $10 tour fee, I was taken through an old office, the mansion which is decorated exactly like when the family lived there the servants quarters and other
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What: Kiki Schuelers House of Righteous Music Who: Independent musicians and fans Where: 1326 MacArthur Road, Madison Contact: Call (608) 358-9453, or email righteousmusicmgmt@ gmail.com Info: myspace.com/ houseofrighteousmusic
Singer Kelly Hogan and her band played Kikis in November and returned in March.
YF: It must be fun to be in the center of the whole thing and be the person whos making it all happen. Youre providing something for the artist, and youre providing something for the audiences because they dont usually get to see someone in that intimate a setting. Schueler: I get a little embarrassed by that. I mean, dont thank me. The performer is the one doing all the entertainment. Im happy to do it but Im not looking for any sort of attention for it. YF: Do you plan to continue doing this for the foreseeable future? Schueler: Absolutely. I have my own PA set up at this point, so Ive invested all this money in it and I cant imagine stopping. Every so often somebody will joke that I should move to a bigger house so Ill have more room. But thats not going to happen, either. YF: This is kind of the ideal set up for you, it sounds like. Schueler: It really is, and it allows me to have a real job with benefits and stuff like that. Its worked out better than I could have imagined.
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need to add your Google account to your phone. Both iPhones and Android phones and tablets allow you to add your Google account to your list of accounts that you synchronize with your device. You can choose what youd like to sync (calendar, e-mail, tasks, contacts, photos, etc.) and how often. If you choose to only use the calendar, thats fine; you can modify your choices at any time. So far, you have created a calendar, added events/activities to the calendar and set up synchronization of that calendar to your mobile phone. The next step is sharing your calendar with others. C lick Save.Once you click Save, the person you selected to share the calendar with will receive an email invitation to view your calendar. The person will need to click on the link contained in the email to add the calendar to his/her Other calendars list; the calendar will not be automatically added to the users Calendar account. You can also follow these steps to create specific shared calendars within your overall calendar so that you can share certain items. For example, you can have a family calendar and a work calendar and share each of them with the appropriate people. In addition, you can share your calendar with people who dont use Google calendar by sending them your calendar URL. I n the calendar list on the left, click the down-arrow next to a calendar and select Calendar settings. I n the Calendar Address section, click the HTML icon. Youll see a pop-up window with your calendars URL. S hare this URL with your friends who dont use Google Calendar. You can change the amount of information available on your calendars address by clicking the Change sharing settings link in the Calendar Address section. You may also be able to sync your work calendar with Google using Google sync. Once synchronized, you can share that calendar with others also. Nancy Kruschke McKinney, Certified Professional Organizer and Certified Productivity Coach, is the owner of Successful Organizing Solutions (S.O.S.). For more organizing tips, visit www.SOSorganize.net.
ne of my clients recently asked me this question on e-mail: With three kids at home and both parents working, our calendar has gotten complex. Do you have an approach (maybe an app) that you would recommend to coordinate calendars between my phone (iPhone) and my husbands phone (Android)? Coordinating calendars is a concern for many of my clients and seminar attendees. It somehow seemed easier when using paper calendars to keep on top of all that was happening. But technology today enables us to add activities to one calendar and easily share that information with others. There are several wonderful free online calendars and apps, but in this article I am going to focus on Google Calendar. My client found it helpful in keeping the whole family in the know.
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n Wisconsin, I have many clients who own a family vacation home Up North. In fact, within my own family, we have a lovely cabin in Vilas County where we spend many relaxing holiday weekends together. So I personally understand the importance of planning to ensure a treasured family cabin can remain within the family following the death of a parent or parents. Within a revocable living trust, a popular and very effective option is to create a separate Cabin Trust that will spring into existence upon the death of the trustor(s) (the person who creates the trust). The trust can direct that the family vacation home will then be distributed to this Cabin Trust along with a specified cash amount to provide for the upkeep and maintenance of the property, which should include, but
not be limited to, real estate taxes, insurance, improvements and general maintenance of the property for a certain period of time. The trust should also designate the beneficiaries (usually the trustors children) who may share in the use and enjoyment of the property. If a child dies, then his or her right to such use and enjoyment can pass to that childs descendants. In addition, the trust should name a trustee of the Cabin Trust who will be responsible for the general management of the property and trust funds. When the trust funds run out, the trust should provide that the adult beneficiaries of the trust will then become responsible for paying their fair share of the expenses. If a beneficiary fails to pay his or her share, then such beneficiary has lost his or her right to the use and enjoyment of the vacation home. Finally, the trust should designate the circumstances under which the vacation
home can be sold. Often, parents require either a majority or a unanimous consent among those children who have met their financial obligations before the property can be sold. Parents also often provide within the Cabin Trust that their children will have the first option to purchase the vacation home from the trust at a discounted price. Overall, a well-crafted Cabin Trust can be a wonderful tool to keep the vacation home in the family and to eliminate potential future family disputes. Attorneys Michelle T.L. Hernandez and Dera L. Johnsen-Tracy of Krueger and Hernandez SC are members of the American Academy of Estate Planning Attorneys and have extensive legal experience in the area of estate planning. The information provided in this article is not intended to serve as specific legal advice. Viewing this information does not constitute an attorney-client relationship.
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Aug. 28 Back to School Block Party, Fitchburg: kids activities, fitchburgchamber.com Aug. 30-31 State Cow Chip Throw, Prairie du Sac: Flying cow pies, music, parade, craft fair, wiscowchip.com Aug. 30-Sept. 1 Wilhelm Tell Festival New Glarus: Celebrating Swiss independence story with theater, art fair, lantern parade, camping, entertainment, swisstown.com River Rendezvous, Spirit Point, Baraboo: Re-enactment of pre-1840 fur trade era with kids games, adult contests, food, baraboo.com Fire and EMS Labor Day Celebration, Brooklyn: Food, music, card games, tractor pulls, barbecue, water fights, www.brooklynfireems.com Aug. 30-Sept. 2 Rock River Thresheree, Threshermans Park at Fulton Township, Edgerton: Parade of Power, rides on the Cannonball Train, steam engines, flea market, food and refreshments, thresheree.org Midwest Tandem Rally Couples on Wheels, Middleton: 1,000-plus riders expected, couplesonwheels.com Aug. 31-Sept. 1 Taste of Madison, Capitol Square: More than 60 local restaurants will sell food priced between $1 and $4. Also, 16 beverage stands and 4 entertainment stages, tasteofmadison.com Labor Fest, Janesville: teen mud volleyball, rock climbing walls, petting zoo, puppet show, co-ed volleyball, live music, beer garden, craft fair and bike show; plus Sept. 2 parade, janesvillecvb.com Labor Day celebration, Brooklyn: tractor and 4WD truck pull, tug-of-war, kids games, food and live music, fastpitch softball, kickball, brooklynfireems.com Sept. 1 Wright Stuff Century Ride, Mount Horeb: Scenic bicycle ride 30-100 miles, wrightstuffcentury.com Lights on the Lake, Lake Mendota, Madison: Boat parade, fireworks, lightsonthelakebydrake.com Lakefest, Belleview: river boat and pontoon rides, canoes, music and food, wildlife walking tours, photo contest, triathlon, bellevillelakefest.com Monona Founders Day Celebration, Aldo Leopold Nature Center, Monona: Enjoy free ice cream, hands-on pioneer activities, live music, naturalist hikes, food carts, ceramic demonstrations and much more, aldoleopoldnaturecenter.org Sept. 5-7 Quilt Expo, Alliant Energy Center, Madison: For pro and amateur quilters, this is an opportunity to learn and draw inspiration from quilting masters, wiquiltexpo.com. Sept. 5-Oct. 27 Once Upon a Mattress, Fireside Dinner Theatre, Fort Atkinson: performance of the beloved Broadway musical, www.firesidetheatre.com. Sept. 6 Color me Mad, Aldo Leopold Nature Center, Monona, the second annual Aldo after Dark event for adults features a glow dance party, colorful microbrews, bioluminescence experiments, etc, aldoleopoldnaturecenter.org
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Sept. 6-8 Sheep and Wool Festival, Jefferson Fair Park: Fiber arts classes, sheep and dog demonstrations and workshops, lambing barn, wisconsinsheepandwoolfestival.com Festival on the Rock, Beloit: Rides, live music, arts and crafts, kids entertainment, horseshoe tournament, food vendors, bingo, games, raffles, town.beloit.wi.us Wild West Days, Mazomanie: Tractor pull/tough truck competition, kids tractor pull, demolition derby, parade, music, food, mazowildwestdays.org Sept. 7 Fighting Bob Fest, Alliant Energy Center: Annual political event featuring progressive speakers and entertainment carries on tradition of Robert Fighting Bob LaFollette, fightingbobfest.org. Downtown Sun Prairie Art Fair, art, food, live entertainment, 10 a.m. to 4 p.m., downtownsunprairie.com Sun Prairie Blues Fest, Angell Park: Live blues music for 10 hours, spbluesfest.com Family Geocaching Adventure, Aldo Leopold Nature Center, Black Earth: Cache in on a day of fun as your hike and learn to use GPS to navigate your way to on a modern day treasure hunt, aldoleopoldnaturecenter.org Chilimania Edgerton: Chili Contest, Fun for the Whole Family, Live Music, Food & Refreshments, Public Chili and Salsa tasting, chilimania.com Sept. 7-8 Music fest, Mt. Olympus Resort, Wisconsin Dells: Music, food, rides, mtolympuspark.com JI Case and Implements festival, Argyle: hit and miss engines, corn shelling, antique vehicles, tractor pulls, market and craft fair, (608) 482-1003 Sacred Hearts Fall Festival, Sacred Hearts Catholic Church, Sun Prairie: food and musical entertainment Sept. 8 Ironman Wisconsin Triathlon, downtown Madison and surrounding areas: Cheer on more than 2,000 athletes as they swim, bike and run. Swimming begins at 7 a.m. at Monona Terrace and the finish line is near Capitol Square, ironmanwisconsin.com Sept. 12 Wine walk, Middleton: downtownmiddleton.com Sept. 14 Taste of Fitchburg: Fitchburg, food vendors, silent auction, live music, facebook.com/TasteOfFitchburg Sept. 12-14 Oktoberfest, Essen Haus, Madison: Food and drinks highlight the fest, but lots of free activities and games for kids all day, essen-haus.com. Sept. 13-14 American Heroes Music Festival, Swan City Park, Beaver Dam, beaverdamchamber.com Sept. 13-15 Gemuetlichkeit Days: German festival with food, parade and music, dancing, arts and crafts fair; Jefferson; www.gdays.org Green County Cheese Days, Courthouse Square, Monroe: Festival includes yodeling, polka, tours, cow-milking contest, parade, cheesedays.com Wo Zha Wa Days Fall Fest, Wisconsin Dells: Autumn celebration includes arts and crafts, live entertainment, parade, street carnival, fun run, wisdells.com Sept. 14 Thirsty Troll Brew Fest, Grundahl Park, Mount Horeb: trollway.com Schuetzen Fest, New Glarus: Variety of shooting contests, CANCELED ngschuetzenfest.com Taste of Fitchburg, McKee Farms Park: fundraiser benefits child care organization, 4-c.org Southwest Wisconsin Book Festival, Mineral Point: swwibookfestival.com
Mexican and Centroamerican Independence Festival, Warner Park, Madison: Celebrate the anniversary of Mexican and Central American independence with food, dances and kids activities, festival.madisonlatino.com. Run Back to the 80s, Vilas Park, Madison: 5K theme run ends with an 80s theme party, proceeds go to Girls on the Run, runbacktothe80s.com Yahara Riverfest, Conservancy Place, DeForest: Family activities showcase the festival, including an eco walk, catfish relay run through the river, geocaching, Sunset Trail tour, live music and kids games, yaharariverfest.com Arts and Sparks in the Park, Ralph Park, Fort Atkinson: Welding rodeo and fine arts fair, fortartscouncil.org Sept. 14-15 Maple Fall Fest, Marshfield: See how maple syrup is made and take some home, syrup and dessert contests, craft fair, visitmarshfieldwi.com Sept. 14-Oct. 31 Autumn Adventures, Busy Barns Adventure Farm, Fort Atkinson: animals, antique tractors, puppet show, slides, swings, corn maze, pumpkins, busybarnsfarm.com Sept. 19 Grape Expectations, Halversons Supper Club, Stoughton: Taste seven different menu items each paired with a special beer or wine. $50, stoughtonwi.com Sept. 19-21 Madison World Music Festival, Madison: World musicians play at UW-Madison venues and at Willy Street Fair; all shows, workshops and lectures are free, uniontheater.wisc.edu. Sept. 20-22 Wauktoberfest, Endres Manufacturing Grounds, Wauankee: Octoberfest featuring German food, beer tastings, food contests, a kids biathlon, wauktoberfest.com Sept. 21-22 St. Ann Fall Festival, St. Ann Church, Stoughton: crafts, games, auction, rides, food and beverages and 5K run/walk, stannparish.4lpi.com Sept. 27-29 Car Show, Jefferson County Fair Park, Jefferson: more than 3,100 vendor stalls and 1,200 cars for sale, jeffersonswapmeet.com Sept. 21 Taste of Cross Plains: Samples of food plus kids boat regatta, fly fishing, guided hike, bike tour, crossplainschamber.net REAP Food for Thought Festival, Martin Luther King Jr. Blvd., Madison: Cooking demos, kids events and guest speakers focus on how to eat pleasurably and sustainably, reapfoodgroup.org. Festival of the Mounds, Mounds View Park, Blue Mounds: Games, food, music, parade, raffle, bluemoundswi.govoffice2.com Sept. 21-22 Willy Street Fair, Williamson Street, Madison: Six music stages, street performances, foods and drinks from across the globe, arts and crafts, a legendary parade, a community raffle and a kids stage, www.cwd.org. 14 South Artists Tour, Oregon, Evansville: visual artists open studios to the public for viewing and sales, 14southartists.com Sept. 22 Autumn on the Marsh, Discher Park, Horicon: Fine arts and crafts show, horiconchamber.com Sept. 26-29 Wisconsin Science Festival, various locations, Madison: interactive exhibits, workshops and lectures appealing to curious scientists of any age, wisconsinsciencefest.org Sept.27-29 Midwest Cornish Festival, Mineral Point: Historic tours, demonstrations, ethnic food, music, movies, entertainment, cornishfest.org Oktoberfest, New Glarus: Music, games, rides, food, tractor-drawn wagon rides, historical displays and events, www.swisstown.com
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Cranberry Festival, Warrens: About 10,000 take part in worlds largest, with food, shopping, education, tours, parade, cranfest.com McFarland Family Festival, McFarland High School: Carnival, parade, food, beverages and family-friendly entertainment, mcfarlandfamilyfestival.org Sept. 28 Kilby Supper, Swiss United Church, New Glarus: Visitors get a taste of community life at this gathering to welcome church members back from their summer of farming in the Alps, swisstown.com Monroe Street Festival, Madison: annual street sale with family-friendly entertainment, monroestreetfestival.com Stoughton Inclusive Dream Park Dreamfest, Stoughton: Walk, Run and Roll, Inflatables, games, rides and more, stoughtondreampark.org Sept. 29 Autumnfest, Broadhead: Chili contest, music, farmers market, sidewalk sales, kids activities, cityofbrodheadwi.us Henry Vilas Zoo Run, Madison: Seventh annual run features a 5K and 10K run, with proceeds going to renovate the zoo, vilaszoo.org Oct. 4 Gallery Night, Madison: Museums, galleries and businesses throughout the city treat visitors to receptions, tours, demonstrations and more, mmoca.org Oct. 5 Autumn Fest, Jefferson: Horse-drawn wagon rides, street vendors, shopping, fall colors along the scenic Rock River, balloon artists, face painters, caricaturists, jeffersonchamberwi.com Fall festival, Albany: music, entertainment, craft fair, kids tractor pull, albany-chamber.org Fall fest, Brooklyn: Crafters, bake sale, kids 4H free craft table, brooklynwisconsin.com Oct. 5-6 Fall Heritage Festival, Mount Horeb: Life-sized mythical creatures line streets as activities include quilt show, buggy rides, antique tractor show and Host Frokost, an authentic Norwegian fall breakfast, trollway.com Hmong Fall Festival, Madison Childrens Museum: A bounty of Hmong cuisine, games and culture, madisonchildrensmuseum.org Oct. 6 Fire Department open house, Fire station 1, Fitchburg: vehicles, refreshments, staff, fitchburgchamber.com Fall festival of color, Lake Mills: An outdoor fall festival with arts & crafts, produce, kid events and food vendors, lakemills.org Oct. 11-12 Lorine Niedecker Wisconsin Poetry Festival, Fort Atkinson: Workshops, speakers, open poetry readings, round tables, landmark tours and the infamous writers cafe in honor of the late poet, lorineniedecker.org Oct. 11-13 UW-Madison homecoming weekend, Madison: The university hosts barge races, trivia night, parades and more leading up to Oct. 27 game against Northwestern. Oct. 12-13 Gathering of Rogues and Ruffians, Wilhelm Tell grounds, New Glarus: Variety of performers, artisans dressed in period garagatheringofroguesandruffians.com Lorine Niedecker Wisconsin Poetry Festival, Fort Atkinson: Workshops, speakers, open poetry readings, and tours in honor of the late poet, lorineniedecker.org Oct. 13 Harvest Fest, Swiss Historical Village, New Glarus: Old-time artisan demonstrations of cheesemaking, sausage, blacksmithing, swisshistoricalvillage.com River Bash, Spring Green: Watch fall colors on the river with music, snacks, beverages, wisconsinrivers.org Oct. 17-20 Wisconsin Book Festival, Madison: Readings, lectures, book discussions, writing workshops, live interviews, childrens events, wisconsinbookfestival.org. Oct. 19 Candlelight Hike, Lake Kegonsa State Park: Take a hike along the White Oak Nature Trail, and be dazzled by the hundreds of glowing luminaries. 873-9695 Oct. 19-20 Autumn Harvest Festival, Wisconsin Dells: Hayrides, music, entertainment, pumpkin decoration, dells.com Oct. 24 Operation Migration Vacation Day (ages 5-12), Aldo Leopold Nature Center, Monona: Spend the day off of school learning about animal migration with hands-on hikes, crafts and more, aldoleopoldnaturecenter.org Oct. 25 Tree-mendous Vacation Day (ages 5-12) , Aldo Leopold Nature Center, Monona: Join us for a tree-mendous adventure learning all about trees, aldoleopoldnaturecenter.org Fall Fest Members Event, Aldo Leopold Nature Center, Monona: Explore the bone yard, search for hidden creatures of the night, enjoy a hoot and howl around the Science On a Sphere Moon and more, aldoleopoldnaturecenter.org Oct. 25-27 Norwegian Destination Weekend, Stoughton: Norwegian brunch, Grieg Chorus concert, Norwegian Dancer performance, mini-workshops, classes, rosemaling show, stoughtonwi.com Oct. 26 Oregon Firefighter/EMS Craft Fair, Oregon Middle School, Oregon: arts and crafts on sale to benefit fire district, oregonareafireems.org UFO Day, Belleville: UFO-themed parade, costume contest, craft fair, kids activities, belleville-wi.com Great Halloween Hunt, Fitchburg Public Library: Games, crafts, treats, city.fitchburg.wi.us Oct. 27 Halloween at the Zoo, Vilas Zoo, Madison: A celebration that includes free trick-or-treating, a fun house and music, vilaszoo.org Native American Artifact Show, Monticello: monticello-wi.com Oct. 31-Dec. 22 A Fireside Christmas, Fireside Dinner Theatre, Fort Atkinson: a medley of joyous holiday music, firesidetheatre.com Nov. 1-2 Wisconsin Original Cheese Festival, Monona Terrace and tours, Madison: Meet dozens of cheesemakers, tour cheese plants and sample farmstead, artisan and specialty cheeses, wisconsincheeseoriginals.com Nov. 1-3 Holiday Market, Alliant Energy Center: Over 100 merchants offer holiday items including home decor, gourmet food, apparel, accessories, toys, jewelry, art, madisonholidaymarket.com Nov. 9 Brooklyn Area Historical Society Open House: vintage photography, artifacts, appraisals, greencounty.org Holiday Parade and Chili Cook-off, downtown Main Street, Fort Atkinson: lighted parade, chili sampling and Santa, fortchamber.com Nov. 10 Wonderfest Arts & Crafts Expo, Beloit: 31st annual arts and crafts benefit, with bake shoppe and lunch menu Nov. 15 Marvelous Mushrooms & The Forest Floor Vacation Day (ages 5-12), Aldo Leopold Nature Center, Monona: Spend the day off of school learning about the fungus amongus and natures recyclers that live on the forest floor, aldoleopoldnaturecenter.org Nov. 16 Families on the Frontier, Aldo Leopold Nature Center, Monona: Celebrate fall and the harvest season by going back in time to pioneer-times, aldoleopoldnaturecenter.org Nov. 22 Holiday Light Parade and tree lighting, Sauk City: Homemade and professional floats, choir, bands, dancers, saukprairie.com Nov. 22-24 Holiday Art Fair, Madison Museum of Contemporary Art, Madison: Works in jewelry, ceramics, woodwork, fiber, wearables, glass, and holiday decorations, mmoca.org Nov. 23 Holiday Craft Fair, St. Albert the Great Parish, Sun Prairie: crafters, sweet shop, bake sale, raffle drawing and door prizes, saintalberts.org Nov. 24 Christmas in the Country, Lake Geneva: fireworks, Christmas lights, holiday show and displays, gingerbread house contests, breakfast with Santa, lakegenevawi.com Nov. 28 Berbee Derby Thanksgiving Day run, Fitchburg: 5K and 10K run/walk, fitchburgchamber.com Nov. 29 Holiday Fire Truck Parade, Main Street, Sun Prairie: downtownsunprairie.com Nov. 30 Holiday Pops Concert, Middleton: wcoconcerts.org Dec. 1-31 Holiday Express, Olbrich Gardens, Madison: Model train sets zip through miniature landscapes lined with hundreds of poinsettias, olbrich.org Dec. 6 Hometown Holidays, Verona: Tree lighting, chili supper, Santa on firetruck, veronawi.com Dec. 6 - 8 Victorian Holiday Weekend, Stoughton: Holiday concerts, carriage rides, parades, shopping, events for the kids, performance of the Nutcracker Suite, arts & crafts fair and more, victorianholidayweekend.com Dec. 7 Parade of Lights, Jefferson: Annual event features holiday floats, marching bands, music and fun. Caroling and refreshments after the parade, jctourism.com Dec. 14 Holiday Party, Fitchburg Community Center: Santa, crafts, games, food, fitchburgchamber.com Dec. 15 Frozen Fun Wonder Weekend, Aldo Leopold Nature Center, Monona: Virtually immerse yourself in space and enjoy an out of this world experience with exhibits, presentations and more, aldoleopoldnaturecenter.org Dec. 20 Winter Solstice Celebration, Aldo Leopold Nature Center, Monona: Enjoy guided twilight hikes, a roaring bonfire, crafts for the kids and more, aldoleopoldnaturecenter.org If you know of an event that should be in this calendar, e-mail yourfamily@wcinet.com
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