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Table of Contents
Chapter 1 .................................................................................................................................. 1 Welcome To Animal Orgasms! ................................................................................... 1 The Cheat-proof, Real-life, Sizzling Love Life ........................................................... 2 Who Am I, And Why Should You Listen To ME? ..................................................... 2 And You CAN Become a Sex God ............................................................................. 4 ...Even If You're A Virgin ........................................................................................... 5 ...Even If You Have No Clue ...................................................................................... 7 ...Even If Youre Small, or Have A Small Bank Account. .................................... 10 Get Women Sexually Addicted to You! .................................................................... 12 Chapter 2 ................................................................................................................................ 13 The Five Types of Loser Lovers............................................................................. 13 1) The "Two-Pump Chump" ...................................................................................... 13 2) The NO Pump Chump ....................................................................................... 14 3) The Robot .......................................................................................................... 14 4) The Follower....................................................................................................... 15 5) The Guru" ............................................................................................................ 16 Chapter 3 ................................................................................................................................ 18 The 4 Sure Signs That You're On the Right Track..................................................... 18 Sign #1 - She Can't Leave You Alone ....................................................................... 19 Sign #2 - She Does Leave you Alone ........................................................................ 20 Chapter 4 ................................................................................................................................ 22 The Six Mindsets of the Sexual Alpha Man .............................................................. 22 Mindset 1: I Will Be Great in Bed! ........................................................................... 22 Mindset 2: I Will Give Women Overwhelming Orgasms. ........................................ 23 Mindset 3: Fear and Shame Will Not Stand in My Way. .......................................... 23 Mindset 4: Getting Help Doesnt Make Me Less of a Man ...................................... 25 Mindset 5: She Needs Sex Even More than Me......................................................... 27 Mindset 6: I Can Get This Handled - NOW .............................................................. 29 Chapter 5 ................................................................................................................................ 30 The P.A.V.E System for COMPLETE SEXUAL PLEASURE................................. 30 1. PRESENCE ........................................................................................................... 30 2. AUTHORITY ........................................................................................................ 33 -Talk Dirty.................................................................................................................. 34 -Get ROUGH ............................................................................................................ 34 -Be Possessive ........................................................................................................... 35

3. VARIETY .............................................................................................................. 36 4. EMOTION ............................................................................................................. 38 Chapter 6 ................................................................................................................................ 42 Proof Women Want It: Read Hot Fantasies - Written by Women!............................ 42 Fantasy 1: I Want You Right Now! ........................................................................... 42 Fantasy 2: You Caught Me! Not So Innocent Now... ................................................ 47 Chapter 7 ................................................................................................................................ 55 Common Problems And How To Fix Them!............................................................. 55 How To Get HARD (Without Pills) .......................................................................... 55 1. Stop TRYING so hard to get hard ......................................................................... 55 2. Practice 10 count breathing when not having sex then use it when you are ..... 56 3. More foreplay ........................................................................................................ 57 In Addition ............................................................................................................ 57 How To Last Longer.................................................................................................. 58 How To Give Her An Orgasm ................................................................................... 62 How To Get Her To Pursue YOU For Sex! .............................................................. 66 What To Do If Youre Inexperienced ....................................................................... 66 A Warning About Pornography ................................................................................ 67 Chapter 8 ................................................................................................................................ 68 Does Size REALLY Matter? ..................................................................................... 68 She is More Worried About Her Body Than Yours! ................................................. 68 About Pills, Supplements and Penis Pumps .............................................................. 69 It May Just Be in Your Head ..................................................................................... 70 Relax and Enjoy - It isn't all Hard Work! .................................................................. 70 Classy, Sassy, Conservative, Shy...Works for Every Woman! ................................. 71 Chapter 9 ................................................................................................................................ 73 Getting Started is Easy............................................................................................... 73 The Not Fun But Important Stuff: Contraceptives & STDs .................................. 73 STDs other than HIV: ................................................................................................ 77 What Kind of Condoms Are Best: ............................................................................. 77 When The Condom Breaks: ...................................................................................... 78 Don't Wait. Implement What Youve Learned ASAP! ............................................. 79

Chapter 1

Welcome To Incredible Sex Now!

Im very excited that you have made the choice to become great in bed! Before we learn and master the material thats going to completely change you and your lovers sex life forever, lets talk about relationships and sex for a second. The facts dont lie! Millions of guys are having problems satisfying their women sexually, and its creating horrendous relationship problems like cheating, divorce, and its all because you are having terrible sex. Ever felt like things would be better for you AND your relationship if you got laid more often or that maybe once you wouldnt have to try so hard to convince a woman to sleep with you OR maybe just maybe the woman, FOR ONCE, was begging to have sex with you??. This is why you are reading this book to change all this! The statistics are alarming, but YOU can now live without that FEAR this is the new testament to an incredible sex life. All the solutions you need are here in the coming pages. Lets take a quick peek at the alarming stats: 51 percent of all marriages, in which the brides are 25 years or older result in a failed marriage, and thats from the National Center for Health Statistics. Also, 70 percent of married women and 54 percent of married men dont know of their spouses extramarital activity. So that means that out of the millions of people who are having affairs, 54 percent of married men werent aware that their wives were cheating. Awful!

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The Cheat-proof, Real-life, Sizzling Love Life

So why are women cheating? Dont they love you? Or are they just nasty, unappreciative people? A guys doesnt want to come home from a long day at work and see his girlfriend or wife, and not know where her lips have been. Women wont tell you this, but the number one reason that they cheat is because they are not sexually satisfied in bed. As you keep reading youll learn that it has nothing to do with how much money you make, what car you drive, or if you take out the trash; once you satisfy the primal urges that women really have, she will be yours for life.

Who Am I, And Why Should You Listen To ME?

Hopefully you've never heard of me, as Ive tried to keep my life private. I'm not a celebrity, Im not an athlete, Im not even a millionaire. I'm a regular guy who got pissed off at myself for not being able to satisfy women. I stopped blaming every girl that wasnt satisfied and started doing something about it. The first time I had sex I was 22, and I was so excited that I lasted less than a minute. Luckily, I did end up being able to last a bit longer but struggled for over 10 years with not being able to give women orgasms. I selfishly thought that it was rare for a girl to have an orgasm and even got to the point that I didnt care! Inevitably my relationships, no matter how much I liked her, would come crashing to a passionless halt. My lowest point though, was when I caught my then fiance having sex with a guy she worked with! I confronted her visibly teary-eyed, and yelled at her how she could do something like that to me. She was blunt, and blurted out that it was because I wasnt man enough and
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couldnt satisfy her needs! I was so devastated that I couldn't date seriously again for 3 years. When I did get back in the game, I dedicated myself to getting this area of my life straightened out. I read hundreds of books, watched all of the how-to videos tried everything that I could get my hands on. Most of the stuff I read was so ridiculous and unrealistic though and revolved around faked interactions, and the use of expensive pills and supplements. Remember that infomercial with the guy Bob who couldnt stop smiling? Who knows what the side-effects were from his long lasting hard-on! But over time, what happened was that through my own experimentation, I became able to make women orgasm continuously II'm talking orgasm EVERY TIME and MULTIPLE TIMES. I could get hard and last 45 minutes, EVERY TIME. In the beginning I was too timid to try some things, but as I saw how it made women literally start shaking and moaning, I got more confidence (one women broke my bed because she was losing control while I was doing her!). Now, I still have my day job as a business consultant, but I spend my free time teaching men how to become sex gods in bed. Once you "get itit clicks and it changes everything!

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And You CAN Become a Sex God

You are about to become so good in bed that women become sexually addicted to you. They never nag and best of all THEY NEVER CHEAT. When you are satisfied you dont crave more. If you sleep with your girl and give her the best sex ever in the morning before she goes to work, filled with guys that are hitting on her or trying to seduce her, she doesnt even have the temptation. I want you to have a great sex life like I do now, because as a man, what is more important than being able to satisfy a woman? After you read this book, you will feel so confident about your skills in bed that you will not be paranoid or insecure about your lover, girlfriend, or wife leaving you for some other guy with more money, better looks, and better sexual skills than you. Most

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guys dont know what Im about to tell you and only a hand picked clan of a few women, so take a deep breath, turn off your email and phone, and lets get started! Im not a crazy magician or even a good pick up artist. I havent always been good in bed or good with women. In fact, I used to last under a minute in bed and couldnt maintain a relationship because woman would not return my phone calls and never wanted to have sex with me. One woman told me that I didnt satisfy her like a real man (that sucked). Youll see very soon how I became GREAT in bed but I want you to understand why Im revealing this sex knowledge and how I got into this whole thing.

...Even If You're A Virgin

My sexual development with women was later than the average guy. I didnt kiss a girl until I was 20 and as I mentioned earlier, I didnt lose my virginity until I was 22. I struggled dating and always felt nervous around women and found myself trying to say and do things that would win them over and get them to like me.. I have to tell you the story of losing my virginity it really sums up where I was at. Please dont laugh; Im not proud of this. Actually, laugh all you want, its funny. I lost my virginity when my Brazilian college roommate invited me down to Brazil for a vacation. I was a complete loser, had never kissed a girl, and he knew this. He was like, Come to Brazil, anyone can have sex in Brazil! So I scrapped together some cash, flew to Brazil but my conversations with the women were going terribly.
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Then after going out for 5 nights in a row down there, the most Id ever gone out, I met this girl who barely spoke English. Somehow she liked me. Im convinced the only reason that she had liked me was because she thought I was a rich American. I was really only a poor college student, but what did she know, we couldnt even communicate! After a few drinks we headed back to my hotel room. I was rock hard just knowing that I might finally have sex. I was worried that I would cum as soon as she touched me. In the hotel room, Im thinking in my head Please dont touch me yet. Please dont. Im thinking, Calm.. calm.. Math.. Algebra, anything to distract myself..ARGH! ..God, her tits are great! As I sat down on the bed awkwardly, I had no idea what was happening but I followed her lead and we both began getting undressed. Once I was naked, I put the much-toobig Brazilian condom (monsters down there) on and nearly came right then from the excitement. While Im fumbling with the loose condom shes lying on her back looking up at me with expectant blue eyes. Meanwhile, I was so nervous that my hands were sweating. After fumbling around trying to figure out where to put myself for 3 or 4 minutes, I finally made it into the promise land. It felt so good. So THIS was it! Haha. I was so tense that after I pumped 3 times, I came! I panicked and had no idea what to do so I

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just kept pumping away. The more I pumped and tried to get hard again, the softer and softer I got! After a few seconds of that she started laughing, said something in Portuguese, and pushed me off of her. My last memory of her was seeing her close the hotel room door loudly a few minutes later as I sat on the edge of the bed, beating it frantically trying to get hard again. I was shocked that everyone talked about how great sex was. It sucked! I was all alone in a hotel in Brazil, and feeling like a small, pathetic little boy.

...Even If You Have No Clue

This is NOT a sob story though; I just want you to know how bad I was. It has a happy ending!

I knew that this was an area of my life that I needed to get a handle on, but I had no idea what to do about it. And for a long time I was in denial. Id watch online porn and Id see guys doing crazy things like flipping girls over to get oral while they went down on them, and then going to town on her while she extended one leg up to the sky like a gymnast. It wasnt that they were so huge, even though it definitely played a part in my mind, but it was that theyd last forever. They could do those moves and there was no fear of losing it. They had complete control of pleasing these women. And they werent having sex slowly; they were going fast and aggressively, making the girls scream with pleasure.

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I didnt know how these guys could do it; I had absolutely no control over when I came. The first times Id had sex I got really hard and couldnt last, cumming immediately. And the second time I had sex, I couldnt get hard at all. So either way, I looked down at my penis and I was not happy. I was like, What is wrong with you,pal?! It sounds comical, but Im guessing that you know what Im talking about because all my guy friends say, Yeah, I remember that. Thats what happened my first time. But for them, their first time was at 16, and I was at 23, struggling with this issue! So its one thing to get this part of your life handled when your 15, 16, 17 years old like a normal guy, but when you wait longer, this really makes you feel depressed about being just plain bad in bed. So to try and turn my sex life around, I started reading every single book that I could about sex, and I figured Id do trial and error until something works. Im going to take all the stuff that Ive learned from all these books, videos, seminars, and make as many mistakes as possible and then correct them until I got it right. I knew that I had to do whatever it took and I had to invest in skilltraining to learn this area of life. It was the same as when I was in college learning how to do computer-programming; I had to learn how to do it. It wasnt one of those things you were born with. After three years of wild experimentation, I got to the point where even though I couldnt last very long, instead of just immediately putting myself inside the girl, I would kiss her for a while. I would massage her breasts and Id squeeze her ass. Id do

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all sorts of other stuff, but I didnt get to the point where I could actually have sex with her with any type of stamina. Finally, when I started reading books on psychology and focusing a lot more on the emotional side of sex, thats when I actually GOT GOOD with women. I quickly started getting to the point where I could consistently give her orgasms over and over. From dirty-talk to just the sound of my voice, learning where her trigger spots were, through to penetration where I was able to last as long as I wanted every time 40, 50 minutes even an hour. Id last so long that sometimes shed even moan, Oh goddd.. Im not going to be able to walk tomorrow! It was like I was in complete control of my body and how the girl felt emotionally and physically, EVERY SINGLE TIME! I got really good by basically practicing on a girl I was friends with who wasnt that hot (I hope she isnt reading this!) but she seemed to want to have sex. We did wild things in public but then she moved away and I thought, oh great the one girl I was getting good with skips town! But now were friends because she still really wants me to have sex with her. No question I was the best sex that shes ever had! For me though, I wanted to have sex with other girls and do more shall we say hands-on field study. So I moved on and started dating other girls. Most importantly though, regardless of the girl I ended up with, I wanted to make sure that I was satisfying them completely when I was in a relationship with them. I had finally shed some past feelings of humiliation and insecurity about my performance, but having sex with a hot girl was different for me and for the first time I
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was ready to meet the challenge. These girls started to love it. Theyd literally say I LOVE having getting it on with you! I almost couldnt believe my eyes and ears. They would want to have sex with me all the time and I felt like I was a sex god.

...Even If Youre Small, or Have A Small Bank Account.

So These hotter girls would want to come over and after wed had sex a few times Id be like, Hey, lets go out for a fancy dinner. Here, I bought you a necklace, Id try and show them how special they were. But something started to happen. They wouldnt be interested in dinner. Sure, theyd take the necklace, but they didnt seem satisfied. Id hear I want to take a nap, which would be a code-word for lets just go into your bedroom and have sex. Or theyd be like Oh, I need a hug, which was always a code word for hugging me and then theyd start grabbing me and rubbing me, practically tearing my clothes off. This could not be my life! I'm far from huge and Im not greatlooking or rich or even funny. But I now had something that most other guys dont have. I was beginning to find out there was a system for making women sexually addicted to me, something that seemed to work with every girl, every time. I started getting it on with more girls and my skills got much better. I was having sex whenever I wanted, getting text messages from girls I was sleeping with, phone calls from other girls when I was with each girlfriend. It was getting out of hand. I had to do
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something with this power I had developed. I decided to take up sharing my tips as a hobby. I wanted to make this amazing information I had personally learned available to guys like me, who have given up and faced rejection, humiliation, and had either been dumped or had relationships and marriages fail because of a bad sex life. So I figured I would put together a system for how to have great sex with women. How to give women the best sex of their life. It changed who I am. I feel like I now have this power to give any woman an orgasm and never have to worry about getting it up or busting too quick. I walk around with a new feeling of confidence I never had. No more depression and feeling inadequate in bed. No more not feeling like a man. I dont want guys feeling this pain. Youre here because of sex. Its what we think about all day long. Its what Im thinking about at this caf Im writing in while a really hot blond girl is reading some lame fantasy novel. If she only knew! More importantly, after you mess around and get to the point you want a more serious relationship that lasts, youre going to have to last. It only makes sense and if you can last longer, she will want you more and more, and you will get the sex youve always wanted, more and more. And if you cant give a woman good sex, shes not going to want to have children with you, shes not going to treat you well, and shes going to be looking for other options. Chris Rock once joked, A man is only as faithful as his options. Well thats definitely true but the same goes for women. You dont think they get hit on and asked out every day of their life?

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Get Women Sexually Addicted to You!

What youre going to get out of this book and out of anything that I ever share with you, just make sure it stays between us, is that youre going to get the ability to give a woman as many orgasms as you want, to where shes always begging you for sex instead of you chasing her for sex. Have you ever tried to convince your girl to have sex with you? Is that what you want? I sure dont want that for you. Youre going to be able to have unlimited stamina, last as long as you want, and get hard at any time at the drop of a hat. None of this is out of your grasp when you know what youre doing. These problems youre having, problems I used to have, these are the problems of an inexperienced lover. You dont need to have sex with 5, 10 or 50 girls to be experienced. When youre actually experienced and youve studied my method, youll know the psychology in whats actually going on during sex, and then all of these things which seemed so out of reach are actually really, really easy for you.

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Chapter 2

The Six Types of Loser Lovers

Learning what women DON'T want in bed is the first step towards doing what they DO want. So to get started, I'd like to share with you the 6 types of loser lovers that all women secretly HATE. Often guys are a combination of some of these performer-types, so really think carefully, Is this ever me? Be honest with yourself, I have been EVERY one of these and turned it around. So can you!

1) The "Two-Pump Chump"

The most common problem men have with women is that they just dont last the required time to give women deep, full-body orgasms. This affects nearly EVERY guy Ive ever worked with, so dont feel alone! Think of the analogy that women are like cars. You cant turn your car on in the middle of the winter and start driving really fast immediately. You have to warm it upand get it ready for the faster speeds. Women are the same way. If youre not lasting AT LEAST 10 minutes she is probably not going to orgasm and may even fake it. The good news is that stamina is a not a difficult problem to fix. We will address that in a moment.

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2) The NO Pump Chump

The situation many guys find themselves in is that when the time comes, they cant get hard. And what REALLY sucks about this situation is that usually the harder you TRY to get hard, the limper you become! But don't worry, we're going to talk about how to conquer this as well.

3) The Robot
The next reason why a lot of guys suck in bed is that they are emotionless. And women can tell! Women thrive on emotion, in the bedroom and outside it. Many guys are like an assembly-line robot. They are thinking of Touch this, now touch that, keep a straight facebeep beep beep! Women are constantly talking about how they feel and how a guy makes them feel. If you are unable to make a women feel strong emotion (other than nagging you !) it is very difficult to please her.

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4) The Follower

Guys who dont show they are in charge look weaker, not confident and slightly feminine. The sex will be less exciting and she wont think youre a real man. Does this feel ok? Once or twice is good, but it kills the moment! Women are looking to be led in bed. Show her you know what you want. Show her how much you want her. They want you to be in charge. It doesnt matter what they act like outside the bedroom. When you are passive and unsure of yourself, it radiates deep in the core of her femininity and shuts down her attraction for you. Obviously, at some times the emotional, romantic sex is good because you let down your guard and she can see a sensitive side of you and you dont have to be dominant while feeling emotional but other than that, its important that you be the one leading the sexual

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interaction. I noticed this a lot in my own life when I was starting to have more sex. I thought that doggy-style might be demeaning and that maybe my lover wouldnt feel good about doing it. Then when I started experimenting and asking women what their favorite position was, almost every woman said doggy-style. They loved it when I did them really hard and even spanked them! When you take an authoritative position with a woman, you will often find that this is when they get the most turned on.

6) The Guru"
Last is what I call the wanna-be sex-guru, and the sex guru has read all these magazines and books and theyre all based on the physical, theyre not based on feelings. So the sex guru thinks if I move the clitoris in this direction or I squeeze her breasts in this way, or I flip her at this angle and I touch this body part right here and I say this in this weird hypnotic way, shell be sexually pleased. Theyre always trying to do something weird because they think theyre this guru that knows these crazy tricks when in reality they dont really know anything... and their girl gets really turned off because she thinks What is this guy doing? Hes trying so hard, he thinks he is this guru and hes doing all sorts of weird, crazy shit, and none of it is attractive because he just looks like a dork.

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So if you think that youre any of these, and everyone is one of them at times Ive been all of them youve really got to examine what youre doing wrong and then well adjust to the right way of doing things. To Sum Up: Now you know what women DON'T want in bed. Of course, they will never tell you if you are one of these guys to your face, but when no one is around and they talk with their girlfriends, this is what comes out. But fortunately, it's easy to transform yourself into the type of guy who drives women CRAZY in bed... so now let's talk about how to do that!

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Chapter 3

The 4 Sure Signs That You're On the Right Track

When women are sexually satisfied they act completely different. There is no nagging, no complaining about you sitting on the couch too much, and there is a closeness and appreciation that they exhibit towards you. I remember when I was a poor lover Id always want to see my girlfriend. But invariably she would have something else to do and I felt like I wasnt important enough or was acting needy. Then, at the times that I did see her I would try and have sex with her but she would make up excuses. If I had a penny for every time I heard that she was tired, had a headache, or was stressed and not in the mood, Id be a very rich man today! In reality, looking back on it, whats sad is that she DID WANT to have sex, just not with me, because I couldnt satisfy her. It was so painful to admit that to myself, but I had to face the truth. Think about when youre in public and you see a woman that is draped all over her man. She is sitting on his lap, or kissing him, or always trying to hold his hand. Its because he is sexually satisfying her and this causes the highest level of female attraction. Sexually attraction far outweighs money, looks, charm, or even social status. Now lets get into the visible signs that youre going to see when youre sexually satisfying her.

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Sign #1 - She Can't Leave You Alone

When a woman initiates sex with you it means that you are fulfilling her sexually. Unlike many men, most women do not have sex just to have sex. They have to be able to orgasm or at least feel very strong emotions. When a woman is initiating sex with you, you know that she is enjoying it and wants more. The more that she initiates sex, the more she is sexually fulfilled by you. Take note however, that there are some women who for psychological reasons are not comfortable initiating sex, so in this case, if they ACCEPT when you initiate sex, that is the same thing. Note also that in some cultures the women do not initiate sex for cultural reasons, so if you have a foreign lover or girlfriend that may be the case as well, so read her reaction when YOU initiated sex. You need to realize that women initiate sex very differently than guys. Many guys will start groping a woman and kissing her in an attempt to turn her on! (I certainly tried this). Also many guys will bring up the topic of sex and basically ask their women if
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she wants to have sex right now or that night. When women initiate sex they usually do it very subtly. They will say things like, Lets take a nap, I need a hug, I need a massage, or Lets watch a movie. If you are hearing things like this, chances are that she is initiating sex. Just stay calm, and dont try and skip that step. In her head she is seeing this as the PRECURSOR to sex, and if you try and skip the nap or the hug, the sex wont happen. She doesnt want to seem like a slut or sex-crazed, so she tends to subconsciously trick herself and hide what she really wants! So dont put the cart before the horse!

Sign #2 - She Does Leave you Alone

Another way you will know when your girl is sexually satisfied is when her behavior changes outside the bedroom. Many guys tell me that they are rarely having sex with their wives and cant get her to have sex. When I ask how she is treating him outside the bedroom the answers are almost always universally not positive. They complain of things like:
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 I m always getting nagged to do chores. She tells me that I watch too much TV. She says that I dont make enough money.

When you are completely satisfying a woman sexually these issues resolve themselves very quickly. They often completely disappear because the unhappiness concerning sex with you is the CAUSE of their problems. Poor sex manifests itself in all of these problems. Sign #3 - The Proof is in the Orgasm Later in the book you will learn about what an Overwhelming Orgasm is and how to give it to her. When a woman is having multiple orgasms, an overwhelming orgasm, or an orgasm so strong that she is very sensitive to the touch, she is REALLY into the sex. Strong orgasms and strong emotions are connected for women, so if you are giving her strong orgasms, she will be showing a very strong feeling of attraction towards you. Overwhelming Orgasm, Multiple OrgasmsStrong Feeling of Attraction towards you Strong Feeling of Attraction Towards You Improved Behavior towards you so that you will keep having sex with her

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Chapter 4

The Six Mindsets of the Sexual Alpha Man

Now, Im going to lay out for you the 6 mindsets that sexual alpha males ALWAYS possess. These are 6 things you HAVE to get your mind set on. If youve been set on being a loser in bed until you picked up this book, thats been your mindset. Before you get into any physical techniques, any verbal techniques, any kind of wild and crazy sex stuff, make sure you read and internalize these 6 mindsets:

Mindset 1: I Will Be Great in Bed!

You can be good in bed no matter where you're at today. If youre going to change everything around and become good in bed, it is absolutely essential that you adopt this belief! I personally hold this belief above all others. Ive seen incredible change in myself, and Ive seen it in others. Just a few short years ago I didnt even think change was possible. I thought that some guys just had it and other guys didnt. That I would always be ejaculating in under a minute and that I would have struggles with women and sexuality the rest of my life. The crazy thing is that theres proof everywhere that people can change, and they do change, but you just dont see it because you dont watch your next door neighbor having sex. You dont watch other people having sex. The only sex that you see is with your girl or in pornography, which is completely different. You have to learn the skills. You wont see the change unless you believe it. If youre thinking This isnt going to
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work then it wont! But if you keep doing what youve always been doing, youre going to get the same results! START TODAY actively believing that you can have good or great sex with women no matter where you are today. That is mindset #1.

Mindset 2: I Will Give Women Overwhelming Orgasms.

Many guys have this fear that they cant give a woman an orgasm. They think that theyll be good in bed, but she wont orgasm. Guys if youre good in bed she will have orgasms, I guarantee it. She will be having orgasms over and over and be madly in love with having sex with you. You just need to see it once to see it in action to really internalize this. So Mindset 2 is both that you CAN give women orgasms and THAT your girl is capable of having mind-blowing orgasms! Your girl may have struggled to have orgasms in the past, but once you know the secrets she will surprise both of you with how sexual she can get. Trust me on that!

Mindset 3: Fear and Shame Will Not Stand in My Way.

I had a very successful sexual mastery summit I did basically a superior man sexual-transformation weekend. And the guys were awesome guys. They reminded me a lot of myself, exactly where I was at and ready for change. But I noticed a few guys getting snared by the same ego-trap. This guy came in and said, Yeah, when I have sex with women, my problem is that they fall in love with
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me. They really love me, and they want to be with me all the time. I was like, Mike, if thats whats happening Im going to give you your money back, and I want you to teach the course because youre so good with, and they really like you. I cant help you. I felt like there mustve been a reason he was there though, so I said, Well, tell me a little bit more. And he goes, Well, when I start kissing her, she immediately starts cumming. So, Well, Michael, I dont really think thats the case. How many girls has that happened with? He goes, Its happened with 37. So you just paid me $5,000 to come to my inner circle mastery seminar to learn sexual skills, and youre telling me that 37 girls that youve hooked up with started cumming right when you started kissing them? Im like, That is possible maybe some guys can do that but they dont come to the seminars and pay five grand to tell other people about it. To make a long story short, I took the guy aside and he finally revealed to me hed only had sex once and he came in under a minute. He looked like a wounded animal and his tone was very sullen. But I told him everything would be ok. After some work, we got him the skills he needed and 2 months later he emailed me to say he was lasting 25 minutes and starting to give his new girlfriend orgasms. The takeaway from Michael: You need to admit that what youre doing isnt working. If you think youre a fullfledged sex god porn star, this programs not for you. Youve got to realize that you

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CAN improve your sexual skills. No matter how bad you are, they WILL improve. And no matter how good you think you are, you can still get better. If your girl isnt trying to have sex with you all the time, and shes not addicted to having sex with you remember, women need sex then hey, youre not where you need to be.

Mindset 4: Getting Help Doesnt Make Me Less of a Man

Its ok to get help. I used to think, If I learn how to have better sex rather than just figure it out on my own then Im a loser. Id think, Im not a cool guy because I got help. Thats not true. Any skill in life is learned. You didnt wake up and know how to drive a car. You didnt wake up and know how to play guitar. Any skill thats worth knowing, learning a language, programming a computer, anything, you had to learn. NO ONE IS A NATURAL. Guys that have a lot of sex really early in their lives and get experience with a wide variety of women might seem natural, but they are not. Heres why: 2 Generally Accepted Ways Guys think they Get Good in Bed

Have sex really early in life and with multiple women often so you have tons of experiences (very few guys). Thats basically experienced-based learning.

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 Learning the material from guys who say theyre good in bed and implementing unproven methods.

The

guys

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female
The Worst Enemy of Being Great Is Being Good

sexuality are the ones that had poor sex skills to start with. These guys (like me) have the most incentive to learn and dont have that ego that shields them from obvious

shortcomings. Guys that arent that good HAVE TO learn how to be good in bed. There is a saying that I love, and that youll love too. It is one of my favorites.

Really think about that. The Worst Enemy of Being Great is Being Good. Starting out NOT having good sexual skills means that you have the desire and the need to improve. Youll be GREAT and blow past even the best naturals and experiencebased learners. So its okay to get help. When youve got an issue in your life, youve got to embrace it, realize youre going to get it handled, and then boom, take care of it. Because youre forced to fix it, you will. You can be better in bed than any guy you know. It is possible. I guarantee it.

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Mindset 5: She Needs Sex Even More than Me

That may sound unbelievable because many guys say My girlfriends not that sexual." She doesnt get horny. Or, She likes to cuddle and shes very romantic, but she doesnt like sex. She is more interested in whether I do the chores and take out the trash and do things around the house more than having sex. Thats because youre not satisfying her sexually. Women give up if they cant be sexually satisfied, and they move on and pretend it doesnt matter. Then eventually they start flirting with other guys, cheating and then theres the divorce and the humiliation that you werent man enough to satisfy her. So, again, women need sex more than men. The sooner you realize this, the better off youll be. Im inserting in some quotes from women that I talked to, with their picture. These are normal, real women. And theyre telling you exactly how much they need sex. If you think that you need sex, Hey, Im a guy. I need sex. Yeah, you do, but think of women. Their main goal in life is to have children, to be child-bearers. If they cant have sex and good sex at that, the guy that is supposed to sexually satisfy them sexually is letting them down at a primal, instinctual level. Thats something thats really got to be addressed. So recognize the mindset that women need sex more than men. This is everywhere. What do you think women read? Look at Cosmopolitan. Look at YM. Look at all these women magazines, the stuff that you look at, and youre, like,
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Thats trash. What do they talk about? Its all sex tips and sex headlines on those magazines! (insert screen shot of one of them). Look at all the time they spend buying shoes, buying underwear, make-up,and other products to look good. You ever look at a mans underwear, compared to womens underwear? Not to be graphic or weird. Dudes just throw on a pair of boxers or tightywhiteys. There it is. Its my underwear. Women spend hours, Is this the right underwear? Does it look good? This shirt, these pants, do I look fat in this? Its because theyre sexual creatures. They want to look desirable. They have all this sexual desire, but society represses it, and the examples of this are everywhere. And You Dont Think Women Want And Care About Sex?

So now that you know women are sexual creatures, and hopefully youve internalized this, lets move on to the next mindset.

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Mindset 6: I Can Get This Handled - NOW

The final mindset is that the time to act is NOW. The reason that youre not good in bed NOW is by not addressing this area of our life the right way, with proper education. Its not your fault; society makes it very tough for guys to know where to turn on such a sensitive and personal issue. Whatever the reason that your bedroom skills arent up to par, its not your fault and you are going to handle this problem once and for all. Congratulations on manning up and fixing this problem! Most guys dont have the balls to admit it to themselves let alone solve the problem! Great job, your lover will scream your name in thanks!

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Chapter 5

The P.A.V.E System for COMPLETE SEXUAL PLEASURE

Now we're gonna get into the 4 characteristics that are going to make you a rock star in bed. To start, I'll run through all four, then at the end of this chapter, we'll talk about how to COMBINE them and take your skills to the next level!

1. PRESENCE
The first component is PRESENCE. PRESENCE means being in the moment and not worrying about anything else other than what's going on. It's not just you being in the moment, it's HER being in the moment. PRESENCE means that all you're thinking about is.. actually nothing! You're not thinking about anything, and she's not thinking about anything. Often, you'll know that she's in the present when her eyes are closed. If her eyes are open, and she staring at you or looking around the room like, "Oh, should that painting be over there?" she's not in the present, and she's not in the moment at all. This is a bad thing, because you want her not thinking anything, but feeling. Women are feelers.

Don't Think, Just Do!

One of the signs that you're both in the present is that you are THINKING too much.
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And more specifically, you are thinking too much about the actual sex! One of the big mistakes... that is totally NATURAL when you are first learning this stuff, or having sex with a woman for the first time, is to keep thinking to yourself over and over, Is she enjoying this?" Now don't get me wrong. Of course you want her to have a good time. But the key that once you start doing the other things we've talked about, you won't have to worry about that any longer... because you'll KNOW she's enjoying it!

Not Thinking About Penis or Performance

We're gonna move into the next part of presence, which is not thinking about your penis and your performance. Nothing about, "Am I big enough? Am I hard enough? Am I lasting long enough? Am I good?" As soon as you start thinking these questions, "Am I hard enough?" What happens? You get soft. "Am I lasting long enough?" What happens? You cum, or you get soft. "Am I good enough?" You start trying harder. You lose every feeling of being in the moment, and you lose your presence and your authority. It's game over, because all of a sudden, you've lost all aspect of being good in bed, and you're no longer good at all. It's a big problem, so you got to make sure that you aren't worrying about any of these fears about your penis, or about different aspects of your sexuality.

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Using Primal Instincts and Desire

You dont want to be thinking. You want to just be going by instinct. So, in the beginning, while you're learning this stuff, you're definitely gonna be doing a lot of thinking. There'll be a learning curve. Just like anything else. Like when you learned to drive a stick shift, when you learn a language, anything, you're thinking about it at the start. "What do I say now? Which gear to I shift into?" You're learning. But, once you get past the learning stage and pass the learning curve, you no longer want to be thinking about what exactly you're doing, and what's going on. Always instinct. Think of a bear that's gonna pull a salmon out of the river. He's not thinking, "Maybe I'm gonna move my head in this direction. Maybe the salmon will move to 42 degrees, and I will grab him here, and the wind is this variable." Think of just pure instinct, just getting in there and grabbing that salmon. The bear just jumps into the river and grabs it. It does it out of a primal instinct. That's how you wanna be when you're in the present. You're just primal. Just going right after it. That is PRESENCE.

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2. AUTHORITY
The 2nd trait is AUTHORITY. Why authority? Simple: because women don't want another woman! Take that one in: Women don't want another woman. If they did, they would be with one! No, a woman wants a man. So what does being a man MEAN? You need to be authoritative in bed. You need to show that you're in charge. This doesn't mean you should be super aggressive. You should always treat women with respect, but you need to be authoritative. Heres how:

-Take Charge
Show her you're in charge by leading. By having that mindset of leader, you'll begin to naturally think, "I'm in charge. I'm the boss here. I'm gonna do what I like." You wanna show that you're in charge, and you're the one leading the sexual interaction. It's much more attractive for women, whether it's during sex or during a date, to be led by the male. That's how it's been since the caveman days. Evolution has shown that men have to be the stronger, more dominant, and the woman is, going to follow the lead of the man. Being authoritative is a mindset and a way of action. So, you've gotta show that you're in charge. Doggy style is a perfect way to show youre the boss of the interaction. Dont ask to do doggy style. Just pull her into position and get going!

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-Talk Dirty
The second trait of being authoritative is to TALK DIRTY. This shows that you're confident in your sexuality and in your manliness. Try saying things like, "You look so fucking hot right now or "You like this? You like it hard? I'm gonna make you cum so hard And just saying things that are dirty, like "You like it when I fuck you don't you? Nearly all women will respond to this kind of basic dirty talk. If she seems to REALLY get off on it, slowly take it to the next level. I like to have guys start with something like "You like how I feel inside you?" Something like that, and then ramp it up from there. I know it can feel a bit awkward at first, but as you see how well she responds to it, you'll get comfortable REAL fast!

-Get ROUGH
The third part of authority is getting just a little bit ROUGH with her. Now, I DON'T mean rough as in tieing her up and whipping her (though some girls DO like that!)... what I mean is things like lightly slapping her ass as you are doing her, or reaching up the back of her neck and gently but firmly pulling her hair. If you're in missionary position, pin her arms behind her head. And by all means, after you've started gently and she is warmed up, give it to her HARD while you are doing these things! Move faster and go in deeper. That's very authoritative. Push her down into the bed. That's authoritative. Get it?

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What you are trying to do her is to make her feel like she is being TAKEN by a strong and powerful man. There is nothing you can do in the bedroom that will get a woman more turned on that this!

-Be Possessive
The next key to blowing your woman's mind in the bedroom is to let her know that she belongs to YOU. You want to say things that are really authoritative that make her understand that she is yours. Start with things like, You are ALL MINE right now... which is something all women want to hear. If this excites her, move on to telling her that certain body parts of hers belong to you; These are my lips to kiss... Your ass is mine right now etc. The reason this gets such a strong reaction from women is because you are being TERRITORIAL... which is a very MASCULINE characteristic. And the more things you do in the bedroom to remind her that she's YOUR woman and YOU are a strong, powerful man... the more enjoyment she is going to get out of the experience.

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3. VARIETY
The 3rd part of the P.A.V.E. system is VARIETY. And while physical variety is nice, what I am really talking about here is EMOTIONAL VARIETY. It's being a different type of lover who keeps things fresh and exciting. Sometimes you want to be that really romantic guy, that Casanova, that comes in and sweeps her off her feet, saying "Baby, I love you so much. I love being inside you." That's one kind of a lover. Then, sometimes you need to be the bad boy that's doing her really hard. You're doing her doggie-style. You're slapping her ass. Maybe you're doing her in a place you shouldnt be, like in public, or sneaking off somewhere. This creates a very different emotion for a woman than plain ole bedroom sex and women LOVE IT! Another idea is to narrated a very emotional fantasy. Something like out of a romance novel. You could be telling her how much you love her and how much you want to be with her. This type of sex can be all about you being connected as one. The point from all examples is that emotional variety by being different kinds of lovers is highly important! VARIETY is about giving her a different sensation of feelings. It's not solely about different positions. Different positions definitely help, because different positions give her different emotions. If you do different positions, and you say different things, and you have different interactions in these different positions, it's definitely gonna add
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variety, because it's adding emotional variety AND physical variety. But, positions themselves aren't really that different. You only really need about four or five sexual positions. You need to be able to give her different emotions and variety of sexual experiences from the same sexual positions. So, being different type of lovers is one of the keys to variety. The second key to variety is that positions aren't that important. And I just touched upon it, but positions aren't as important. Why? Its because you can have massive variety within one position. Many of my students have made multiple girls have orgasms, repeatedly, just from changing their emotional status by being in the missionary position. In the missionary position you can make love to her. You can fuck her. You can talk emotionally. You can talk dirty. There's so many different things that you can do just from missionary position, that really changes how she's feeling and what kind of orgasm she has.

Being Spontaneous
So, another issue to variety is SPONTANEITY. If you're always having sex at 9:00 at night, on Friday night, that's not very spontaneous. You want to be having sex at different times. Sometimes you want to have sex in the middle of the day, if you can. Try and rendezvous in the middle of the day to have sex. Try to have various times where you have sex. Be Spontaneous! You never wanna plan sex. If it's planned, it's not gonna have that variety. It's not gonna have emotion. It's gonna seem monotonous. So, you wanna make sure that the sex is very spontaneous as often as possible. Y eah,
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you're gonna have a lot of sex at night after you go to bed, and in the morning when you wake up, but as much as possible try not stick to a schedule. Do it in the shower, or take a little trip together and have sex when you get there. You want as much spontaneity as possible.

Using Fantasies
A Great way to add in variety is through USING FANTASIES. There are lots of different fantasies. (In a moment, youre going to read some fantasies from real women!) Fantasies are a great way to add in variety, because you can make her feel a wide range of emotions, as well as have a lot of fun yourself, and its a very enjoyable thing. And again, when you make her feel a variety of emotions, you're going to give her a lot of orgasms, and she's going to be madly in love with you. So in summary, the main way to have more VARIETY is to change her emotions. Change the feelings that she has. Keep things fresh, be a different kind of lover, be spontaneous, and use fantasies as a way to make sure your sex life doesnt get boring.

4. EMOTION
The 4th trait is EMOTION. Heres how to put it into play You Must Be Emotional Yourself! It takes two people to have great sex. So you have to BE EMOTIONAL YOURSELF. If you can't be emotional yourself, she's not going to feel emotion. So, when you're

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telling her things, make sure that you really mean it. Emotion is pretty hard to fake for most guys. So, if you're not with a girl that you like, even sexually or in any manner, you need to be. If it's your wife, you should be pretty emotional, because you married her. Remember back to the emotions that you felt when you married her. So, you need to be emotional.

Make Her Feel a Range of Emotions

EMOTION is all about giving her a range of emotions. Sometimes she wants to feel really wanted in a caring and loving way. Sometimes she just wants to feel like a piece of meat. Women want to feel different emotions during sex. Emotion also explains a lot of guys sexual problem. Theyll get married, or they'll get a girlfriend, and in the beginning the sex is really good. And then the sex peters out. It's because in the beginning, there's so much emotion for both of you. You're madly in love. Your bodies are new. There's a lot of emotion in the beginning. Then that emotion dips over a time. So now, after the initial emotions have dipped, you don't want it to end in a weak "I love you." If you're saying I love you, you want to say it with passion. The stronger the emotions, the stronger the orgasms are gonna be.

The Stronger the Emotions, the Better

Women are attracted to strong emotions. They love guys that make them feel strong emotions. If you've ever seen a bad boy with a really hot girl, he makes her feel a lot of strong emotions, either inside the bedroom, or outside. And it's not that she loves each emotion that she feels, it's that it's this wild roller coaster of various emotions.
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And you want to do that in bed. Different emotions. Feelings of being loved. Feelings of just being fucked. Different and strong emotions are what YOUR girl wants.

You Must Be Verbal in Bed

Third thing on emotion is that YOU MUST TALK. If you're not talking in bed, there's no way you're conveying any emotion. What you dont realize is that good sex involves verbal communication during sex at times. It's not that having open dialogue or a convesation. It is a few select words used here and there that have a purpose. Emotions are best shown through words. Once you learn what to say youll be able to create strong emotions very easily

Teasing
TEASING is a great way to create emotion. If you're teasing a girl, and you're really slowly building upand you're building upand you're building up, all that teasing creates anticipation. Anticipation creates excitement So, teasing, anticipation,

excitement. And the way that you can do that, I just keep kissing, keep kissing until all of the sudden she starts grabbing you, and then kind of push her away. Play hard to get. Do what a woman would do when you're trying to get her. Just keep going with the foreplay, and keep gently pushing her away in a teasing manner, until finally she can't take it anymore, and she really wants you inside of you.

Be Emotional But Authoritative Outside of the Bedroom

Try and work in a little bit of emotion into your relationship outside the bedroom, and
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here are some ways you can do that:

Romantic/Emotional Talk with Her

Romantic talk with her is a great way to add a lot of emotion. Romantic talk means things like, "I love you so much, baby." If you're not calling your wife or girlfriend baby, you need to start now. Kind of ease it in there, otherwise it sounds a little weird. But romantic talk is, "Oh, I miss you so much. How much do you love me?" Stuff like that is romantic talk. You need to add in a lot of romantic talk.

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Chapter 6

Proof Women Want It: Read Hot Fantasies Written by Women!

To show you just how powerful this stuff is, I wanted to share with you some fantasies written by REAL WOMEN so you can get inside of their heads and see just how important using the elements of the P.A.V.E. system really is! Of course I couldnt ask women I know because they wouldnt tell the truth as they wouldnt want me to think differently of them. So I went and posted ads on Craigslist to have women write in with their fantasies, offering to pay them with Pay Pal so there would be zero embarrassment that way I knew they would hold nothing back! What you are about to read are 100% true, anonymous, unedited fantasies that prove how much women want and need sex. Pay close attention when you are reading these. This stuff is so close to the P.A.V.E system its unbelievable. Look for all the elements of P.A.VE. within these fantasies and you will be able to copy these fantasies. So without further ado here some real fantasies from women. Warning: These are UNEDITED and EXPLICIT so read at your own risk!

Fantasy 1: I Want You Right Now!

I come home from work and there you are lying on the sofa in your boxers. As usual, I catch my breath when confronted with your masculinity. Even though you are not
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physically big, you fill the room with your sexual presence. You look up at me with that familiar mixture of innocence and desire that crumbles my resistance every time. Your enormous brown eyes beg me to join you. I set my briefcase on the counter, walk over to the sofa and stand in front of you. The pinstripe skirt I am wearing stops about mid thigh and stretches tightly across my ample bottom. I feel your hands slide up over my hips, pulling me against you. I straddle your lap, kissing you softly, sucking on your bottom lip. Wrapping my arms around your neck, I lean into your strength and warmth. I can feel the desire pool between my legs, as I grind my hips against you. Do you know how badly I want to fuck you right now? I murmur. You feel my lips graze your neck and you shiver. Baby, is all that you can utter. You pull my suit coat off, revealing a tight, satin camisole. My rock hard nipples poke through the smooth fabric, and before I can stop you, you lean forward and suck on one through the thin material. I gasp as you nibble at its stiff peak. Not yet, darling, I whisper in your ear. I want to learn every part of your body tonight. Just lie back and let me pleasure you. My hands trail down your abdomen, coming to rest on the waistband of your boxers. You help me remove them. I step back, still in my 4 inch heels, and appraise your amazing body. Here are the rules: I touch you. You cannot touch me until I tell you its okay. Got it?

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You swallow hard and nod your head. Ive never taken control like this. I straddle your lap again and nibble at your earlobes. I can feel your erection pressing against my thighs. I resist the temptation to just climb onto your cock and ride you. I trace the lines of your jaw with my thumb and kiss your neck softly. I run my fingers across your shoulders and down your arms, paying special attention to the outlines of your muscles. My touch is light and tentative, and is driving you wild. Im trying to drink you all in, I cant get enough of your different textures. I grab your left hand, and plant a kiss in your palm. I run my tongue between your fingers before taking one into my mouth and sucking, gently at first, then with a bit more strength. You grab me around my waist, and kiss me breathless. Youre a naughty boy, I manage to get out between pants. Ive got something that will help. I go into our bedroom and find a silk scarf. I can see the skepticism on your face. Dont worry, baby. If at any point it gets to be too much, just say yellow. I tie the scarf loosely around your eyes. The material is cool and smooth against your skin. I stand up and slowly unzip my skirt. You hear it hit the floor. Baby, where are you? Im here. Just try to relax. Your breathing has gotten shallow and your cock is so hard, it looks like it might explode. I pull the camisole off too. Its driving you wild that you cannot see me, nor do you know what Im going to do next. The scent of your arousal teases my nose. I want to take you in my mouth and suck you dry, but tonight is about control, so I continue with my lesson.

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I get down on the sofa again and lay a trail of kisses down the inside of your arm. You shudder when my soft lips brush across your bicep. I continue my assault, running my tongue along your side, down to your pelvic bone. I inhale deeply near your navel, causing your abdomen to quiver. I pinch your nipples, theyre so different from mine, and you moan. I slide my fingers through the thin coarse hair on your chest and follow it to your smooth stomach. I begin to nibble at your thighs, breathing on your balls and shaft, but not touching them. I flick my tongue across the tip of your cock, lapping up a drop of precum. You squirm a little and cry out my name. I run my fingers across your lips and press them inside your mouth. You suck on them a little and realize that they are soaked with my juices. You grab my wrist and suck harder. I cannot take another second. My aching pussy has to have you now. I lower myself onto your cock and remove the blindfold. I start kissing you as I grind my hips, riding you. You grab my hips and force me down onto you harder and harder. I can feel your fingers digging into my flesh, as our movements become frantic. You slap my ass - hard, first one cheek, then the other. I cry out, loudly. The slick walls of my pussy clench you tightly as you start to suck on my nipples again. You roll me underneath you, and slam into me. My legs are over your shoulders so you can get as deep as possible. I can feel my orgasm rising as you possess me. I run my fingernails down your back, as you fuck me. The sting of your broken skin excites you. I am yours now. I cry out your name, nearing the verge of my climax. A flush has

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spread from my face down to my abdomen and Im whimpering now, begging you to make me cum. You pull back and look in my eyes. Roll over, you say roughly. I get on all fours for you, my pussy throbbing with excitement. You grab my hair and jerk my head back a little. Tell me that you want me. I take a sharp breath in. I feel so exposed with my ass in the air, yet Im excited. I can feel my juices running down my legs. Fuck menow. I feel so wanton. I touch my clit as you slam into me, bruising my tender skin. You grab my hips and pound harder. My breasts are bouncing back and forth, causing my nipples to rub against the rough upholstery of the sofa. You start to orgasm, and the delicious sounds you make are enough to send me over the edge. I soak you with my juices and you are eager to lick them before they are wasted. Your five oclock shadow scrapes my sensitive inner thighs. Your tongue slides across my aching clit, causing me to moan, almost scream your name. I shudder my completion, but you refuse to let me go. You hold my hips down so I cannot squirm away. You lap at me slowly, never changing pace or pressure. I whimper again. The orgasm is different this time. It builds and I beg you to finish, but you keep that same pace. It is so intense that I soak your face and the sofa. I collapse onto our oversized sofa, trying to catch my breath. You cuddle up next to me and pull the afghan from the back of the sofa across our naked bodies. You wrap your arms around me, pulling me against you. You are so strong, I have never felt so safe.

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What brought that on? you whisper lazily into my ear. I wanted to do for you what you do for me every day. What is that? You worship my body in your own way. You make me feel safe and loved and protected. You cater to my whims. I feel like a goddess every time we make love. You can never seem to get enough. I feel your thumbs brush the underside of my breasts as you snuggle even closer. Your breath is warm on my neck and I can tell youre getting sleepy. I close my eyes and drift off too, but not before hearing you say softly, I love you. I smile thats the first time youve said that.

Fantasy 2: You Caught Me! Not So Innocent Now...

From the anonymous female author: "Telling people about my fantasies isnt something I thought I could ever do. But when I saw the ad for fantasies, I thought, what the hell. This is what I fantasize about - for real! I am flying down the highway in a little white GTO. It is a winding highway someplace rural, probably western North Carolina. There are tall pines on either side of the road and I am going way too fast. I love the power of the car and the thrill of speed. This would be a lot of fun if I didnt have to pee. Really badly. Mind numbing, cant think, I have to pee. There is no freaking way I am going to pee in the woods,

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especially dressed in a mini-skirt and strappy sandals. I know my motel is around one of these hair-pin corners. At least I hope it is. As I round yet another turn I see a cop car. Oh shit! I am terrified and my overbeating heart cranks it up a notch but I cant slow down. I must keep driving. And oh shit, there are the lights. He is coming after me. I keep my foot nailed to the petal. We go on like this for a couple miles when I see the entrance to the Summer Pines Motor Inn and crank the wheel into the gravel lot. My room, number 15, is at the end the building and the car goes screaming into the space right in front. I think I turn off the car but who really knows. I am out of the car fumbling with my keys and running to the bathroom. I make it to the bathroom just in time to hike up my little white skirt and rip down my thong and sit. Oh my word. Thank god. Such relief. Then I hear the door slam open and Police, come out with your hands in the air. Oh no I forgot about the cop in my panic. I manage Im in here. As I look up there is a tall man standing in the door way of the bathroom and he is staring at me. This is so weird. I feel a rush of heat run up my neck and face. I am sitting on the toilet with my skirt hiked up, my panties at my ankles and he is staring at me. And he is pointing a gun at me.

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I had to pee. Dont shoot me. I hold up my hands like I am surrendering and start to stand. I am wearing a tight turquoise blue tank top and I can feel my nipples respond to the blast of cold AC. As I stand up my little white skirt gets hung up on my hips. The cop cant help but look at me, look at my privates. He exhales deeply and instinctively licks his lips. I know he is looking at my neat trim and I think I might like it. I briefly consider my vulnerable situation but chances like this dont come every day. I tip my head up and give him a small wicked smile. Instead of pulling the thong up I step out of it and walk forward without my sandals. I have a great tan and bright pink toe nails. I try wiggling my hips ever so slightly and but my skirt gets stuck on my hips a little lower but not anywhere close to modest. How about you put that weapon away, I purr reaching my hands towards one another clasping them in front of me with my best I am so innocent look. He exhales again. He composes himself and gently shakes his head and blinks a couple of times. His eyes drift down and my eyes follow his. My eyes get stuck half way down when I can see that his cock is pushing against the front of his pants as he looks at me, looking at him. It is awkward in heated kind of way. He instinctually slides the gun into the holster on his hip. Since he has seen me, he hasnt said anything to me. My eyes run up to his chest now and I see that he has broad shoulders. Higher still, he has a dark complexion with salt and pepper hair and hard grey eyes. He is totally hot.

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I try speaking, Too fast, probably? I was going really fast Then I add Am I under arrest? looking up with big wide eyes. This next transition is a blur. He is coming towards me filling the doorway to the bathroom and he grabs me under the arm pits and easily hoists me onto the sink counter. My skirt is still jacked up around my hips. He spreads my legs with his knee, grunts and moves in quickly. He leans over and put his lips on my bare shoulder. I smell like sun and coconut and sweat and he breathes me deeply and moves his lips and his teeth to the round tightness of my bicep. Brushing his cheek against my chest, I arch my back and press my chest against him. A slight moan escapes my lips as I reach up and grab a handful of his shirt. Greedily he kisses and licks my shoulders and neck feeling me rise and fall to meet him. I have to touch him. I move my hands to his front and quickly undo the buttons of his shirt. I slid my hands onto his pecs and use my face to move his lips to mine. I want his mouth and grab his bottom lip with just a touch of my teeth. As I suck his full lip his hips start to press into the counter. He obviously likes it and grabs the back of my neck and shoots his tongue deep into my open and willing mouth. I love rough kissing and we explore every inch of each others mouths. I find his other hand and lift my tight tank top to offer my flesh. My round and firm breasts are the perfect size for his large strong hands. He cups my whole tit in his hand and squeezes just enough for a twinge of delightful pain. I lean into him as he finds nipple and rolls it between his thumb and all of his fingers one by one. He spreads his fingers so that his thumb was on one nipple and his pinky finger was on the other. His
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palm presses between my breasts and I grab his face and drive my tongue deeper into his mouth. He smells like musk and sweet chicory coffee. I have big handfuls of his hair and I can see the muscles of his neck straining. He is so strong and I know he is hard. The thought of what the fuck am I doing comes into my head but leaves just as quickly. I arch again slipping my tank top over my head and grab his face and pushed it towards my heart. The cop doesnt flinch as he leans in to take my rock hard nipples into his mouth. He licks around in circles teasing my sharp points. I love it when he uses his teeth and while it hurts I dont say stop. The pain shoots into my belly and down lower. I love it. My chest is pushed forward and as I desperately remove his shirt. I am still sitting in front of the mirror on the cool marble counter with my legs dangling over the edge. With a grunt he picks me up as I tuck my feet underneath until I am crouching on the sink. As I slowly stand he strips my skirt to my ankles. He looks up with need and reverence. I feel so alive and hot standing naked in front of this hungry man. I reach my hands over my head into my hair and stretch. I know I am beautiful. My thighs are at his eye level. He moves in closer and runs his hands up the fronts until his thumbs meet my little mound and he spread his fingers around my hip bones. I lean in close and I know he can feel the heat from my special place. With each thumb he spreads my lips gently and looks up. I catch him staring at my heat and he runs his

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tongue over his lips. I can feel the wetness engulf my pussy. I want him to take me with his mouth so I tilt my hips closer. He roughly grabs my ass with both hands and propels my hips towards his face. I feel my knees go weak yet he holds me in place and thrusts his tongue into my spot. I grab the top of his head and hold on for dear life. I am so wet and hot. He is lapping at my lips and forcing his tongue inside closer to my G-spot. I know my juices are pouring into his mouth and down his neck. His hands are roughly he kneading my ass. After a minute he reaches one hand around and slides his first two fingers up into my slit. I gasp but eagerly meet his hand. Just then he finds my spot and teases it with his tongue while moving his two, maybe three fingers in and out with a hard pumping rhythm. My orgasm comes fast and hard. More, more. Dont stop, I moan and then release. It is so perfect. My knees give out as he gently lowers me to the counter. (This is usually when I have my first orgasm for real.) But I am not done with this fantasy. I still want to be fucked. I watch the cop grab his belt and pants and jump out of them freeing his enormous hard on. I can see his veins and the skin stretched thinly. His sex was pulsing and I know he needs to be inside of me. This gets me so excited for more. I am panting and gasping for air as he grabs me around the waist and plants my sweet ass onto the cold marble. He spread my legs wide and finds my opening with his tip. He moves around until his head shines and plunges into my center. I am tight in the right way yet so wet and willing.

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Oh Jesus in heaven, he moans. He moves his hips back and forth pumping me. I push up with my strong arms tilting my hips up to meet him while wrapping my legs around his back. My ass is barely on the counter. I am mostly being held in place by his strong arms and his big dick deep inside of me. I dig my nails into his back and he flinches just for a second but it doesnt stop him. He lets his whole shaft come out to my soft lips and then drives it in harder and deeper. Each time he rams me I am shocked at how deep and far he is in me. I want to bite him and chew on his neck and his shoulders while moving with his rhythm. His cock is stretched to the limit and I can tell he was getting ready. It was coming but he wants to be in deeper still. He wraps his strong arms around my whole torso and takes me to floor. The cold tile is shocking to my back and I gasp but I dont want to stop. He drives hard holding my shoulders so I have to take every inch of him. Pumping harder and faster I grab his cock with my inside muscles and push my hips up as far as I can to meet his onslaught. This is when we both come together. He fills me completely. His elbows give way and he lands gently on top of me. I feel triumphant. I feel like a conqueror. I relish him being worn out, panting and trying to catch his breathe. And when he lifts his head I smile and say Does this mean I wont get a ticket? Wild stuff, eh? It just goes to show that women are waaaay more sexual than we think!

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So now that weve covered how to arouse a womans emotions to give her intense physical pleasure, lets go over some of the common problems we men have in bed, and what to do about them.

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Chapter 7

Common Problems And How To Fix Them!

No matter how much sexual improvement you do there will still be occasional issues that come up. Lets address some of the major ones quickly.

How To Get HARD (Without Pills)

When a guy has trouble getting hard it is almost always a psychological problem, not a physical problem. You can always go the drug route and take Viagra or another such drug but in most cases Ive seen that guys usually dont really need it! If you can get hard during masturbation or while looking at porn, but not during sex, your problem is entirely psychological. (If you cant get hard for masturbation or porn then you need to talk with a doctor.) Assuming you CAN get hard while masturbating, heres how to get hard when youre with a woman:

1.Stop TRYING so hard to get hard

If you are trying to hard, the stress reaction sends a signal to your brain that you are in a flight or fight response, which basically means the harder you try, the limper you will get. Here is what to do instead:

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2. Practice 10 count breathing when not having sex then use it when you are
I've found that one of the best ways to get control of your manhood is through breathing... and now I'd like to show you a little-known breathing technique that I've found is THE SECRET to getting and keeping rock hard erections for as long as YOU want! It's called, 10-Count Breathing, and trust me when I say, this is one of the single best things you will EVER learn to improve your sex life! So let's get right into it...

10-Count Breathing

Sit in a comfortable position Breathe in slowly through your nose concentrating on making your stomach go out as you fill it with air. This breath is 1. Hold the in breath for a second once it is all the way in Breath out slowly through your mouth noticing your stomach coming back in. This exhale is 2. Repeat in and out in same manner until you reach 10. (5 cycles of 2). Concentrate only on thinking about the number you are on, nothing about life or any topic. Clear your mind other than the numbers. Once you hit 10 repeat cycle until you find you are completely relaxed. In the beginning this make take 40-50 breathes. After you have done this a few times it will be 10-20 breathes.
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Get to the point where you can do 10 count breathing and notice that you are relaxed. Right when you realized you are about to have sex start breathing QUIETLY but in 10 count breathing style and you will notice that you are able to maintain your level of arousal without having tension creep in and ruin your erection. Sounds crazy, but it works! Keep practicing until you get this down. Youll be glad you did.

3. More foreplay
Keep kissing your lover and having foreplay, which allows you to relax more and get hard. If you are not having problems of arousal then your problems are of tension and presence. More foreplay= less tension= total arousal. And trust me, no woman has EVER complained about TOO MUCH forplay! Its usually the opposite! So relax and take your time.

In Addition

Another thing I highly recommend to boost your performance in bed is to start working out regularly. To start you can do ANY exercise its better than nothing! If you can do 20 minutes of any exercise that makes you sweat a bit and gets your heard rate up and you feeling good, then it will help your erections, as physical activity signals to the body to increase testosterone production which equals harder and bigger erections!
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Here

are

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specific

types

of

training

that

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GREAT

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sex:

-Yoga: With yoga you not only increase your strength and get a good workout, you learn to control your breathing as well, which makes it an amazing sex life booster! If you can only do one physical activity, yoga is what I recommend

- Weight Training: This is the best ways to get your testosterone levels up and be ready and able to have more sex. Focus on big multi joint movements that work more than one muscle at once, as they will boost your testosterone the fastest. These include the dead lift, squat, dumbbell press, and pull-ups. For further details, look at a program such as Body of Life by Bill Phillips. -Martial Arts: Martial arts are great for getting up testosterone. Check into some Brazilian jujitsu classes or any kind of self defense. Ive personally done this for over 8 years now and always am relaxed and ready to have a ton of sex after training. You dont have to ever fight or get injured, just use the activity to stay in shape and as a testosterone booster.

How To Last Longer

If you are not lasting long enough lets fix this problem right now!

I used to be the worst premature ejaculator of all. It makes sex no fun and a source of constant stress and anxiety because you know that you cant please a woman. Instead of feeling pleasure during sex all you can think about is your fear of cumming!
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I remember I used to kid myself that all guys lasted a short time but thenwomen would tell me otherwise! The bottom line is ff you cant last, your relationship wont last so listen up! The good news is that if you can last longer masturbating than having sex you can fix your premature ejaculation. Its just going to take a little bit of work. Ejaculating too quickly usually occurs because you are not present enough during sex. When you dont have presence, tension creeps into your body and causes you to ejaculate early. Once you learn how aroused you are you can control your erection and last as long as you want. Heres how:

Step 1.
Dont fight your arousal. Instead, put it at a number. Once you can put your arousal at a number it is easy to identify the point where you are about to cum and avoid it. Start off by noticing during masturbation or sex what number you are at on a scale of 1-10. The scale should be roughly like this:

Not aroused at all, no erection, your mowing the lawn Could get aroused, thinking of maybe masturbating Aroused, masturbating or foreplay but not enough to come Highly aroused but not going to come yet About to come, couldnt stop cumming if I wanted to, inevitable climax

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You want to be able to recognize where you are on that scale of 1-10 at any time whether you are masturbating or involved in any sex play. The goal for right now is to be able to identify when you hit number 6.5 and when it turns into number 9. Were going to move when you have sex from a number 9 to a number 6.5! What I want you to do is notice the next 10 times when you masturbate when are you are about to go from number 6.5 to number 9. Most guys go over the edge and are about to come with faster thrusting, harder stroking, or some kind of additional physical or visual stimulation (aka doggy style). So for the next ten times identify during the entire number system in each stage up to your orgasm. Then for the next 9 times or however long it takes I want you to slow down the physical sensation (ie..not as hard stroking) and take 2 or 3 10 count breathes to get your arousal level back down from a number 9 to a number 6.5. Once you have the ability to do this during masturbation you will be able to do the same thing during sex. Once you combine the arousal scale with physical positions that are less stimulating you will find that you have complete control over your how long you last and premature ejaculation is gone forever. Again, give us a call if you need help with this. Its also described in detail in the Fundamentals DVD.

Step 2.
Longer foreplay: The more foreplay you have the better off you will be able to last as long as you want. The foreplay makes you comfortable and lowers your arousal level to 4 but as long as its done right doesnt make you come. When you are increasing
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your foreplay to get your arousal level down to a 4 concentrate on what you are doing to her rather than what she is doing to you. Because lack of arousal isnt your problem, its excess of arousal you dont want her making you more aroused through a hand job or a blowjob. Instead eat her out, or kiss her body, or kiss her and you will get to and maintain an arousal level of 4 throughout sex until YOU DECIDE when you will come.

Step 3.
Missionary position or oral sex not doggy style. In the beginning when you are learning to master your cock and increasing stamina avoid doggy style. Doggy is the most visually and physically stimulating position for a guy and will increase your arousal level. Have sex missionary with your arms under her and NOT supporting your weight. See demonstration in the DVD.

Step 4.
Move slowly and when you are about to come slow down. You have conditioned yourself from your masturbating that when you slow down you will lower arousal and get back to a 4. Take a breath and slow down! Once you get this working on masturbating with some porn then you can try it during sex. It may take a few times but you will find your sexual confidence goes through the roof and you will be able to last as long as you want once you master it.

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If you combine this numerical arousal technique with weight training, exercise, meditation the day you are going to have sex it will speed up this learning process by at LEAST 50%.

How To Give Her An Orgasm

A lot of guys think that their girl is different and she wont come. She will, you just have to be doing the right things and following the P.A.V.E. model. You need to realize that it may take time but she will eventually have orgasms. Also, unlike men who usually have just one type of orgasm, women are capable of many different types. They have many more pleasure centers and depending on how good a sexual experience you are giving them they can come more times and much stronger. Lets go over some of the types of orgasms women can have and a sure-fire backup plan to give any women an orgasm. Physical Stimulation Orgasms- This is the go-to orgasm when youre improving your sexual skills. This orgasm is easy to have a women achieve because it is mostly a physical orgasm as opposed to a full body orgasm or an orgasm during vaginal sex that has strong emotions. Your first goal should be to learn to give women a manual stimulation orgasm every time. From there your lover will want to be sexually satisfied vaginally and move on to deeper, full body orgasms. Here is a way to give a clitoral orgasm: I want to make this really simple.

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 Kiss her until she is horny and moaning. Kiss her neck, mouth, side of back, inner thighs. While you are kissing her put your palm over her area and apply light pressure. Dont do anything else just leave it there. Once she starts grinding up against your hand (she will) put your middle finger inside her with your palm up Go as far back as you can with your finger along the upper wall until you find a smooth spot Press on the smooth spot and start making a come here motion with your fingerdont be afraid to apply some pressure Keep making the come hither motion while you kiss her neck and breasts. Feel her get off!

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Vaginal Orgasms
Vaginal orgasms are produced during intercourse. These orgasms are harder to have her achieve without her first having a physical stimulation orgasm before sex. Remember: The more orgasms you can give her before you have sex the better the actual penetration will be. Vaginal orgasms are a result of penetrating her in a rhythmic constant manner and having presence, authority, variety, and emotion. (using the PAVE system)

Overwhelming Orgasms
This is a term that I have coined. It is currently being trademarked and patented as it is recognized that it gives women Overwhelming Orgasms. I have seen others use words like full body orgasm, continuous orgasmic state, repeated cumming etc. However the term overwhelming orgasm most accurately describes what is going. When you start giving women overwhelming orgasms you will be amazed how quickly they fall in love with you or you create unheard of levels of passion in your relationship. I call these orgasms overwhelming because when women have an overwhelming orgasm they dont know how many times they came. Its overwhelming because it creates a primal female sexual addiction to you. A woman will often say she misses you 20 minutes after you left each others company. She will tell all her friends about how great you are and she will talk and act like she is madly in love with you. I know this sounds ridiculous, I didnt believe it until I saw it in my own life. I was dating this girl Renee; she was from Austria, a really sexy, smart
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accountant. When we started having sex I started slow because at this time I was a bit timid to try all of the techniques that I use now. Over time with her though, I started implementing real authority and she began cumming over and over with overwhelming orgasms After the second time we had sex she told me she loved me and this is a normal girl, with no physiological hang-ups. She told me that she had never felt so good with someone and that she would do anything to keep me having sex with her! She became so addicted to the sex that she would show up with food, gifts, and panties with my name on them. This is the reality for some guys when your sexual skills are good enough.

Giving Women Orgasms Ladder

Longer foreplay to get her more relaxeddont push the sex, let her want it from you Have her masturbate while you are there watching and she makes herself co me Have her masturbate while touching you or you are inside her Physical stimulation orgasm Orgasm through sex Add in all elements of p.a.v.e to give her an overwhelming orgasm

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How To Get Her To Pursue YOU For Sex!

First of all, you must realize is that she does WANT to have great sex... she is just conditioned to think the sex isn't good with you, since she is used to the old you! So now that you ARE good, she has to be reconditioned to know that you are now a better lover. Here are some tips to follow:

Start being more emotional and more authoritative OUTSIDE the bedroom Start being more flirtatious during the day (texts, kisses, etc) Never bring up the topic of sex outside the bedroom Never try and trade anything for sex Start giving her more orgas ms (duh! But now you know how !)

What To Do If Youre Inexperienced

First off, realize that everyone starts off inexperienced sexually. Its whether you WANT to be good and the desire to get this area of your life handled that is going to make you a great lover!

Have as much sex as possible doesn't matter if the girl is hot After a sexual experience look back on what was good about it and what needed improvement

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 Pick only 1 thing for next sexual experience work on only one thing at a time Enjoy your practice, and dont put too much pressure on yourself! Practice makes perfect, so get in as much as you can. Any practice and progress you make now will benefit you for the rest of your life with wo men!

A Warning About Pornography

A lot of guys get really addicted pornography when they arent having enough sex. Online porn these days is cheap, the girls are beautiful, and the sites have TONS of videos... so the temptation is there! The problem real with watching porn is that it lowers your sex drive for REAL women, plus you are training yourself with BAD HABITS by making the association in your brain between porn and having an orgasm as opposed to SEX and having an orgasm. Watch too much porn and youll find you cum too fast or cant get hard when you actually have sex. In short, its ok to watch a little bit of porn, but mix up your selflove sessions with some where you are masturbating to your own positive mental pictures of giving it to a woman good. That will program your brain with POSITIVE associations, and when you are with a woman you will be ready!

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Chapter 8

Does Size REALLY Matter?

"My penis is too small." This is one of the biggest myths about giving women sexual pleasure. Women dont often fantasize about getting railed by a huge guy. Women DO fantasize about elaborate sexual fantasies that you can create with your MIND. Unless your penis is under 2.5 inches hard it does not matter. You dont need to try exercises to lengthen it or make it thicker. If you have tried lengthening with penis pills, pumps, or exercises dont waste your time. Even if it does work at all, a bigger dick will not give you sexual mastery, stamina, and maker her come. Forget about your penis size and instead invest in the scientifically proven principles in this book which are proven to make you a masterful lover and make her sexually addicted to you!

She is More Worried About Her Body Than Yours!

Woman know what you look when you have clothes in. Its not hiding as much as you think. If a woman is getting naked with you and ready for sex then you need to release the beliefs that your body is holding you back. Yeah you definitely SHOULD get in better shape because she will be more attracted, it will raise your testosterone, and youll be able to move better in bed. You need to realize that as self conscious as you may be about your body, the woman that you are with is even more self conscious. Dont discuss what you look like and dont make any attempt to hide it. Just get naked,
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turn off the lights to start if you are nervous and use what you learn in here. Remember, women are turned on by the emotional not the physical!

About Pills, Supplements and Penis Pumps

I currently do not use sexual stimulants other than my own testosterone boosting workouts. But in order to give proper guidance Ive gone out there and extensively tested everything I could get my hands on. Lets do a quick run through. Viagra: Ive taken Viagra to see how it feels. Most guys dont need Viagra to get hard and stay hard its a mental thing. But if you feel that you really need it, use the lowest possible dose that gives you a benefit. (Often the benefit is more psychological than anything else). Try 25 mg first and that should do the trick for you. Remember though, pleasing women has nothing to do with dick size. Viagra is best taken if you know you are going to be having sex in 45 minutes-3 hours and need an extra boost. If you really need a boost for long weekend away or repeated sessions then Cialis works better.

Cialis: Ive also tried Cialis a handful of times and if you are going away for a long weekend or know you will be having sex multiple times over a few days this could be a good option for you. Again once you master these techniques you will have the strategies you need to give women repeated orgasms and these medications are only to get it up more. From my own experience and guys that Ive talked to Cialis doesnt
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give you the rock hard erections that Viagra does. What it does is it allows you to keep getting hard over and over even if youve just had sex. Penis pumps: I tried a penis pump back in my desperation days. It hurt, I nearly popped some blood vessels and Im never using it again. If youre thinking of getting one, dont. Its a waste of your time and money. Dick size is NOT the problem. The solution is learning how to be a fantastic lover using these techniques and emotion.

It May Just Be in Your Head

Look, if you can masturbate without any pharmaceutical help than the problem is in your head. If a guy cant get hard to masturbate then he definitely needs some pharmaceutical help. If you have no problem getting up looking at porn then your problems in the bedroom are not physical they are mental. Practice the breathing exercises for relaxation and you will find that you dont need these drugs anymore. Or if you prefer them as a safety blanket then just try and minimize your dosage for safety reasons.

Relax and Enjoy - It isn't all Hard Work!

Amen brother! This is something that I really worried about still have to remind myself about. Sometimes you get so focused on making the sex good for her that you neglect yourself! This usually happens as youre starting to get better in bed, shes starting to have some orgasms and you dont want to ruin it. Once you can consistently give women AN ORGASM you need to be working on your sexual skills no more than
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50% of the time. If you are worried about and trying to improve your sexual skills EVERYTIME sex will feel like a chore to you. Something that you have to work on. So what I want you to do is not spend more than 50% of your time having sex actually TRYING to have better sex. Read as much material as you can outside the bedroom but only implement it half the time. The other half of the times dont worry about how long youre lasting, whether she is coming, what position you are in. Dont think about ANYTHING. Just FUCK her. Be a total primal instinct driven animal. If you want to say something say it, if you want to do something to do it, if you want to last 2 minutes, thats fine. As long as the other half of the time you are focused on improving your skills and pleasuring her she will still be sexually satisfied.

Classy, Sassy, Conservative, Shy...Works for Every Woman!

Sometimes guys who HAVENT read this book or tried these techniques write to me and say that their girl is different, and will it still work? The answer is ABSOLUTELY! Guys, the evidence is overwhelming. ALL women respond incredibly to these techniques. These are psychological principles. I understand that is intimidating to start using a lot of the techniques in this book. That is why at the end Ive created the implementation mini course. I want to make sure that you EXPERIENCE the power of this stuff, not just think about theoretically.

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You can tone down anything in this book to adjust with any lover, but remember that this stuff has been used by thousands of guys with ALL TYPES of women.

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Chapter 9

Getting Started is Easy

I dont know how to initiate sex For me, when I was less than stellar in bed I didnt even know HOW to start sex with my girlfriend. Its like I always wanted it and she didnt! Follow this sex-initiating ladder and the work will be done for you! Start doing more activities together outside bedroom (does not matter what they are as long as you are together and its not stressful). Start kissing outside the bedroom morejust lean in and kiss her..if you are doing more things together it wont see incongruent. Start kissing her more at night when you are going to bed and massaging her breasts while doing it and put her hand on your penis. Sex will occur!

The Not Fun But Important Stuff: Contraceptives & STDs

I know I know, boring stuff, but I want to make sure you are SAFE, because safe sex = less worry and a lot more fun! So here is a run-down on the different types of birth control and types of condoms. Ignore at your peril!

Types of birth control

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There are numerous types of birth control. Lets run though some of them now: (Note this chapter assumes that you are in a relationship and that BOTH of you have been tested and deemed STD free.) The Pull Out Method: This is when she is not on birth control and you have sex and pull out your penis before you ejaculate. I am not going to dignify this method by saying you should ever use it. Pre-cum contains sperm. Sperm lead to children. If you are using the Pull-Out Method you are setting yourself up for an unplanned pregnancy. If you are having sex with her while she is on her period or the day or two before it chances are you are ok but I still do not recommend using the pull out method even at that time. (The chance of a woman getting pregnant on her period is very rare but it has happened before.) Condoms: Condoms are great protection against STDs and are great birth control. Its also one of the only methods of birth control where you can control the outcome. (as opposed to the pill or other female solutions which require her to be in charge). As long you put the condom on the right way and it doesnt break then you will prevent pregnancy. The Pill: Women take the pill on a set time and schedule. It works really well as long as she takes it. Sometime women will skip a dose if they really want a child or in todays busy times often it gets lost in the shuffle. If she is on the pill and you completely trust her then the pill is a great solution; if youre hesitant that she will forget or really wants a child with you explore the other options.

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Female condom: The female condom was launched with great fandom as it would be an opportunity for women to control their own sexual destiny. However it hasnt done as well as many thought it would. Some guys like it more than them wearing a condom while others say its like having sex with a plastic tarp. You can experiment with it, but when I need a condom I always wear one and forget the female condom. Guys take responsibility, know this exists but wear a condom yourself. Diaphragm: The diaphragm is another thing that a woman can wear. Most times a woman needs a prescription from a doctor to get a diaphragm. Its kind of a pain as they need to get it fitted and leave it in after sex. The stats vary but diaphragms have been known to be less effective than a condom or the pill. Again, unless you have a major aversion to condoms, Id wear a condom and skip the diaphragm. Spermicide: Spermicide is a gel that is applied to kill sperm. Here is what you need to know about spermicide. Spermicide used on its own is a risky proposition. I would not recommend it. There chance of pregnancy is too high. Spermicide used with a condom is very effective at preventing pregnancy. However, some studies have shown that spermicide condoms are no better at preventing pregnancy that just a regular ole condom. The Patch, The Ring, the Shot, and the Implant: These are all hormonal solutions available with a prescription from her doctor or a family planning clinic. Since these have to be replaced infrequently, theyre better for the absent-minded than the pill.

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IUD: Although the IUD has had some PR difficulties, its a very effective, comfortable solution for women who have already had a child. It has to be inserted (and removed) by a medical professional. Vasectomy: I almost considered this one night after being very concerned that I had impregnated a girlfriend at the time. Although both operations (guys and girls) are reversible, changing your mind later on doesnt mean it will go well and its expensive. If youre going to do this be sure. My friend Mike, who was really concerned about unplanned pregnancy had the operation and said it wasnt too bad. He walked out of the hospital and was fine after a weekend. The bottom line is this: if you really trust your girl and she is on the pill or another form of hormonal birth control your fine. If youre worried shell forget or its a girl you just started sleeping with and hasnt been tested for STDs always be safe and strap on a condom! Avoiding STDs: I hate talking about STDs, Ive never had one, but I know people who have had. Lets dive into whats important to know and then move on. Some STDs are very serious. AIDS is still a life threatening disease. Dont get it. Lets make it simple: HIV: If you put a condom on and it does not break your chance of getting HIV is TINY. Even if the condom breaks your chance of getting HIV is quite low. It is much easier for a woman to get HIV than a man. The stupidest thing you can ever do is have REPEATED sex with a woman who has not been tested. If a condom does break with
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a woman that for some reason you didnt ask about her sexual past, then go get tested ASAP for everything and then again for HIV in 3 months. There is a test now called Aptima Combo 2 Assay. It will test you by a simple urine sample for Chlamydia and Gonorrhea. You can also get whats called an OraQuick HIV test and you get the results in 20 minutes. Unless you have been having unprotected anal sex with prostitures, you should be fine. Just get tested to be sure.

STDs other than HIV:

There are all sorts of miserable sounding stuff out there. Always ask a woman about her sexual history. Despite it being a serious subject, bring it up casually but firmly. This is important! Its your life were talking about here! Condoms can prevent transmission of most STDs. Obviously sex is much better with no condom (raw) but this should only be with a woman who you are in some type of relationship and you know, not guess, that is completely STD free as are you yourself. Im not going to list every STD here; if you feel a burning when you take a pee or see weird spots go see your doctor.

What Kind of Condoms Are Best:

The best condom is the one that you can put with ease, doesnt grip you too tight, and still always you to enjoy sex. Often guys will say something like, I cant get hard with a condom on, or condoms ruin sex. If you can get hard with no condom on while watching porn or touching yourself you can get hard with a condom during sex. Its all

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in your head. Read about his issue under trouble shooting. While condoms definitely make sex less enjoyable, STDs make LIFE unenjoyable. The best condoms that I have ever used are Durex Love. I have never found them in a store but have bought them online. What I recommend you do is that you buy Durex Love as well as a bunch of other condoms at www.condomdepot.com. Buy one of their sampler kits and try the different condoms. For overall experience, I highly do recommend that Durex Love. Stay away from lambskin and other unusual material condoms. They arent as durable and more likely to break.
(Tip: If you are concerned about losing sensation because of wearing a condom, you can add drop of lube INSIDE the condom. It will replicate the wet sensation and does not affect the condom staying on. You can use Astroglide, Pjur or Wet (my favorites) or any other lube that you may want to try out.)

When The Condom Breaks:

If you are putting on a condom correctly condoms rarely break. Lets review how to put on a condom. If youre breaking condoms often then definitely pay attention to this review.

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Don't Wait. Implement What Youve Learned ASAP!

What good is this system if you never implement it?

Dont be worried about implementing everything at once. Lets go through and talk about where to start.

1. Be able to last at least 10 minutes.

If you can last 10 minutes you have the stamina to give her orgasms during penetration. If you cant last 10 minutes then work on this using the numbered arousal system, and focus on your breathing, remembering the 10-Count Breathing exercise. Youll be amazed at how well it works!
2. Have a few go-to moves.

Sometimes when you are getting started you can get overwhelmed and feel like you "don't know what to do." To avoid this, make sure you have a few go-to moves for different situations. This is not the time to pull out the "spinning reverse cow-girl," so again stick to the basics. You should have a few go-to things to say in case the sex ever starts to feel awkward and silent. Sticking with the classics like, "baby that feels so good," and "you want some more of this?? should cover you in most situations. Try being a little more creative if you are comfortable, but make sure you stay congruent with the physical aspect. If you are having relatively tame sex, in 2 or 3 basic positions, in the bedroom (all of which is fine for your first sexual experiences!), you

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don't want to be talking about more advanced and wild fantasies because it will be very incongruent

3. Focus on foreplay.

Focusing on foreplay is one of the fastest ways to improve your sexual skills. Focus on giving her a clitoral orgasm from foreplay. Focus on getting your girl to so hot during foreplay that she begs you to be inside of her. Try and spend just as much time on foreplay as the actual sex but actually unless its a quickie, you should spend a whole lot more! This will help you to get comfortable with being sexually intimate with your partner. It will also increase her total pleasure and make the experience longer, which will help to offset any stamina issues that you might have.
4. Be able to give her an orgasm.

If you cant give your lover any an orgasm this should be you next goal. You dont have to go crazy. Remember that first you will give her a clitoral orgasm through digital stimulation. Then move on until you can give her an orgasm through penetration by using Emotion and Authority.

5. Increase the frequency of how often you have sex.

As your sexual skills start rocking the bedroom you will be able to have more and better sex with your partner. You should notice an increase in how often you are having sex!

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After-thoughts:
Im pumped you have chosen to get this area of your life handled and become a ROCK STAR in the bedroom. This isnt just about giving a woman orgasms, its so much more than that. Its being a real man, living life on your own terms, and being treated with respect by all the women and men that you meet. Sexual skills really do make the man and people can tell. You now have an advantage few guys have actually had the balls to go out and get. Get ready to have some WILD times with women and congratulate yourself on a job well done!
To your success,

Bobby Bradshaw

www.IncredibleSexNow.com

2009, ISN Education, LLC

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