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How to Meet People& Build Friendships

Contents

Contents.................................................................................................................2

The Sweet Life.......................................................................................................2

What Doesn't Work................................................................................................3

Friendship..............................................................................................................4

The 7 Steps............................................................................................................4

Step 1: Choose.......................................................................................................4

Step 2: Prepare.......................................................................................................6

Step 3: Ask.............................................................................................................6

Step 4: Introduce....................................................................................................7

Step 5: Break the Ice..............................................................................................8

Open or Closed?.....................................................................................................9

Step 6: Converse..................................................................................................11

Look for free information................................................................................11

Dig deeper........................................................................................................12

Listen with eyes, voice, & ears........................................................................12

Act confident....................................................................................................13

Express empathy..............................................................................................13

Restate..............................................................................................................13

Add people to the conversation........................................................................13

Avoid conversation killers...............................................................................14

Step 7: Exit..........................................................................................................15

Wobblers Win......................................................................................................16

Time to Have Some Fun!.....................................................................................16

The Sweet Life

Has this ever happened to you? You were at a game or party or dance or fast food joint or in a class with someone you wanted to meet, but just didn't know how.And you never met that person. You kept hoping that they would notice you, butthey never did?Have you ever been on a date and had nothing to say? Have you ever wanted toextend the hand of friendship to someone, but couldn't figure out how to start?Have you ever been in a conversation with someone, and no matter how youtried, it felt like there was simply nothing to say?

Every conversation is an opportunity

3This short guide can help you learn how to meet people and build friendships.You can feel confident meeting all sorts of people and enjoying their conversation.The best thing about this is that it's fun and easy.Life is simply sweeter when you can share it with someone. All you have to do ishave some courage and good sense.You supply the courage. This guide will supply some of the good sense you need.And the first thing you need to know is what makes a good friendship.

What Doesn't Work

The world will tell you that if you're just beautiful or talented, then you'll havefriends.Pick up any magazine, and message comes across that if you were just good atsoccer, football, or dance, then you'd have friends. If you just own the right car or clothing, if you just have the right makeup or hairstyle, if you just have pecs thesize of your mother's frying pan, then you'll have friends and romance. Peoplewill flutter to you like moths to a flame.It's a lie.That message is dead wrong. It's nice to be beautiful and talented, and there'snothing wrong with that, but what happens next?Imagine those commercials on TV when a hunk of burning love meets some bombshell of a woman. They look at each other and smile. They posture. Maybethey laugh. Then the commercial ends.Well, what happens next?He grins and looks down. She smiles and flips her hair. He grins and looks down.She smiles and flips her hair. He grins and looks down. She smiles and flips her hair. He grins and looks down. She smiles and flips her hair.How long is that interesting? 10 minutes? Okay, maybe with a few of the Stars itmight take longer than 10 minutes to get bored. But eventually, beauty and talentall by themselves get very boring very fast.You can't build a relationship with beauty or talent. A relationship is about two people. Beauty or talent is about one person; friendship is about two people. You build relationships with materials that people share.An even bigger lie is that only the beautiful and talented have friends.That's not true at all. Look around you at those who are popular and enjoyfriendships. Some are skinny, some larger. Some are tall, some short. Some aretalented at some sport, some are not. Some are superstar beautiful, but most of them are not. Most are regular folks.Anyone can enjoy friendships, because true friendship requires something quitedifferent from beauty and talent.