Why Our Loved Ones Die
(Inner Culture, August 1934)
God was not satisfied with creating only fruits and flowers and scenic beauties toentertain man, but He, Himself, took the form of parents in order to protect the baby-man. Notsatisfied with only protecting man through the compelling instincts of parents, God also took theform of unlimited friends in order to extend unlimited love to Him. Thus God’s Love is playinghide-and-seek in human hearts.The baby grows up loving its parents. He grows into manhood; his parents die, and hefeels a pang for the lost love. He seeks solace by falling in love, and he finds a powerful conjugallove swaying his heart and eclipsing all other forms of parental and friendly love.As time goes on, he loses the first ardor of his conjugal love. He wonders, “Whither hasmy overwhelming love fled? Why did my loved one pass from me like a beautiful dream?”Aged couples develop material attachments and friendly understanding for each other, butthey never again can love each other with the passionate love of their youth. Love hides behindthe screen of material attachments, and nearly always remains hidden there forever, never coming out to display its heart-dissolving form.When your parents die and you lose their love, and when you are old and can no longer feel the ardor of conjugal love, remember that all love is not lost. Real love is still hiding in the breast of every Being, in flowers, and in dumb stars, so that you may find it again and behold itdecorated with the robes of eternal splendor, where the love in all Beings twinkles like ever-shining star dust.Pain warns us of our hygienic transgressions. It creates in us the desire for health. Hunger was given to man so that he would seek food. Wisdom was given to him so that he mightcontinuously use it until he finds the answer to all his questions. At death our loved ones leavewith us a spark of undying heart-pang in order that we may fan it into a flame of wisdom, in thelight of which we may behold all our lost loved ones.Why does Nature make us love some people very dearly, and then why does she snatchthem away suddenly from our view? Why should we love those near to us so dearly forever,when they are only impermanent bubbles of our fancy?If you love your husband because of his money, then you do not know what love is. If you adore your beloved because of her beautiful body, then you do not know what love is. If youlove your friend because he helps you with money, prestige, or power, then you do not knowwhat love is. Remember, however, that love does not grow in emptiness, but it is born in parental, conjugal, or other relationship or in some form of service. Nevertheless, love cannot beimprisoned in the chamber of material or psychological usefulness.