The Danger Of Self Help Teachings...................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................(C) Richard Butler www.richardbutlerthesuccesscoach.com
THE DANGER OF SELF HELPTEACHINGS
According to www.Answers.com, self help is defined as "The act or an instance of helping or improving oneself without assistance from others." In short,these arelessons, teachings, tips on how a person can develop themselves to be better by doingthings on his own.On a superficial level, there is nothing wrong with that though it is probably differentfrom what school and our parents have taught us. As I remember my childhood , myparents always say that we can't survive on our own. We need other people to equipeus, change us and help us grow maturely. Even in school, teachers often said that oncewe graduated, we will be facing many different kinds of people who will play a huge partin our future. I was trained that "We NEED Other People's Existence Badly".A new age teaching is becoming more popular today, "Self Help". It's useful I must saybut it should be balanced! Self help teachings train a person to be independent, notrelying on other people, putting every efforts on his or her own. Yes, there is no onewho can change us, just us! If we choose to change, then we could probably change.But you know what, most of the time, no matter how hard we try, still nothing changes.Sometimes and most of the times, you will need someone who will accompany you tochange. You can't do everything on your own.
Let me give you some very important points you need to think about:
1.) You Need A Buddy
You personally will decide if you want to change and improve yourself. Although youdecide, you still need a buddy or another person to back you up. Lets talk about timemanagement. Have you ever struggled in attending meetings,family gatherings, friendsouting on time? Many people struggle in managing their time. Some people will alwaysbe late no matter what. This is what I telling you about, you need a buddy! You needsomeone who will give you reminders. Someone who will push you to change.Now before you choose a buddy, think first of those things you want to change andimprove. If you want to be a better father, look for a father who is doing well with hisfamily. If you want to be a good business person, look for successful business people.Don't ever look for a buddy who struggles like you. It will not be of good help!
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