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Turning an emotional scar into an emotional strength may seem likeit`s something that’s next to impossible. I use to feel the same waywhen my wife was going through her period of anxiety disorders. Youname it, she had it. Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Social AnxietyDisorder and Panic Disorder… and this was just up until her late 20`s.Back in 2006 when she was diagnosed with schizo-affective disorder Iknew something had to change. I wanted to help her so much that Iwas willing to try anything, and yes we went through all types omedicine, therapists and positive affirmation techniques to help her getrid of her anxiety issues. I was so heartbroken because I feltpowerless as my wife was going through this.I don’t know how many of you believe in fate or destiny, but I wassurfing the internet one day I just so happened to run across this audiowith the speaker Dan Kennedy and he was talking about how powerfulPsycho-Cybernetics and the research of Dr. Maxwell Maltz was in
Getting Started
Emotional scars do numbers on your self-image…and I don’t mean thatin a good way!. Every hurtful word said by someone you respect orlook up to, every humiliating episode, every mistake that you wish youcould just forget stays in your mind. If it goes unchecked, it couldcause you to act differently in order to keep you from humiliation ormaking the same mistake. However, if those past experiences areconstantly dwelt upon, constantly relived in vivid detail to the pointwhere you can actually start feeling the same emotions as before, wellaccording to Dr. Maxwell Maltz and his work Psycho-Cybernetics, thiscan cause serious emotional scars and tear up your self imagesomething awful. This is like the domino effect, and can lead to anxietyas well as other health related issues. Although Dr. Maltz’s work isgeared toward the area of successful living, the principals are universaland can be applied directly to anxiety, stress, compulsions, and
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“Michael Jackson`s self- image problem was what fueled his anxiety disorders…” How do you see yourself?
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What`s Inside An Emotional Scar?
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helping you to take back control over your life. The thing that sparkedmy interest was when he said something about the self image being thedriving factor for a person`s success or failure. This seemed like arevelation to me at the time. I remember watching Oprah when shewas talking about the movie “The Secret”, and how powerful yourthinking is. I remember when I saw this I was thinking, “Huh? Yeahright… wolf-tickets!” Then when I heard of this research from Dr. Maltzabout the self-image being the driving force in humans, I realized inmyself that the reason why I do a lot of things , the way I dress, talk,and act is all directly related to how I look at myself or the self-image.After stumbling on this concept I couldn`t wait to tell my wife who washaving major issues at the time.Now, I`m just a regular person, a loving father of 4 , who just sohappened to stumble across this information . After I explained thepsycho-cybernetic principals to my wife it help her free herself fromanxiety issues. Actually it worked so well that her friends and familynoticed , and when she told them that it was her husband that helpedher , these people started coming to me and asking me about it too. Iam not a teacher or public speaker , and I was actually prettyapprehensive about sharing this information with everyone, but becauseso many people are suffering from anxiety issues because of theirdistorted self-image that if I can help just 1 person realize their true self I`m at peace . I have no idea why most psychologists omit this fromthe heaps of information that they “reveal” to their patience. Well, sincemy goal is not to keep you coming back to get a “fix” of therapy ormedicine, I will tell you the truth about how to fix your anxiety issues.phobias.Let me try to describe it …..It`s like, when you scrape your knee on apavement, a wound appears on that area where ,eventually, a scar formsin order to protect that same area from further wounding. The same canbe applied for people when they get wounded emotionally. When youget hurt from what other people say about you or when you find theiractions rubbing you the wrong way, it`s only natural for emotional scarsto form in your mind and you tend to build a protective wall around youin order to prevent from getting wounded again. But the problem withthis is that the same wall that you build to protect you can also stop youfrom feeling true happiness, contentment and other genuinely goodsensations that life brings.For example, if you had an experience where you were riding a bus andas you sat in one of the seats, someone you didn't know placed their
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hand on your thigh as if it was a normal thing to do. This kind of experience cancause you to believe that all men or women are like that. You may end up nevergetting close to anyone physically or emotionally as you feel that you cannot trustpeople.The prevailing concept of beauty in our current society can cause emotional scaringas well. “They say” a person must have a proportional face and at the same time,they must be tall, slim and fair in complexion in order to be considered “typicallybeautiful”. Anyone who does not fall under this umbrella is deemed ugly. Worse, if you have a scar on your face due to an accident, you would feel and believe thatpeople would reject you and they would not take you seriously because of the wayyou look. Unfortunately, if you believed this without any question, your self-esteemwould surely drop to zero. You would withdraw from society so much so that youwould become reclusive leaving yourself even more vulnerable to insults, hurts andcriticisms.People gain emotion scars primarily because there are people in their past who havewronged them in such a way that they just can`t seem to let go of what happened.This is especially true when the people whom you love and respect were the onesinvolved in that wrongdoing.Let`s say you had a controlling parent who constantly told you what to do andcriticized you often for every little mistake, you`d probably become this person whosees their self as a failure and this may also lead you to defy any person of authoritylater on because of the loss of trust from your authority figure from the past. Bybuilding an emotional wall that`s meant to protect you from any emotional hurts andcriticisms is also denying yourself from ever feeling the power of true love, kindnessand other awesome feelings that that are difficult to encounter with a hard heart.What you need to keep in mind is that people are not the ones who hurt us. It mayseem as though people hurt us by their actions and words, but rather, it is the wayyou reacted to your bad experiences that has caused you to develop these emotionalwounds. When you have a poor way of seeing yourself along with constantly feelingnegative about yourself, you tend to get hurt easily. You tend to form a picture inyour mind that you`re the kind of person that other people don`t like or accept. Youtend to build an image in your head that you are this person who is out of place inthe world that you live in. The stronger your self-doubt is, the more susceptible youare to petty threats and insults. But, the reality that you have to realize yourself isthat all those thoughts, feelings , and preconceptions are all in your mind. The goodnews is ,since you put those thoughts in your mind, you can also change them.Panic-Stopper Psycho-Cybernetics gives you all the tools you need for you to be ableto see yourself clearly, and help you to be able to help yourself out of the funk thatyou are in. Helping yourself is key.So, you must realize that you need to be thick-skinned, and a bit vulnerable all atthe same time, so you can prevent yourself from getting upset and stressed easilybut still be able to feel warmth, happiness and all the wonderful things that life has
Removing The Emotional Scar?
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