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had known for years that the night of my high school graduation would be filled with emotion, but I didn’t realize theamount of emotion until it actually hit me.There we stood, waiting for our cue toenter the sanctuary. I heard the music start,and suddenly I found myself walking downthe isle of my church in my graduation robe with my best friends. As I reachedthe front row and turned tosee my classmates walkdown the aisle to join me, ithit me: I feared leaving my friends. Tears rushed overme, as I tried to embracethis huge moment. I neverthought I would be the onecrying right now, that I’d bethe one who was so scared to leave.For months, I had myself convinced that Icouldn’t wait another minute to get to college.But not until the last week of class did I real-ize my time was running out to laugh withthese friends, to talk with these friends. Notuntil the last week of school did I realize howproud I am to have been a part of their gradeand to have been their friends. Because of that, I took advantage of every opportunity that week to spend time with them, not want-ing to miss out on anything.Iknow I heard growing up that a graduatetends to hold on to things in high school because he or she is nervous about the future, whether through a certain relationship orsimply emotionally. After much reflection, Irealize that I probably did hold on at the endof high school in part because of my fear forthe future. But I refuse to say that I hold thesefriends so dear only because of my “gradua-tion fears.” I have learned a great deal fromthem.Even now as I write, I am crying as I amfilled with sense of regret for not havingrealized that, when I used to count down thedays until graduation, I was really countingdown the days I had left with my best friends.Despite the fact that I may have let somemoments slip away, I will never forget thegreat memories that I shared with my friendsin high school. And that is exactly why I am writing, because I want to encourage you,incoming freshmen, and you, rising seniors,not to wait until the last minute to realize howgreat you have it with your friends. Because,after that last minute, things will change.Stop and appreciate the moments youspend with your friends; talk to them aboutthings of purpose; cry with them; laugh andthen laugh some more with them. To those of you who are in my position, about to go tocollege, do the only thing you can do: Re-member the great memories and growth youhave shared with friends, and take the valueof friendships to school with you next year.
Jennifer Keith is a senior at The Cambridge School of Dallas and a Student Voicesvolunteer columnist. Torespond to this column, send an e-mail to voices @dallasnews.com.
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Cherish the moments
I valued time with my friends when it was ending, says
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chool-year memories of zero toler-ance policies, district fiscal irrespon-sibility and TAKS scores all seem tomelt away in the heat of the Dallas sum-mer. But before we completely wipe out allmemories of the past year, I’d like to makenote of a little school business that willtake place in Baltimore, Md., this summer.The National Association of SchoolResource Officers is anorganization supportingschool-based law en-forcement officers,school administratorsand school security/safety professionals working as partners toprotect students, schoolfaculty and staff. They provide a wide array of services to develop themost effective programs to maintain safeand secure school environments. Believe itor not, school-based policing is the fastest-growing area of law enforcement.Now many of us don’t like to thinkabout the need for a law-enforcementpresence, but the reality is that most highschools, junior highs and urban elementa-ry schools have officers assigned to thecampus. While the officer is there to in-tervene when laws are broken or safety isthreatened, they aren’t the only ones withthis responsibility. The role of the princi-pal, assistant principal, counselor and evenregular classroom teachers has been broad-ened to include matters of security and safety.Specialized instruction is part of yearly in-services, covering everything from gangsigns to restraint training. And more oftenthan not, the teachers and principals on thefront lines of these safety battles receive littleto no recognition for the hours of extra workand responsibility they take on. Well, this year, that lack of recognition has been addressed in one corner of the Rich-ardson Independent School District. OfficerLa’Evening Woodard, a member of the Rich-ardson Police Department’s school resourceofficer unit assigned to Richardson NorthJunior High, nominated David Dodd, assis-tant principal at North, for a Safe SchoolLeadership Award. And he won. This is anational recognition for a police officer, ateacher, a principal or a counselor who hasshowed leadership in his or her school andhas gone above and beyond in their efforts tokeep the campus safe. Officer Woodard wascontacted by the president of NASRO and was advised that their committee had select-ed Dodd to receive this award.Dodd and his wife, Babs, who was a teach-er for RISD for 31 years before retiring, aregoing to fly to the national conference in thesummer in Baltimore and be presented withthis award in front of approximately 15,000officers. It means something when a profes-sional outside your field recognizes yourdedication and commitment. We hear a lot these days about “safety” and“protection” for our students at school, but weusually don’t single someone out unlesssomething goes wrong.Schools practice hard lockdowns and softlockdowns, install metal detectors and triple-door entrances, train students and faculty inappropriate threat response. But as anyone who understands safety can attest, it is oftenthe fundamental relationships that have beenset in place on a day-to-day basis that canmake or break a security plan. It’s the cop walking the daily beat reaching out to theneighborhood and putting a face on lawenforcement. It’s the bicycle cop stopping tohelp you pump up a flat tire at the lake andkeeping a watchful eye out for changes inenvironment.In the case of Dodd, it’s the assistantprincipal who greets you at the door by name who lets you know at least one person knows who you are and is glad you are there. Andmaybe that little contact, that brief greeting,helps you recognize that the rules and reg-ulations he enforces are to help you and keep you safe.
Liz Fleskes of Dallas teachesthird grade at Good Shep-herd Episcopal and is aTeacher Voices volunteer columnist. Her e-mail addressis liz.fleskes@gmail.com.
School safety requires good leaders
Assistant Principal David Dodd nationally recognized, says
Liz Fleskes
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How have high gas prices and the recession affected your vacation plans?
Susan SandersWansbrough
Attorney, LakeHighlands
Since gas pricesclimb as summerapproaches, we takeour vacations in the“off” seasons. It’scheaper, the crowdsare smaller, and theweather is cooler.Spending summerwith a stack of goodbooks is delightful.
Nancy L. Ruder
Preschool and artteacher, Plano
Only driving can giveasense of place, time,distance and thegreat variety of ournation. Gas pricesranged from $2.49 to$3.09 a gallon on myrecent 10-day tripthrough Arkansas,Tennessee andKentucky to Ohio.Seeing this areaadded to myunderstanding of theU.S.
Tina Sanchez
Taxpayer advocate atfederal agency,Pleasant Grove
Not really. I’ve alwaystaken inexpensivevacations likecamping and roadtrips. Since I’m luckyenough to have a job,Ithink I shouldcontinue to spend myhard-earned dollarson my hard-earnedvacation.
Chase Wofford
Journalisminstructor, CoppellHigh School
With two youngchildren, I do notwant them to miss outon traveling as afamily so we makesacrifices in otherareas so that we cantake vacations.
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Dorothy Ivey of Dallas:
Last summer, we can-celed a driving vacation because of the high cost of gasoline. We are talking about that same driving va-cation this summer with a definite possibility of making the trip. We think about whether to driveanywhere because of the economy. We do not plea-sure-drive anymore. We have a destination and apurpose to our auto travels.
Thomas West of Dallas:
Simple answer. No job,no vacation.
Ruth Klein of Dallas:
The recession has helpedme to re-evaluate what makes me happy in propor-tion to money spent. I have realized that I enjoy my time spent at home in my garden, my kitchen, or at atable with friends. It’s just as pleasurable as the timespent at a foreign destination, and it costs much less.Iam more refreshed after a day settled in at homethan I am after a day in airports or on the road.
Juli Roland of Dallas:
We’ve never taken extrava-gant vacations, so the current conditions don’t affectus at all. The increase in fuel prices and airfare ismodest, actually: only about $50 per round-tripticket on Southwest. If you book ahead online, dealsare still reasonable. I’d say the main factor holdingus back, other than work, is finding accommoda-tions for our five rescue dogs that are convenient,comfortable and affordable. Seems to me there’d beamarket for a resort hotel with yards for one’s pets. We’d enjoy traveling with our animals, instead of al- ways having to leave them behind.
Kurt Freeman of Dallas:
Actually the high gasprices have helped my vacation plans, since I haveinterest in several oil-well properties.
Laurie Dodic Steinberg of Dallas:
We are drivingto different places. Much less expensive than flyingand then renting a car. Plus, our kids need at leastone long car trip (for their memories) where the dogis on everyone’s lap, everyone in the car gets on oneeveryone else’s nerves and we play I-spy or games in- volving license plates.
Faith Johnson of Dallas:
The current economicenvironment has definitely affected my vacationplanning. Vacation planning now requires the stra-tegic thinking of a corporate CEO. Out-of-the-boxthinking is required to plan a cost-effective, afford-able, yet fun getaway haven. Every family deserves agetaway — even if it’s pitching a tent in the back yardand pretending you’re on a jungle safari to an exoticcontinent.
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very other month, I look forward tothe arrival of a glossy 200-page mag-azine titled
Where to Retire
. The frontcover always features a smiling marriedcouple, usually tanned and wearing expen-sive jewelry. Distinguished gray hair is thenorm for husbands on the cover, but wiveshide their natural color with chocolate brown dyeor sun-kissed blond high-lights. Since I refuse to dyemy gray hair, the only thing I have in common with her is our facial wrinkles.Inside the magazine,advertisements and arti-cles promise happiness,the fulfillment of ourdreams, self-discovery, perfection, a redefini-tion of life and everything we’ve waited for.In case you think I’m making this up, I’mnot. Those are actual headlines from a recentissue. No wonder a quarter of a millionreaders subscribe. This magazine is theanswer to our retirement prayers. A new life with style — who wouldn’t want that?The magazine’s claims are appealing. Icould be happy with a waterfront villa on anintracoastal waterway, or in an exclusivemountain community. My retirementdreams could be fulfilled as I “play each day in living color” and “glow with contentment”in a master-planned neighborhood.Iwould love to live on “curvilinear streets with scenic walkways and bridges,” close tonearby shopping, restaurants and culturalactivities. I want to be part of the “next evolu-tion in active adult living.”The reality, though, is that my husband andIare among the majority of baby-boomersreaching retirement age who can’t afford mostof the places featured in this magazine. I shouldprobably cancel my subscription. It’s sort of likereading my daughter’s
Vogue
when I shouldstick to
Woman’s Day
.If I had another choice, I would. But
Whereto Retire
is the only magazine of its kind. So Ikeep reading it, even though their Web siteclearly states they are geared to the well-edu-cated, well-traveled and affluent market. I haveno qualms with this market. In fact, most of thepeople I know are well-educated and well-traveled, although less affluent. But we desire beautiful places to live, too.My husband and I have been searching theDallas-Fort Worth area for years to find afford-able retirement communities that offer many of the amenities listed in this magazine. We have visited two of them — one near Denton andanother in Frisco. They’re attractive, and we’d be happy there except for the fact they are so farnorth. Our relatives, lifelong friends, doctors,hairstylists and church are in southwest DallasCounty. We don’t want to leave them. As a dear friend stated, “I want to grow old with the people I love.” Amen, sister.Retirement options are limited in this partof the metroplex. There is a small retirementcommunity in Cedar Hill, but we’re not quiteold enough to purchase a home there. By thetime we’re ready to retire, the community will be built out. Retirement apartments are avail-able, but we prefer a home with a small yardand a front porch, just like the ones we seefarther north.This area of Dallas has beautiful topography with rolling hills, an abundance of trees andseveral lakes. Shopping is plentiful, and thecommunities are filled with friendly and caringneighbors. Several nearby universities, collegesand art schools provide educational and cultur-al opportunities.Duncanville Community Theatre and Cedar Valley College produce some of the finest the-ater performances you’ll find anywhere. Many artists in this area win awards in prestigious artshows. An active writers’ group meets regularly, with well-known authors as speakers. And the best amenity? Less traffic than ournorthern neighbors.Developers, where are you? I’d love to seesouthwest Dallas County as a featured retire-ment destination in a slick, glossy magazine. Who knows, I might even get to be on the cover—gray hair and all.
Sarah Crouch of Cedar Hill isapiano teacher, professor and a Community Voicesvolunteer columnist. Her e-mail address is shcrouch@aol.com.
Looking toward retirement
Why can’t I grow old near my friends? asks
Sarah Crouch of Cedar Hill
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