"It's hard to have one's watch stolen, but one reflects that the thief of the watch became a thief from causes of heredity and environment which are as interesting as they are scientifically comprehensible; and one buys another watch, if not with joy, at any rate with a philosophy that makes bitterness impossible." - Arnold Bennett (1867-1931)
Get all the facts.
Describe the problem in detail.
List all the possible solutions.
List the advantages and disadvantages of each.
Detail what you will do.
"Difficulties strengthen the mind, as labor does the body. - Lucius Seneca (3-65)
is a sickening feeling, yet it may seem very appropriate. You should know thatothers have been there and have suffered similar or worse experiences. They have survived,and so will you. To counteract the feeling of hopelessness, list those assets which you dohave. Perhaps some of these: family, youth, friends, health, job, home, nature, pets, garden,music, faith, books . .
"When all else is lost the future still remains." - Christian Bovee (1820-1904)
tips: Create a detailed peaceful retreat in your imagination, and at differenttimes during the day, go there to calm your feelings. Picture it in vivid detail. Perhaps acomfortable room with soft music. A quiet place in the woods. A placid fishing lake. Abeautiful garden with flowers, trees, birds, water falls. Perhaps such a place already exists.While you are there, let go of everything except where you are.
"A quiet mind cureth all." - Robert Burns (1759-1796)
is an awful, sickening feeling, inviting worry and depression. We should think aboutwhat we have done, but just long enough to realize what we did. Make amends if possible,and determine future actions. Avoid experiences that result in guilt by not judging, blaming,or bringing down other people. Try to find their good points, and try to avoid anger. Don'tblame yourself either. Accept that you make mistakes but don't hold a grudge against yourself. One of the best ways to recover from despair, guilt, or sorrow, is to keep busy.
"We ought not to look back unless it is to derive useful lessons from past errors, and for the purpose of profiting by dear-brought experience." - George Washington (1732-1779)