Volume 43, Issue 41, October 11, 2013

Tea Party holding
us hostage
By MICHAEL K. LAVERS
mlavers@washblade.com
Nick Vera, an administrative technician
at the National Institutes for Health, has
spent a lot of time resting and working on
home projects since he was furloughed
last Tuesday when the federal government
partially shut down. The Kensington, Md.,
resident who is deaf also went for a bike
ride during the day on Thursday to take
advantage of the unseasonably warm
weather last week.
I enjoy working with people every day,
Vera told the Washington Blade through an
interpreter during the monthly Gay, Lesbian,
Bisexual, Transgender Employees of the
Federal Government (GLOBE) happy hour
Advocates continue to push
ENDA, despite gridlock
By CHRIS JOHNSON
cjohnson@washblade.com
Despite the ongoing stalemate in
Congress in the second week of a
government shutdown, advocates say
theyre undaunted in their efforts to pass
pro-LGBT legislation.
LGBT rights supporters say they remain
engaged on a high-priority bill, the
Employment Non-Discrimination Act, and
assert plans for a vote in the Senate this fall
remain unchanged.
Christian Berle, legislative director for
Freedom to Work, said he doesnt expect
the shutdown to have any impact on the
timing of an ENDA vote.
Weve always believed the most likely Level One and Cobalt offered special discounts to furloughed federal employees
last week.
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Activist says heir to estate
may be responsible for
delay in signing agreement

By LOU CHIBBARO JR.
lchibbaro@washblade.com
A memorial site recognizing the
legacy of the late D.C. gay rights
pioneer Frank Kameny was scheduled
to be unveiled Friday, Oct. 11, in
Chicago on the second anniversary of
his death while plans for the burial of
his ashes in Washington remain stalled.
New information behind that unusual
turn of events emerged this week from
one of the parties in a dispute over
ownership of the planned interment
site for Kamenys ashes in D.C.s historic
Congressional Cemetery.
Marvin Carter, executive director
of the local LGBT charitable group
Helping Our Brothers and Sisters
(HOBS), said his attorney told him an
agreement reached about two months
ago in which HOBS would transfer
ownership of the cemetery plot to
the Kameny estate was awaiting the
signature of Timothy Clark, Kamenys
friend, housemate and principal heir
to the estate.
The last update I got was we
are all in agreement but Ackerman
Brown cannot nd Clark to sign the
paperwork, Carter told the Blade.
Carter was referring to the D.C.
law rm Ackerman Brown, which has
represented Clark in legal matters
pertaining to the estate since shortly
after Kameny died in his home of
natural causes on National Coming
Out Day on Oct. 11, 2011. In his will,
Kameny left his house and all other
possessions except his voluminous
gay rights papers to Clark. He
bequeathed his papers to the Library
of Congress. Kamenys house sold last
year for $725,000.
Glen Ackerman, managing
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Action upholds lower court
decision striking down law
By LOU CHIBBARO JR.
The U.S. Supreme Court on Monday
denied a petition by Virginia Attorney
General Ken Cuccinelli seeking to
appeal a lower court ruling declaring
the states Crimes Against Nature or
sodomy law unconstitutional.
By refusing to hear the case, the
high court allowed a decision in
March striking down the law by the
Fourth Circuit U.S. Court of Appeals
in Richmond to stand, ending efforts
by Cuccinelli and other ofcials to get
the states ban on oral and anal sex
between consenting adults reinstated.
Under any circumstances this is
denitely a victory and its a good
one, said Claire Gastanaga, executive
director of the ACLU of Virginia. It
puts to rest this idea that somehow
you can have a statute thats found
unconstitutional but you can still be
prosecuted under it.
Gastanaga was referring to the
Supreme Courts landmark 2003
decision of Lawrence v. Texas that
overturned state sodomy laws. A three-
judge panel of the Fourth Circuit Court
of Appeals cited the Lawrence decision
as the basis for its decision in March
to overturn Virginias Crimes Against
Nature statute, saying it could no longer
be enforced under any circumstances.
Cuccinelli has contended that the
Lawrence decision doesnt apply to
cases involving sex between adults and
minors. As a candidate for governor,
Cuccinelli launched a special campaign
website earlier this year claiming
removal of the sodomy law would
prevent law enforcement ofcials from
prosecuting child predators.
LGBT rights attorneys have disputed
that claim, saying existing state laws
enable police and prosecutors to arrest
and prosecute anyone who sexually
abuses a minor.
The Fourth Circuit appeals court
decision struck down a felony conviction
by a judge in the city of Colonial
Heights, Va., of a 47-year-old man for
soliciting oral sex from a 17-year-old
woman. Although no sex took place, the
defendant, William Scott MacDonald,
had been charged with soliciting
someone to commit a sexual act that his
attorneys argued was no longer illegal
under the Lawrence decision.
In its 2-1 ruling, the appeals court panel
declared that the Lawrence decision
invalidated the Virginia Crimes Against
Nature law as facially unconstitutional,
preventing it from being enforced, even
in cases of consensual sodomy between
an adult and a minor if the minor is
between the ages of 15 and 18. The
judges noted that the age of sexual
consent in Virginia is 15.
Cuccinellis ofce issued a statement
on Monday saying the elimination of
the sodomy law puts tools prosecutors
need to protect children in jeopardy.
According to the statement,
Cuccinellis efforts to keep the law on
the books was never about sexual
orientation or private acts between
consenting adults but instead was
about enabling law enforcement
ofcials to prosecute child predators.
Attorneys familiar with the case
including prosecutors in Arlington and
Alexandria have said existing state
laws give law enforcement ofcials
the ability to prosecute all cases of
forcible or coerced sex between an
adult and a minor as a felony. They
say that heterosexual intercourse
between a minor within the age range
of 15 through 17 and an adult can still
be prosecuted as a misdemeanor. But
with the elimination of the state sodomy
law, consenting oral or anal sex among
minors gay or straight between
age 15 and 17 and an adult is fully legal
and cant be prosecuted until or unless
the legislature changes the law.
Gastanaga and others familiar with
Cuccinellis concerns have called on
the Virginia General Assembly to revise
the existing laws addressing the age
of consent or sex with minors in a way
that doesnt violate the Constitution as
spelled out in the Lawrence decision.
That means youve got to do the
hard work of getting together with the
Commonwealths Attorneys and public
defenders and other criminal defense
lawyers and legislators and people like us
and try to work out something that does
address what you want to address, which
is sexual activity that is not constitutionally
protected, Gastanaga said.
James Parrish, executive director
of the statewide LGBT group Equality
Virginia, said his organization would not
oppose legislation that reforms existing
laws to address potential problems
resulting from the striking down of the
sodomy law.
This is something the Supreme Court
decided now more than 10 years ago,
Parrish said. We understand that the
attorney general and others have some
concerns of how the sodomy law was
intertwined with other laws. They have had
10 years to make those laws more clear
and we would hope they would work with
the General Assembly to address these
concerns in a way that doesnt violate
the Lawrence decisions protections
pertaining to consenting adults, he said.
Although Cuccinelli criticized his
Democratic opponent, businessman
Terry McAuliffe, for expressing support
for overturning the Virginia sodomy law,
McAuliffe was leading Cuccinelli by a 42
to 37 percent margin in one of the most
recent public opinion polls conducted
by Virginias Hampton University.
Josh Schwerin, McAuliffes
press secretary, said Cuccinelli
demonstrated an extreme agenda and
uncompromising approach by refusing
in the past to support legislation to
update Virginias laws to conform to the
Supreme Court ruling on sodomy.
Everyone supports strong laws
to protect children and, like most
Virginians, Terry believes our law should
be updated to both conform with
court rulings and allow prosecution
of predators, Schwerin said. As he
admitted as recently as 2009, Ken
Cuccinelli is one of the only elected
ofcials in America who believes that
being gay should result in criminal
prosecution and jail time, he said.
Under the Supreme Courts rules, at
least four of the courts nine justices must
vote to hear a case in order for the court
to consider a case on its merits. The court
never discloses how individual justices
vote or what the vote count was when it
decides whether or not to take a case.
However, in August Supreme Court
Chief Justice John Roberts issued a
ruling denying a separate petition by
Cuccinelli asking the court to put a stay
on the Fourth Circuit Court of Appeals
ruling striking down the Virginia sodomy
law until the Supreme Court decided
whether or not to take the case. Roberts
did not issue an explanation for denying
Cuccinellis request for a stay.
Beez hold onto rst place
The Blades team in the DC Gay Flag Football League continues to hold
onto rst place in their division. The Twerker Beez won Sunday, defeating the
Red Team 28-18. Brian Sparrow had a pick six and two touchdowns.
The Beez improved their record to 4-1 and boast one of the toughest
defenses in the league, holding opponents to an average 13.5 points per
game. The Beez have a bye this week (that means they dont play). Enjoy the
break, Beez, then get back to twerkin!
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McAuliffe maintains lead over Cuccinelli
ROSSLYN, Va.Politico on Tuesday released a poll that shows former Democratic
National Committee Chair Terry McAuliffe continues to maintain his lead over
Virginia Attorney General Ken Cuccinelli in the commonwealths gubernatorial race.
The survey that Public Policy Polling and Harper Polling conducted on
behalf of Politico from Oct. 5-6 found McAuliffe ahead of Cuccinelli by a
44-35 point margin. Twelve percent of the 1,150 likely Virginia voters who
responded to the poll backed Libertarian candidate Robert Sarvis.
McAuliffe leads Cuccinelli by a 52-42 percent margin if Sarvis was not in the race.
Gay wedding refusal prompts lawsuit
DES MOINES, IowaA conservative Christian organization on Oct. 7 led
a lawsuit against the Iowa Civil Rights Commission on behalf of owners of an
art gallery who refused to host a gay couples wedding ceremony.
The Associated Press reported the Becket Fund for Religious Liberty led an
11-count complaint on behalf of Richard and Betty Ann Odgaard, a Mennonite
couple that owns Grtz Haus Gallery in the Des Moines suburb of Grimes.
A gay Des Moines couple sought to hold their wedding at the Odgaards gallery,
but they refused the request on the grounds it would violate their religious beliefs.
The couple led a complaint with the Iowa Civil Rights Commission that alleges the
Odgaards discriminated against them based on their sexual orientation.
The Odgaards lawsuit seeks a ruling that says their decision to deny the
gay couples request did not violate the Iowa Civil Rights Act.
Gay man sues Home Depot
SANTA ANA, Calif.A California man alleges in a lawsuit against Home Depot
that the company sought to terminate gay employees after the 2008 nancial crisis.
Courthouse News Service on Oct. 4 reported that Hardy Lex Housh
seeks $100,000 for discrimination and sexual harassment in a lawsuit he led
in Orange County Superior Court.
Housh, who is gay and registered his domestic partnership with the state in
2011, said in his lawsuit that he worked for Home Depot for 25 years. He was
an assistant manager at a Home Depot in the San Diego suburb of Lemon
Grove when he said the company red him in February 2012.
As of Jan. 1, 2012, Home Depot California made a decision to terminate
all gay employees because of the California Domestic Relationship Act,
Housh alleges in his lawsuit. This legislation required employers to provide
benets to partners.
A Home Depot spokesperson denied Houshs allegations in a statement to
the Hufngton Post.
Trans student elected homecoming king
CONCORD, N.H.Students at a New Hampshire high school earlier this
month elected a transgender classmate as their homecoming king.
The Concord Monitor reported that Concord High Schools LGBT club
nominated Ray Ramsey. The newspaper said he is the rst trans student at
the school to win such an honor.
Kids here have a heart and they know whats right, Concord High School
Principal Gene Connolly told the Concord Monitor after Ramseys coronation.
They love Ray and they support Ray.
Concerned about
athletes and spectators
traveling to Sochi
More than three-dozen members of
Congress this week asked the head of the
U.S. Olympic Committee to explain how
he plans to ensure the safety of American
athletes who plan to compete in the 2014
Winter Olympics in Sochi, Russia.
The letter to U.S. Olympic Committee
CEO Scott Blackmun, which gay
California Congressman Mark Takano and
U.S. Rep. Ileana Ros-Lehtinen circulated
among their Capitol Hill colleagues,
notes Russias LGBT rights record that
includes a law that bans gay propaganda
to minors. It also states that signatories
are concerned about the treatment
of athletes and spectators traveling to
Sochi for the 2014 Winter Olympics who
disagree with Russias violation of the
human rights of LGBT people.
We call on the United States Olympic
Committee to ensure that any American
athlete, or someone associated with an
American team, is afforded the right to
show solidarity with, and support of,
LGBT people around the globe to be
free from discrimination and harm, the
letter reads. Wearing a pin or another
outward manifestation of solidarity with
LGBT athletes should not be dened as
political if it is not intended to support
any clear political party or position but is
intended, instead, to highlight the spirit
of the Olympic games, which celebrates
the unique humanity of all athletes from
every country and culture.
The signatories also criticized the
International Olympic Committee for
prohibiting athletes from challenging
Russias LGBT rights record during the
Sochi games.
While we agree that the Olympics
are a time of friendly competition where
displays of political disagreement
are not appropriate, we are deeply
troubled that the International Olympic
Committee would nd raising awareness
of the abuse of an entire populations
human rights to be a political statement
in violation of Rule 50, the letter reads.
Lawmakers wrote to Blackmun amid
growing outrage over Russias LGBT
rights record that includes calls to
boycott the Sochi games.
Blackmun in August told a Russian
online newspaper that American athletes
should comply with the laws of the
countries in which they compete. A U.S.
Olympic Committee spokesperson later
said the countrys gay propaganda law is
inconsistent with fundamental Olympic
principles and the American Olympic
body has shared our view with the IOC.
Blackmun told reporters last week the
U.S. Olympic Committee would support
efforts to bolster anti-discrimination
provisions within the Olympic charter.
IOC President Thomas Bach earlier on
Monday told All Out Executive Director
Andre Banks in a letter his organization
will do everything it can to ensure the
Sochi games and any future Olympics
will be free of any form of discrimination.
Bach did not specically say whether
the Olympic Charter explicitly opposes
discrimination based on sexual
orientation and gender identity and
expression in his letter to Banks.
Ros-Lehtinen criticized the U.S. Olympic
Committees response to Russias LGBT
rights record during an interview with the
Washington Blade after she spoke at a
Council for Global Equality reception on
Capitol Hill on Sept. 30.
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U.S. Rep. ILEANA ROS-LEHTINEN (R-Fla.) speaks about Russias LGBT rights record during a Council
for Global Equality reception at the Rayburn Building in D.C. on Sept. 30, 2013.
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Gay congressional
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A gay Massachusetts politician
vying to win an upcoming special
congressional election married his
partner of more than ve years last
week in a ceremony he says reects the
progress of the LGBT rights movement.
State Rep. Carl Sciortino, whos
seeking to represent Massachusetts 5th
congressional district in the U.S. House,
wed his partner of more than ve years,
Pem Brown, a consultant for non-prot
communications, in Boston at the Old
South Meeting House.
Sciortino, 35, told the Blade that he
thinks the lack of controversy over his
wedding to Brown, 29, demonstrates
the amount of progress made in
LGBT rights over the last 10 years, and
especially after the U.S. Supreme Court
decision striking down the Defense of
Marriage Act.
I think the fact that I can get married
as a congressional candidate in a
middle of the election, and its not a
big deal, not a controversy, is a sign of
how far weve come in the last 10 years,
Sciortino said. When I rst ran for ofce
in 2004 at the height of the marriage
debate here, it was inconceivable then
that I could 10 years later be getting
married, and have it be recognized not
only by the State of Massachusetts, but
the federal government.
Sciortino, who has touted his
progressive values in running for
Congress, is credited as a state
lawmaker with helping beat back a state
constitutional amendment that would
have rescinded marriage rights for gay
couples in Massachusetts.
The location of the wedding is
signicant for the LGBT rights movement
because its where the LGBT community
gathered in 2003 to celebrate the night
of the Massachusetts Supreme Court
decision that brought marriage equality
to the rst jurisdiction in the country.
According to the Sciortino campaign,
175 people attended the ceremony.
Among them was Marc Solomon,
national campaign director for Freedom
to Marry, who ofciated.
Solomon, who worked with Sciortino
as head of MassEquality when same-sex
marriage was made legal in Massachusetts,
said the wedding is a reminder that the
political is the personal.
Carl had been in that building just
about 10 years ago on the day of that
decision, Solomon said. It was really
cool, exciting and moving to be back
there for the ceremony. Its a place
where lots of social movements and
resistance movements had taken off,
from the Boston Tea Party onwards.
Sciortinos campaign gained more
recognition at the national level last
month when it started running a web
ad of Sciortino coming out as a
progressive to his Tea Party father. Just
recently, Sciortino was endorsed by the
Progressive Democrats of America.
The primary in the heavily Democratic
district is set for Oct. 15. According to
an Emerson College poll published late
last month, Sciortino is at the bottom of
the pack in a crowded eld.
The poll found State Sen. Katherine
Clark in the lead at 24 percent, followed
by Middlesex County Sheriff Peter
Koutoujian at 19 percent, State Sen.
Karen Spilka at 15.5 percent, State Sen.
William Brownsberger at 11 percent and
Sciortino at 5 percent.
Among those who had seen his ad,
the situation is different. The Progressive
Change Campaign Committee published
a poll conducted by Public Policy Polling
on Sept. 26 that showed, among voters
who have seen his ad, Sciortino leading in
the race at 29 percent.
CHRIS JOHNSON
Pa. guv compares gay
marriage to incest
LGBT rights advocates this week
blasted Pennsylvania Gov. Tom Corbett for
comparing same-sex marriage to incest.
It was an appropriate analogy,
Corbett said during a recent interview
with a Harrisburg television station
in response to a question about his
administrations lawyers comparing
gay nuptials to children marrying in an
August court ling in a case that sought
to stop Montgomery County Registrar
of Wills D. Bruce Hanes from issuing
marriage licenses to same-sex couples.
I think a much better analogy would
have been brother or sister.
Corbetts comments came a day after
state Reps. Brian Sims (D-Philadelphia)
and Steve McCarter (D-Montgomery
County) formally introduced a bill that
would extend marriage rights to gays
and lesbians in the commonwealth.
The issue of marriage equality is not
a joke, McCarter said. The governors
words only further demonstrate that
he is out of touch with the majority of
Pennsylvanians.
Fred Sainz of the Human Rights
Campaign added that Corbett is
horribly out of touch with reality and
does not represent the views of fair-
minded Pennsylvanians.
Opponents of equality are becoming
increasingly desperate these days,
Sainz said. Gov. Corbetts remarks
embody that desperation, especially
as equality efforts pick up speed in
Pennsylvania.
Neighboring Maryland, Delaware and
New York are among the 13 states and
D.C. in which same-sex couples can
legally marry.
Pennsylvania Attorney General Kathleen
Kane in July announced she would not
defend the commonwealths statutory
gay nuptials ban against a lawsuit the
American Civil Liberties Union led against
it on behalf of 11 same-sex couples and
a widow. Corbett subsequently said his
administration would defend the same-sex
marriage ban.
The governor sought to clarify his
comments in a statement he issued on
Friday.
During a recent interview, I was asked
to comment on the ruling by Judge
[Dan] Pellegrini that the Montgomery
County Clerk of Courts did not have the
power to decide the constitutionality
of state laws, Corbett said, as the
Associated Press reported. My words
were not intended to offend anyone. If
they did, I apologize.
MICHAEL K. LAVERS
Biden cancels
HRC dinner speech
Vice President Joe Biden cancelled
a scheduled appearance at last
weekends Human Rights Campaign
National Dinner in D.C. due to the
federal government shutdown.
Biden had been scheduled to deliver
the keynote address at the Saturday event
at the Walter E. Washington Convention
Center that drew more than 3,000 people.
HRC spokesperson Fred Sainz told the
Washington Blade the vice president
called his organizations president, Chad
Grifn, to express his regrets.
Sainz added Biden reafrmed his
clear commitment to equality nationwide
for all LGBT people to Grifn.
Were disappointed but
understand, Sainz told the Blade.
Jennifer Lopez and pop singer Sara
Bareilles appeared at the dinner alongside
DOMA plaintiff Edith Windsor and
attorney Roberta Kaplan, among others.
See page 52 and washingtonblade.com
for photos of the dinner.
MICHAEL K. LAVERS
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FRANCIS PEMBERTON PEM BROWN and Mass. House Rep. CARL SCIORTINO, JR. (D-Middlesex)
wed last week.
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Many advocates would
welcome continued
participation
By CHRIS JOHNSON
cjohnson@washblade.com
Amid a frenzy of new marriage
equality lawsuits making their way to the
Supreme Court, some LGBT advocates
say continued participation from the
Obama administration in litigation
would boost their chances for success.
One advocate eager for the
administration to continue its
participation in litigation seeking
marriage equality is Evan Wolfson,
president of Freedom to Marry.
There are 20-some freedom to marry
cases underway around the country
now, including the two in Virginia, and
President Obamas and the Justice
Departments support for the freedom
to marry and constitutional guarantees
should absolutely be part of all of
them, Wolfson said.
Because the Obama administration
isnt a party to any of the lawsuits pending,
under ordinary circumstances the
administration would participate by ling a
friend-of-the-court brief before the courts.
But at this stage, some legal experts
who spoke to the Washington Blade are
taking a more passive stance on whether
the Obama administration should
take part, saying theyd welcome
help from the administrations lawyers
without issuing an overt call for action.
Ted Olson and David Boies, the legal
duo that brought marriage equality to
California by challenging Proposition 8,
articulated this view during a conference
call with reporters last week when asked
by the Washington Blade if they want
the administrations support in Bostic
v. Rainey, the lawsuit in Virginia they
joined last week.
Boies, the Democratic half of the
legal team representing the American
Foundation for Equal Rights, said the
administrations participation would
be welcome because the views of the
administration are important.
Exactly when they will get involved
and how they will get involved and what
stage they will get involved is something
that is obviously up to the administration,
Boies said. Whether they will decide to
wait until we get to the Supreme Court
or express views earlier is up to them.
But whenever they come in, their support
would be welcome.
Boies comments during the conference
call follow an endorsement of participation
from the Obama administration in his
lawsuit during a National Press Club event
earlier in the day.
Echoing that sense was Olson, the
Republican half of the legal duo that
presented the case against Prop 8
during oral arguments before the
Supreme Court.
To have the presidents imprimatur
on this issue is so very, very important
to the court, Olson said. There are
institutional reasons for why the Justice
Department with the president gets in
cases at particular times and well wait
till what they decide the right time is, but
we very much welcome their support in
this case.
The administration has taken part in
previous marriage lawsuits. When the
case against Prop 8 came before the
Supreme Court, the Justice Department
led a friend-of-the-court brief in favor of
plaintiffs and sent U.S. Solicitor General
Donald Verrilli to take part in oral
arguments before the Supreme Court.
Although the administration didnt
argue the U.S. Constitution guarantees
marriage rights for gay couples nationwide,
it did contend Prop 8 was unconstitutional
and suggested states that offer domestic
partnerships should have to afford full
marriage rights to gay couples.
The administrations participation in
cases against the Defense of Marriage
Act has been more extensive. After
announcing it would no longer defend
the law in court, the administration led
briefs against the anti-gay law and sent
Justice Department lawyers to argue
against it in district courts, appellate
courts and the Supreme Court.
The Bostic case is but one pending
marriage equality lawsuit. According
to a tally provided by Lambda Legal,
there are 35 marriage lawsuits before
19 states. Just last week, Lambda led
an additional federal lawsuit seeking
marriage equality in West Virginia.
Suzanne Goldberg, a lesbian and co-
director of Columbia Universitys Center
for Gender & Sexuality Law, said the
involvement from the administration in
the marriage lawsuits would reinforce
that the lives of all Americans
are deeply affected when states
discriminate actively against some of
their constituents.
The Justice Departments
participation puts additional moral
force behind the claims for equality and
fairness that gay and lesbian couples
make in these cases, Goldberg
continued. In that sense, the federal
governments participation in state law
challenges can be important and helpful,
but even if it does not participate, it
is also important and helpful that the
administration is on record decrying the
injustice of unequal marriage rules.
But the sense that the Obama
administration should le additional
friend-of-the-court briefs in the marriage
lawsuits isnt universal.
Roberta Kaplan, a lesbian attorney
at Paul & Weiss who argued against
DOMA before the Supreme Court, said
shes unsure additional friend-of-the-
court briefs are necessary.
Courts already know the Justice
Departments position in the aftermath
of the Perry case, Kaplan said, and
ling additional briefs in every marriage
lawsuit out there would be frankly, a
logistical pain in the butt for them.
What they said in Perry pretty much
answers the question, Kaplan said.
Frankly, a court knows what their
position is because theyve said it. Its the
same issueThere should be no mystery
to anyone what their position is.
Kaplan said if the administration
would participate, chances are it would
happen at the appellate or Supreme
Court level.
Im sure at the Supreme Court, when
and if one of these cases gets up there,
they will be asked to participate and
they will, Kaplan said. At the appellate
courts, I think it pretty much depends on
which case and whether theyre going to
have a policy of putting in the same brief
in 20 different cases that all say the same
thing when theyve already done it once.
The Justice Department hasnt
responded to repeated requests for
comment. The answering machine
at the public affairs line says it will
respond to calls in the aftermath of the
government shutdown.
The administration may not be able
to participate in a marriage equality
case as long as the government remains
closed. According to the shutdown plan
on the Justice Department website,
civil litigation, the category of litigation
for marriage lawsuits, will be curtailed
or postponed.
Litigators will need to approach
the courts and request that active
cases, except for those in which
postponement would compromise to a
signicant degree the safety of human
life or the protection of property, be
postponed until funding is available,
the website states. If a court denies
such a request and orders a case to
continue, the government will comply
with the courts order, which would
constitute express legal authorization
for the activity to continue.
But if the Obama administration were
to le a brief in a marriage case before
an appellate court, the one for which
the opportunity is coming soon is in the
case challenging the same-sex marriage
ban in Nevada known as Sevcik v.
Sandoval. The case, led by Lambda, is
pending before the U.S. Ninth Circuit of
Appeals and is one of the cases that has
thus far advanced the furthest. Friend-
of-the-court briefs are due Oct. 25.
Lisa Hardaway, a Lambda
spokesperson, said the attorney
working on the case would welcome
support from the administration.
Tara Borelli, our lead attorney on
the Sevcik matter, says that we would
welcome a brief from the Obama
administration, Hardaway said.
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From left, lawyer DAVID BOIES, plaintiffs JEFF ZARILLO, PAUL KATAMI, KRIS PERRY, SANDY
STIER and lawyer TED OLSON at the HRC National Dinner. Olson and Boies say theyd welcome
President Obamas participation in their lawsuit
WASHINGTON BLADE PHOTO BY MICHAEL KEY
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Claims police used anti-gay
slurs, accused him of spying
One of the four Dutch LGBT rights
advocates whom Russian authorities
arrested in July told the Washington
Blade he feels they wanted to use them
as an example of what could happen to
anyone who challenges the countrys
gay propaganda to minors ban.
They thought that we came there
to make the Russian law or Russian
authorities [look] ridiculous, Kris van
der Veen said during an interview from
his home in the Dutch city of Groningen
on Sept. 27. It was not the case, but
they think we were doing that.
Van der Veen, 33, and three other
Dutch LGBT rights advocates traveled to
Murmansk to lm a documentary about
LGBT life in Russia. They interviewed
members of Coming Out and the
Russian LGBT Network and organizers
of an LGBT lm festival in St. Petersburg
before they arrived in the city.
Groningen and Murmansk have been
sister cities for nearly 25 years, and the
coordinator of the program helped van
der Veen and his colleagues secure a
cultural visa that he said allowed them
start a dialogue about any subject
with the citys residents. Van der Veen
said it also permitted him and his fellow
advocates to discuss homosexuality while
in Russia because its not specied.
The trip also coincided with a year-long
series of events that commemorated the
400th anniversary of friendship between
Russia and the Netherlands.
I thought, well I will go there, I will ask
them about their lives and if the anti-gay
law has any effect on their lives, van der
Veen told the Blade. So thats what I did.
Van der Veen said he and a group of
up to 20 others that included his fellow
activists and their crew arrived at a
summer camp in Murmansk on July 20.
He said he discussed Dutch LGBT
advocacy efforts during a lecture he gave
on human rights. Van der Veen said he
also lmed some of the other seminars
on the same topic and interviewed a
Russian teenager and her girlfriend.
Van der Veen said authorities detained
him and his colleagues on July 21 as they
tried to leave the camp and return to
Murmansk to get some footage of the city.
I walked into this hallway and then
when I turned the corner I saw about 15
police ofcers men, women in uniforms,
without uniforms coming towards me,
he recalled. They were also spreading
into other hallways and rooms.
Van der Veen said the ofcers told
him in Russian that he had to return to
the room where the rest of the people
were. He said the Russian activists who
had organized the human rights lectures
stood up for us and began to speak
with the authorities. In spite of these
efforts, Van der Veen said immigration
ofcials requested to see his and his
colleagues passports and told them to
go with them into another room.
Van der Veen told the Blade they
interrogated him and the three other
Dutch LGBT rights advocates for three
hours. They subsequently received a
ne of 3,000 rubles or roughly $93.
We thought, okay we get a ne, its
now over, Van der Veen said. Then
they said there are also police ofcers
[who] want to talk to you.
He said uniformed police ofcers
and others whom he described as KGB
agents questioned them for another ve
hours. Van der Veen categorized one of
the ofcials as very provocative.
The rst thing he said was, this is a
police hat. You can wear it and I can take a
picture of you, he said, noting the ofcer
was standing less than a foot in front of
him. I couldnt say no, but I had to say no
because I think otherwise I would make
fun of the Russian authorities if I would
take the hat and put it on my head. He
also said I can take a picture of you.
Van der Veen said the authorities
referred to him as a spy and used
unspecied anti-gay slurs against him
while in custody. He told the Blade they
said the teenager whom he interviewed
for his documentary was a minor.
D.C. did not bid for
quadrennial sporting event
By LOU CHIBBARO JR.
The Federation of Gay Games
announced on Monday that it has
selected Paris, France as the site for its
2018 quadrennial international sports
competition Gay Games X thats
expected to attract more than 10,000
spectators and athletes.
The announcement came at a
ceremony in Cleveland, Ohio, which is the
site for Gay Games IX set for Aug. 9-16,
2014. Cleveland Mayor Frank Jackson, a
strong backer of Clevelands winning bid
for the games four years ago, was given
the honor of making the announcement.
A statement released by the FGG
says the organizations board of
directors and international delegates
representing LGBT sports groups from
countries throughout the world voted
Monday to select Paris as the host city
following a lengthy process of reviewing
bids from ve cities.
Earlier this year, Orlando, Fla. and
Amsterdam, Holland were eliminated
from contention, leaving Paris, London
and Limerick, Ireland as nalists leading
up to this weeks vote.
The international delegates and
board of directors of the Federation of
Gay Games voted at the end of a three-
day meeting featuring site inspection
reports, question-and-answer sessions,
committee reviews and, a highlight of
the event, the oral presentation by each
bidding organization, a statement
issued by the FGG says.
Paris proposed a wide range of
sports in quality venues, many of which
offer good visibility for the event, the
statement says. French LGBT sport
organizations already have a great deal
of experience hosting international
multi-sport tournaments, and their LGBT
community presents outstanding cultural
eventsAnd of course Paris is a great
destination to visit or revisit, it says.
The statement adds that the French
team promoting the bid came with
demonstrable political support,
including Minister for Sport Valerie
Fourneyron and ve-time Olympic
fencing medalist Laura Flessel, who
were part of the presentation team.
The statement praised organizers of the
bids from London and Limerick, saying
the quality of their bids was superb.
Les Johnson, the FGGs co-chair for
external affairs and a delegate for Team
D.C., a coalition of D.C.-area LGBT sports
groups, said he expects as many as 500
attendees from the D.C. area to participate
in next years Gay Games in Cleveland.
Johnson said that D.C., which lost
its own bid to host the Gay Games to
Cleveland four years ago, decided not
to bid this year for the 2018 games.
I believe Washington, D.C.
decided not to bid due to our relative
geographical closeness to Cleveland,
Johnson told the Blade.
Others involved with Team D.C. have
said it would be highly unlikely for the
FGG to select a city from the same
country for two successive Gay Games.
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12 OCTOBER 11, 2013 I NTERNATI ONAL NEWS
LES JOHNSON of Team D.C. said that D.C.,
which lost its bid to host the Gay Games to
Cleveland four years ago, decided not to bid
this year for the 2018 games.
Paris to host 2018 Gay Games
Dutch activist recalls arrest under anti-gay Russian law
KRIS VAN DER VEEN was detained in Russia.
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window for a Senate vote on ENDA was
between the last week of October and
Thanksgiving, and we think were still on
track for that timing, Berle said.
Even as Congress focuses on nding
an agreement to restore funds to keep
the government in operation and raise
the nations debt limit, advocates say
they met last week with lawmakers to
build support for ENDA.
Rea Carey, executive director of the
National Gay & Lesbian Task Force, said the
shutdown will not shut us up on issues like
ENDA as well as immigration reform.
Its always the right time for rights
and protections: thats why we were on
the Hill last week pushing for ENDA
with the members and their staff
who remain at their desks during the
shutdown, Carey said. Just because
some members of Congress dont want
to do their jobs, doesnt mean that we
should stop doing ours.
Similarly, Berle said last week Freedom
to Work had a very productive
discussion with an undeclared
Republican senator who was eager to
learn about the bill.
While senators are focused, on
both sides of the aisle, on resolving the
government shutdown, they can walk
and chew gum at the same time, Berle
said. We have been actively engaging
with our allies on the Hill, while
continuing to lobby the swing votes.
Berle declined to name the
undeclared senator with whom he
spoke, but said the lawmaker is actively
considering support for the bill.
Although LGBT advocates are saying
the trajectory for ENDA is unchanged,
lawmakers close to ENDA are silent
during the government shutdown.
Emails to the ofces of Senate Majority
Leader Harry Reid (D-Nev.); Sen. Jeff
Merkley (D-Ore), ENDAs chief sponsor;
and Senate Health, Education, Labor &
Pensions Committee Chair Tom Harkin
(D-Iowa) were returned with automatic
replies that the ofces were closed.
A Senate senior Democratic aide,
who spoke on condition of anonymity,
said he hasnt heard about ENDA
discussions and everythings on hold
besides budget and debt negotiations.
Still, he didnt dispute that advocates
are engaged on the legislation.
Thats probably credible, but they
also have to put on airs, or put up a face
like theyre still doing the work on it,
the aide said. But, honestly, were not
going to get to anything until the week
of Halloween. We wont get to anything
other than debt ceiling and government
funding until Halloween week, so
everything is on hold until we address
those two things.
Americans for Workplace Opportunity,
the $2 million campaign whose steering
committee consists of 11 groups
seeking to pass ENDA, didnt respond
to multiple requests for comment on the
status of its ENDA lobbying during the
government shutdown. The campaign
was scheduled to have a citizens lobby
day on Capitol Hill to push for ENDA
passage on Oct. 3.
As gridlock continues, its reasonable to
question whether legislation that would
prohibit discrimination against LGBT
workers could reach the presidents desk
during the current Congress.
Berle insisted the situation is different
for ENDA when asked if the current
impasse reects poorly on the chances
for passage of the LGBT bill.
ENDA is not a partisan issue, unlike
the budget and government funding,
senators on both sides of the aisle are
in ongoing discussion about the need
for employment protections, Berle
said. We are condent that ENDA will
have the 60 votes necessary for cloture.
Were ready to pass these fundamental
workplace protections.
Berle added that there is time to push
for ENDA in the House, where passage
will be more difcult.
Fortunately there are still 15 months
in the current Congress to pass ENDA,
Berle said. Freedom to Work is
actively engaging not only with Senate
ofces, but are picking up Republican
supporters in the House to help press
the case for consideration and building a
majority in the House of Representatives
to make federal workplace protections
for LGBT workers a reality.
The shutdown could also have
an impact on another route LGBT
advocates are using to pursue LGBT
rights: the federal judiciary. The
website for the U.S. courts, as reported
by ThinkProgress, at the time of the
shutdown said the court would remain
open for about 10 business days, but
on or around Oct. 15, the judiciary will
reassess the situation.
Jon Davidson, legal director for
Lambda Legal, said its unclear at this
time whether the shutdown will lead
to a nationwide closure or impact the
35 marriage equality cases he counts
pending before the judiciary.
Federal courts will be operating
at least until mid-October and
thereafter, it will vary by courthouse,
as each federal district and circuit
makes its own independent budget
decisions, Davidson said. Furloughs
of nonessential federal judicial staff
is likely to lead to postponements of
pending hearings in many parts of the
country, but I have not heard of any of
the immediately upcoming hearings in
marriage cases being delayed.
The case for which a closure of the
federal judiciary could have the most
immediate impact is DeBoer v. Snyder, the
federal lawsuit seeking marriage equality
in Michigan. Oral arguments are set for
Oct. 16, just about the time the federal
judiciary will make a reassessment.
Rod Hansen, a spokesperson for
the U.S. District Court for the Eastern
District of Michigan, said he doesnt
expect oral arguments in the case will
be affected by the shutdown.
There is no way of being sure,
but I doubt very much that it will be
postponed, Hansen said.
But Davidson said the shutdown is
already having an effect on other parts
of the federal court system that are
important to LGBT people.
Immigration courts have postponed
hearings in matters not involving
someone in detention, meaning delays
for many individuals seeking asylum
or binational married couples seeking
green cards for the foreign spouse,
Davidson said. Discrimination
proceedings before the EEOC are
being postponed, which is having a
negative impact on several cases we are
currently handling on behalf of LGBT
and HIV-positive workers.
As Congress hashes out the way
forward, the House continues to pass
bills to fund the government through a
piecemeal approach without approving
legislation that would restore operations
to the government as a whole.
Among these bills is a measure to
continue funds for the National Institutes
for Health. As the Blade reported last
week, the lack of funds for this agency
has implications for HIV/AIDS because
the shutdown put a freeze on new
medical research related to the disease.
The White House has threatened to
veto the legislation, saying a piecemeal
approach to fund the government isnt
appropriate, and Reid indicated a lack
of interest in bringing up the bill in the
Senate, saying, What right do they
have to pick and choose what parts of
government can be funded?
Despite shutdown, activists
continue to engage on ENDA
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that took place at Cobalt in Dupont
Circle on Thursday night. Im missing
people; Im now missing pay.
Signs of the partial government
shutdown that has left more than 800,000
federal employees furloughed abound
throughout D.C.
The lesbian-owned Pizza Paradiso,
which has restaurants in Dupont Circle,
Georgetown and Alexandria, will offer
a $2 beer special to any furloughed
federal employee who shows their
government identication during the
shutdown. JR.s on 17th Street, N.W., has
a similar offer, while nearby Level One
referenced furloughed employees in a
sign outside its Dupont Circle location
on Thursday that advertised $6 burgers.
The shutdown inspired a number of
team names during Nellies weekly trivia
night on Wednesday. These include
Turned-Away NIH Cancer Kids, Cruz
Makes a Boehner Shutdown, Too and
Obamacare Killed the Panda Porn Star.
Ken, a furloughed National Oceanic
and Atmospheric Administration staffer
who did not give the Blade his last
name, has been with the agency since
1993. He told the Blade during the
Federal GLOBE happy hour that he
took a long bike ride on Wednesday.
He, like Vera, has also tackled some
household chores.
Thats all I really can do, Ken said.
We couldnt take any work home with us
and thats really whats left for me to do.
Dennis Palaganis, a D.C. resident who
has been a software engineer at the
Department of Homeland Security since
May, has also done errands hes ignored
for a long time since he was furloughed
on Tuesday. He told the Blade he has also
reconnected with people and spent a
lot of time on Facebook since the partial
It wasnt really something I had
prepared for, Palaganis said during the
Federal GLOBE happy hour. I didnt
have a bucket list of things that I wanted
to dooh in case of shutdown do these
things. Im just kind of playing it by ear.
The furloughed federal employees
with whom the Blade spoke on Thursday
all blamed Congress and Tea Party
Republicans in particular for the partial
Their style of government is not
geared toward compromise, Palaganis
said, referring to their efforts to defund
the Affordable Care Act known as
Obamacare that took effect on Tuesday.
Theyre basically holding the federal
workers and contractors hostage.
Federal GLOBE President Len Hirsch,
who has worked for the Smithsonian for
24 years and is currently furloughed,
said members of Congress whom he
described as jerks are playing games
with the U.S. economy and its ability to
help people around the world. He also
lamented the impact the shutdown will
have on police ofcers, security guards,
cafeteria workers, gift shop clerks and
others with less nancial means than he.
Theyre being made to pay an awful
price for the egos of a bunch of our
senators and Congress people, Hirsch
told the Blade. Thats just not right.
Furloughed employees with whom
the Blade spoke were not optimistic
they would return to work in the coming
days or even weeks.
I think its going to go on for a little while,
said Mark Lerro, a Capitol Hill resident who
has worked with the Transportation Security
Agency for ve years.
Observers have begun to note it
is possible President Obama, House
Speaker John Boehner (R-Ohio) and
other congressional leaders could reach
a deal to fund the federal government
around the Oct. 17 debt ceiling deadline.
Vera told the Blade he is hopeful
as he discussed the meeting between
Obama, Boehner, Senate Majority
Leader Harry Reid (D-Nev.), Senate
Minority Leader Mitch McConnell (R-
Ky.) and House Minority Leader Nancy
Pelosi (D-Calif.) that took place at the
White House on Wednesday. He added,
however, he feels it is really hard to
predict when he and other furloughed
federal employees will return to work.
Both parties and the president really
have to come together, Vera said. Im
going to wait and see.
Furloughed employees on
their unexpected week off
Federal GLOBE President LEN HIRSCH said
members of Congress are playing games with
the U.S. economy.
partner of Ackerman Brown, emailed
a statement to the Blade this week
disputing Carters assertion that Clark
cant be found.
Ackerman Brown is in regular
contact with Timothy Clark, the personal
representative of the Estate of Frank E.
Kameny and all negotiations on behalf
of our client have been in good faith,
the statement said. The decision
regarding interment of Frank Kamenys
ashes rests solely with Mr. Clark and
he is discharging his duties with full
knowledge of the past negotiations.
Neither Marvin Carter nor his attorney
have ever discussed the placement of a
monument in lieu of the cemetery plot
with Ackerman Brown.
Ackerman noted that the status of the
negotiations between Ackerman Brown
and HOBS over the ownership transfer
of the cemetery plot had not changed
since July. At that time, Ackermans
law partner, Christopher Brown, said
a tentative agreement had been
reached to end the dispute that has
prevented Kamenys ashes from being
interred for nearly two years.
The tentative agreement was
reached on July 9 and the estate is
awaiting further input from HOBS
counsel that is necessary to nalize the
transaction, Brown said in a July 24
statement to the Blade.
The estate has always been, and
remains willing to work with gay
community representatives who knew
Frank Kameny in organizing a burial
service and appropriate gravesite at
which members of the community could
pay tribute to Kameny, Brown said in
his July statement.
Earlier this year, Carter said HOBS
dropped a previous condition that
called for the Kameny estate to pay
HOBS for the cemetery plot that HOBS
purchased with money donated by
members of the LGBT community.
We are not asking for a dime from
the estate, Carter told the Blade in an
Oct. 4 interview. The delay is not on
our end.
Carter said that once the tentative
agreement was reached the two
parties asked Congressional Cemetery
President Paul Williams to draft the
documents needed to nalize the
ownership transfer of the cemetery plot.
When contacted by the Blade last
week, Williams said he could not
provide details but suggested the long-
awaited resolution to the dispute was in
the hands of Clark and his attorneys.
We have put forth a proposal to the
estate and were waiting to hear back,
he said. Thats about all I can say. Were
just waiting to hear back.
Clark said in August, one day prior
to Browns statement to the Blade, that
he understood an agreement had been
reached over the cemetery plot. He said
he was thinking about when to arrange
for a burial ceremony and that he would
welcome suggestions from Kamenys
friends and fellow activists about the
details for such a ceremony.
Clark didnt respond to a phone
message from the Blade this week.
HOBS and a group of Kamenys
friends and colleagues in the LGBT
rights movement initially scheduled
an interment ceremony for Kameny
at Congressional Cemetery for March
3, 2012. At the time, Charles Francis,
a Kameny friend who helped Kameny
organize his papers to facilitate their
donation to the Library of Congress,
arranged for the U.S. Department of
Veterans Affairs to provide a military
headstone for the gravesite that
recognized Kamenys service in the
Army in World War II.
With money raised by HOBS, Francis
and Kamenys friends and fellow activists
Rick Rosendall and Bob Witeck also
arranged for the purchase of a separate
headstone for the gravesite bearing
the inscription Gay is Good. Kameny,
who coined that slogan in the 1960s to
advance the cause of gay rights, said it
was something for which he wanted to
be remembered as much if not more
than any of his other accomplishments.
But just as both stones were placed
at the gravesite, Witeck announced
that the burial of Kamenys ashes had
been cancelled after the estate told
the cemetery it would not release
Kamenys ashes until it obtained legal
ownership of the burial plot from HOBS.
Cemetery ofcials later removed the
headstone and Gay is Good marker
and placed them in storage, saying it
was inappropriate for them to remain
in place while the ownership of the
gravesite was in dispute.
Michael Bedwell, a longtime friend
and gay activist colleague of Kamenys
who helped select the gravesite, said
the removal of the two stones displaced
an important and historic site where
people could go to reect on Kamenys
accomplishments, which he said
improved the lives of LGBT people.
It is a disgrace that people dont
have a place to pay homage to him two
years after his passing, Bedwell said. I
feel those stones should be returned to
the site even if the ashes are not interred
there at this time.
Tension between the Kameny
estate and Carter, Francis, Witeck and
Rosendall increased in the months
following the cancellation of the burial
when the estate sued the four men on
grounds that they removed without
permission items from Kamenys house
shortly after his death. The four said they
removed the items for safekeeping at a
time of confusion following Kamenys
death when Clark, who was living in
the house at the time, gave them
permission to enter the house to sort
through Kamenys belongings. They
said they planned to return the items,
some of which were papers slated to go
to the Library of Congress.
Rosendall said this week that the men
were accompanied by local attorney
Michele Zavos when they entered
Kamenys house shortly after his death.
Zavos had worked for Kameny and
prepared his will, Rosendall said.
Zavos on Wednesday conrmed that
she was present during that visit. She
said Clark gave them permission to enter
the house and that he understood that
Rosendall and the other men wanted
to look through Kamenys papers and
other historic items to take steps to
preserve them.
According to Zavos, it was during
that visit that Rosendall, Francis and
Witeck found the original signed copy
of Kamenys will and turned it over
to Zavos, who read and explained its
provision to Clark.
Tim was completely aware of what
we were doing, she said.
Rosendall added that he was
especially troubled when Clark told
the Blade in an interview in March 2012
that someone placed an anonymous
letter in the mail slot at Kamenys house
where Clark was living that used a racial
slur and denounced him for being the
beneciary in Kamenys will.
And thats just horrible for anybody
to say, Clark said in the 2012 interview.
It said, The nigger got everything.
When the Blade asked to see the
letter, Clark claimed it was so upsetting
to him that he discarded it in the trash
before realizing it may have been better
to keep it and have others help him
discover the person who wrote it.
Rosendall, however, said Clarks
disclosure of the letter at a time when
the Kameny estate was making public
statements accusing him, Carter, Witeck
and Francis of improperly taking items
from the house could have raised
suspicions that they may have been
responsible for the anonymous hate letter.
I was not under any impression that
he had made an explicit accusation,
Rosendall said this week. The whole
point was he throws that out there as
red meat and there is an implication
that somebody else that he was talking
about was to blame for it.
The Blade requested a response from
Ackerman to Rosendalls statements
about the hate letter. The Blade further
asked Ackerman if anyone besides Clark
saw the letter and could corroborate
its existence. Ackerman emailed the
following statement: The questions you
ask regarding the letter are not relevant
to this rms representation of the Estate
of Franklin E. Kameny and any comment
on this topic would be inappropriate.
2 years later, Kameny ashes remain unburied
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PFLAG tackles welcoming
schools
The Westminster-Carroll County
chapter of PFLAG will discuss the topic
of welcoming schools at its monthly
meeting on Oct. 20. Kisha L. Webster,
a professional educator and youth
advocate, will be the main speaker.
Webster serves as director
of Education and Community
Engagement for Welcoming Schools,
a program of the Human Rights
Campaign that offers tools, lessons
and resources on embracing family
diversity, avoiding gender role
stereotyping and ending bullying and
name-calling. She has facilitated
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on inclusive learning communities
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Equality Md. announces
gala performers
Equality Maryland announced a list
of performers from across Maryland
who will be entertaining at its 25th
anniversary gala on Oct. 27. Singer
J.J. Nolis, songwriter/artist Steven
Gellman, executive director of
Maryland Citizens for the Arts John
Schratweiser, popular group New
Wave Singers, soul singer Jonathan
Gilmore, Baltimore native songwriter/
artist SONiA, world music band Raa
Djarsi, and vocalist Lacey Liszt are
scheduled to perform.
Aside from acknowledging Equality
Marylands 25 years of advocacy,
the gala will also honor the work
and achievements of state Sen. Rich
Madaleno (D-Montgomery County).
The event will run from 11a.m.-2 p.m.
at the Lord Baltimore Hotel, 20 W.
Baltimore St. in Baltimore.
Adam May, national correspondent
for America Tonight on Al Jazeera
America and Derek Valcourt, Emmy
Award-winning reporter for WJZ-TV will
co-emcee the gala.
Individual tickets are $100, and
Maryland newlyweds can receive a
newlywed package for $170 including
special recognition for newlywed status.
For more information and to purchase
tickets, visit equalitymaryland.org/25th-
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Divas Against Violence
benet
A drag show, Divas Against
Violence, will take place on Oct. 12 at
The Quest to raise money for the House
of Ruth, an organization dedicated to
nding safety for victims of domestic
violence. The Quest is located at 3607
Fleet St. in Baltimore.
Doors open at 8 p.m. Tickets are $5
in advance or $7 at the door with all
proceeds going to the House of Ruth.
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Gay Mens Health Crisis takes stock
NEW YORK In the wake of a change in leadership, staff and supporters of
New Yorks Gay Mens Health Crisis are discussing where the agency should turn its
attention, the New York Times reports.
Last year, the organization operated at a six-gure loss and government money
is increasingly difcult to get, the article said. David Fazio, the chief nancial ofcer,
told the Times that despite running a decit, the groups nancial situation remained
strong. It has a current annual budget of $26.7 million, and the AIDS Walk next year
is expected to raise $5.4 million.
Myron Sulzberger Rolfe, the chair of the board of directors, said the group had
helped thousands of clients directly, and tens of thousands of others through its
programs and outreach efforts.
ACT UPs Peter Staley called many organizations around the country dedicated to
ghting HIV/AIDS, including Gay Mens Health Crisis, AIDS Inc., arguing that they
have become stale and timid, content to take government money and not challenge
the status quo.
For those of us who never left the crisis mentality and think that is our best posture,
to see these large bloated bureaucracies rich with large government grants and the
still stubbornly high rates of infection in this country, it is frustrating, he told the Times.
From 2001 to 2011, the number of new HIV diagnoses in New York City declined by
40 percent. In 2001, there were 5,841 diagnoses. In 2011, there were 3,404, according
to the citys health department.
Staley said that while progress had certainly been made, the annual number of
new infections was unacceptable in a city with the kinds of health and education
resources that New York has, the Times article noted.
Ohio Dem plans conversion therapy ban
COLUMBUS, Ohio A Democratic state legislator from Columbus wants to make
Ohio the next state to ban licensed counselors from trying to change a youths sexual
orientation, the Columbus Dispatch reports.
If they are already questioning their sexuality, we dont want them to think there
is something wrong with them that needs to be xed, Sen. Charleta Tavares was
quoted as saying to the Dispatch. Details about when Tavares plans to introduce the
bill were not reported.
California banned sexual-orientation therapy last year for anyone younger than
18. In August, New Jersey Gov. Chris Christie, a Republican, signed a similar law.
Tavares said her bill more closely mirrors the New Jersey law, leaving penalties up to
professional licensing boards, the article noted.
Tavares said it is an issue that she and her Democratic colleagues thought they
needed to be more proactive in addressing, noting the higher rates of suicide
among gays. She said she does not know whether so-called conversion therapy is
used much in Ohio, but she said that even if its rare, the bill still sends a message.
The Liberty Counsel, a Christian ministry, has led suits challenging the laws in
New Jersey and California; a federal appeals court recently upheld the California
version. The lawsuits argue that the laws violate constitutionally protected free
speech and religion and the right to prioritize ones religious and moral values, the
Dispatch article noted.
Conversion therapy has come under re from professional groups. The Ohio
Psychological Association is expected to back Tavares bill, the article noted.
The American Psychological Association passed a resolution in 2009 condemning
conversion therapy.
In June, California-based Exodus International, a Christian group that had
promoted sexual-orientation change therapy, apologized to the gay community and
shut its doors.
Norwegian health group lls
birdhouse with condoms
OSLO, NORWAY Staff at a Norwegian gay health non-prot have placed
a birdhouse lled with condoms on a tree in Oslos Ekeberg Forest, a site
known for gay cruising, Digital Journal reports.
The box also contains lube and HIV test information. It will be replenished
weekly, the article said.
It is located on the path at the campsite, said Rolf Martin Angeltvedt of
Gay and Lesbian Health. The hole is plugged so that no birds can come in,
and then there is a small wooden penis attached on the outside so that it is
easy to spot.
Health staff said gays who cruise for anonymous sex in public are at a
higher risk of contracting STDs. Because Ekeberg Forest is popular for such
encounters, staff thought the condom dispenser was a good idea.
If there is too much shame associated with your own sexuality, you may
take greater risks or treat yourself and others worse, Digital Journal quoted
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As a teen coming out in the 90s,
there were few role models to
look up to
By MICHAEL KEY
I parked my car on the tree-lined road
behind my school. I had waited for months
to do this: I reached into my glove compart-
ment and pulled out the rainbow magnet
that I had bought at Lambda Rising over
the summer. I positioned the rainbow in
its place of honor on my bumper and then
stepped back to admire it. I didnt dare get
an actual bumper sticker: while my parents
knew that I was gay, they were not yet in a
place where they could conceive of me be-
ing out and proud. They would be pretty
upset if I came driving into the neighbor-
hood with a car that they bought for me
sporting such a controversial symbol. The
magnet would have to do.
It was Oct. 11, 1995. I was a 17-year-old se-
nior at a large Northern Virginia high school
and I was going to come out that day.
I started the process a year earlier. My
family had just moved from ultra-conserva-
tive rural Oklahoma. I knew there was no life
for me there. Growing up where the Bible
Belt buckles, I had heard the most appalling
things said about LGBT people by peers
and even public school teachers. I recall with
particular rage, a bloated football coach
who somehow passed for a social studies
teacher spending an entire class period lec-
turing students on how he didnt want his
daughter to ever have to see two faggots
holding hands walking down the street to-
gether. The one kid who came the closest
to coming out was constantly humiliated by
teachers and students alike: so much so that
he attempted to kill himself and was sent
away by his parents. So, when my father was
offered a job in D.C., I enthusiastically gave
my blessing and prepared for a new life.
When I got to D.C., I desperately sought
a community I knew had to exist. In 1994,
there were few positive images of LGBT life
to be found in the mass media, but those
that did I voraciously consumed. Watch-
ing the lonely character of Rickie on My
So-Called Life was the rst time I had ever
seen the struggles of a gay teen portrayed
on television. Around the same time, the
tragic story of Pedro Zamora on The Real
World: San Francisco began to soften
the hearts of the largely anti-gay American
public, but we were far from the level of
acceptance that we have achieved today.
There were few Gay-Straight Alliances and
certainly nothing of the sort existed in my
new school.
But, there were resources. I found SMY-
AL, then called the Sexual Minority Youth
Assistance League, and began to regularly
attend its drop-in sessions each Saturday. I
made friends and met my high school boy-
friend there. My new friends and I would
often go out after SMYAL meetings to
Lambda Rising, an LGBT bookstore in the
heart of what was then the gayborhood.
Afterwards, we would go to a coffee shop
and talk and hang out until the evening. My
Saturdays were lled with joy and wonder,
but every Monday, I would return to school.
While I had several new friends at school, I
felt completely alone.
My senior year came along. In many
ways, I was excelling. I had good grades, I
was president of my schools Young Demo-
crats, I was in the Honor Society, I was cap-
tain of the student congress team and was
in the top symphonic band as a French
Horn player. But, I had a secret.
I wouldnt dare tape pictures of my boy-
friend in my locker, even though I was proud
to be with him. I had a rainbow-colored
freedom rings necklace (a 90s fad that
has thankfully long since been put to rest),
but I wore it inside my shirt. Though the
rings gave me strength, I would only take
them out on Saturdays when no one from
my school would see. But slowly, I was build-
ing the condence that I would need to
become the only openly gay student in a
school of several thousand.
Finally, the day had come. I knew that
Oct. 11 was National Coming Out Day and
I had been mentally preparing all week.
I stepped away from my car and walked
toward my school. I clutched my freedom
rings under my shirt and paused for a mo-
ment to catch my breath. As students be-
gan to stream into the building, I pulled out
my rings and marched in. I spotted among
the throng of students starting their day the
biggest gossip I knew. I walked up to her
and said, Hi. Its National Coming Out Day.
Im gay and coming out. Tell everyone.
I didnt stick around to see her reaction;
instead I quickly went to my locker. I pulled
three pictures of my beautiful boyfriend out
of my backpack and prominently taped
them to the inside of my locker door. It was
then that I decided that I was going to ask
him to be my date at the schools upcoming
Winterfest Dance and that we were going
to dance as a couple, no matter what any-
one else said or did.
I went through my day normally, though
proudly displaying my freedom rings for
anyone who knew what they were. As the
day progressed, my peers began to stare at
me and whisper to themselves as I walked
down the hallway. Rather than feeling
scared or ashamed, I felt emboldened and
proud. It wasnt to come to a head, though,
until symphonic band practice.
Everyone in band reacted, mostly by giv-
ing me a wide berth or by ashing a know-
ing smile. I sat in my section and began to
get out my instrument. I could feel the eyes
of the tuba section behind me locked on
the back of my neck. Before practice could
start, the biggest bully of the bunch got my
attention.
Is it true what people are saying about
you? He asked with a gotcha smirk.
What, that Im gay? I asked.
He nodded, ready to pounce.
Yes. Im gay. So? I responded as non-
chalantly as I could manage in such a nerve-
wracking moment.
His face registered such a shock that I
could never get it out of my mind. He, like
the other bullies at school, derived his pow-
er from the fear in others. My refusal to deny
and shrink back caught him completely un-
prepared.
Uh, he babbled, flabbergasted for a mo-
ment. Just so long as you dont hit on me.
I looked up and down his abby,
pockmarked face and perhaps unkindly
quipped, You have absolutely nothing to
worry about.
I turned back around as the teacher be-
gan to start our warm-up.
And so the day passed largely without
incident. All of my fears vanished and I was
lled with so much peace and pride. By the
next day, my coming out was old news and
I began making new friends immediately.
By the end of the semester, I had taken
my boyfriend to the Winterfest Dance and
had a magical night of slow dancing to
Whitney Houston. By the end of the year,
that removable rainbow magnet had been
replaced with a permanent rainbow sticker
that I proudly displayed as I drove into my
neighborhood.
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His speakership and the
nations future are on the line
Getting depressed over Americas
future is easy these days. Just reading
last Sundays New York Times could do
it. First Maureen Dowds column, Wel-
come to Ted Cruzs Thunderdome, and
following that with the front-page story,
A Crisis Months in the Planning, was
enough. Between Sen. Ted Cruz (R-Tex-
as), the Koch brothers and former Attor-
ney General Edwin Meese III, (is he still
alive?), it is easy to give up hope for the
nations future.
You could literally become ill when
reading this paragraph in the Times:
Shortly after President Obama started
his second term, a loose-knit coalition
of conservative activists led by former
Attorney General Edwin Meese III gath-
ered in the nations Capital to plot strat-
egy. Their push to repeal Mr. Obamas
health care law was going nowhere, and
they desperately needed a new plan.
These gentlemen, and referring to
them as such is much too polite, with
Cruz as the front man, are leading their
party down the garden path into obliv-
ion. We can only pray that Rep. John
Boehner has one nal lucid moment
left in his speakership and takes up the
cause of the increasing number of mod-
erate Republicans who are speaking out
against the insanity. Lets hope that the
tanning bed that turns his skin orange
hasnt infected his brain cells.
A moment of hope came last week
when it appeared that Boehner had
come to his senses at last. He stood at
the podium and angrily declared, We
arent playing games here. Then the
letdown when everyone realized he
wasnt talking to the Tea Party. The Tea
Party, whose members are an irrational
minority, was described by Dowd as, In-
fected with a mutant form of ideology.
In the infected Tea Party politicians,
brain function decreased and social de-
volution occurred. They began ignoring
their basic survival instincts. The rst
political results of their craziness will be
to ensure that a Democrat wins the gov-
ernorship of Virginia and other polls are
indicating that Republicans in 16 swing
House districts are in trouble.
But those like Cruz, the modern Jo-
seph McCarthy, dont really care about
their party or the nation if it interferes
with their own aggrandizement. Cruz
clearly doesnt care about the other Re-
publicans in the Senate, the institution
of Congress in which he serves or even
the concept of governing. He and his
acolytes care only for the few who will
hail them as heroes while they proceed
to destroy the country. In the long run
as Dowd suggests they will also destroy
themselves.
But through this insanity what we
cant do is give up hope. We need to
support the president and remain hope-
ful that the majority of Congress will
somehow reclaim their voice and speak
out, drowning out the voices of Cruz
and his minions. It is clear that the votes
are now there to reopen government
and raise the debt ceiling without all the
histrionics.
We must ght allowing the Repub-
lican Tea Party members and House
leadership to talk about issues like clos-
ing NIH and keeping a child from get-
ting cancer care, as the fault of Demo-
crats. That is an obscenity. Reporters
like Dana Bash who asked Harry Reid
if it wasnt worth opening NIH to give
hope to one child with cancer should
be ashamed of the question. They know
better and should be directing those
questions at the Speaker of the House
who has the votes to open the entire
government immediately and instead is
playing games with the nations future.
There is a cynicism pervading the pub-
lic when they talk about politicians and we
need to change that perception. It isnt
fair to the many who are actually doing a
good job, or at least want to. There are
Republicans as well as Democrats who fall
into this group. They want to move the
nation ahead and do what they actually
believe in their hearts is the right thing.
The Republicans in this group understand
that opposing giving every American
health insurance makes no sense. They
understand that instead of this insanity we
should be working on modernizing the
tax code; passing new immigration policy;
passing legislation that will ensure equal
employment opportunities to members
of the LGBT community; and passing new
legislation that will ensure every American
has the right to vote.
There is much to do to ensure that
the economy will continue to grow and
that middle class Americans, and those
who want to enter the middle class,
have the opportunity to work hard
and do so. Its time to move on and its
Boehner who can stop the nonsense
and nally say no to the insanity of the
right wing of his party.
Boehner must stand up to the Tea Party
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PETER ROSENSTEIN is a D.C.-based LGBT rights
and Democratic Party activist. He writes regularly for
the Blade.
Those like Sen. Ted Cruz, the modern Joseph
McCarthy, dont really care about their party
or the nation if it interferes with their own
aggrandizement.
EDI TORI AL CARTOON
ABC Board denial of MidCity
moratorium may signal end
of others
It took nearly a year to quash it, but
the threat of a liquor license moratorium
halting future bar and restaurant open-
ings in the multiple neighborhoods
comprising D.C.s vibrant MidCity area
ended last week.
Although residents of Logan Circle,
Shaw and the 14th and U streets area
had nally won a long-anticipated vic-
tory against a small citizens group
that had petitioned for a renewable
ve-year business ban, most assembled
for the announcement by the citys Al-
coholic Beverage Control (ABC) Board
appeared more relieved than celebra-
tory. As people led out of the room the
mood was one of quiet annoyance that
so much time had been spent on the
matter by so many.
The citys ve-member ABC Board
unanimously denied the request led
last December to prohibit all new licens-
ing and changes to existing licenses.
The proposed ban was atly rejected
in its entirety, despite agency authority
to recommend D.C. Council approval
of a modied ban limiting the types of
businesses allowed, size of the affected
zone, initial moratorium longevity or to
make other revisions.
The Board stated in its ofcial notice
that the proposed moratorium is not
in the public interest. The decision also
indicated the Board does not nd that
the neighborhood suffers from an over-
concentration of licensed establishments
or that additional establishments will ad-
versely affect this area. By every statu-
tory measure, including whether addi-
tional licenses will negatively impact the
neighborhoods peace, order and quiet
the Board ruled in the negative.
The implication that the nearly 50 ad-
ditional alcohol-licensed bars and res-
taurants recently opened or announced
as planned for the area during review
posed no issue was a clear signal that
the Board is disinclined, in their words,
to bluntly impose prohibition. A re-
quest by the petitioner group to halt all
approvals during the decision-making
period had previously been denied.
In rejecting the proposed moratori-
um, the Board appears to be signaling a
growing impatience with this outdated
approach to marketplace interference
and the now-known negative impacts
and unintended consequences. The de-
cision frequently references moratorium
opposition by residents.
It remains to be seen whether the
Board really means it or not.
Next up on the blunt instrument
schedule is disposition of the 23-year
East Dupont business ban affecting
17th Street and surrounding commer-
cial blocks, followed by the 13-year Ad-
ams Morgan moratorium expiring next
April. Terminating these moratoriums,
two of ve in the District including two
in Dupont Circle, would be a rst. No
moratorium has ever been terminated.
The Dupont Circle neighborhood
advisory group recently deadlocked
in a tied 4-4 vote on a moratorium re-
newal resolution. An unusual provision
in the groups by-laws grants the chairs
vote extra weight in instances of a tie,
overruling standard procedural defeat.
Unfortunately, chairman Will Stephens
along with Kevin OConnor, Kishan Put-
ta and Anti-Alcohol Coalition founder
and neighborhood advisory rep Abigail
Nichols voted in favor of renewal.
The ABC Board has previously cau-
tioned that moratoriums were never in-
tended to perpetually remain in effect.
Consequently, the groups resolution
seeks to curry favor by suggesting ad-
justment to current restrictions. While
two of the requested modications
are either inconsequential or rendered
meaningless by separate zoning limita-
tions, a third recommends eliminating
the cap on restaurants.
Those voting in favor of extending
the moratorium have said it offers a
transition to later termination. This
notion, however, was previously uti-
lized to justify requesting extension with
modication in 2010.
The agency was required to tempo-
rarily extend the 17th Street moratorium
for 120 days following its Sept. 23 expi-
ration, due to a failure by the Dupont
advisory group to offer an opinion to
the Board in a timely manner. When an-
nounced, sometime following an Oct.
24 public hearing, the Boards deter-
mination will be presented to the D.C.
Council for an up-or-down review. A
Board moratorium decision has never
been rejected.
It is time to terminate these now out-
of-fashion failed experiments and begin
to repair a legacy of marketplace misery.
Has D.C.s tolerance for booze bans expired?
OUR BUSI NESS MATTERS
Neighborhood is home to
array of service providers,
nightlife options
By JIM GRAHAM
As an openly gay man elected to the
D.C. Council I am proud of the diversity
of Ward One.
Enhancing and preserving that diver-
sity is important to me. With 1,000 new
residents moving into the District each
month many into Ward One our
diversity is changing every day.
Ward One is diverse in every sense
of the word. It is home to more than
80,000 residents from all over the world
50 different countries are represented
and 24 different languages are spoken
here. It is also a ward where one out of
ve persons lives in poverty to whom I
have a special responsibility as chairman
of the Committee on Human Services.
By choosing to live in Ward One,
every one of us has an opportunity to
move beyond our own personal iden-
tities and learn from persons different
from ourselves. Our differences can
make us stronger as individuals and
more resilient as a community.
A signicant part of that diversity has
been and continues to be lesbians, gay
men, bisexuals and transgender persons.
Indeed, Ward One is well on its way
to being the center of D.C.s LGBTQ
community.
Consider the facts:
On Georgia Avenue, in Ward One,
Casa Ruby provides care and support
for transgender persons and Us Help-
ing Us has been supporting gay men
of color and others living with HIV/AIDS
since the beginning of the pandemic.
At 14th and U, the DC Center pro-
vides myriad services and programs for
the LGBTQ community and our allies.
Neither the DC Center nor the U.S. Post
Ofce both of which I helped bring
to the Reeves Center will be dis-
placed if there is a change in ownership
of the Reeves Center. Whitman-Walkers
Elizabeth Taylor Center is also just steps
away.
Perrys and Duplex Diner, Nellies and
Town, and MOVA generate responsible
nightlife energy in the Ward. The owners
and staff of each of these establishments
deserve our thanks and support.
So many members of the LGBTQ
community volunteer their time and
resources to make Ward One a better
place for all. Sergio Herrera (founder of
Columbia Heights Day) and Kent Boese
(ANC commissioner) are just two exam-
ples of change makers in the Ward.
David Franco, D.C. Native and co-
founder of Level Two Development, is
investing millions in innovative housing
and retail options. The Harper lo-
cated at 14th and Wallach Place, N.W.,
opening in January 2014, will offer 144
studio/ junior one-bedroom apartments
and will be home to Universal Gear.
Students at the Columbia Heights
Educational Campus form LGBTQ afn-
ity groups, regularly participate in the
annual Capital Pride Parade, and work
to create a more supportive school cli-
mate for all.
The Latin American Youth Center pro-
vides short-term housing and counseling
services for LGBTQ youth that have run
away or been thrown out of their homes.
All Souls Church, Unitarian has
been a safe place for the LGBTQ com-
munity to openly worship for decades.
Since 2009, dozens of same-sex couples
have legally married at All Souls Church.
I learned long ago that assembling di-
versity and achieving harmony in diversi-
ty are two different things. Unfortunately,
LGBTQ persons suffer verbal and physi-
cal attacks far too often. I have worked
closely with Chief Cathy Lanier and her
ofcers in efforts to make MPD vigilant in
their investigations of hate crimes.
The LGBTQ community is a welcome
addition to the diversity of Ward One. So
much so, that the Capital Pride Parade
should be extended up 14th Street!
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Ward 1 a vibrant part of citys LGBT community
JIM GRAHAM represents Ward 1 on the D.C. City
Council.
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community business advocate. Follow on Twitter: @
MarkLeeDC. Reach him at OurBusinessMatters@
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New Family Equality Council leader
says faith infuses his advocacy work
Family Equality Council Executive Director Gabriel
Blaus faith background has always proven an integral
part of his LGBT advocacy.
He founded the God and Sexuality National
Academic Conference at Bard College in 1998 that
brought together scholars and advocates to present
lectures and workshops on gender, sexuality and
religion because he wasnt nding the kind of leaders
and resources he said he needed as an LGBT person
of faith. Blau later led the $18 million campaign to raise
funds that would allow Congregation Beit Simchat
Torah, an LGBT synagogue in New York City, to move
into a new location in Manhattan.
Blau told the Washington Blade during an interview
at his D.C. ofce that his faith background has proven
an asset in his new position.
As a family organization, were one of the few that
is not either just a right-wing group or a faith-based
group, he said. The concept of family values has
been so really tarnished by other family values groups,
and often in the name of faith and often in the name of
whats right and what God wants. I think understanding
that is critical to being able to ght it and to ght for
real family values for valuing families.
Blau joined Family Equality Council in January
as its deputy director of strategic achievement. The
organizations board of directors in August appointed
him to succeed long-time Executive Director Jennifer
Chrisler, who resigned earlier this year to accept a
senior administrative position at Smith College in
Massachusetts.
Alan Bernstein, board chair of the Council, said in a
press release that Blau represents a new generation of
LGBT leaders in the country.
One whose personal experiences and passion
for social change can inspire our families and policy
makers, Bernstein said. He is uniquely qualied to
lead Family Equality Council at this pivotal moment in
our organizations history and in the LGBT movement.
We look forward to having him lead the organizations
efforts from our nations capital where we can continue the
progress weve made in being recognized as the leading
national voice on issues related to LGBT family equality.
Blau commutes between D.C. and New York where
he lives with his husband Dylan and their 5-year-old son,
Elijah. He also spends one week a month working out of
the Family Equality Councils Boston ofce.
Blau told the Blade his organization is more
important than weve ever been since a group of gay
fathers founded it in 1979, but in different ways.
The Family Equality Council signed onto amicus briefs
in two cases that prompted the U.S. Supreme Court to
strike down Californias Proposition 8 and nd a portion
of the Defense of Marriage Act unconstitutional.
The organization also meets regularly with members
of the Obama administration and lobbies members of
Congress to support a number of LGBT-specic measures.
These include the Every Child Deserves a Family Act that
would prohibit discrimination in the adoption or foster
care system based on sexual orientation, gender identity
and expression or marital status.
Family Equality Council has also spoken out against a
2012 Virginia law that allows private adoption and foster
care agencies to reject prospective parents based on
their religious or moral beliefs. Blau last month criticized
Michigan Attorney General Bill Schuette after his
ofce described marriage as a way to regulate sexual
relationships between men and women in a brief it
led in a lesbian couples federal lawsuit that challenges
the states ban on gay nuptials and same-sex second
parent adoptions.
Were now in a world where we can achieve legal
equality in ways that the people who rst got together
in 1979 could not have even imagined, Blau says.
Having an organization that has that kind of history
and is every day day in and day out thinking about
family issues is critical to that conversation.
Blau also spoke to the Blade about the controversy
that erupted before last months Dallas Pride
parade after organizers and local authorities warned
participants against nudity and sexual conduct during
the annual display.
To make the parade more family friendly and to
accommodate comfort for the increasing number of
attending heterosexuals and corporate sponsorship,
participants are being asked to cover up, local LGBT
advocate Daniel Scott Cates wrote on his Facebook
page as the Associated Press reported on Sept.
17. The queer is effectively being erased from our
Pride celebration.
Blau said he and his husband bring their son to New
Yorks annual Pride parade each year. He added his
organization has worked with 20 Pride organizations so
far this year to help them create what he described as
family-friendly spaces.
Its healthy for every community to have a
conversation about what it means to have a Pride
celebration, what is the LGBT community in any given
area, Blau says. When that community includes
children, that community needs to gure out what that
means for them. We as an organization do not in any
way dictate what the answer is.
Family Equality Council last month sharply criticized
a Russian proposal that seeks to allow authorities
to deny parental custody based on their sexual
orientation. Blau also spoke with the Blade days after
a video that claims gays and lesbians adopt children
so they can rape them emerged.
Were not an international organization, but many
families in Russia are eeing and seeking asylum in the
U.S., he says. When they are here, they are part of our
community.
Blau said Family Equality Council supporters have
contacted him to see what they can do to challenge
Russia over its LGBT rights record that includes a law
that bans gay propaganda to minors. He added his
organization continues to monitor the situation and
work with international LGBT organizations to respond
to the situation.
We have had the opportunities to speak directly with
people who are directly affected by what is happening
in Russia, Blau says, without naming specic groups.
For many of us it is a very scary moment in history.
Blau says his organization has begun a six month
review of its strategic plan that will reconsider its
priorities as the LGBT rights movement continues to
gain ground across the country.
In the meantime, he says Family Equality Council
remains focused on its core mission and constituency
while launching new efforts. These include its Outspoken
Generation initiative that seeks to encourage children
of LGBT parents to talk about their experiences.
The landscape is changing on a weekly basis, which is
a great thing, but its challenging, Blau says. Were always
looking at better ways to use our resources, to secure the
parent-child relationship, to create not just in law but in
culture and in the society using the tools we have.
GABRIEL BLAU (left) says
the idea of family values has
been tarnished by anti-gay
advocates.
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Family issues critical to
LGBT conversation
Lets do divorce differently
By SUSAN SILBER
As the law begins to treat our LGBTQ
families more equally, lets try to do our
break-ups differently.
Establish clear understandings as you
marry. Prenuptial agreements will be
enforceable if they are basically fair and
entered into in good faith by both spouses.
Married or unmarried, it is essential to
have certain documents: a will, power
of attorney and an advanced medical
directive. If you previously published
a will, have it re-evaluated in light of
the Supreme Courts DOMA decision,
which struck down Section 3. The tax
treatment has changed completely if
you are married.
Include a provision in any agreement
that any divorce will be handled
collaboratively or in mediation. Mediation
is the process where a trained neutral
professional assists a couple in resolving
the issues arising from their divorce.
Collaborative divorce practice employs a
teamwork approach where both partners
have the support of their own attorney
who, together with other team members
(such as mental health coaches, a neutral
nancial planner, a child specialist, etc.)
help to resolve divorce-related issues
without the cost, conict and uncertainty
of court litigation.
Divorces do not have to be hateful and
adversarial. Choose lawyers, coaches,
and nancial planners who are certied
in collaborative practice and members
of collaborative organizations. Practice
joint problem-solving. Seek options that
will be a win-win for the family.
Relationships with our spouses/
partners can be nurtured and preserved.
There is a long, wonderful history of this
tradition. Often, we have created our
own families when our families of origin
abandoned us when we come out. Do
not lose your beloved friendship circles
due to a breakup.
If we have formed a family with
children, remember that it is not the
divorce per se that hurts children; rather,
it is the hostility and putting the child(ren)
in the middle that leaves lasting scars.
Any parent in a LGBTQ couple should
have the status of legal parent. Even
if both parents are listed on the childs
birth certicate, do the second parent
adoption. The consequences, if you do
not, may be catastrophic. Even Virginia
residents may have options to better
protect their children. Parents who do
not seek additional legal status are at
enormous risk and their children do not
have the same benets.
In D.C., you can also consider domestic
partnership. In the District, domestic
partnership rights and responsibilities
are comprehensive and equate with
marriage under D.C. law. Some courts
have held that same-sex couples have
entered into common-law marriages by
holding themselves out as married even
though they did not obtain a marriage
license. But note, domestic partnerships
and civil unions are not considered
marriages under federal law.
The rights of unmarried couples are
somewhat amorphous and complex
at the time of a breakup. The rules of
marriage do not apply; your rights will
largely depend on what you document
in contracts. A clear contract and careful
agreements are necessary when you
purchase a home or condo.
It is encouraging to see our families
increasingly integrated in our overall
communities and treated better in the
courts. As LGBTQ relationships inch ever
closer toward equal status under the law,
is has become more important than ever
for couples to consider and plan for what
is best for our families in good times
and in bad. Consideration, planning,
and an honest dialogue now can ensure
greater peace, stability, and predictability
regardless of what may come.
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By LESLIE PIONKE
After a year of yearning, hoping, and
despairing, the universe said yes, and at
age 60, I was granted the gift of a child.
My partner gave birth to Ryanne.
We are two oldest daughters from all-
girl families, responsible voters, former
Girl Scouts, singers in the choir, doting
aunts, but lesbians. Though the world
may have questioned our right to have
a family, our own families were thrilled
since we both have favored places in
their hearts. We were given ve baby
showers by friends and family preparing
for Ryannes birth.
Ryanne was born and from the rst
moment to this, she has been more
wonderful than either of us could have
imagined. OK, she is crabby in the
morning, she is willful, and we both have
passed the million mark saying NO.
She has changed our lives, but, really,
we were ready. Between the two of us,
we had physical courage, songs, good
cooking, family traditions, a linguistic
gift, an artistic bent and hopes for
humanity, all things we wanted to share
with Ryanne.
After heated discussions, my partner
agreed to an anonymous donor, articial
insemination. She had thought of old
boyfriends, questionable relatives, even
married friends. All those options would
complicate our family. Our choice,
however, meant Ryanne would not know
her father. This has been a loss for her.
After meeting Ryanne as a toddler, a
close friend said You chose the right
donor. We both know that was luck.
At age four, Ryanne herself noted All
animals have fathers, but I dont. Not
having a father is a lament she still
expresses from time to time. We are
hoping that our love and the life we
have given her will be enough for her to
sail that ocean of doubt and imaginings.
Though we both have families to the
max, and we live on Capitol Hill, an
accepting community, we value our gay
community for ourselves and for Ryanne.
We met in a gay choir, and have kept
friendships in song (and dance) for the
last 17 years. We also participated in a
gay support group waiting for Ryanne
and continue to see these friends and
their children. Ryanne has said that its
good to know kids with two moms and
two dads. Kids, moms, and dads who
are just like everybody else, and are a
lot of fun besides.
I am truly grateful I have had the
chance to be a mother to our child. In
my family, having a baby is seen as the
great gift. My worries now are parent
worries. Are we too lenient? Are we
taking homework seriously enough?
Does she have space enough to be
herself? How do we prepare her for the
slings and arrows? But worries aside,
when we see her dashing across the
playground or listen to her chattering
in the back seat of the car, it is clear
Ryannes enjoying being a kid.
On being
a parent
At age 8, proud of
my unique family
By RYANNE BARSTOW
My name is Ryanne. I am 8 years old
and I have two moms. In a way, I feel
unique because most of my friends
have a mom and a dad, but when I go to
someones house and see them playing
with their dad, I sometimes feel lonely,
left out and too different.
Ever since I can remember, my moms
have told me about my Donor Dad. I have
always yearned to see him, but we dont
know his name or where he lives. My moms
have a baby picture of him sleeping. They
tell me I look like him when Im asleep. I
know we both have blue eyes, except I
cannot see his because they are closed.
I would like to meet him so he could see
that I turned out to be smart, happy and
great at math.
Even though I dont know my Donor
Dad, he has already given me a gift. Two
gifts, actually. I have twin half brothers,
who live in Seattle. Luckily, their mom
and my mom chose the same donor.
They are nine days older than me,
which means we have a lot of the same
interests. I wish I could see them more
often, but they live across the country.
Still, I feel like theyre my family.
The person closest to me who feels
most like my dad would be my Granddad.
Like a real dad, he walks me to the park
and tells me stories. I love it when he
comes to visit. He may be old but we have
even climbed mountains together.
Meanwhile, Im living my life with two
moms and our cat. I feel different but
safe everywhere I go because my moms
love me very much. And thats the most
important thing. My parents are normal
parents, just two moms. I have to say,
there are some issues when it comes
to dressing me and doing my hair. You
can imagine two different moms, two
different opinions.
This coming weekend, we are all
going to Rainbow Family Camp. I am
really looking forward to going because
every kid there has either two moms or
two dads. Thats one place where I dont
have to explain why I have two moms
one million times.
My mom tells me that when I was
around four years old, I would start
talking to complete strangers and often
tell them I have two mommies. Well, I
dont do that anymore, but I am still
proud to have two moms and one of the
best families in the whole world.
I have
two moms
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By MERYL B. ROSENBERG
More and more gay couples and
individuals are having children.
Gone are the days when that was a
rarity. Today, it has become more of a
norm.
Even before we started to experience
state after state legalizing same-sex
marriage (we have 13 so far, including
Maryland and the District of Columbia),
some states recognizing civil unions
and countries implementing marriage
equality or recognizing the legal status
for gay couples, same-sex couples have
been having children together through
a variety of means.
Pathways have been created to have a
child through articial insemination, in-
vitro fertilization (IVF), utilization of egg
donors, sperm donors, embryo donors
and surrogates (traditional, where the
surrogate is also the egg provider,
and gestational, where the surrogate
has no genetic tie to the child). This
area of the law and practice in general
is changing rapidly and will continue to
evolve in the future.
The legal landscape changed further
nationally with the rulings this year in
United States v. Windsor (invalidating
Section 3 of the Defense of Marriage
Act DOMA- nding that it violated
due process and the equal protection
protections of the fth amendment), and
Hollingsworth v. Perry (re-establishing
marriage equality in Calif.).
What has also changed dramatically is
that no matter how you choose to build
your family, when your child arrives at
school he or she is no longer going to
be the only one with two mommies,
two daddies or even a single mom
or dad. Societal biases are changing
and thus the stigmas that have for so
long followed LGBT families and their
children. This is the good news. The not-
so-good news is that the law is taking its
time catching up in many states and, as
we know, some will never catch up to
where we are in D.C. and Maryland.
One big remaining challenge is the
issue of marriage recognition and
portability of that marriage. Currently, a
same-sex couple may be legally married
in one state and then may move to a non-
recognition state. Layered together with
this potential issue is the recognition of
parental rights. The legal recognition of
parentage varies from state to state.
No matter how a same-sex couple
builds their family, it is critical that they
educate themselves as to the necessary
legal steps to ensure that they, as the
intended parent or parents, are actually
recognized as the legal parent or
parents. The intent of all parties prior
to conception and as memorialized in a
written agreement will always be critical.
Of course, if you are lucky enough to be
in a jurisdiction that recognizes your
marriage, the most common way to
establish parental rights of your child
would seem to be through marriage
notwithstanding the lack of a genetic
connection to the child and one of the
parents.
A child conceived and born in the
course of a legal marriage is generally
presumed to be the legal child of both
parents. Still, good practice will be to
have parental rights recognized by
court order (adoption or parentage
order) in order to protect everyone,
most of all the child. The bottom line is
that marriage recognition generally is
still not sufcient by itself for protecting
gay parents and their children through
time and place.
Also, if you are a gay male couple
with a surrogate carrying and delivering
your child, you still will need to follow
the requisite legal steps to recognize
parental rights (and make sure that the
surrogate is not considered the legal
parent). No matter what path you are
taking, make sure to have good legal
guidance if you are building your family
together. While we seek for the law to
ensure equality for all, we are still a long
way from achieving that.
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EDMUND BURKE SCHOOL
The Edmund Burke School (4101 Connecticut Ave., N.W.) holds two open houses
each year. Prospective students and their families can tour the school, meet faculty
members, talk with current students and parents and enjoy student performances.
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Saturday, December 14,1-3:30 p.m.
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Thursday, December 5, 7 p.m. (Elementary/Middle School Info Night for grades 5
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Thursday, January 7, 2014 9-11 a.m.
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LOWELL SCHOOL
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All-School Open House, Monday, November 11, 9-11 a.m.
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How long have you been out and who
was the hardest person to tell?
I have been out since 1968.
Fortunately, it wasnt hard to tell my
parents. They caught my lover and me
in a compromising position when they
returned from a movie early. We were
fully clothed but had obvious guilty facial
expressions. The next morning I woke
up feeling like a heavy weight was off my
shoulder. The secret was out. Ive been
smiling ever since.
Whos your LGBT hero?
Black lesbian activist Mandy Carter.

Whats Washingtons best nightspot,
past or present?
Past would be the Clubhouse, the Delta
Elite, the Edge and the Brass Rail when it
was on 13th Street, N.W. Presently I go out
three times a year, usually to the Bachelors
Mill to see friends and hear house music.
Describe your dream wedding.
Something small and outdoors, but I
would let my spouse decide. If he wanted
a big church wedding, so be it.
What non-LGBT issue
are you most passionate about?
Economic inequality. Having hungry
people in the richest nation upsets me.

What historical outcome
would you change?
The assassinations of Malcolm X and Dr.
Martin Luther King.

Whats been the most memorable pop
culture moment of your lifetime?
Seeing LaBelle at the New York City
opera house and watching Patti descend
from the ceiling.

On what do you insist?
Honesty.

What was your last
Facebook post or Tweet?
My essay, Some Thoughts on the
Challenges Facing Black Gay Intellectuals.
If your life were a book,
what would the title be?
The Road Less Traveled

If science discovered a way to change
sexual orientation, what would you do?
Nothing. I like being me.

What do you believe in
beyond the physical world?
A spiritual realm and a supreme being
encompassing all beings.

Whats your advice for
LGBT movement leaders?
Move beyond the gay-only agenda,
and collaborate with others ghting
economic, racial, gender and political
oppression.

What would you walk
across hot coals for?
An end to poverty.

What LGBT stereotype
annoys you most?
That gay people only think about gay
issues.

Whats your favorite LGBT movie?
Tongues Untied and Pariah

Whats the most
overrated social custom?
Judging people based on their physical
attractiveness.

What trophy or prize
do you most covet?
A MacArthur Genius Award

What do you wish youd known at 18.
That being gay is a blessing, not a curse.

Why Washington?
I am from New York. It was too fast and I
didnt want to live like that. But compared
to New York, most cities are too slow. D.C.
was just right. Its cosmopolitan. I love it
here.
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Us Helping Us has grown by leaps and bounds since its humble origins.
Founded in 1985 but incorporated in 1988, the black AIDS organization has
its 25th anniversary event Monday night.
What started as a support group in living rooms is now a certied
treatment center with more than a dozen HIV and AIDS services from
prevention support, service programs, HIV testing, screening, treatment
adherence, behavioral intervention and more, says Ron Simmons, president
of the organization.
A Passion for Living, the agencys anniversary event, is from 6-9 p.m.
Monday at Arena Stage (1101 Sixth Street, S.W.). The agency will present
awards to Dr. Theo Hodge, Darlene Nipper, Dana Fonville and others.
Broadway actress/singer Jennifer Holliday (of Dreamgirls fame) will
perform a 30-minute set. Proceeds from sales of the $150 tickets (tickets.
arenastage.org) benet Us Helping Us. Tickets are still available.
Simmons says it was apparent early on that something for black gay men
was needed.
Given the racism in this country, many of the people doing HIV work
were just not culturally competent in dealing with black gay men, he says.
We had people go to support groups early on and it would be mainly
white guys talking about having to sell their second house to make ends
meet whereas many of our guys couldnt even make rent. There was just a
disconnect between our issues and their issues, Simmons says.
The agency, located at 3636 Georgia Ave., N.W., has 17 on staff and an
annual operating budget of about $1.8 million. It tests about 2,000 people
per year for HIV and about 3,000 come through its doors for various services.
Simmons, a 63-year-old Brooklyn native, came to Washington in 1980.
After teaching mass communications at Howard University for about 12
years while earning a doctorate, he joined Us in 1992, the rst year in a
volunteer capacity. Hes single and lives in Petworth.
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Saturday, October 19 at 8 p.m. / Sunday, October 20 at 4 p.m.
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Two new monthly gay dance parties are set to debut in the coming week.
Green Lantern (1335 Green Ct., N.W.) begins hosting Grunt every second
Friday of the month. The rst installment is tonight from 9 p.m.- 3 a.m. Free
entry open to all on active duty. Cover for civilians is $5 in military gear and $10
for everyone else. There is an open bar from 9-10 p.m. DJs David Merrill and
Jake Marx spin tunes for the night. For more details, visit greenlanterndc.com.
Cobalt (1639 R St., N.W.) hosts its new bear dance party Bearzerk Saturday
night from 10 p.m.- 3 a.m. Well and domestic drinks are $5. Jamesons, jagers,
socos and reballs are $6. DJ Dean Sullivan spins his tracks for the dance
oor. Cover is $5 before midnight and $7 after midnight. Admission is limited
to guests 21 and over. For more information, visit cobaltdc.com.
Broadway star Foster plays Strathmore
Sutton Fo ster performs songs from her debut solo album Wish at Music
Center at Strathmore (5301 Tuckerman Lane, North Bethesda, Md.,) Saturday
night at 8 p.m.
Foster is best known for playing the title role in the musical Thoroughly
Modern Millie, playing Princess Fiona in Shrek the Musical and as Reno
Sweeney in Anything Goes. Recently she starred in the ABC Family drama
Bunheads. Her career began when she performed on Star Search
at the age of 15. Foster went on to win two Tony awards for her Broadway
performances.
Tickets range from $26-$78. For more details or to purchase tickets, visit
Strathmore.org.
Cobalt welcomes Vilanch
Gay comedy writer Bruce Vilanch is
slated to make an appearance at Cobalt
(1639 R Street, N.W.) on Oct. 18 at 9 p.m.
There will be a meet-and-greet
and question/answer session. The
event runs officially from 9-11 p.m.
but the party continues til 3 a.m. with
Cobalts two dance floors and DJs.
Drink specials are planned and cover
is $10 at 9 p.m. and later. No cover
before 9.
Vilanch, famous for writing jokes
for the Academy Awards telecast and
for his appearances on Hollywood
Squares, will be in town to participate
in Carol Burnetts receiving of the Mark
Twain Prize at the Kennedy Center on
Oct. 20.
Look for an interview with Vilanch in
next weeks Blade.
Get ready to go Bearzerk! Cobalt unveils a new dance party this weekend.
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The Sugarloaf Crafts Festival kicks
off its 39th year at the Montgomery
County Fairgrounds (16 Chestnut St.,
Gaithersburg, Md.,) today from 10
a .m.- 6 p.m. Festival continues through
Sunday. Meet the jury selected artists and
purchase their artwork including pottery,
sculpture, home accessories, jewelry,
fashion, furniture, photography and more.
Sample gourmet food, listen to live music
and participate in interactive children
entertainment. Tickets are $8 online for
adults and $10 at the door. Children
under 12 are free. Free parking. For more
information, visit sugarloafcrafts.com.
Love Heals Homophobia screens
at St. Marks Episcopal Church (301 A
St., S.E.) tonight from 7-8 p.m. The lm
was made in response to the appeals
made by countries where it is illegal
to be LGBT. For more details, visit
thedccenter.org.
Town (2009 8th St., N.W.) hosts Bear
Happy Hour tonight from 6-11 p.m.
There is no cover charge and admission
is limited to guests 21 and over. For
more information, visit towndc.com.
SMYAL (410 7th St., S.E.) hosts
National Coming Out Day
Celebration today from 5-7 p.m.
Decorate cupcakes, listen to music and
more. For details, visit smyal.org.
SATURDAY, OCT. 12
Washington National Opera (WNO)
honors Giuseppe Verdis 200th birthday
with a performance of The Force of
Destiny, the tale of three lives on a path
to ruin, beginning tonight at 7 p.m. and
running through Oct. 26 at The Kennedy
Center (2700 F St., N.W.). Tickets range
from $25-$300. For more details, visit
kennedy-center.org.
The D.C. Center (1316 U St., N.W.)
hosts free and condential HIV testing
from 4-7 p.m. today. For details, visit
thedccenter.org.
Town (2009 8th St., N.W.) hosts adult
entertainment stars Levi Karter, Jake
Bass and Max Ryder tonight. Doors open
at 10 p.m. Cover is $8 from 10-11 p.m. and
$12 after 11 p.m. $3 drinks before 11 p.m.
Drag show starts at 10:30 p.m. Admission
limited to guests 21 and over. For more
information, visit towndc.com.
Acorns A Go-Go hosts its vegan fall
festival today at the Roosevelt Center
(131 Centerway, Greenbelt, Md.,) today
from 11 a.m.- 6 p.m. Enjoy vegan food
vendors, exhibitors and live music.
Watch demonstrations including how to
use acorns in vegan bread and cookies.
Kids can participate in a hula hoop
competition and activities at the Animal
Rights Youth Booth. The mistress of
ceremonies is Vegan Drag Queen
Honey LaBronx. For more details, visit
facebook.com/acornsagogo.
A free screening of the documentary
For the Bible Tells Me So is today
at 11 a.m. at Mt. Pleasant Library (3160
16
th
Street, N.W.) hosted by Queers For
Christ and Revive DMV: A Gathering of
Queer Christian Women.
SUNDAY, OCT. 13
Club Bunns (606 W. Lexington St.,
Baltimore) hosts Baltimore Black Pride
Block Party today from 4-9 p.m. Cover
TBA. For more details, visit facebook.
com/n.g.a.clubbunns.
Artisphere (1101 Wilson Blvd.,
Arlington, Va.,) celebrates its third
anniversary with Pop Art Fun: Free
Family Day from noon-4 p.m. today.
The Andy Warhol-inspired day includes
the interactive Warhol Silver Clouds
exhibit, pop art projects and a magic
show. Baby Loves Disco hosts a dance
party for all ages in the ballroom.
Admission is free. For more details, visit
artisphere.com.
Perrys (1811 Columbia Rd., N.W.) hosts
its weekly Sunday Drag Brunch today
from 10 a.m.-3 p.m. The cost is $24.95
for an all-you-can-eat buffet. For more
details, visit perrysadamsmorgan.com.
MONDAY, OCT. 14
The D.C. Center Youth Working
Group hosts its monthly meeting today
at the D.C. Center (1316 U St., N.W.)
from 6-7:30 p.m. The meeting focuses
on positively impacting the lives of
D.C. area youth. For more details, visit
thedccenter.org.
Us Helping Us holds its 25th anniversary
awards celebration A Passion for
Living featuring Jennifer Holliday
this evening at Arena Stage (1101 6th
St., S.W.) from 6-9 p.m. The event raises
funds for Us Helping Uss prevention
programs and recognizes individuals and
businesses in their commitment to ght
HIV/AIDS. Tickets are $150. For details,
visit tickets.arenastage.org.
The D.C. Center (1318 U St., N.W.)
hosts coffee drop-in hours this morning
from 10 a.m.-noon for the senior LGBT
community. Older LGBT adults can
come and enjoy complimentary coffee
and conversation with other community
members. For more information, visit
thedccenter.org.
TUESDAY, OCT. 15

Green Lantern (1335 Green Crt.. N.W.)
hosts its FUCK!T Packing Party this
evening from 7-9 p.m. Bring friends or
make new ones while packing safer-sex
packets. Challenge yourself and your
friends to see how many FUK!T packets
you can pack in two hours. For details,
visit thedccenter.org.
Whitman-Walker Health offers free
HIV testing in honor of National Latino
AIDS Awareness Day today at Whitman-
Walker Health Elizabeth Taylor Medical
Center (1701 14th St., N.W.) 9 a.m.-5 p.m.,
Whitman-Walker Health Max Robinson
Center (2301 Martin Luther King Jr. Ave.,
S.E.) from 9 a.m.-4:30 p.m. and Columbia
Heights Fountain (1345 Park Rd., N.W.)
from 3-6 p.m. For details, visit whitman-
walker.org.
Bachelors Mill (1104 8th St., S.E.)
offers all drinks half price tonight until 2
a.m. Enjoy pool, video games and cards.
Admission is free. Must be 21 and over.
For more details, visit bachelorsmill.com.
WEDNESDAY, OCT. 16
Queer for Christ, a young adult LGBT
Christian group, has a happy hour this
evening from 6:45-9 p.m. at Number
Nine (1435 P Street, N.W.).
Bookmen D.C., an informal mens
gay literature group, meets this evening
at 7:30 p.m. at the American Foreign
Service Association (2101 E Street, N.W.)
to discuss The Lost Library: Gay Fiction
Rediscovered, an anthology. All are
welcome. Visit bookmendc.blogspot.
com for details.
The National Symphony Orchestra
presents organist Cameron Carpenter
at the Kennedy Center (2700 F St.,
N.W.) in the concert hall at 8 p.m.
tonight. Tickets are $15. For details, visit
kennedy-center.org.
The Tom Davoren Social Bridge
Club meets at the Dignity Center (721
8th St., S.E.) this evening at 7:30 p.m. for
social bridge. No partner needed. For
more information, call 301-345-1571.
Big Gay Book Group meets tonight
at 1155 F St., N.W. Suite 200 at 7 p.m. to
discuss The Book of Matt: Hidden Truths
About the Murder of Matthew Shepard
by Stephen Jimenez. For details, email
biggaybookgroup@hotmal.com.
THURSDAY, OCT. 17
The Dance Theatre of Harlem
performs the world premiere of its ballet
past-carry-forward at the Sidney
Harman Hall (610 F St., N.W.) tonight at 8
p.m. Other performances include Gloria
and Contested Space. Tickets range
from $40-$75. For more information, visit
shakespearetheatre.org.
Publick Playhouse presents Bail
Folklrico de Bahia at 8 p.m. tonight.
The dance blends Afro-Brazilian folk,
samba reggae, African liturgical dance
and capoeira. It includes dances from
the days of slavery and dances that
celebrate Carnival. Tickets are $20. For
details, visit arts.pgparks.com.
Wear purple today to show support for
LGBT youth and stand against bullying
for the Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against
Defamations (GLAAD) Spirit Day.
Showcase your support on social media
platforms using #spiritday. For more
information, visit glaad.org/spiritday.
Marriage Equality, a free
seminar presented by the law rm of
Gimmel, Weiman, Ersek, Blomberg
& Lewis, is this evening at 7 p.m.
at Hampton Inn (960 N. Frederick
Ave.) in Gaithersburg, Md. Its free to
attend but a reservation is required
as seating is limited. Local attorneys
will speak about Marylands same-sex
marriage law and the repeal of key
sections of DOMA and their effect on
several LGBT issues such as marriage,
adoption, custody and more. To make
a reservation, call 301-840-8565 or visit
gweblaw.com.
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44 OCTOBER 11, 2013 CALENDAR
New Speedo
explores high stakes
of Olympic competition
By PATRICK FOLLIARD
Did he, or didnt he? Will he, or wont
he? Theres a lot riding on Olympic
swimming hopeful Rays actions. His
every move ripples with ramications
for those closest to him. Red Speedo,
Lucas Hnaths new play at Studio
Theatre, considers the high stakes of
elite athletics and the pressure to win.
Tightly drawn, the 80-minute play
takes place over a tense 24 hours. It starts
on the eve of Rays Olympic qualifying
meet. Performance-enhancing drugs
have been discovered in the swim
clubs refrigerator. Whose they are is
unclear (at this point), but even the taint
of mere association with the verboten
synesthetic testosterone could put the
kibosh on Rays swimming future and kill
the lucrative endorsement deal he has
pending with Speedo.
Not just Ray is invested in his future.
Though not altogether clear on his
argument, Rays older brother Peter
(Thomas Jay Ryan) denitely has an
agenda. As a lawyer and Rays self-
appointed manager, hes determined
for Ray to succeed at all costs. Peter is
intent on becoming a sports manager
and that rests on Ray making it to the
Olympics. Then theres Rays longtime
unnamed coach (Harry Winter). At rst,
coach seems judiciously disinterested,
but it soon becomes clear that hes
counting heavily on his best swimmer
to take them to the Olympics without
juicing (or at least without anybody
knowing about it).
Behind the blank stare and slightly
agape mouth, Ray (the excellent Frank
Boyd) is in fact dim but not entirely
so. When it comes to getting his way,
Ray possesses a formidable single-
mindedness, prompting him to ercely
go after what he wants, though hes
not always successful. This tenacious
drive is revealed when he meets with
ex-girlfriend Lydia (Laura C. Harris), a
former sports therapist with a history
involving selling illegal drugs.
The four-person cast is top notch with
each actor effectively conveying both
their characters unlikable aspects and
vulnerabilities. They handle the works
darker and lighter moments with equal
skill, particularly Ryan as the almost
likable but somewhat sleazy Peter, and
Boyd as stolid Ray (who, by the way,
looks great in the red Speedo that
wears throughout the play).
Presented by the Studio Lab, Red
Speedo is a stripped-down world
premiere production with affordable
tickets (just $20). The program allows
playwrights in residence to experiment
and collaborate on the work. Though
already thought provoking and witty,
Hnaths play could benet from a
subtler more nuanced ending, and likely
the author will make changes during the
process. But even at this stage nothing
looks or feels low budget about the
production thanks to Lila Neugebauers
able staging, the impressive cast and a
terric design team including Mimi Lien
whose brightly lit set boasts real tiles,
authentic pool ceiling lights, a big pace
clock and working showers. Shes even
managed to make Studios upstairs
space smell like chlorine.
We all do things that are sort of
good and sort of not so good, says Ray
munching away at a bag of baby carrots.
This sort of sums it all up. And along the
way, Hnath asks the audience how far we
might go in doing some not so good
things in pursuit of fame, glory or just a
modicum of security. Its hard to say.
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46 OCTOBER 11, 2013 THEATER
RED SPEEDO
Through Oct. 13
Studio Theatre
14th & P Streets, NW
$20
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FRANK BOYD as Ray in Red Speedo.
PHOTO BY TEDDY WOLFF; COURTESY OF STUDIO THEATRE
Three lives thrust together by fate
on an irreversible path to ruin...
A new production directed by WNO Artistic Director
FRANCESCA ZAMBELLO
October 1226, 2013
Kennedy Center Opera House
Performed in Italian with projected English titles
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LTRs arent for everyone despite
societal pressure to pair up
HI MICHAEL,
Im a 27-year-old guy wondering if
theres something wrong with me. The
problem: Im not really interested in a
relationship. I like casual dating because
its fun to go out with someone and I
denitely like having sex. But when guys
start wanting to get mushy or exclusive,
I head for the exit.
I like my space and my privacy, so I
dont like having someone breathing
down my neck and criticizing my every
move. I also dont like the drama of
having to worry about someone getting
hurt when I do something they dont
like. And I denitely dont like giving up
things I want to do because you have to
compromise in a relationship.
Overall, relationships seem like a
giant PIA to me. But, everyone I know is
chasing them. Am I nuts?
MICHAEL REPLIES:
I dont think youre nuts. Relationships
are really difcult, for all the reasons
you describe. It is hard work, and
often uncomfortable, to be up close
with someone else all the time. As you
mention, a partner often impinges on
our privacy, injects opinions when we
havent asked for any, makes demands
on us and criticizes us. So yes, its well
worth wondering, why bother being in
a relationship?
Im not going to try to convince you
to be in a relationship thats your
decision to make. But for those of us
who think that being in a relationship
seems like an enormous headache, its
worth considering that relationships
also offer some amazing rewards.
Obviously, relationships provide
someone with whom to share lifes ups
and downs, share nancial obligations
and other responsibilities, have a
sexual relationship and possibly raise
children. And in addition, being in a
relationship can provide us with ongoing
opportunities for personal growth. For
example: You may get to know yourself
much better. Someone who knows you
well can help you to see things about
yourself that that are worth knowing,
that you might not otherwise see.
Youll develop your ability
to be more resilient in the face of
disappointment, because when youre
in a relationship, you can spend a lot
of time being disappointed in and
disappointing your partner. The better
you get at tolerating being disappointed
and being a disappointment, the more
likely you are to have a satisfying life and
strong self-esteem.
You can use the stressful situations
that are a feature of any long-term
relationship to learn how to stay calm
when things get crazy. Not only will your
relationship improve as you get better
at managing your anxiety, but the rest
of your life is likely to improve, as well.
Youll have multiple opportunities
to gure out what is really important to
you. When each of you wants different
things, there is often a lot of pressure for
one of you to give up what you value.
Basing your relationship on honoring
what is most important to each of you
can help you know your bottom line.
Of course, all the points you
raised have validity as well. If your
highest priority is to be let alone, then
a relationship is not for you. But if you
are willing to immerse yourself more
fully in the messiness of life by having
an intimate relationship with another
person, that relationship can help you
to become a stronger, more resilient
person. This is not to say, of course, that
you cant become stronger and more
resilient if you remain unattached.
One more thought: Relationships are
a balancing act of being an individual
and being part of a couple. Youre afraid
that youll lose your independence if you
are in a relationship, but getting close to
someone else absolutely does not have
to mean that you let all of your boundaries
down and merge with the other person.
Given how strongly you want to avoid
another guy taking over your life, your
biggest and best growth opportunity in
a relationship would be to gure out how
to stay true to yourself while at the same
time being open to someone else.
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Romeo And Juliet. Oct 15-Dec 1.
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Trilogy. Thru Oct 20. Studio Theatre.
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The Sunshine Boys. Thru Oct 19.
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Riot Grrrls: Titus Andronicus. Thru
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The Marriage of Maria Braun. Thru
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703-683-2824. scenatheater.org.
Come Blow Your Horn. Thru Oct 12.
American Century Theater. Gunston.
703-998-4555. americancentury.org.
A Bloody Good Time. Thru Oct 12.
WIT. Source Theatre. 202-204-7770.
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The Two-Character Play. Thru Oct 27.
Spooky Action Theater. Universalist
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Oct 19. CityDance. Sidney Harman Hall.
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Ladies in Step: Percussive Dance and
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Berlin Philharmonic with Karl-Heinz
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Foreign Bodies. Oct 11. Clarice Smith. 301-
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The Wallowers. Oct 11. The Bobs.
Oct 12. Celtic Fiddle Festival. Oct 16.
Wolf Trap. 877-965-3872. wolftrap.org.
October Open Mic. Oct 16. DC
Cabaret Network. Black Fox Lounge.
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Chamber Concert. Oct 11. Friday
Morning Music Club. Calvary Baptist
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NSO. Celebrating Wagner at 200: Act
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NSO. Kennedy Center. 202-467-4600.
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Russkie Musikanti. Oct 12. Washington
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Corcoran Gallery of Art. Alex Prager:
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Journeys - Visions of Place. Thru Sep 21.
202-639-1700. corcoran.org.
Folger Shakespeare Library. Here Is A
Play Fitted. Thru Jan 12. folger.edu.
Kreeger Museum. Mindy Weisel: Not
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Inventions. Thru Apr 1. 202-337-3050.
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National Archives. Discovery and
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National Gallery of Art. Ellsworth Kelly:
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Dec 7. Yes, No, Maybe: Artists Working
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Charles Marville: Photographer of Paris.
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National Geographic. A New Age of
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Museum of Women in the Arts. Awake
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By KEVIN MAJOROS
With the LGBT sports movement
reaching new highs over the past three
years, there has been some crossover
in the advocacy groups in terms of what
theyre trying to accomplish.
One of the many things discussed at the
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was the need for collaboration among
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targets for their advocacy.
One group that has found its niche is
GO! (Generation Out) Athletes. The
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and former LGBT athletes who came
together to discuss the different issues and
challenges that are common among LGBT
athletes. The result has been to create a
national network of current and former
LGBT student-athletes and allies at the
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Their services include condential peer
support, consultation and workshops for
coaches, staff and athletes, leadership
meetings, providing education materials and
speaking at school and community events.
They are currently in the midst of two
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their LGBT sports network to respond to
negative blog posts and commentary about
two hot button topics Fallon Fox and
the Sochi Olympics. The underlying goals
of the campaigns are to educate and raise
awareness for specic events or causes.
The #ght4fallon campaign was
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commentary and disrespectful treatment
towards Mixed Martial Arts (MMA) ghter
Fallon Fox. UFC (Ultimate Fighting
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who was suspended and ned for his
transphobic rant against Fox, recently
made a public apology, due in part to the
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from the MMA community, says Anna
Aagenes, executive director of GO!
Athletes. The #ght4fallon campaign has
served to build unexpected connections.
The second campaign, #out4olympics
was launched to support the LGBT
Olympic athletes who will soon be
competing on the world stage despite
the severe anti-LGBT laws currently in
place in Russia. The campaign will be
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Sochi Games will begin on Feb. 7, 2014.
Once a month, GO! Athletes
representatives hold conference/network
calls with their national network of student-
athletes. The calls, which sometimes include
as many as 35 athletes, are a way for people
to check in about their lives. The student-
athletes can either speak or just listen.
We have begun to reach out to K-12
student-athletes, Aagenes says. The
network is comprised of closeted and
out athletes and the conversations vary
from empowerment to choosing an
LGBT-friendly college.
Based in Philadelphia, GO! Athletes have
recently taken the steps to establish national
chapters with Washington being the pilot
city. The group is hoping to develop a
mentorship program in D.C. aligning
former athletes with current athletes to help
them through the coming out process.
We are lucky to have positive momentum
with athletes and administrators, says
Brian Goldthorpe, a D.C. resident and
director of communications. We are
looking to ll critical needs and delivering
for folks at the highest level. In 2014, we will
begin establishing connections with the
LGBT sports teams of Washington D.C.
Another facet of the GO! Athletes
organization is their Collegiate
Ambassadors, who serve the critical role
of representing the voices of the LGBT
student-athlete community and connecting
universities with the national GO! network.
One of the athletes in D.C. is Craig
Cassey, a Georgetown University
student and former track athlete.
One of my roles is to reach out to
athletes and administrators on campus,
Cassey says. I help them to understand
so they can make better decisions in the
future. It has been inspirational for me to
help shape our own culture.
As the organization continues to grow,
they will be trying to create sustainable
national chapters and student groups in
multiple cities across the United States.
More information on their outreach is
available at goathletes.org.
Fallon Fox will fight in a Championship
Fighting Alliance (CFA) match on Oct. 12 in
Coral Gables, Fla., against Ashlee Evans-Smith.
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When Kenneth Fulkroad moved to
D.C. a little more than two years ago,
he knew where he wanted to end up.
Recently hired to open and manage
a sparkling new multi-level restaurant
and bar that has quickly become a
prominent highlight there was a bonus.
Gravitating to the still rugged edginess
of the re-developing H Street commercial
corridor in Northeast Washington, Fulkroad
eventually settled in the adjacent Trinidad
neighborhood immediately to the north. A
transplant most recently from New York, it
was the section of town he found reminis-
cent of Brooklyn and the East Village.
The 29-year-old hospitality professional
and now general manager of the newest
of four area RedRocks locations feels most
at home where the hipsters he unself-
consciously references have migrated in
discernable numbers. A veteran of service,
operation and management at diverse ca-
sual and fne-dining establishments in Bos-
ton, New York and D.C., Fulkroad learned
the trade by hands-on experience.
A topsy-turvy hardscrabble child-
hood spent growing up gay near Boston
instilled in a self-described awkward
nerd an independent character and
self-reliant work ethic. Beginning with his
frst eatery job at age 18, the whip-smart
articulate dynamo served as dishwasher,
busboy, bartender, bar manager, waiter
and general manager along with a stint
working with the youngest master som-
melier in the U.S. Fulkroads largely im-
provisational and often out-of-sequence
job ascension skilled him in all facets of
restaurant, lounge and bar operation.
He oozes excitement at coordinating
the three-level multi-space hotspot and lat-
est RedRocks venture of co-owners James
OBrien and Doug Baj at 1348 H St., N.E.,
directly opposite the Rock & Roll Hotel and
adjacent to the landmark Atlas Performing
Arts Center a few paces down the streetcar-
ready boulevard. It became H Streets larg-
est venue upon opening last month.
Glass doors spanning the front swing
open to the sidewalk allowing engage-
ment between streetscape and interior on
the frst level. Arriving patrons are greeted
by a large rectangular wood-topped bar
surrounded by table seating. Red brick
walls and exposed ceilings with large loft-
style industrial ductwork combine to cre-
ate a comfortable modern environment.
A brick wood-burning pizza oven is em-
blematic of the ambient casual coziness.
Hovering above the concrete foor is
a second-level catwalk with tables joining
separate open dining areas featuring ban-
quettes nestled among two bay windows
street-side. A private rear dining room, bar
and special event space, replete with an el-
evated DJ booth, completes the upstairs.
Dark wood planks are underfoot with ex-
pansive windows seemingly everywhere.
Soaring overhead is one of the largest
retractable skylights in the city opening
the central rooftop to both levels below
and granting visibility to the sky from every
angle. The distinctive melding of indoors
and out doesnt end there. A roof deck
with both table seating and bar areas of-
fers panoramic views above the areas low-
slung architectural topography with the
U.S. Capitol visible to the southwest.
The venue has engendered quick af-
fection from guests eager to welcome this
latest addition to the strip. Patrons enjoy a
well-rounded bistro menu and up to two-
dozen craft beers on tap alongside special-
ty cocktails and standard bar concoctions.
Fulkroad is preparing to launch two
special LGBT events later this month
a Thursday night DJ dance party and
a special Sunday drag brunch featur-
ing the rollicking performances of Shi-
Queeta Lee and her harem of queens.
Soon-to-be-announced and held on a
monthly schedule with future frequen-
cy based on buzz, these events will of-
fer the areas growing number of gay
and lesbian habitus with a frst-ever
series of community events.
The quick popularity of this unique gem
of a destination bodes success for both.
MARK LEE is a long-time entrepreneur and com-
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