A small newsletter that reads big!The Learner
April 2008/ 010
For this issue I have a lovely story to share with you all.How often do you let other people's nonsense change your mood? Do you let a bad driver, rude waiter, curt boss, or aninsensitive employee ruin your day? However, the mark of a successful person is how quickly one can get back their focus on what's important. A few years ago, I learned this lesson. I learned it in the back of a London taxi cab. I was there with my wife who waspursuing her DPhil as a Commonwealth Scholar at theUniversity of York in UK. Here's what happened. I hoppedin a taxi, and we took off for King's Cross Station. We weredriving in the right lane when, all of a sudden, a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us. My taxidriver slammed on his breaks, skidded, and missed theother car's back end by just inches! The driver of the other car, the guy who almost caused a big accident, whipped hishead around and he started yelling bad words at us. My taxidriver just smiled and waved at the guy. And I mean... he was friendly. So, I asked, "Why did you justdo that? This guy almost ruined your car and sent us to thehospital!" And this is when my taxi driver told me what Inow call, "The Law of the Garbage Truck." "Many peopleare like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, fullof frustration, full of anger and full of disappointment. As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it. And if you let them, they'll dump it on you. When someone wants to dump on you, don't take it personally. You just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on. You'llbe happy you did." I started thinking, how often do I letGarbage Trucks run right over me? And how often do I take their garbage and spread it to other people: at work, athome, on the streets? It was that day I said to myself, "I'mnot going to do it anymore." Life's too short to wake up in the morning with regrets. Love the people who treat youright. Forget about the ones who don't. Believe thateverything happens for a reason.Never let the garbage truck run over you....Enjoy the articles in this issue and do contribute.
Hey, before you begin concluding anything else, let meclarify that the answer to the question in the title is:HR attracts women most!The first fact that I’d prefer to emphasize on is thatHR is not a ‘soft and fluffy’ department as perceivedby a few. The truth is that HR is a profession basedaround people and people skills. Men – and this is toodeep a topic to be specific about – tend to beattracted to areas that are more systematic, more structured and morecompetitive. That is the reason why women, and so many of them, flock aroundHR.“Anyone who gets close to HR knows it is anything but soft,” says a tough woman in HR. “But I think the common misconception is something that has, in the past, acted as a disincentive for men to get involved in the profession.”It is reasonable to reject the popular argument that women are more attracted to HR because they are in some way genetically predisposed to the nature of the job. There may be a slight element of predisposition, but surely nothingdeeper than that.Historically, the roots of HR go as far back as the late 19th century, when therole of welfare workers was to take care of women and girls in the workforce.These welfare workers were all women, and as more women entered the workplace during the two world wars, the number in welfare work increasedand their role expanded to include recruitment and training.Truth is that HR is a job where the amount of power you have lies in your ability to influence other people, whereas in many other jobs, you have power through position. Women who come into HR and do well are particularly goodat influencing other people. The key HR skills in many areas are the ability toempathize, relate and influence, and use emotional intelligence. This does notmean that men don’t have emotional intelligence, but in HR the women who do well have bags and bags of it.It is vital to understand that the days of demanding industrial/ employeerelations roles created macho environments that appealed to men. Now HR isfocused on developing, engaging and supporting people, and it is, therefore,more attractive to women.Hope the readers now understand what attracts women most!#
An article by Ambika Nautiyal, Head - HR, BIFM
“Whatever words we utter should be chosen with care for people willhear them and be influenced by them for good or ill.”