The male fetus is at greatest risk of death or damage from almost all the obstetriccatastrophes that can happen before birth. Perinatal brain damage, cerebral palsy,congenital deformities of the genitalia and limbs, premature birth, and still birthare all more common in boys.
Boy’s brains are slower to develop. According to studies, a newborn girl is the physiological equivalent of a 4- to 6-week old boy.
According Dr. William S. Pollock in the Department of psychiatry at Harvardmedical school, “Although boys have the same emotional potential as girls, their emotional range is soon limited to a menu of three related feelings: rage, triumph,and lust.” Anything else and they risk being seen as a sissy, says Dr. Pollack.Male vulnerability and our need to act like men can be deadly. When asked if the American man was endangered species, Dr. Herb Goldberg, the author of
The Hazards of Being Male
, replied, “Absolutely! The male has paid a heavy price for his masculine ‘privilege’ and power. He is out of touch with his emotions and his body. He is playing by the rules of the male game plan and with lemming-like purpose he is destroying himself—emotionally, psychologically, and physically.”The second thing you need to know about males is that we long to be touched,loved, and nurtured, but we are afraid of it as well. Why is that? A number of studiesshow that mothers talk to, cuddle, and breastfeed male infants significantly less thanfemale infants.So boys experience a nurturing deficit from the very beginning and long to makeup for what we didn’t get. However, as boys get older we are taught to be tough andnot to need the “tender loving care” that most girls more often get from their parents,